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"I like you, but you are just too nice"


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I think one of the biggest problems is simply the word itself. Nice. It's such a general word that it's open to too many interpretations. That's why I like sycophant, because I think it's more exacting in meaning.

Hmm...very interesting. Yea, I don't like suck-ups! Thanks for giving me a new perspective on what I am going through, B4R.

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I think its true when they say that us women want the bad guys. The *******s. The ones that treat us bad. But when we have a guy that treats us oh so damn good, shows us love, and cares, we get tired of it. I guess its because some of us know that we got them right there and we can take advantage. Don't get me wrong.. I'm not saying I like a guy to treat me like crap but I guess its more of a challenge when you have to work for it. Well thats how it is for me.. somewhat. I love a nice guy but don't let me get it so easy either cuz I know I can have it anytime. And then when the guy starts noticing that the girl doesn't want him and he starts acting like a dick, thats when we want them.. Tell me that ain't true sometimes huh?! :confused:

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I think its true when they say that us women want the bad guys. The *******s. The ones that treat us bad. But when we have a guy that treats us oh so damn good, shows us love, and cares, we get tired of it. I guess its because some of us know that we got them right there and we can take advantage. Don't get me wrong.. I'm not saying I like a guy to treat me like crap but I guess its more of a challenge when you have to work for it. Well thats how it is for me.. somewhat. I love a nice guy but don't let me get it so easy either cuz I know I can have it anytime. And then when the guy starts noticing that the girl doesn't want him and he starts acting like a dick, thats when wewant them.. Tell me that ain't true sometimes huh?! :confused:

Yea, to an extent that is true. But, define your idea of a guy being a jerk to you.

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ok i'm back...what's the update?

Well, why you were gone, I decided that I like you, alpha, but you are just too nice. Can we just be friends? :lmao:

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Well, why you were gone,

had to return some movies to blockbuster and do some food shopping...

 

I decided that I like you, alpha, but you are just too nice. Can we just be friends? :lmao:

no...get down on your knees baby and start licking & sucking. *alpha pulls luvtoto's hair*

 

:lmao: :lmao:

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no...get down on your knees baby and start licking & sucking. *alpha pulls luvtoto's hair*

 

:lmao: :lmao:

:lmao: :lmao: :lmao: (I am not even gonna comment any further)

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Well...I like lots of hugs & kisses, I like chivalry, flowers and gifts, chocolates, and undivided attention when we're on a date or hanging out together...

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting the family or with making future plans, either, especially closer to the 4 month mark...

 

And I know from the posts on LS, that many, many women freak out if they don't get calls 30 times a day from their guys...

 

So, I'd say it's a matter of individual taste for each woman as to what kind of nice behavior they like or want in the early stages, and what is too much.

 

No. You wish those thinks from man you ALREADY love and respect. Or from any man, because you are frustrated;) ....sorry:rolleyes:

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No. You wish those thinks from man you ALREADY love and respect. Or from any man, because you are frustrated;) ....sorry:rolleyes:

 

:lmao:

 

No, actually, I like those things when I'm in a new relationship, and I like them from the man I love. And, No, I am not in the least frustrated! I'm actually very, very happy and have been for a long time.

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Here's my thing with NGs. So early in the relationship when they are acting so nice, they aren't doing it out of love (I mean they hardly know the chick, obviously they don't love her) so usually there is an ulterior motive. As though by doing all these things the woman is OBLIGATED to stay with them. It's one of those guys who goes around saying, "Women only date jerks, nice guys finish last, I did all this for my ex girlfriend and she LEFT ME." Well guess what, if you're b**ching and moaning like that, then NO, you are NOT a nice guy.

 

I think that my husband is a (truly) nice guy. He has his own interests (and did when we were first dating) that are (and were) important. He wouldn't expect me to drop plans for him and he wouldn't drop plans for me. He'd do nice things occassionally (like make dinner) but not to get something in return (usually it's because he didn't feel like spending money on dinner). Nowadays nice things for me includes killing spiders and changing lightbulbs. ;)

 

In the beginning, instead of giving me gifts, he gave me time and conversation. He let me get to know him instead of trying to present an image, he's not perfect and he never cared to lead me to believe he was.

 

It's only been 3 years of marriage, hence the gushing.

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Here's my thing with NGs. So early in the relationship when they are acting so nice, they aren't doing it out of love (I mean they hardly know the chick, obviously they don't love her) so usually there is an ulterior motive. As though by doing all these things the woman is OBLIGATED to stay with them. It's one of those guys who goes around saying, "Women only date jerks, nice guys finish last, I did all this for my ex girlfriend and she LEFT ME." Well guess what, if you're b**ching and moaning like that, then NO, you are NOT a nice guy.

AMEN, sister!!! :D

 

I think that my husband is a (truly) nice guy. He has his own interests (and did when we were first dating) that are (and were) important. He wouldn't expect me to drop plans for him and he wouldn't drop plans for me. He'd do nice things occassionally (like make dinner) but not to get something in return (usually it's because he didn't feel like spending money on dinner). Nowadays nice things for me includes killing spiders and changing lightbulbs. ;)

Does he have a brother? :o

In the beginning, instead of giving me gifts, he gave me time and conversation. He let me get to know him instead of trying to present an image, he's not perfect and he never cared to lead me to believe he was.

*Siiiggghhhh* Yes, that is the kind of man I want. :o

 

It's only been 3 years of marriage, hence the gushing.

You are a very lucky woman. :)

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Nowadays nice things for me includes killing spiders and changing lightbulbs. ;)

 

My SO just gave me a new car battery and replaced my old one in the dark and cold. :love:

 

He also kills bugs. :D

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* Playing devils advocate*

 

Give it another year or two and post back, then it wil be "He doesn't treat me like a princess, and the new guy does".

 

:)

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*Siiiggghhhh* Yes, that is the kind of man I want. :o

 

But weren't you saying how your man gave you too much time and conversation (phone calls and visits)????

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My SO just gave me a new car battery and replaced my old one in the dark and cold. :love:

 

He also kills bugs. :D

 

Does he replace your "TOY" batteries too?

 

;)

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Does he replace your "TOY" batteries too?

 

;)

 

:lmao:

 

Actually, he does! We high-five each other first, for having worn the other ones out. :p

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:lmao:

 

Actually, he does! We high-five each other first, for having worn the other ones out. :p

 

Nice!!!! My kind of woman.

 

I tried to get my EX to get comfortable with letting me use her toys on her, but she had problems in the area of sex and being comfortable.

 

Cheers!

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* Playing devils advocate*

 

Give it another year or two and post back, then it wil be "He doesn't treat me like a princess, and the new guy does".

 

:)

All right, RD, which side do you want it?? Your bitch slap that is. :lmao:

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All right, RD, which side do you want it?? Your bitch slap that is. :lmao:

 

Ha hah:lmao::lmao:

 

I thought that might work a nerve or two. I am just playing the role of "Alpha Male" tonight.

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but she had problems in the area of sex and being comfortable.

dude the majority of women are like this...out of the 30 or 40 women I've banged maybe 5 or 6 were truly comfortable with sex and uninhibited in the sack.

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Ha hah:lmao::lmao:

 

I thought that might work a nerve or two. I am just playing the role of "Alpha Male" tonight.

I think he's watching a blockbuster porn or something. :lmao: That sounds good to me, too! I just got done putting in a ten hour shift at work. I am outta here!! Work that is.

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I am just playing the role of "Alpha Male" tonight.

no sweat man...I may turn in early tonite. I was supposed to go to a big Xmas party but I don't feel like it.

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My Fair Katie

 

He also kills bugs. :D

 

Killing bugs and reaching things on high shelves were my primary reasons for having a husband in the first place. ;)

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Killing bugs and reaching things on high shelves were my primary reasons for having a husband in the first place. ;)

what about impregnating you with his sperm MFK? where is that on your list?

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what about impregnating you with his sperm MFK? where is that on your list?

 

Snip snip. Not on the list.

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