pteromom Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 I am so glad that things are going well for you. My advice is to not get so excited about this newly found physical pleasure, that you forget to continue courting and getting to know each other as friends. Make sure you go on dates out of the house, do romantic NON-sexual things for her, and keep talking about other things besides each other. These initial butterflies are intoxicating, but if you don't build a strong foundation of friendship and communication, when the newness wears off, you'll be left with nothing. Don't let that happen. 4
Author Targetlock Posted July 31, 2014 Author Posted July 31, 2014 I am so glad that things are going well for you. My advice is to not get so excited about this newly found physical pleasure, that you forget to continue courting and getting to know each other as friends. Make sure you go on dates out of the house, do romantic NON-sexual things for her, and keep talking about other things besides each other. These initial butterflies are intoxicating, but if you don't build a strong foundation of friendship and communication, when the newness wears off, you'll be left with nothing. Don't let that happen. good advice and this is exactly what we are doing we wrote each other love letters tonight and we talked for ages while snuggled up watching a film. we have planned proper days out and dates, but we have conflicting days off sadly so until we can sort out something we try and make of what time we can. 3
Els Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 good advice and this is exactly what we are doing we wrote each other love letters tonight and we talked for ages while snuggled up watching a film. we have planned proper days out and dates, but we have conflicting days off sadly so until we can sort out something we try and make of what time we can. Awww, your thread makes me feel all warm and fuzzy whenever I read it. Keep it up! Oh, and... enjoy. 1
Author Targetlock Posted August 1, 2014 Author Posted August 1, 2014 Awww, your thread makes me feel all warm and fuzzy whenever I read it. Keep it up! Oh, and... enjoy. makes me all warm and fuzzy when i think about it and her and how lucky i am (though she still reckons she is the luckier one). for our one month anniversary next week, we are planning to go out on a romantic dinner date, to celebrate what has been quite simply one of the best months of my life (only because of her though) want to get her a nice gift or something. 1
Author Targetlock Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 seeing her again tomorrow night we can't get enough of each other and there is only a certain amount of time we can take without seeing each other. this will be date number 7. 1
44tt Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 that's beautiful man, nothing better than finding a woman who shares the same passion as you 1
Author Targetlock Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 Another amazing evening, the making out and stuff gets better and hotter and we get more and more closer to each other i love her so much. Our 1 month anniversary is at the end of the week and we are going out for a romantic dinner then we are going to arrange the classic thing of meeting each others parents. 6
Scales Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Another amazing evening, the making out and stuff gets better and hotter and we get more and more closer to each other i love her so much. Our 1 month anniversary is at the end of the week and we are going out for a romantic dinner then we are going to arrange the classic thing of meeting each others parents. wow man, compared to me you move at the speed of light. I don't think I've ever been in love with a girl until after 3-4 months of dating. I only ever introduced my parents to one of my exes. I am always fascinated how people react different ways to love. I'm not saying it's bad or anything, just noticing that it's different. At the rate you're going it seems like you guys will be married in the year and have 3 babies at the same time:laugh:. Just kidding. 1
irc333 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Another amazing evening, the making out and stuff gets better and hotter and we get more and more closer to each other i love her so much. Our 1 month anniversary is at the end of the week and we are going out for a romantic dinner then we are going to arrange the classic thing of meeting each others parents. Wow only 1 month and already fast forwarding to meet the parents?
TigerLilly78 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I like how you guys are doing things seams very upfront and respectful that's a rarity now a days with everyone trying to ether multi date or play dating games its nice to see two people who like each other enough to take things seriously good on you guys! best of luck Target...im meeting my friend tomorrow im nervous as heck and I can only hope things end off as well as you guys..for once im kinda of happy to be off line for a while..lol 6
Author Targetlock Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 I like how you guys are doing things seams very upfront and respectful that's a rarity now a days with everyone trying to ether multi date or play dating games its nice to see two people who like each other enough to take things seriously good on you guys! best of luck Target...im meeting my friend tomorrow im nervous as heck and I can only hope things end off as well as you guys..for once im kinda of happy to be off line for a while..lol good luck and no we arent fast forwarding just feels like the right time, plus we want to do the parents meetings before we go public with this so to speak and no i don't like the idea of multi-dating, i just want her and only her 5
the tank Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Try to slow down Targetlock... I know you love her and it's your first GF. I have been there with my first GF and it didnt end well. Just a little advice ! 1
Author Targetlock Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 doesn't feel like rushing at all, we taking all the major stuff slow and just seeing where it goes at its own pace.
MGX Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 To me, the chances of encountering a woman who doesn't suffer from commitment issues and knows what she wants, takes the initiative FOR ONCE and contacts me through a FB message, transitioning into a smooth meet up without a hitch or rejection in beetween is similar to hell freezing over. That's what is so beautiful about this story. I clapped when Target told us that she became his girlfriend on the third date. So awesome! 1
Elias33 Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Be careful, Target. I started out casually 'noticing' someone who shared a lot of mutual friends with me. Now I call him 'husband' . Keep talking, and work your way to asking her out (sooner, not later, as someone said). Best of luck to you, you deserve happiness! Yup, just keep talking, let it come naturally. If she's interested, she will want to know what you have to say. It can work to your advantage. Be patient.
MGX Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Awesome im happy for you guys Target... I think some of the guys on here could take a lesson from him hes one of the nicest guys on here from what Ive seen and he got the girl with no games played..just goes to show you it can happen.. I think that's the other way around. The guys just might BE nice here, but the women have to realize they are nice and give them a chance. The girl researched Target and sought him out. Target was simply being himself. 2
Author Targetlock Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 I think that's the other way around. The guys just might BE nice here, but the women have to realize they are nice and give them a chance. The girl researched Target and sought him out. Target was simply being himself. Thats what amazed be about this, all i've done is been myself and she loves me for it and i love her for her, no games, no plays, just honesty and trust 6
MidwestUSA Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Thats what amazed be about this, all i've done is been myself and she loves me for it and i love her for her, no games, no plays, just honesty and trust That's what it's SUPPOSED to be like! 4
Author Targetlock Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 That's what it's SUPPOSED to be like! exactly what we both believe!! 1
regine_phalange Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 Ohhhhh! I'm so happy for you Targetlock! I love your story. Simple, earthy and warm. 1
Glinda.Good Posted August 6, 2014 Posted August 6, 2014 I wish that all the "struggling guys" here would read your thread. You have consciously maintained a positive attitude, refused to be a bitter boy, and now look at you! :bunny: There is always hope, and it's a lot better to live your life well while you're doing the hoping, right? 3
Author Targetlock Posted August 7, 2014 Author Posted August 7, 2014 I wish that all the "struggling guys" here would read your thread. You have consciously maintained a positive attitude, refused to be a bitter boy, and now look at you! :bunny: There is always hope, and it's a lot better to live your life well while you're doing the hoping, right? Yep the right attitude and outlook will get you so much further than moping one of the many things we love about each other seeing her again tonight.
MGX Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I wish that all the "struggling guys" here would read your thread. You have consciously maintained a positive attitude, refused to be a bitter boy, and now look at you! I don't think it's so much the "struggling guys" not being positive, Glinda. This woman happened to come across Target's profile, liked what she saw and read, further researched him and went after him. When was the last time you've heard THAT happening? 2
MidwestUSA Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I don't think it's so much the "struggling guys" not being positive, Glinda. This woman happened to come across Target's profile, liked what she saw and read, further researched him and went after him. When was the last time you've heard THAT happening? It happened to me. February 20th, 2012, to be exact. We're married now. 6
Author Targetlock Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 yeah these things do happen Anyway we had our 1st month anniversary date (just to celebrate how amazing the first month has been) we met up after i finished work and we went to an italian place it was really nice and romantic, said it will hopefully be the 1st anniversary of many more. talked about the future and date plans, felt so natural and easy talking that kind of stuff. sadly we were both busy the next day so spent a while cuddling before she headed home, gets harder each time letting her go. seeing her again on sunday, depends on the weather what were doing if its a nice evening we might head down to the beach. 1
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