Stellar Wench Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 That's right...all "secure" guys date old women with cellulite and high expectations. LMAO.I rest my case. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I think a better question is not... why older men are attracted to younger women... but why they think they are entitled to such and that it is ok to hit on them. For many reasons, I think that men are socialized not to give a crap about what women want or is good for them. They don't give a rat's ass that the object of their affections is going to likely die old and alone after they've used them up. All they care about is themselves. When my much older male friend misunderstood my sadness at his leaving the company we both worked at as something romantic, I was insulted and disgusted. At some level, it just felt incestuous... I would never hit on a man that much younger than me.. It just feels so predatory. but, for some reason, it is A-OK for them. Not sure why they can't just be ok being mentors and friends. I get it that men are afraid of aging and want to feel like they still 'got it'. I get it that it is kind of nice to think, oh hey, I'm still attractive. It's crossing a line to act on it though. That's where I feel the guys doing OLD are messed up when they hit on women who are out of there posted age range. And I'll add, that is one positive thing about OLD. You can see where their head is at regarding age and take measures to avoid them. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 "Younger women are much easier to impress and have lower expectations than women with more age and experience." If dating is tough going for some, then these are not exactly deplorable reasons....for either gender! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I think a better question is not... why older men are attracted to younger women... Nay...I think the even better question is...why are younger women attracted to older men...? Older men can "go after" younger women because younger women are more than willing. If you're an older man, the only thing you're thinking is, "why the f*ck not...?" 6 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 As an anecdote, my father was six years older than my mother when they got married. 32 years later he died. She lived, alone, another 26 years. IMO, live for today. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. Age is a number which marks the relentless march of time. That's all it is. Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I think a better question is not... why older men are attracted to younger women... but why they think they are entitled to such and that it is ok to hit on them. For many reasons, I think that men are socialized not to give a crap about what women want or is good for them. They don't give a rat's ass that the object of their affections is going to likely die old and alone after they've used them up. All they care about is themselves. ...though I'd put many men rather then men ain general or as if it's the norm. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Nay...I think the even better question is...why are younger women attracted to older men...? Older men can "go after" younger women because younger women are more than willing. If you're an older man, the only thing you're thinking is, "why the f*ck not...?" It is only in men's minds that younger women are willing. They see one example or a handful of examples and seize on it with a death grip... never mind how uncommon it is and how grossed out we are by their unwanted attention. and you know what?? I'm totally fine with much younger men feeling the same way about me. That's how it should be. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 ...though I'd put many men rather then men ain general or as if it's the norm. I went back and tried to edit it to say 'some' or many but someone else posted. On another thread I asked people to pretty much put that in as a disclaimer for everything I say I'm certainly not going to trash all men or even most. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 It is only in men's minds that younger women are willing. They see one example or a handful of examples and seize on it with a death grip... never mind how uncommon it is and how grossed out we are by their unwanted attention. If it were as uncommon as you say, then it wouldn't even be an issue we're discussing now, since younger women wouldn't perpetuate the notion that they enjoy the attention of older men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 It is only in men's minds that younger women are willing. They see one example or a handful of examples and seize on it with a death grip... never mind how uncommon it is and how grossed out we are by their unwanted attention. and you know what?? I'm totally fine with much younger men feeling the same way about me. That's how it should be. Actually, older men/younger women relationships are quite common. Not just in long-term relationships but also in relationships purely for sex. There are many young escorts who say they prefer men over 35. I dunno where you got the idea it's uncommon. If it wasn't so common then people wouldn't make such a big deal out of it. People act is if older person/younger person relationships should be outlawed. If you don't think such relationships should be outlawed then why complain about them? Link to post Share on other sites
starla33 Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I'm not attracted to older men...most guys these days are going bald at early ages so by 37 they are completely bald. Good luck getting those 20 somethings to go out with you i say Ok yeah I'm still 20something for another year, but I already see how it works on dating sites and it's very sad. I don't get why you would pick someone that parties a lot and has no life experience over someone attractive that has their ish together and has lived life to the fullest. Link to post Share on other sites
starla33 Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 If it were as uncommon as you say, then it wouldn't even be an issue we're discussing now, since younger women wouldn't perpetuate the notion that they enjoy the attention of older men. It's called gold digging, look it up. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 If it were as uncommon as you say, then it wouldn't even be an issue we're discussing now, since younger women wouldn't perpetuate the notion that they enjoy the attention of older men. I don't believe it is younger women perpetuating the notion. There are cultures (not here) where women are not given a choice of whom to marry. If you exclude those situations, or exclude those cases where much older men go bride shopping in developing countries, I think you'll observe the % is quite small. Also exclude from consideration that it was not that uncommon in the past for many young men to die in wars (still the case in some parts of the world)... so that women are literally forced to choose an older man or live alone, or maybe even die. So no.... if most women are given a choice, I really don't believe they will choose an older man unless they are forced to. There will always be some who have daddy issues... but again, not the norm. Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 It's called gold digging, look it up. They are not total idiots. They realize many young women like them mainly or entirely for their money. The thing is they believe a woman their age can be just as big of a gold digger as a young woman. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 ... and younger women (even the gold-digging ones) are starting to figure out that the older men aren't necessarily more stable either. Unless you got that cash written into the 'contract', there is no big payoff for most of the gold-diggers anymore either. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 If it were as uncommon as you say, then it wouldn't even be an issue we're discussing now, since younger women wouldn't perpetuate the notion that they enjoy the attention of older men. Older guys wanting younger women and actually getting younger women are two different things. Older guys do get younger chicks but its not super common. Plus define "older". Everyone has a different number for this. Either way, do we really need another thread about this? We just had one. Link to post Share on other sites
starla33 Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 They are not total idiots. They realize many young women like them mainly or entirely for their money. The thing is they believe a woman their age can be just as big of a gold digger as a young woman. That is odd as quality women their age would have their own money Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I don't believe it is younger women perpetuating the notion. No one forces younger women to say yes to dates with older men online... Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Actually, older men/younger women relationships are quite common. Not just in long-term relationships but also in relationships purely for sex. There are many young escorts who say they prefer men over 35. I dunno where you got the idea it's uncommon. If it wasn't so common then people wouldn't make such a big deal out of it. People act is if older person/younger person relationships should be outlawed. If you don't think such relationships should be outlawed then why complain about them?Im sure escorts and their clients represent the norms of the general population Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 No one forces younger women to say yes to dates with older men online... Most arent. Girls my age tell me they are creeped out by the messages from dude outside their age range. lolz Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 So no.... if most women are given a choice, I really don't believe they will choose an older man unless they are forced to. There will always be some who have daddy issues... but again, not the norm. There are alotta generalizations going around about what women choose to do and what the choose not to do. Like Chokie said, you and others make a big deal about these relationships. And you keep saying it's uncommon for younger women to willingly go with significantly older men. If it was so uncommon then there wouldn't be threads on loveshack alone about these relationships. We're not talking about forced relationships or what women did back in the old days. We're talking about consensual relationships between older men/younger women today. These relationships are common. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 That's right...all "secure" guys date old women with cellulite and high expectations. LMAO. Since you like to talk about the shape of others, Id like to see pics of you. Bet plenty of older women would pass over you for a fit young buck such as myself 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 ... and younger women (even the gold-digging ones) are starting to figure out that the older men aren't necessarily more stable either. Unless you got that cash written into the 'contract', there is no big payoff for most of the gold-diggers anymore either. Being a sugar daddy is enough payoff. Some of them just want enough extra change to pay their rent. The thing about younger women is many of them have the idea that a few extra hundred is a lot of money. That is odd as quality women their age would have their own money Nope. There are a crapload of women over 30 who are in financial straits. I do not know how this can be denied. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 ^Id rather a chick want me because she was attracted to me, not my money. Any goof can buy puzzy. These relationships are common. ^Define common. Like percentage wise. Out of all the ladies I know only one is dating a a guy anything close to older than her, and hes only 5 years older. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Out of all the ladies I know... Emphasis added on the key words... Link to post Share on other sites
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