Fiance left gave back ring

[ZiggyZoo]

Wow that's pretty crazy. All of it. Can't imagine what you went through in those early days. I'll try to be near as strong. Not going well though.

 

Did look at her Facebook for whatever reason today. havent in three days don't know why I even bothered like there would be something different. Then I went to visit a friend and am sitting here now just lounging around. Takes my mind off things a little.

 

Just trying to think about getting through tomorrow and working on keeping busy. It's hard when the only things I use to do were spend time with the family or out drinking. It's been so long I don't know who I am or what I like anymore. Besides working out. If I did find something I'd have to get the motivation to do it.

 

I do have my daughter all day tomorrow but of course she'll be bringing her. Really hoping I can just say hi bye and actually enjoy my time but it didn't work out to well yesterday. So well see I guess. Might take her somewhere for lunch or something fun. Can't just sit around all day. She gets enough of that and starts daycare Monday when the ex starts her new job. New beginnings for everybody I guess.

 

Trust me, if I made it through that mess, you can make it through yours. I HAD to be strong, so I found that I was. You will too...

 

Maybe when your daughter gets dropped off, could you have the car running, and just throw her in the car seat and take off? Even if you just drive around for a bit, it might help with cutting things with your ex short.

[Flabreakup]

Excellent idea. It will be really early so I was thinking of taking her to breakfast then maybe a little shopping. Never took her by myself so that should be interesting. Get her some candy and cookies or stuff I can spoil her with. Shh mom won't know. W

 

As usual feeling pretty good at night. It's just those mornings and early afternoons that really get to me. Maybe force myself up so I can get going and think of something to do. I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow. Thanks

[Toodaloo]

Well you will get there. As BC said its new routines and change all of which can be very scarey and frightening but actually when you start you build a new life and you can be happy.

 

Are there any things that you wanted to do that you put off? Any things that you have seen that you sort of wanted to have a go at but always put off? Now is the time to do those things.

 

Taking your daughter out for breakfast is a really good idea.

 

You will be amazed at what you can do by yourself. You will be amazed when you start taking control and planning fun things for yourself and your daughter.

 

Just keep going. Try changing your morning routine about a bit find a new wake up routine that isn't what you always do. Perhaps go get a paper or something and read for 10 minutes in the garden perhaps? Or take your first cup of coffee back to bed for 5 minutes?

[Flabreakup]

I'll see what kind of routine I can figure out. I don't drink coffee ever. Used to be full of energy and life so didn't need it. Might actually help now that I think of it. I'll give it a try. Hard though when it's 80 outside by the time I get up. And this is winter! Spring and summer in Florida are really hot.

 

So daughter was sick all last night with her mom. Ended up having to meet the ex and the baby for lunch if I wanted to see her and of course I do so I did. I know it just tortures myself but seeing my little one is all that matters to me at this point. No arguments or anything but I definitely had the heart pain and nervousness that always comes everything I see her. Which of course is about every other day due to the baby. I get to see baby a lot so I shouldnt complain that I have to see the ex to see her. I just know its going to take so much more time to work through this in my situation if I ever really do.

 

Weekends also scare me. Even more time to think of things or try to do something. I was really so into pubs and beer that I lost myself and the things I like. Did plan a fishing trip at the end of the month but that's a long way away. I also always liked motorcycles but sold my last one a few years ago. Ex didn't like it with having a baby but it was one of my favorite things to do. Guess I should think of Maybe getting one again. I loved sports and played everything in high school but that was right around the time I discovered alcohol so maybe try a softball league or something like that. Just don't know anyone around here so hard to get into it. I'll try though.

 

Fifth weekend alone and haven't had a good one yet. She'll be moving out now Sunday so that's gonna be a rough day. Will have to get through it somehow though

[Toodaloo]

Start looking at motorbikes. Have a look at sports etc. You have given up so much of yourself. Time to get it back.

 

Also why on earth are you not capable of looking after your daughter when she is poorly just as well as her mother? Stick your foot down. You have every right to have her at your home, which is essentially your daughters home, while she is sick. She would probably feel much more relaxed in her own home chilling out with her Poppa, rather than having to go out to a public place to eat! I know when I am sick I want home, the sofa and my blanket and I don't want to go out.

 

Put your foot down and know your worth. You are worth far better than this.

 

Eventually you will start having good weekends again. Bit soon for that just yet though. You still are hurting and that takes time. Heck a broken leg takes 6 weeks at least to heal and you have to mend a broken heart. So don't be hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself.

 

Keep going. We are still thinking of you and we are still here.

[Flabreakup]

Thanks again. Really means a lot.

 

Got a decent nights rest for a change so that was nice. Of course morning hits like a ton of bricks. Trying not to be hard on myself but as usual not working very good. I'll just have to get use to feeling this way for a little while.

 

Went through a bunch of stuff last night getting ready for her to move her stuff tomorrow. Certainly wasn't easy. Feels like I've got a long lonely road ahead of me. Took ten years to find someone like her so kinda sad thinking about it. At least I have my little one.

 

Back to no motivation but I'm going to think of something to do today.

[Flabreakup]

So moving went ok. Was in a rush so only got big stuff with a bunch of little stuff left to get. And we have to go through the baby's from to see what's staying and going still.

 

The feelings are really overwhelming right now. Took something to calm down a bit but isn't really helping. Really feels like I'm losing my family all over again because of my own inability to treat her the right way. Someone told me they all need love excitement and romance and I barely showed any of that. We had the baby in the bed with us every night since day one and that kinda of killed the intamacy or our relationship.

 

I guess denial is still there because all I can think of is a few months on her own at her new place and she might be more open to taking a chance again. But I'm doing the low contact thing for both reasons now since I really don't have a choice. Just can't give up hope of having my family back but at the same time it's over for the moment that's for sure. I don't now if having a child and seein each other everyday will be a good thing or bad but I'll keep my distance as much as I can. She's got her friends and family but I sit around all day wishing I was home with mine

 

Really crosses my mind to leave when I get down like this. I'm a thousand miles away for one two and half year old reason. I never understood how people could leave there kids but I get it a little bit now. Don't think I could bring myself to do it but I'm sure it would krill Amy chance of reconciling down the road and she would probably hate me at that point. I wanted so hard to be an every day day and now I'm an every other day dad at best. All my own fault. Should have been a better man. Maybe she'll see the grass isn't greener or she love having a babysitter so she can party it up like we haven't in years. Don't know but moving is a pretty big action. Her mom even told me to get her jealous the one time we spoke so who knows. I just know her heart isn't with me anymore.

 

Really tough day. Everyday gets worse instead of better. Sorry just in a down mood.

[BC1980]

It does get worse before it gets better unfortunately. Moving out is a tough one too. It does feel like you relive the breakup each time, and it's torture. But it's hard to get everything at once. I had to go back twice to get stuff, so it was a nightmare each time. I got upset and broke down each time. He would walk off and ignore me each time I got upset. It was so humiliating and degrading. I felt so alone, and I felt that he minimized my feelings so much during that time. I'm sure everyone else will recommend to have her get all her stuff quickly because moving out really can drag on and cause a lot of anguish.

[Flabreakup]

Yea it's definitely been dragging on for almost five weeks and still not all out.

 

Her friend calls and tells me she doesn't know what she wants and only wants time to be on her own for the first time in her life. At the same time she asked me to breakfast this morning. I had to meet her at the daycare for the baby's first day and also drop off a check for it. Today was her first day at the hospital for work so maybe she wanted a little comfort or it will be ok kind of stuff. I didn't go to breakfast as I was running late but probably would have if I could have.

 

I'm sure shes just using her time with me as a way of working herself forward until a new one comes along but something insides keeps telling me just give it time and try not to be there for her all the time and she might come around. Two things though. She left and moved out. Hasn't mentioned anything about trying to work things out. I get that's its over now and I need to just drop off and pick up the baby. Now even if there is the tiniest chance to have my family back in the coming months or whatever I know I can't be around and as available but I just can't so no. Also it would help me move on

 

But when sitting around waiting for work and then she's has to come and pick the baby up or I have to drop the baby off I get weak. I must think there's no chance and treat her that way but it's very hard when she's always so nice and saying who mows what will happen in a few months. Stringing me along I'm sure but this holding on to hope and having to she her almost daily is getting tougher. Have to see my daughter though so no choice there. I miss them both dearly everyday. Five weeks and no change. Think I'll have to see her with someone else to really believe it. We shared years and a baby so who knows what could happen but I need to figure out how to move on myself first and whatever happens happens. She even gets jealous when other woman are brought up. I know what her actions say but they seem to change daily. And she looked terrific I scrubs today. Not good for me.

 

Just have to pretend it doesn't matter somehow.

[Toodaloo]

Well up you get and have a shower and get yourself tarted up if you feel bad! It doesn't matter what you looked like. You are who you are.

 

Keep going to the meetings, keep going to the gym. Have you started looking for a motor bike yet?

 

Stop thinking of her coming back. Start thinking about how you are going to get through each day.

 

Don't listen to her friends and family when they start giving you hope. They like you they don't want you to go but its not their decision. If they are your friends too then go out with them and do things. Go to a game or cinema or theater. Go and try things you haven't done before.

 

This woman is keeping you on a string and teasing you with something that isn't going to happen. That is enormously cruel.

 

Just cut her off. No more discussion. She made her decision so she does not get to be upset if you do look at other women or not. Have fun with your little one and make sure she knows you love her. Plan fun things to do, going to the park and out for picnics, making blanket dens etc. Her joy will cheer you up and she will know you still love her.

 

Finally I know its hard but you have to stop blaming yourself. You were not the one that went off and started up with other women. Yes you did things that were not so great but she didn't work on it with you and instead she just went off. That is not your fault and believe me when I say that for a relationship to last both parties need to support each other - there is a reason why vows say "in sickness and in health" it should also be in "bad times and good". So this is not your fault. You have worked on all the things that could be less than perfect, you continue to do so and yet she is still in contact with these other men and stringing you along? Nah. You deserve someone who is prepared to put in as much effort as you do.

 

You can do this and you can get through. Keep going. You are already showing that you are the better man.

[BC1980]

Distancing yourself from her is drawing an appropriate boundary. It's not about being mean or giving up. It's about saying that you need to emotionally distance yourself to heal and move forward. If you later reconcile, that's fine, but, for now, you need firm boundaries. I would just explain that to her, and don't get into too much detail. If she doesn't understand or respect your decision, that's just plain selfish and lacking any empathy or sense of appropriate boundaries herself.

 

I have been down this same road as you and neglected to set up boundaries. I played the nice ex, claiming I was mature enough to handle contact and being friends. I didn't want to alienate him in case there was an opportunity for a second chance. So I neglected what was best for me and sacrificed what I needed to appease his need to be friends. I'm telling you that the path you are currently going down is setting you up for a world if hurt. It's very difficult to understand that now, but you have to think long term. Not just what feels right now or satisfied loneliness now. Because that is what she is doing. She is thinking short term. It feels good to her now to see you at breakfast, but it's fleeting. It means nothing more.

[Flabreakup]

That makes total sense. One reason I didn't try to make it to breakfast. I'm still holding on to the chance and I know I shouldnt. Today I told her not to even get out of the car and I brought the baby to her when she came to pick her up. I'll do the same tomorrow and just try to make our conversations civil.

 

Right now I'm seeing the baby almost daily which I love so I'm walking a fine line with keeping her happy, holding out for hopes sake and trying to let go and move on. Trying to do them all at the same time but it is tough. We have been in contact a lot more in the last few days than normal with moving and the baby's first day at daycare today. It's just strange that phone conversations are always tough and in perso. We're goofing around and stuff. I know I'm just making it easier on her and not me but that damn hope always creeps in.

 

As everyone said though I'm going to try my hardest to let her go and do her own thing and just see what happens with no expectations. For her us or me. Easier said than done but I'll try.

 

Last few days have actually been pretty good. Seems like I see her have super stress and panic attacks and then have a good night. Might have to do with seeing the baby too but there a packaged deal. Had the best day with the little one so far too after i got her from daycare. She's such a special little girl and part of the reason I want her to have a real family that I never did. But out of my hands now. My grandparents were together for 50 years and I can only make it 4. Pretty sad. At least I have a few shows to watch tonight. Hope everyone is well. Thanks

[BC1980]

Right now I'm seeing the baby almost daily which I love so I'm walking a fine line with keeping her happy, holding out for hopes sake and trying to let go and move on. Trying to do them all at the same time but it is tough. We have been in contact a lot more in the last few days than normal with moving and the baby's first day at daycare today. It's just strange that phone conversations are always tough and in perso. We're goofing around and stuff. I know I'm just making it easier on her and not me but that damn hope always creeps in.

 

If you are doing all of this, it's no wonder you feel bad. It's an endless cesspool of hurt and the reason I eventually went NC. I knew that my ex would never request NC, so I had to be the one to do it. He was content to keep me on a string for as long as possible. Moving on is also painful, but, at least, there is an end in sight if you decide to move on. The pain isn't permanent. I know that you have hope, and it's normal. But you can't give into that idea if doing so compromises your ability to move on.

[Toodaloo]

If you are doing all of this, it's no wonder you feel bad. It's an endless cesspool of hurt and the reason I eventually went NC. I knew that my ex would never request NC, so I had to be the one to do it. He was content to keep me on a string for as long as possible. Moving on is also painful, but, at least, there is an end in sight if you decide to move on. The pain isn't permanent. I know that you have hope, and it's normal. But you can't give into that idea if doing so compromises your ability to move on.

 

Because it boosts their ego.

 

BC managed to do it so can you. All she is doing is exactly the same as BC's ex, feeding off of your pain. She needs to stop doing that and the only person who can stop her is you. Keep those boundaries up. Make space for yourself to heal.

 

Glad you are seeing your daughter lots. Little ones have a way of making the world seem a better place.

 

Have you started looking at motorbikes yet? Seen any that may take your fancy? I actually think its a fantastic idea for you to get back into them. All that freedom and when you have a poop day you can jump on your bike for half an hour and dust off the cobwebs. Will do you the world of good.

[Flabreakup]

I am going to look around for a bike sooner or later but have to make sure I take care of all my other financial responsibilities first. And with being apart they have grown a lot.

 

I've been taking something to help sleep and I think it's too much too. Sleeping way more than I ever did and have no motivation to even get up. Think I'll cut back a little.

 

I know everyone says it gets better but ten years to find her and I screwed that one up. Just the thought of being alone and not having a special someone is pretty scary. I really liked having a family. It's been my dream and it's not happening at the moment.

 

Some say let go but my own aunt and uncle split and moved out for six months and ended up working it out. That damn hope again. I do know that moving on and being happy with my own life is going to look a lot better than being a mess regardless of what happens so I'm trying. Second day of only talking about the baby and drop off pick up deal. Not helping yet but having drank yet either. Really don't have any urge knowing it's the number one reason this whole thing happened. When she wasn't hapoy and didn't pay attention and just sat on the couch and drank too she gave up. I don't blame her anyone else would have done the same.

 

Seeing my daughter everyday this week has been nice. Maybe showing I'm responsible and keeping my distance will help. Nothing can bring back that old relationship so I have to let go and see what time does.

 

One a bad side note seeing her so assertive and in control is not helping either. It's even more attractive than I remember her ever being. Of course it means nothing for me now. Everyone says the minute I truely stop caring is the day she'll call but just can't get out of this funk and move one. I even went out with someone and couldn't even come close to paying attention to her when my heart was still hurting.

 

I can't even think of seeing anyone and that just doesn't seem fair. In the last I would have went to a bar. I was always the life of the party and did what most do to get over someone but that's just not what I want in this point in my life right now. I want something more something that makes me what to come home every night and not make the same mistakes. No the bad side I'm somewhat in the country and the good ones are gone young. Really thought she would never leave and big was I wrong. Can't treat the ones you love the most like it did and expect them to stay. Hard lesson to learn this late. Thanks Again

[Toodaloo]

Your welcome.

 

I know you can't see it but I can see how far you have come just since your first post. So keep going.

 

As for finding the "one" and all that I can tell you now that there is no such thing. People go on to find love again and that simply wouldn't happen if there were just one person out there.

 

There are so many way to break a persons heart. My brother did something really thoughtful and caring for me a few days ago and while it should have made me feel elated (which it did) it also made me feel completely lost and empty at the same time.

 

My point is that life goes on.

 

If you feel that way about your ex think how she will feel when she see's that you are getting your life back in order and you are in control of your life too.

 

I know you want to keep the hope alive but there is a big difference between your aunt and uncle and your ex and you. Your aunt and uncle BOTH wanted to get back together and make it work. Your ex does not want to treat you with the dignity and respect that would be needed for that to happen and is treating you like some left overs that will do if she can't get anything better... Thats not how it works. Unless she realizes just how great you are just as you are then its just not going to work.

 

You were not perfect its true. But no one is. She had a responsibility to your relationship as well and she didn't take that seriously. Instead she just packed up and left. You have worked really hard over the last few weeks to make something of yourself. Keep going. If you don't feel like doing it for yourself then do it for your daughter. Don't bother trying to date at the moment. It will just mess up your head. Concentrate on you and getting back a life for yourself.

 

Come on. Pick yourself up again and keep going. You are doing well.

[Flabreakup]

Thanks agin you always make me feel better even for a little bit.

 

Had a little argument today. She called me at 7am and asked if she could bring the baby so I can take her to daycare because she feels like the bad guy dropping her off and I'm the good guy who picks her up. I was sleeping and said I was sleeping so she got upset and emotional and she f u the. Did it herself. If I knew the night before I would have done it and will be doing it tomorrow and Friday. I'll be picking up and dropping off just had a long night and was ready for it this morning. Of course I got the we're done and it's never going to happen before she hung up on me. It really made me feel like **** all day

 

Just hoping I didn't push her further away but this whole breakup was her idea not mine so I shouldn't feel guilty but do. So we said we'd make all these plans ahead of time and it's all about Khloe which is how I feel right now. Of course that will change in hours when I think about screwing up my slim chances here. Then next week she works seven to seven so I'll be picking up and dropping of everyday. I think this shows I care about my daughter but what it means to her I don't know and sometimes don't car but most of the time I do care what she things because of that damn hope.

 

Trying to let it go but every time I see her it comes rushing back but I have been keeping my mouth shut as much as possible. Just another crazy day. Everyday seems a new story with her. Some good days and some bad days. Today was a bad one. Still did something's today but that heartache doesn't seem to get much better. Quit drinking almost day 40 but got some stuff for anxiety and it's kind of making me even less motivated but it does help my sanity for the moment.

[BC1980]

It's unacceptable to call at 7am for you to take her to daycare unless it's an emergency. It's not acceptable to ask you to take your daughter last minute, so she can be the good guy. If she has that concern, she can iron out the details before hand. Also, saying F U? That's so disrespectful, like a child throwing a temper tantrum because she didn't get her way.

 

Always keep your cool, and stay unemotional with her. Always keep your cool as hard as it is. I think you need to sit down with her and work out a schedule. I'm really sorry all of that happened. It's amazing how people can turn on you once a relationship ends. My ex and I ended on pretty bad terms, but we never said FU or cussed each other. Your ex sounds like an immature child.

[Toodaloo]

It's unacceptable to call at 7am for you to take her to daycare unless it's an emergency. It's not acceptable to ask you to take your daughter last minute, so she can be the good guy. If she has that concern, she can iron out the details before hand. Also, saying F U? That's so disrespectful, like a child throwing a temper tantrum because she didn't get her way.

 

Always keep your cool, and stay unemotional with her. Always keep your cool as hard as it is. I think you need to sit down with her and work out a schedule. I'm really sorry all of that happened. It's amazing how people can turn on you once a relationship ends. My ex and I ended on pretty bad terms, but we never said FU or cussed each other. Your ex sounds like an immature child.

 

Can't agree with this more.

 

She chose this. She needs to live with it. Let her deal with it. Dropping off your child at day care isn't that hard. Millions of people do it every day. She can get off her backside and start being responsible.

 

Well done for holding your ground.

 

She may have made you feel like poo for the day but its just one day. Keep going. You are the better man. Perhaps offer to have your daughter more often if she is struggling? Arrange for your daughter to come and stay at home with you over night a couple of times perhaps. At least then you get to see her more and she does cheer you up.

 

Keep your boundaries up and guard your heart. This one is now just trying to hurt you for no better reason other than she can and she is acting like a spoilt brat.

 

You can get through. You can do this. You are strong and tomorrow is a new day.

[Flabreakup]

Yea we figured out our schedule for next week. I'm kinda stuck working around her nursing job which is three twelve hour shifts a week so I get her on days she's working and she gets her on the off days. She was pretty angry most of the day but I didn't argue or anything like that.

 

As silly as it sounds by the end of the night she was talking baby steps again with trying to be individuals and taking care of the baby. No relationship talk for a while and it seems to be getting to her a little. I'm sticking with baby talk only and trying my hardest to move forward with my life. Just not much of a life left it feels some times.

 

Have my daughter all day today so we're just playing around and having some fun. At least this past week I can have the baby and not think about the ex for the most part which is a nice change. Can't say she's still not on my mind most of the day but I do have moments now hat I dont.

 

And eating much better. Back to at least once a day and sometimes even two. Crazy. Thought if never enjoy food again.

 

Last night was her first night at her new place and I'm not saying a word. I did offer to help with getting the baby some new clothes and things for the baby but that's it. I do try to do me things like bring coffee in the morning when I get the baby. Not expecting much but she does let me see the baby a lot more than any court will so I try to stay civil. And of course that damn hope for the future creeps in once in a while but it is getting less and less and more about the baby than her. I still dream every night about having our family together one day but even there not as crazy vivid as they were a few weeks ago.

 

She seems to have some bad moments and the. We have some great ones. I can't lie and say I dont till want to try over again but I know it's no time soon if at all so working hard to get it out of my head and move on. She was always a nice calm person and I think I drove her a little crazy the first month trying to talk about everything but now I'm just about baby talk and she seems to want to talk about other stuff but I try to cut it as short as I can. I just keep telling myself I know right now I'm not plan a for her so until I know differently I'm not making her my plan a either.

 

Thanks again and hope everyone has a great day!

[you must let it go]

PLEASE PLEASE listen to this its saved my life! Flabreakup Im new here and read all of this thread. Iv been in a 15 year relationship that was over 5 months go, shes got the house+ my 2 kids. Iv been feeling like killing my self untill i heard this today. Im not religus by anymeans but what this man is saying is 100% true! I feal like the ex is is gone for good and im happy

 

listen to this i BEG YOU when you feel down this will make you cry, laugh and feel OK trust me.

 

please pass this on to someone who you know it coul save there life. Iv read your thead and thought id pass it on to you. make a nice warm drink its about 30 mins long

 

Good luck hope it makes you feel like i do.

http://www.theonlineword.com/mp3/5246.mp3

Edited March 13, 2015 by you must let it go

[NopeNah]

PLEASE PLEASE listen to this its saved my life! Flabreakup Im new here and read all of this thread. Iv been in a 15 year relationship that was over 5 months go, shes got the house+ my 2 kids. Iv been feeling like killing my self untill i heard this today. Im not religus by anymeans but what this man is saying is 100% true! I feal like the ex is is gone for good and im happy

 

listen to this i BEG YOU when you feel down this will make you cry, laugh and feel OK trust me.

 

please pass this on to someone who you know it coul save there life. Iv read your thead and thought id pass it on to you. make a nice warm drink its about 30 mins long

 

Good luck hope it makes you feel like i do.

http://www.theonlineword.com/mp3/5246.mp3

 

Thanks for that link! That guy is great! His delivery is almost comedic.

[you must let it go]

Thanks for that link! That guy is great! His delivery is almost comedic.

Indeed it had me crying then laughing at the end of it I was over my 15 year relationship in 32 minutes! that iv been in a very deep depreshion for 5 months lost 50lbs could not sleep, eat get out of bed I wanted to end it so many times.

 

Im not getting on that "misery go round" no more "coverd in dust" I'm over it!

Edited March 13, 2015 by you must let it go

[NopeNah]

Indeed it had me crying then laughing at the end of it I was over my 15 year relationship in 32 minutes! that iv been in a very deep depreshion for 5 months lost 50lbs could not sleep, eat get out of bed I wanted to end it so many times.

 

Im not getting on that "misery go round" no more "coverd in dust" I'm over it!

 

Good for you! I liked the "Just don't get in the mess to begin with" part.

[Toodaloo]

Hi Brian

 

Glad you are eating more and feeling a bit better.

 

Don't let her fool you with the "lets see how it goes" and "baby steps" crap. She knows that was working before and she is just attention seeking. She is dangling a hook and hoping that you will bite so she can run you through the mincing machine again. She wants to be wanted and desired by you. That doesn't mean that she actually wants you.

 

Clearly she is starting to learn that in order to get the good stuff you have to look after it when you do. Do not let her start all this crap again. Be firm and strong. Refuse to talk about it, keep your boundaries up and refuse to argue. The only thing you need to discuss with her are issues surrounding the care of your daughter. That is it. Don't let her mess you about. Its not on to play and toy with people like that.

 

All you need to worry about at this point is your health/ welfare and your daughter. The rest can all be put to one side. So concentrate on those meetings, concentrate on work and keeping up together with your bills, concentrate on eating properly and getting down to the gym, concentrate on having good times with your daughter and making sure she knows you love her. Start having a look at motor bikes and set aside a little each month so you can save up for one you like. Keep ringing your friends and family. Invite them down to visit for the weekend.

 

Keep going! Your doing well. I will pop in over the weekend to check in and see how you are doing.