Trialbyfire Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 It's gone way, way, way beyond fault. It's called obsessive fantasy. The only person who can do anything about it, is Ariadne. If she wanted to, she could reject this fantasy. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 Ariadne, I worry about you! I truely do! Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 I was being sarcastic. The chances of me ever actually meeting DenverGuy are miniscule. I know, but if we feed any ideas she might harbor that he was the one who is at fault for her being gonzo over him... Well, it might get even worse. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 I know, but if we feed any ideas she might harbor that he was the one who is at fault for her being gonzo over him... Well, it might get even worse. I don't know if anything any of us says makes a difference. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted June 17, 2008 Share Posted June 17, 2008 I don't know if anything any of us says makes a difference. Sadly, that is too true. She has to find her own way back out of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 A can always take her binoculars and go on another "field trip" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 You cannot make someone fall inlove with you. After all this time, he hasn't felt it, he isn't going to feel it ever..ALL of it is based on HER perception, which is not reality at all. Well, I believe in my fantasy that what we have is true love. And I don't want to force anyone to fall in love with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 there would also be signs if you were not meant to be together ?What do the signs read or say that are visable to you ? Ok, there's a few signs here. The fact that the relationship with the gf didn't work out. It was not true love. And the fact that he talked to me at the first opportunity he had. And we talked as usual . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Ariadne, if you were meant to be soulmates (hate that term because I don't believe in it), he would be moving mountains to be with you or at minimum, have maintained contact. He would not have gone back to his g/f or maintained distance. I believe this sort of stuff with him: ------------------- There is indeed a special blessing with your soulmate . The blessing is that you both came from the same source and essence . Your souls come from the same spiritual level, which means that you communicate with each other so easily. The next level of relationships is that people feel a "magnetic" attraction, a "twinkle in the eye" or very lovely inner feeling, even without talking. Relationships that are prompted by "just a thought" of them, seeing them or seeing anything that reminds you of them, that is your mind and soul is connecting yourself with their mind and thoughts. Such thought energies are ones mind and soul communicating with you and likewise with the other persons mind and soul is feeling the same inner feeling for you, your souls are communicating with each other, this gives you the "inner spiritual feeling" that you are made for each other, an inexplicable inner "spiritual chemistry". Even people who try and fight this magnetic soulmate love desire for each other, will find their efforts to block themselves futile and will eventually be together. As soulmates will never find "peace of mind" and true purposeful fulfillment of their souls until they are together, both physically and spiritually together. True soulmates always need and lovingly enjoy being together all the time. The reason for this inexplicable magnetic attraction between soulmates is that their Guardian Angels are guiding them and bringing energy to both people simultaneously, in order to "force", guide and bring this soulmate couple together. Ofcourse selfish ego, stubborness and freewill choice can block this, but eventually "soulmates" always come together. Each persons Guardian Angels will ensure this happens, however illogical ! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I don't know the entire story here, so I can't give advice or say what he might be thinking. But there must be at least a friendship still there, nothing wrong with that. Your quote about "soulmates", to me, is another way of saying to let nature takes it's course and be patient to see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Well, I believe in my fantasy that what we have is true love. But he has told you he is not inlove with you and doesn't want a relationship. If he did, he never would have pursued someone else more than 2 years ago. He may be YOUR true love, but you aren't his. I don't understand why you can't see that. Sorry, I don't mean to sound harsh.. Ok, there's a few signs here. The fact that the relationship with the gf didn't work out. It was not true love. And the fact that he talked to me at the first opportunity he had. And we talked as usual . But YOU emailed him first, like seconds after he and his girlfriend broke up. Yes, he replied, but all that you two emailed about was work and weather. He hasn't even answered your emails about his break-up. That says something. Also, you two are JUST emailing, there's no phone calls. If a man loves a woman, he'll do more than "just" email. He'll call! He hasn't done that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Hi, He may be YOUR true love, but you aren't his. That's ok. I don't care. Yes, he replied Yey Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I just wish you weren't so easy to please and so quick to take table scraps from him. It's a false security here - That's why I keep trying to open your eyes... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Emails I sent to Denver guy that he completely ignored: ------------- I like programming, at least when I can fit the task into my head, but it's always a lot more fun once you get into it. Yeah, I've thought that a few times. But most of the times is just a headache. I'm taking some Java class and I can't get into that either, but at least it makes them happy. It's nice. Not that there isn't work to be done, but it comes to me most of the time. That's good. So what happened to your matrimony. Are you engaged? ----------------- What did you think that I went to Denver? Did I scare you? I'm all excited from having heard from you. ----------------- Since you are writing to me now and all. Today my son started school. He is going to go to adult school for a month to try and get the ged. He was all day home playing video games for some months. I'll pick him up in an hour. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 The fact that the relationship with the gf didn't work out. It was not true love. That is a sign for her not you... And the fact that he talked to me at the first opportunity he had. And we talked as usual . You contacted him.. are you now self creating your signs ?.. Also he stopped talking to you.. A sign maybe ? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 What did you think that I went to Denver? Did I scare you? I'm all excited from having heard from you. Meant with respect for you.. I wouldn't say anything mean to you... but you need some help.. You have just told him you stalked him.. and then asked him if he liked it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 he stopped talking to you.. A sign maybe ? Well, he wrote enough for me. I'm more than happy. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I believe this sort of stuff with him: ------------------- There is indeed a special blessing with your soulmate . The blessing is that you both came from the same source and essence . Your souls come from the same spiritual level, which means that you communicate with each other so easily. The next level of relationships is that people feel a "magnetic" attraction, a "twinkle in the eye" or very lovely inner feeling, even without talking. Relationships that are prompted by "just a thought" of them, seeing them or seeing anything that reminds you of them, that is your mind and soul is connecting yourself with their mind and thoughts. Such thought energies are ones mind and soul communicating with you and likewise with the other persons mind and soul is feeling the same inner feeling for you, your souls are communicating with each other, this gives you the "inner spiritual feeling" that you are made for each other, an inexplicable inner "spiritual chemistry". Even people who try and fight this magnetic soulmate love desire for each other, will find their efforts to block themselves futile and will eventually be together. As soulmates will never find "peace of mind" and true purposeful fulfillment of their souls until they are together, both physically and spiritually together. True soulmates always need and lovingly enjoy being together all the time. The reason for this inexplicable magnetic attraction between soulmates is that their Guardian Angels are guiding them and bringing energy to both people simultaneously, in order to "force", guide and bring this soulmate couple together. Ofcourse selfish ego, stubborness and freewill choice can block this, but eventually "soulmates" always come together. Each persons Guardian Angels will ensure this happens, however illogical !I agree and I take back my last comment Keep at it Ariadne. He will be with you eventually, because the stars are alligned and it all has been decided since the beginning of time Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Keep at it Ariadne. He will be with you eventually, because the stars are alligned and it all has been decided Hey, I don't know. I'll be just his servant if he let me. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Emails I sent to Denver guy that he completely ignored: ------------- I like programming, at least when I can fit the task into my head, but it's always a lot more fun once you get into it. Yeah, I've thought that a few times. But most of the times is just a headache. I'm taking some Java class and I can't get into that either, but at least it makes them happy. It's nice. Not that there isn't work to be done, but it comes to me most of the time. That's good. So what happened to your matrimony. Are you engaged? ----------------- What did you think that I went to Denver? Did I scare you? I'm all excited from having heard from you. ----------------- Since you are writing to me now and all. Today my son started school. He is going to go to adult school for a month to try and get the ged. He was all day home playing video games for some months. I'll pick him up in an hour. So, he is now ignoring your emails. What does that say about him? Honestly, tell me how you feel right now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 So, he is now ignoring your emails. What does that say about him? Honestly, tell me how you feel right now? I really feel it was his time to step up. Who knows. But I'm happy. That was cute . Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Hey, I don't know. I'll be just his servant if he let me.Well you really shouldn't just sit there passively. You need to let him know how you feel and I don't mean just words. You need to go to him Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 You're happy that he is ignoring your personal emails? It's OK to chat about weather and work - But anything outside of that he isn't speaking about it. Hate to say it but he isn't going to step up. Sadly if anything, he's gonna step away... Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 This whole thing has just become bizarre. Servant? Happy b/c he's not responding? Bizarre. A, you need some serious help. Seriously. You cannot dedicate all of your future happiness to someone who barely even knows your alive. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 That's good. So what happened to your matrimony. Are you engaged?= I stalked both you and your exes, so I know something is up, which is why I emailed you this time. What did you think that I went to Denver? Did I scare you? I'm all excited from having heard from you.= I stalked you remember? And I can do it again. Maybe I am already on my way. So excited!! ------------------------------ Ariadne, I told you NOT to talk about his prior relationship. You asked - again - and his silence speaks volumes. You also told him -again- about your stalking. He should be running for the hills right now. I honestly don't know why the guy hasn't been harsher to you. He has said no so many times, in so many ways. There are no signs. There is no hope. Get it into your head. [/tough love rambo style] Link to post Share on other sites
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