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OP, I’m a man of roughly the same age as that guy you described. I’m going to be blunt with you. Why on Earth are you expecting something sexual from a 54 year old man who has the maturity and the emotional IQ of a teenager? Why are you interested in a man who holds offensive and utterly dumb opinions about women? No, let me rephrase that: why would you even want to be friends, or simply have contact with such a person? Aren’t you disgusted by the videos that he sent you? Your natural reaction to this guy should be “ewwww”, not “electricity running through your body”.

If you told him clearly when you were available, made it clear that you were interested in going on another date, and he didn’t get back to you, then he isn’t interested enough. When a man is really interested he’s going to to keep trying until he hears a clear “no” from the woman. I don’t think you should be wasting your mental and emotional energy on this guy.

In situations where one of the partners wants something and the other doesn’t, there are only two choices: either the partner who wants something voluntarily gives it up, or the partners break up due to difference in values, lifestyles, and expectations. Your GF has to ask herself the question whether she wants you more or wants marriage more. You say you’re okay with having kids. Have you communicated that clearly to her? Biological clock is only an issue if she wants to have children, marriage has nothing to do with it. But you have to understand that she can’t be waiting forever t

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The two of you have vastly incompatible goals, so I don't think there's anywhere to go with this.

My gf is 35 now I am 33 years old. We both have decent careers but like in a VHCOL. My gf naturally wants the typical american dream. Have a house which is like 800k-1 mill around here, have kids, get married, have a wedding. I am hesitant. However for me I am scared of getting married. Scared of getting divorced and ending up like alot of people I know who are single, disgruntled, lost half their assets, and having to pay monthly child support. She wants to get legally married. I am like why? we can do a small celebration and spend more of the money on honeymoon and travel. I see alot

Yes, anyone you had a relationship with you have some level of feelings for them unless they did something bad. Thst does not mean he wants to get back with her. some might still be married because of health insurance reasons and thr kids are still children. unsure where you live, but in the us some ststes have dissolution of marriage which is pretty cheap and easy and can be done by just one attorney.

I'm his age. I think he actually has no idea what he wants himself. And if a guy sent me either of those those videos, I would have gotten the ick and either blocked him or responded with 'WTF?' Life's too short to waste on people who play silly games and have offensive opinions. And don't try to be friends with him...there's too much water under the bridge for that.

You ask about getting together?

Warning:This is long. Sorry. I met this guy back in 2022, we worked together. In 2023, we started texting, talking at work. He would consistently come to wherever I was (at work), he done nice things for me. Like cleaning my desk when he didn’t have to, went out his way for me, bought me something from Starbucks. He said he bought me something because I was coming in on time, but so was other people but he didn’t give them the same treatment. He was always close to me, finding reasons to touch or tap me. He never cared who was around, or about the cameras. It was a lot that happened

Because when she says I abandoned her or something like that, I begin to feel very guilty. And it pains me deeply that she is so unhappy and that I’m the reason why… Because she’s been saying for several years now that my morning and evening calls are what keeps her alive, the reason why she still continues to live. That’s the thing, I don’t. Whenever she talks like this I begin to feel I’m a monster who is slowly murdering his own mother. It always takes some time to stop thinking like that and start feeling more or less normally again. That’s almo

Yikes. He definitely doesn't sound mentally old enough to have sex, even if he might be physically old...

If you literally told him your availability for the rescheduled date and he didn't respond with his own, it sounds like he's really not that interested unfortunately.

I'm having a terrible headache, I think I'll ask him tomorrow about his plans for the weekend and see.

OK, so he dropped the ball. Doesn't sound like he's super keen. You're going to have to ask how he feels or just let it go

For my part, I told him what days I was busy (the whole weekend) and he didn't mention what his options were, probably he didn't know.

But why didn't the conversation go straight into working out what days you both had available the following week? One or both of you is dropping the ball

gotch ya, thanks.

Typo, sorry, I meant that he did ask me to go out not one, but two times, the first time we did go out, the second time I was busy and told him that I was going to be available the following week, but, he didn't ask again. We still talk, but we haven't talked about seein each other again.

He asked her out on a date (which she was unavailable), and he went out with her 3 times. While this isn't proof that he's necessarily still interested now, it's enough investment on his end, to where I'd consider reaching out one more time just to make sure. I think she should just ask him and get a clear answer instead of making assumptions or holding onto what if's. She deserves a clear answer. It's going to be on her mind if she doesn't get an answer, so may as well just ask.

So he asked you out and you said you're not available at that time and the conversation ended? That's so weird. If I were him, I'd assume you have no interest If a guy asks you out and you're interested, you'd say "Sorry, I can't do that day/time, but I could do this alternate time - does this work for you." Keep talking until you can find a date time which works for you both. It's no different to organising dinner with the girls

You're not asking him to be exclusive. You're just asking how he feels about you, and if it's more of a romantic or friendly vibe? Even though it's only 3 dates, it's been 2 whole months. That's a long time. Too long to be uncertain if someone even likes you

He did ask me go out with him one a two times, the second time I was not available, I'm asking if it is my turn to ask him out again. I don't see it as if he has zero interest in me, he wouldn't have asked me out TWO times if that was the case.

I think you're totally right, and I would have blocked him too.

Please don't be that girl who chases after a guy who is not that into her. That is a really pathetic thing to do. When a guy is not making an effort and not showing you that he's interested, that should tell you that it's time to stop pursuing him and move on. You don't keep desperately chasing after someone who is not that interested in you. I'll never understand why people do that.