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You only spent a matter of DAYS with this girl. You need to realize that you are infatuated with an idealized fantasy of her, because that's all you had time to get to know. You never got to know this girl on a deep level and you don't really know her. Not every person we cross paths with in life becomes a long-term relationship. We have short-term flings, short relationships, and that isn't a bad thing. Be happy that you had this wonderful, intense experience and that you'll always be able to look back on those memories. She did not want to continue it as a long distance relations

She isn't a gold digger by any means. She always offers to pay when we go out and never asks for anything from me. I am the one that likes to spoil her out of my own accord. I don't see how that makes her a gold-digger? Your definition is clearly skewed. Also how have I convinced her she is nothing without me? She has her own job I just choose to spoil her.

I presume you’re not mute, so why not smile at her and start a conversation? If she responds positively she’s likely interested, if she ignores you she’s not. Fairly straightforward.

One thing that can block people from recovering after an emotional disappointment is a commitment to misery. It's a belief that holding onto misery somehow keeps them connected to the person. It does not, it keeps them miserable. You may find it helpful to make a decision every day about what kind of day you intend to have. If you believe that you 'must' use dramatic terms like 'gutted' or 'devastated,' you are committing to holding onto misery rather than releasing it to heal and start enjoying your life again. It's a decision. Choose wisely.

Stop infantilising her. By paying for everything you’ve turned her into an overly dependent twit, you’ve taken away her autonomy and her identity, and that’s why you’re bored with her because you think she’s nothing without you, and you’ve convinced her of it too. You use money to inflate your own ego and diminish the women you associate with, and you call it “treating her like a princess” when in fact it’s blatant manipulation. Just dump her already, you’re doing her no favours by positively reinforcing her stupid tantrums, she needs the reality check. I challenge you to stop paying for ever

a girl today, i saw her at one of the leg presses near the exit, and the only way to make room so i wouldn't run into her was to go around the beam, as i was approaching her area she move to my lane and looked at whatever she was looking at. a few dyas ago, she was kind of gazing in my direction from across the gym. another time she had to walk right past me to grab dumbells and she nearly was bending over right in front of me. she looked back seemingly surprised i was there, even though she had to walk righ past me to get to her weights. is there anything there? or am i somehow being creepy?

I have been with my gf for 3 years. At the beginning it was amazing. I loved every minute of being with her, her smile, her curves, her eyes, her laugh I was in bliss. But the past year it has diminished drastically. We recently got into a big argument over something trivial and I found her on the bed in tears, and it broke me so I paced over to her and gave her a big hug and kissed her tears away and she confessed that if we broke up she would end up deeply depressed and in a dark place which hurt me and I kissed her on her forehead and promised I would never leave her.

Hi Lotsgoingon, thank you for being blunt. I hear you and can't deny the problems I have brought to the relationship. As to your viewpoint on her, your comment for some reason made me feel so much better, like something finally clicked and things made more sense. I am starting to see that she was indeed very manipulative all along and has been a real bully, calling me all kinds of names and swearing aggressively at me, lots of verbal abuse (ironically, she has accused me of being a bully and manipulative to her! Which couldn't be farther from the truth). The result is that I wind up on my

Hey OP. How did it go?

Right. You stirred this pot, so it's up to you to unstir it. Telling GF the unflattering things said by friend likely sealed off any promise of that being reconciled. You might attempt to tell GF that you misunderstood the friend and try to smooth that over by conveying friend's correction to what you said along with her willingness to start over. You can give that a whirl, but your own mouth caused this trouble by compounding any real or perceived slight the friend may have caused in the first place.

I agree that 'approaching' a woman at random will prompt her to guard herself against you rather than be receptive to you. Approaching signals that you're taking a survey or asking for money or handing out a flyer. She'll be immediately turned off. I've had people toss me a funny comment in public that will cause me to laugh or volley back a comment. Sometimes this opens a mutual conversation. But anyone who might 'approach' me would cause me to step back and find a way to get away. Don't do it.

don't do this. all this says is that you don't respect her decision. she can make up her own mind if she is or is not interested in you, and she's being clear that she isn't, and you should back off.

as a guy who has been in this situation with girlfriends and female friends, i think there's something else here. you said your gf was focused on how your best friend was ignoring her and engaged in these conversations .... let's call your gf "group A" and the other people "Group B" to keep this simple. so, your gf said that the bestfriend was talking to "group B" and ignoring her. that also means that Group B would have been ignoring her as well, because they were engaged in conversation with the best friend. so, she isn't freaking out about any other person "ig

He's right. He is certainly one to talk about being disrespectful to others, but your comment was rude and unecessary. What sort of response did you think you would get from taking a swipe at his wife?

I would say that it’s time to take a step back OP and hopefully that will allow you to reassess the situation from a different perspective. What you’ve described here is not particularly flattering. I can’t imagine that this relationship is bringing you any lasting happiness. Hopefully you can learn from this and course correct to find more of what you truly want in your life…

When? Summer hasn't started yet. Anyway, it sounds as though she is being realistic that a long-distance thing won't work for her. The fun memories and time you spent together were real. However, you seem to have attached too much emotional significance to it. You had a nice time together but try to keep perspective. This wasn't about deep feelings, simply because you hardly know each other. I don't doubt she has some lovely qualities. But again, don't forget that you don't really know her. Anyone can seem amazing when we haven't spent much time together. You don't know

Yes, it was disrespectful to both his wife and to him. I've recently had both parents in the hospital back-to-back. That was stressful enough. Trying to include some of my own day-to-day stuff was often unmanageable. For anyone to raise a snide question about what I'm doing at any given moment, much less to imply that I'm being controlled by anyone else, would have been unthinkably rude and possibly unforgivable.

1. That's probably best. 2. Is it possible your best friend feels threatened by this relationship? Is it the first time she's meeting someone you're in a relationship with? If not, is this relationship more serious than previous relationships you've been in?

You don't want to "approach women" in a store or wherever. Instead, you just want to say "hi" to someone you want to say "hi" to. Just making eye contact enough to say "hi" is huge.

You have serious issues and your partner has serious issues. I think both of you need to grow in order to have a health relationship. I'll be blunt: she should have dumped you by now. Instead, she keeps trying to manipulate your behavior through criticizing you and trying to make you feel guilty and inadequate. You apparently can't see through her insecurity and immaturity is a major problem. Forget that you aren't spending the time she wants. You are giving her a pass on all he manipulation--maybe you give her a pass because of a history of depression and anxiety. Sorry: passes don't wo

Hey Reddit, I'm a 26-year-old Venezuelan guy living in Spain, and I’m honestly just heartbroken right now. I don’t really know what I’m looking for—maybe advice, maybe just someone to listen. I recently went through a short but intense summer romance, and it’s left me completely shattered. She was a 21-year-old German girl on vacation here. We met while I was working as a waiter—she literally asked for my number, and the next day we went out. She was kind, honest, funny, smart... and I felt a connection I hadn't felt in years. We kept going out over the next several days, and it just fe

As a military woman, I’ve been trained to stay alert and think tactically, but nothing prepared me for the emotional and financial ambush I experienced online . It started innocently enough. While stationed overseas, I connected with someone on social media who claimed to be a successful crypto trader. He was charismatic, well-spoken, and incredibly supportive. Over the course of several months, he built my trust. He didn’t rush anything. We talked almost every day about life, service, family, and eventually, finances. He made me feel seen and understood, and I truly began to believe there cou

An old Dr. Phil quote springs to mind: "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you".

Thank you for saying that Acacia98. I feel enormous guilt now that I see it all, and your perspective has helped me feel a bit better. All of the earlier comments about how our lives did not match up really did resonate with me and I thought about them many times. But I was hopeful still. I hope I will feel the relief you mentioned, maybe after I get past some of the initial pain of what has happened.