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He has to lie if he wants to keep the relationship - you have given him no other choice. If you broke up for a year over this, you should never have taken him back. Why he stays is beyond me -

Well, yeah. Your boyfriend likes looking at sexy woman, and yes, they sometimes turn him on sexually.

I always knew my ex husband was a cheater and a liar but had no concrete evidience to present until Spyworld47 on IG helped me with the access to his phone and I was shocked because of things I saw . Spyworld47 on IG

That is the point - your relationship is a highly immature one, which is why it's falling apart in front of your eyes.

How did you know where she lives if you've never met her? Dropping off the chocolates was a bit creepy.

I dont even know what to answer to, there are 10 of you and 1 of me. Yes, I did break up with him a year ago for lying about p0rn. Because lying for years and building up a whole innocent persona is unacceptable. Its not fine that I thought I was dating Jim when he was Joe all along. You can come at me, but people back then were on my side. I dont have multiple accounts hence it is not allowed. I have one phone and that is all. Maybe if I signt up from incognito mode too,I can create 2. I am also on Girls ask Guys, that is it. Bullying him into lying sounds so dramatic and hilar

As someone who has been on Tinder for years I can tell you to not take nonsense like this personally. In my view all this app is one virtual supermarket where people just shop and cross shop, yes people have met partners there but equally similar to the above is very common, in fact honestly you mostly have no idea who you are actually communicating with. I'd brush it off and simply not care less about this particular person. Factually speaking if you can tick the superficial boxes you can have nearly endless dating options on these apps.

I guess your threat of leaving her will have one of two possible outcomes: she will realise she is going to lose you and will ditch the alcohol or she will think "sod you, bastard" and go back to the alcohol and eventually die of liver failure. The problem with alcohol is that you have to decide to quit, but the physical addiction is so strong that it's almost impossible. This is why alcoholics are often "forced" into rehab centres against their will. Success rate is very low, though. Tough one, but I personally could not live like that.

Wait, why was this thread merged with another one? The first OP @zoe545 is the baby's mother in this scenario. And now the second OP @Lecocole is the ex-girlfriend?

People have very different texting habits. Also, people aren’t machines. I text very frequently, yet a few times I was so busy or tired that I simply forgot to send a text and only remembered that the next day. Frequency of texting is just one of the many aspects of a relationship. Is your BF caring and attentive in other aspects? If so, I suggest not to make a big deal out of his infrequent texting.

Sure. You apologize to him, stop controlling him and bullying him into lying, he relaxes, watches porn whenever he wants to, stops lying about that, the relationship goes fine. Except that this can’t be a “miracle”, it’s something you need to work on.

What is “looking at women” to you? If that means “drooling over other women, fantasizing about sleeping with them”, etc,, then no, a man who truly loves his woman will nip such thoughts in the bud. If that means “noticing other women, acknowledging other women’s beauty and attractiveness”, then you should be happy that your boyfriend is a normal, healthy guy who likes women, yet chose to be faithful to you. One thing is still very unclear to me: what does watching porn have to do with any of that?

I would say that you absolutely cannot trust someone to follow a lifestyle which they don't agree with but has been enforced on them. Further, the only way for the relationship to go fine in the perfect future is for you to be honest about your part in having having put him in a position where he feels the need to lie to you. As he grows more mature, it's likely he will refuse to accept your rules so that he doesn't have to lie to you. And of course he enjoyed the visuals as much as the music! Otherwise he would have just listened on an audio only streaming service. And it'

So you did threaten him with a breakup over that? Honestly, you should be very appreciative of the fact that he is still with you. A lot of other guys would have run far away after that. By not putting him in a situation where he feels that lying is the only option to keep this relationship. Because you are very insecure.

There is so much confusion in this statement (and in your attitude to these things in general). Men from strict religious communities and conservative cultures might be better at hiding their desires, but biologically, they don’t differ from other men at all, which means that they don’t view women “as though they were men”, as your friends told you. If anything, excessive shame of one’s own sexuality and continuous repression of natural urges might lead to sudden “explosions” in that area when circumstances change.

Sorry, but they are lying.

I’m sorry, but this was one of the silliest things I’ve read recently. I’m a religious guy, and I’ve been feeling the urge to look at this type of content since I was 13. Now I’m pushing 50 and I still occasionally look at this type of content. My fiancée knows it and has absolutely nothing against it, because it doesn’t affect our sex life negatively (if anything, it affects it positively, because “dirty” scenarios are always great food for fantasies). It would be in your best interest to start thinking less rigidly and accept the world the way it is, rather than trying to tailor it

You can’t remain ignorant just because you don’t want to be disappointed.

I want to comment on the title of your post: I gave my partner everything and he's being cheating. A good relationship isn't about giving a partner everything. There is no such thing as giving a partner everything. Giving is a huge part of a relationship, but something about the way you write makes me worry that you think being ultra nice to someone is a way to build a close relationship. It is not. Giving is one part of a relationship. Receiving from the other person is an equally important part of a relationship. BTW: people do not avoid cheating because of how nice we are t

Why are you on here writing and chatting with other people who you don't even know for hours? You have a boyfriend. You could be talking to him instead. Hell. You might have talked to him 15 more hours already this week, if you hadn't been spending your time on here. Why the urge to type with strangers on the Internet when you have him? You are dishonest. You've told us here at least a dozen times, across several threads and various user names, all about how you and he "agreed" that he was never going to look at this or that again. Look up the page, you posted this yours

I think you need to look at the relationship as a whole. If he's generally a thoughtful and caring guy, and the relationship is meeting most of your needs, you may be best to let this one go. But if him not texting back is just one of a heap of issues, then it would be wise to look into it further. Can you tell us more about the bigger picture?

Yes, but you didn't answer it. You must know the reason why you two aren't already married after 8 years.

My sister fairly recently divorced and they still lived in the same home (he lived in a suite downstairs). And she initiated the divorce and was happy about it. And then he started dating someone new and she is quite upset by it. Sometimes those feelings can pop back up once the realization that the break up is really final happens.

He's not a texter. Stop thinking that texting has any bearing on your relationship. Unless it's a true emergency assume you will not get a timely reply.

She may be shy. You two are young. Go slowly.