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  2. d0nnivain

    Girlfriend decided to meet her cheating ex

    If she just wanted to talk to him she could have used a phone or computer for video chat. She went there for one reason: to be with him in person. Of course they had sex.
  3. d0nnivain

    Evilangel

    You were wrong to fight for the relationship. You are not over it & you will never be. Give up
  4. Issues are one thing. A stressed out 28 year old with multiple kids who comes home so angry / upset / whatever that his wife is walking on egg shells is a ticking time bomb. He's on a path to destruction. At some point he's going to do something you can't come back from like cheat or hit you. That is why I worry your marriage won't last if whatever is bugging him is not managed better & soon. Financial stressor ruin more marriages than infidelity. You can fix this if you both work to make positive changes.
  5. d0nnivain

    do I need to be more patient?

    You talk about all of her stress & how it's effecting you. Then you claim you want to be supportive but what have you actually done? Plan some "boring" dates. Bring a computer. Help her make a budget. If she doesn't want you to know the specifics of her finances that is fine. You can at least help her make the categories. Design a spread sheet for her to do a comparison of the various health insurance plans. Can you do anything for her around the move: give boxes, help pack, rent a truck etc. In short what can you take off her plate? In a good relationship the
  6. d0nnivain

    Strange behaviour

    It's a dating app. Everybody on these is flaky to some extent. Literally it comes with the territory. You have to expect stuff like this. Don't give it a second thought & move along.
  7. d0nnivain

    do they really move on that fast?

    Assuming you have her address, box up the stuff & mail it to her or drop it off. Some people do move on more quickly. It's also easier for dumpers because they may have emotionally been out of the relationship well before they pulled the trigger & fully ended things.
  8. d0nnivain

    Need suggestions

    I'm on my 4th therapist this year. Just because somebody has a degree, doesn't mean they are right for you. It's like dating. You have to find the one you click with who has the ability to help you. Not every school of therapy works for every patient. For example I hate gestalt therapy where you talk to a chair like it's the person causing you stress. That never did anything for me. If you are not getting a benefit for your time & money, it's time to make a change.
  9. Sony12

    Trouble figuring out what this women wants from me?

    Have you guys actually gone out on official dates? What you described in that post isn't really dating. It's just someone wanting to get attention by sending their pics to people. And if she wasn't being honest with you then what makes you think she is now? Doesn't really sound like someone you should want to date. Testing people in that manner is very childish and creating paywalls to see pics is a giant red flag regardless if they eventually took the paywall down or not.
  10. Wiseman2

    do they really move on that fast?

    If she's not contacting you, it's not important. She probably doesn't want reminders. Those types of items have probably been replaced for her new BF. Try to let sleeping dogs lie. It seems like she doesn't want to renegotiate anything and often the collecting of residual stuff from a relationship is a can of worms people don't want to open.
  11. Wiseman2

    Evilangel

    How long have you been dating? How did you find out about the cheating? Why give her a free pass if you can't get over it?
  12. Sorry this is happening. Displaced anger is just another form of abuse. Please don't coddle him this way. Ignore him. It's his responsibility to handle his moods and attitudes not just use you as a punching bag for frustration. Disrupting the peace and the household is for power and control. It's not a mood disorder, it's abuse so please don't enable it or pamper him. Let him go off on a snit and act like he's not there.
  13. brokenbird

    There are only very few fights, but they are nasty

    Well he does not at the moment and I feel like he does this for himself more than he does this for me. He lied about it for 3 years, and when the truth came out,it wasnt even the truth, he still tried to cover up numbers and facts, but when the actual truth came out, he felt like he wanted to prove he can quit. Its been a whole year now. He had only one slip up (as he named it himself) when he watched a sexy music video and later decided to do his thing. He said it was not purposeful to watch it and he wanted to justlisten to music, he said it many times, and I believe it is not true because o
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  15. Wiseman2

    Small talk?

    It sounds like you're on his fan mailing list and he sends them to everyone. Like newsletters to stay on his fans radar. Doesn't seem like personal communication.
  16. Broken Woman

    I gave my partner everything and he's being cheating

    I am deeply hurt I can't believe he did it so easily and whilst I was also upstairs with his child. On call with her, masturbating to her dirty pics. Refusing to come to bed with me, I knew he was doing something as I have asked him and he denied it all saying all I do is accuse him. Yet my gut instinct was so correct. He said he didn't mean what he said to her, he told her he loved her and wanted marriage? She also knew about me and our child which makes it even worse.
  17. Gaeta

    There are only very few fights, but they are nasty

    Then what?? When do you look better than anyone on tv? When does any of us look better than actresses on tv?? What could possibly happen if you don't look quite like a porn star?? Listen, there will always be better, sexier, prettier, smarter, funnier than you. You think your boyfriend is that shallow? After everything you put him through and he still sticks by you you think his love is only skin deep! He's 24 yo for goodness sake! He's at his sexual peek, show me a 24 yo who does not peek at porn almost every day.
  18. Broken Woman

    I gave my partner everything and he's being cheating

    After this I do not want another partner, I will concentrate on my child till at least older. He has really betrayed me, how easy he did it. I will never understand why anyone can do it and hurt someone like that. It's always a crappy excuse as to why. I know I was hurting when I wrote this and I know my words were a bit full on
  19. Broken Woman

    I gave my partner everything and he's being cheating

    You're right it is no way to live, he has taken me from granted for far too long.
  20. Broken Woman

    I gave my partner everything and he's being cheating

    I feel the same like he has been out of the relationship a while. He has been crying saying he is so scared because he has taken me for granted. Yeah he has for some woman he barely even knows. I mean we share a child and not once did he even stop to think about the long term damage something like this does.
  21. Els

    Can't Get Over the Hatred

    I think you've now succeeded in alienating the few people on this forum who were nice enough and cared enough about you to still try and help you despite all your misogynistic comments, rudeness, and frankly appalling behaviour. Congratulations! (I'm not one of them, I was done with you a while ago.) It's very clear to everyone here that your thread title is misleading. It's not "can't get over the hatred", it's "don't want to get over the hatred". Care to be honest about why you posted? Were you just trying to get people to validate you and to drag your ex-wife through the mud? Pers
  22. She didn't say it won't last, she said that it won't last IF you don't deal with this enormous issue. Also, why did you two get married when he was only 18? Was it an unplanned pregnancy? Did he have the chance to go to college after that or has he been supporting the family ever since he was 18?
  23. brokenbird

    There are only very few fights, but they are nasty

    Of course, but anything I say would be set up for judgement and/or not enough. For me, there are 3 things that make me happy on an average day. 1 we can talk about anything. My friends often say 'i couldnt talk to him about that yet, he feels distant whenever that topic comes up'. There is no such thing for us. 2 when we do the 'that was not very nice, could it have been better in another way?' it is so smooth, no bargaining, just 'yeah sorry, maybe if I left that word out'. 3 when we touch each other/cuddle/hug at nighttime while watching something, it just feels right and safe. I had a few b
  24. MsJayne

    Am I a homewrecker?

    No, you're not a homewrecker, they were already separated. Most people would feel suspicious and cautious about the situation, but needing to listen in on a private 'phone conversation to be reassured is your Red Flag Radar going off. You already know you wouldn't need to do that if you were comfortable with the dynamics of his relationship with his ex. I'd be more concerned about his lack of integrity, letting you listen in on what should be a private conversation is mega disrespectful to his ex. I'd also be suspicious that him continuing to live as a family unit was more indicative of his pr
  25. Gebidozo

    Evilangel

    You cannot forget, or you cannot forgive? Nobody asks you to forget, that would be impossible. Have you truly forgiven her? Is she being remorseful? Has she worked on her issues? Are you certain she won’t cheat again?
  26. Wiseone72

    Trouble figuring out what this women wants from me?

    New update, we are officially dating now. I was right about everything, the boyfriend was made up just like I originally thought!! This guy is her roommate, co-worker. She made him up to test me, she wanted me to chase her knowing full well she has a boyfriend, this test I failed! I ignored her flirting attempts. Suddenly she starts pulling away like I did something wrong. Six weeks goes by with no contact and I'm in the gym, missing her deeply and so I text her, "you're deeply missed". She replied, "hi how are you, long time no see". I told her I was doing well, you want to workout with
  27. Will am I

    Can't Get Over the Hatred

    You are broken up and divorced, it’s time to gently let go of your concerns over her mental health. Keep strict boundaries. Seek a civic relationship around the unwinding of shared assets and liabilities, support payments, and if applicable coparenting. Seek nothing more than that.
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