The key to dealing with anger is externalising it.
You can do this by:
Speaking about it to a trustworthy person, writing about it, or any other means of expression that works for you.
Anger is very physical, so physical ways of externalising it can be be particularly helpful. Some examples are:
Going to a place where nobody can hear you and shouting it out as loud as you can, for as long as you can.
Hitting a punch bag until you can't punch any more.
Breaking something, and th
"Our search for such [moral] principles can start with . . . the unconditional imperative to acknowledge every person as a person. If we ask for the contents given by this absolute, we find, first, something negative—the command not to treat a person as a thing. This seems little, but it is much. It is the core of the principle of justice."
- Paul Tillich.
The only way to overcome fear is to face up to it. Allow yourself to feel the fear without trying to push it away.
Trying to push it away creates tremendous inner tension, and feeds the fear.
Notice the physical sensations in you body that come with it, but don't try to suppress them, just notice the way your body feels.
Allow yourself to fully experience it for a few minutes, and then just go about your business.
From my journal:
"The baby grows inside the Mother. Our consciousness grows inside the Baby. What is to come grows inside our consciousness. In that sense, we are our own Mothers, or at least Mothers of that which is to come."
1. You're still in the crisis phase - you are very hurt, disappointed and angry, but the intensity of your feelings will reduce.
2. Don't suppress your feelings, or tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling - that never helps.
3. Externalise your feelings by writing them down, talking to a trustworthy person, or using any other mode of expression that feels right.
4. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will have a good life without this person.
5. Tell y
normally if there is desperation it comes from within the person who is feeling it......he is assuming on his own needs thats why i dont want guys to tell me that .....because then i know they are actually feeling it........and i feel for them....sympathy and empathy with me.....i take on others.....and that means i am going to be tired.........deb
so I'm 24 and I've been dating this Mexican guy for about six months so far.He's so sweet to me and he gives me whatever I need.He's the same age as me by the way.recently he talked me into moving in with him,so I did just so we could see each other more because he works two jobs.I fell in love with him fast I guess it was because of the way he treats me he makes sure I dont have to want for any thing and I can tell its true love. Ive only been living with him for about a week now and it seems
Every time around this year I take the time to raise a nice middle finger to you for even refusing to acknowledge that you had a son.
I've never met you, and when I got the chance to call, you didn't even entertain the possibility.
I'd tell you what life was like for me growing up. There's a part of me that will always be missing, and I don't know how to fill it.
Has it affected me? Oh, absolutely.
Not sure where to start this, it's long and somewhat complicated. But I was sent to prison and I broke up with my fiance'. She wanted to stay together but i was mentally incapable and thought i was doing the best thing for her. She met someone and now lives with him, they've been together for 2 years or a little more. Since 2012 they have been living together.
Now I just returned home from my bid from 2010 and contacted her to say hello. She came to see me and told me how much she missed me
I've always had the worst social skills. I have been painfully shy for years and struggled with social anxiety. Its strange how I put myself out there by joining social groups, yet feel so uncomfortable being around people. I tend to think that everyone thinks I am a freak because I used to be so socially awkward.
But another reason is because I lack social confidence and I really don't know how to present myself to others. The only time I am relaxed is when I am silly, spewing one-liners and
I am still struggling to get over low self-esteem and immense self-doubt, and it frustrates me that I keep sabotaging myself. I feel as though I am preventing myself from getting better, as if I honestly think I don't deserve to feel good and be stronger.
Why so? Its like I feel I don't deserve to be strong because I am weak. Isn't that a weird contradiction? I hate myself for being weak so...I make sure I stay weak. That doesn't make sense.
Or maybe I can't forgive myself for being so aw
It's the day after TG and we made it. My children and I made it and it was nice.
Unfortunately, I was sad he didn't even attempt to call the children but I realized they didn't call him either.
Even though he abandoned us and offers no assistance, we had a bountiful Thanksgiving feast with enough to share with others.
My job today is to make sure I don't over-stress about the PL hearing next week. So far he has violated the court order to provide financial documents by a certain time
Each day, I feel as if something is stopping me from becoming a better person. Is it anger issues? Low self-esteem? Laziness? Stubbornness?
Sometimes I wonder if I am not taking enough responsibility for myself and that I'm being too reactive. I think I need to be more proactive - a lot more proactive. I should really read that book, "7 Habits of Highly Effective People".
Other times I wonder if I am really beaten down by anger and being overly suspicious of others. I know I need to stop s
I never was a good person. I wasn't even a bad person either. I drifted between both, I guess. I had been told as a child that I was a bad person because I wasn't what my parents wanted me to be. Because I was unhappy in an unhappy home, I became moody, cranky and even bad tempered. That led to me being frequently called a grouchy kid, a bitch, and that I had a nasty attitude.
I would try to prove that I was a good person. That made me eager to please others and also convince myself that I wa