jerbear Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 Hey thanks! A lot of people on here have said they even prefer the way I look with glasses. But personally I think they make me look wimpy and lame.Hey Ross, glad you are moving forward and taking action. Regarding the glasses, I used to wear the heavy plastic, thick lens because we couldn't afford it. My glasses were ugly and yes I was wimpy and the nerd in school. Once you get a job, switch the design of the frame, get the under frame, frameless, rhinestone frame, whatever. I suggest switching your eye wear every now and then. Over time you collect more glasses that you can rotate them around or go retro. Maybe even donate the old frames to the needy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted March 25, 2012 Author Share Posted March 25, 2012 Hey Ross, glad you are moving forward and taking action. Regarding the glasses, I used to wear the heavy plastic, thick lens because we couldn't afford it. My glasses were ugly and yes I was wimpy and the nerd in school. Once you get a job, switch the design of the frame, get the under frame, frameless, rhinestone frame, whatever. I suggest switching your eye wear every now and then. Over time you collect more glasses that you can rotate them around or go retro. Maybe even donate the old frames to the needy. Thanks jerbear! I think once I get a job, if I don't get alser surgery, then I'll probably get myself some different frames, definatley a frame that is more darker in colour anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 Thanks jerbear! I think once I get a job, if I don't get alser surgery, then I'll probably get myself some different frames, definatley a frame that is more darker in colour anyway. Before you get laser surgery think about what your optics are. You might have to wear glasses again in the future. Laser correction may not provide 20/20 vision. I thought about it but thought about the having to do it again; however I like the convenience of not having to wear glasses. Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredReality Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Man, that sounds nasty. It so bites. Seriously. Yup, I've had the same problem, I used to wear hard contacts. Now I wear soft disposable contacts which are 2nd to the most gas permeable. The ones that are most gas permeable are a bit too expensive for me. Maybe I'll get laser eye surgery once I've got a job and can afford it. I am going to be entirely irresponsible and just do it. I have been wanting to for years...they told me the optimal time is from 25-35 because you will get the most years glasses free. I know I will need reading glasses as soon as right away depending, but it's a trade worth making if you ask me. I would rather put them on to read, and take them off to see...but after I go in for my first consult I will drop you a line I have found talking to people who have done it has been a huge help for me in making the decision. I am off the fence and laser ready!! Hey thanks! A lot of people on here have said they even prefer the way I look with glasses. But personally I think they make me look wimpy and lame. Ultimately it matters most what YOU think. You are the one who has to live with it. I have found myself apologizing to my husband for wearing my glasses all the time!!!! He says I am crazy...but reality is that I don't like how I look in them, so I feel bad and that prompts me to want to make sure he knows I am aware I am not giving him my "best face" as it were. So, yeah....I have gotten compliments on my glasses and been told I am "cute" in them....but ultimately, since I have a difficult time seeing it through their eyes, I am dissatisfied. I know I need to work on it...but I have resolved to get out of them because I feel like that would be the quicker and more stable solution!! LOL I am glad to be reading of your positive steps, Ross. Life is tough around here right now and it's encouraging to see someone else moving forward...kinda helps give that nudge in the right direction, know what I mean? Thanks for sharing and letting us all follow your progress!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted March 28, 2012 Author Share Posted March 28, 2012 I am going to be entirely irresponsible and just do it.! What makes you think it's irresponsible? I have been wanting to for years...they told me the optimal time is from 25-35 because you will get the most years glasses free. I know I will need reading glasses as soon as right away depending, but it's a trade worth making if you ask me. I would rather put them on to read, and take them off to see...but after I go in for my first consult I will drop you a line I have found talking to people who have done it has been a huge help for me in making the decision. I am off the fence and laser ready!! Yeah I think it's definatley worth the trade. I've never heard about it doing that before though. Does it happen to all people or just some? Ultimately it matters most what YOU think. You are the one who has to live with it. I have found myself apologizing to my husband for wearing my glasses all the time!!!! He says I am crazy...but reality is that I don't like how I look in them, so I feel bad and that prompts me to want to make sure he knows I am aware I am not giving him my "best face" as it were. So, yeah....I have gotten compliments on my glasses and been told I am "cute" in them....but ultimately, since I have a difficult time seeing it through their eyes, I am dissatisfied. I know I need to work on it...but I have resolved to get out of them because I feel like that would be the quicker and more stable solution!! LOL Definatley, I couldn't agree more. People tell me online that having really short hair doesn't look good on me and that I would look a lot better with longer hair. But at the end of the day, I really like how I look with really short hair, and I hate how I look with longer hair. So, I continue to look like Mr Potato head. I am glad to be reading of your positive steps, Ross. Life is tough around here right now and it's encouraging to see someone else moving forward...kinda helps give that nudge in the right direction, know what I mean? Thanks for sharing and letting us all follow your progress!! Thanks! One of the main reasons why I post in this topic is to inspire others (since a few people have told me that my posts in this topic do inspire them). I should post more in this topic actually, but a lot of the time I just feel like I can't be bothered for some reason. Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredReality Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 What makes you think it's irresponsible It is irresponsible because right now we're having a ton of financial troubles and I am basically saying to heck with it, my eyes are more important. I'm done trying to build up savings slowly to do it or pushing it to the back of the line...I'm pulling it to the front and just waiting for these "infiltrates" to quit standing in my way. Yeah I think it's definatley worth the trade. I've never heard about it doing that before though. Does it happen to all people or just some? Some. Not everyone who gets the surgery needs reading glasses. Maybe I could even say MOST wind up needing them later on down the road. But again, I would make that trade. Definatley, I couldn't agree more. People tell me online that having really short hair doesn't look good on me and that I would look a lot better with longer hair. But at the end of the day, I really like how I look with really short hair, and I hate how I look with longer hair. So, I continue to look like Mr Potato head. LOL...well I hadn't considered that you looked like Mr Potato Head - but even so - yes, keep rocking the short hair! I go back and forth...right now my hair is nearly waist length and my husband would like for me to let it keep going...at some point I will lose patience and chop it shoulder length to start all over again, I am sure. I always want my hair shorter, then when I cut it shorter I get frustrated that I can no longer just brush it and go (I don't care what anybody says - short hair is much more maintenance than long), so I grow it out again. I've learned that I like difference aspects of how I look with different lengths. I'll say this, though, there is something nice about running your fingers through a guys hair - so if you're not balding, keep at least a couple inches there for that!! Thanks! One of the main reasons why I post in this topic is to inspire others (since a few people have told me that my posts in this topic do inspire them). I should post more in this topic actually, but a lot of the time I just feel like I can't be bothered for some reason. Well, if you ever find the time, I am sure you'll have many more followers Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted March 31, 2012 Author Share Posted March 31, 2012 So, I've got to go to another work related interview next Tuesday, but it's at a different place and I'l be being interviewd by a different person, so, I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable about it. My sister went to that same place (who suffers from panic attacks) for something similar, and the woman who she spoke to was really nasty towards her, she even told my sister she should move house so she would be able to work at a particular place. I'm worried that I may end up seeing the same woman. I did actually talk to the woman who I'll be seeing on the phone, and she did come across as a cold unsypathetic type. How should I deal with her if she is nasty and unsypathetic towards me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted April 3, 2012 Author Share Posted April 3, 2012 Okay, went there today, everything went fine. At first I did feel very uncomfortable, I was convinced that I was going to be treated badly, but it turned out totally okay. The woman was very sympathetic towards me. She asked a lot questions and entered data into her computer, and she asked me if I could type out a CV at home and email it to her, she said it doesn't matter if there are any spelling mistakes (so I'm figuring the next time I see her, we'll be going over it and making improvements to it, if there needs to be any). So yeah, when I got home I did find the thought of knocking up a CV to be quite daunting, but I thought, I'll just do it and get it done and out of the way, it's better than to just keep putting it off. So I've just made a CV (basically I looked up some example CV's on Google to get an idea of what kinds of things you need to put in them and how they're structured), and sent it to her. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 4, 2012 Author Share Posted May 4, 2012 I've got to go there again today, and I'm feeling anxious and uncomfortable about it. My mum is making me feel a lot worse to because she's putting all of her fears about it onto me. There doesn't seem to be anyway to make her stop. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 14, 2012 Author Share Posted May 14, 2012 I'm going to start watching horror films often, as hopefully it will toughen me up mentally. That being said, I'd like to start watching them anyway as I do quite enjoy them. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted May 14, 2012 Share Posted May 14, 2012 In what ways are you hoping to toughen up, Ross? Horror films can be desensitizing but as for building mental toughness, I've not heard of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 15, 2012 Author Share Posted May 15, 2012 In what ways are you hoping to toughen up, Ross? Horror films can be desensitizing but as for building mental toughness, I've not heard of this. Because anything bad that happens to me should seem like nothing compared to what happens to people in horror movies. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Because anything bad that happens to me should seem like nothing compared to what happens to people in horror movies. It's also fiction (usually) therefore not very effective Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Because anything bad that happens to me should seem like nothing compared to what happens to people in horror movies. So, you're hoping to keep things in perspective. That's always a good thing. Watch the movies if you care to, or open the newspaper to achieve the same effect. What's important is you're continuing to improve in ways that are meaningful to you. You've come a long way, don't you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 15, 2012 Author Share Posted May 15, 2012 So, you're hoping to keep things in perspective. That's always a good thing. Watch the movies if you care to, or open the newspaper to achieve the same effect. What's important is you're continuing to improve in ways that are meaningful to you. You've come a long way, don't you think? Yeah, I have. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 17, 2012 Author Share Posted May 17, 2012 Decided that I'm going to try doing some volunteer work at the animal sanctury. All I need to do is to go over there and fill in a form. But I don't really know how to get there. So I've had to ask my sister to come with me since she knows where it is, but she wont be able to go there yet. So, I'm just going to have to wait and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Eclypse Posted May 17, 2012 Share Posted May 17, 2012 Have you looked at google maps or a street map of your city? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 17, 2012 Author Share Posted May 17, 2012 Have you looked at google maps or a street map of your city? Yeah, but it's still hard for me to figure out where it is, since where Google Earth says it is, it isn't actually there. I've spotted a farm that has the same name as the place, so I'm thining that that is probably it, but I'm not 100% sure, and there doesn't seem to be a car park there (on the phone they said they had parking). Also, it seems that the only road that leads to it is a narrow country lane, which I can't look down on Google Earth, so I've got no idea if it's one way or not, and if it is, which way the traffic is supposed to go. I definatley cannot imagine two cars being able to pass each other on it anyway. So I've got no idea if I'd be able to go down it the way I need to go down it, or even if it's a private road and I could get in trouble for driving on it. Then on the way there and the way back, there's a place that I'll have to go through which consists of multi lanes and a roundabout, and I feel really unconfident about it, I'm not sure if I'll be able to remember which lanes I'm supposed to go in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 23, 2012 Author Share Posted May 23, 2012 (edited) Looked in the mirror today, I looked nothing like how I look on my photo's or videos where I look attractive. In fact when I was looking in the mirror I couldn't imagine how any woman could find my face attractive. I went out, it's a really hot sunny day, loads of young people walkng about, and I felt like a loser, and like none of the women that I was seeing outside would be attracted to me. Seeing lot's of attractive women in skimpy clothes (some of which with boyfirends) just made me feel worse. I tried to look at things differently (like some people have advised on here), and I tried to enjoy their beauty, but it didn't work. I ended up having to avoid looking at them. I don't feel good about myself. Don't worry, I don't feel really depressed, but I don't feel great either. It's just a shame that it is a really nice hot sunny day today, and that I wasn't able to enjoy it when I was outside. Edited May 23, 2012 by Ross MwcFan Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 23, 2012 Author Share Posted May 23, 2012 I wish people would give me some feedback in this topic. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 I felt like a loser, and like none of the women that I was seeing outside would be attracted to me. That's a strange way to go out into the world - focusing on who may or may not be attracted to you. Instead of thinking about that, is it possible to focus on making connections with people, just on a base level? Not just pretty girls, but just people in general. Practice joking around with the cashier at the store you go to, respond to people who talk to you, smile at people, engage people. The goal of doing this isn't to find someone to DATE. It's to become comfortable with yourself. When I go out, I am certain there aren't many guys who are attracted to me (and I am not thinking about that AT ALL) but I have SO MUCH FUN. I pick on people, I laugh a lot, I talk to people about random stuff, and I feel just - alive. It's so much fun. Even if you aren't outgoing, you can start trying to make an effort to just build connections with people. I would start with people you are in no way attracted to, because that's easier. Going by your pic here, you seem like a good looking guy to me. Smile. Makes a HUGE difference. You also might consider growing your hair out just a bit so you have some fringe over your forehead. Just a thought.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 24, 2012 Author Share Posted May 24, 2012 That's a strange way to go out into the world - focusing on who may or may not be attracted to you. Instead of thinking about that, is it possible to focus on making connections with people, just on a base level? Not just pretty girls, but just people in general. Practice joking around with the cashier at the store you go to, respond to people who talk to you, smile at people, engage people. The goal of doing this isn't to find someone to DATE. It's to become comfortable with yourself. When I go out, I am certain there aren't many guys who are attracted to me (and I am not thinking about that AT ALL) but I have SO MUCH FUN. I pick on people, I laugh a lot, I talk to people about random stuff, and I feel just - alive. It's so much fun. Even if you aren't outgoing, you can start trying to make an effort to just build connections with people. I would start with people you are in no way attracted to, because that's easier. Going by your pic here, you seem like a good looking guy to me. Smile. Makes a HUGE difference. You also might consider growing your hair out just a bit so you have some fringe over your forehead. Just a thought.... Here's how my hair looks when it's grown out, not a good look IMO. http://i1126.photobucket.com/albums/l610/RPKGameVids/SWScan00482.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 Grow the fringe about halfway from where it is now to where it was when you were little. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ross MwcFan Posted July 2, 2012 Author Share Posted July 2, 2012 Well, I've had a blocked up ear for over a month now. Was going to get it seen too tomorrow, but since my mum has ended up with blocked up ears and can hardly hear at all, I've let her have my appointment, which means I'm going to have to wait for another month to get my ear seen too. It feels so annoying and so uncomfortable, it's realy putting me off with trying to make progress with my life. Also I got a letter the other day, asking if I would like to start going to speech therapy again. I don't see much point though as I don't really think it helped with my voice last time. Link to post Share on other sites
Eclypse Posted July 2, 2012 Share Posted July 2, 2012 Do you know what the cause of the blocked ears are? This seems to be happening a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
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