coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 the date went really well! (i think) Because I hadn't drunk, I was nervous as hell at the fair. And unfortunately very, very quiet until the end. But I could tell he was interested in me. At one point we lost our group, and he said "well, we can enjoy spending time together now." He was also physically affectionate and made a lot of eye contact with me, asked me questions. Things improved infinitely when we went to his place after. We had a great, long conversation into the night about film, dreams and other random things. We made out in his bed and did some other things, but no sex. I definitely get the feeling he likes me. He was very interested in what I had to say, and would remember minute details in things I said at other times. He also noticed all these subtle things about me. At one point I asked him if I could see his sketchbooks, and he said "I'd really like to see yours at some point too." I took that as indication that he wants to keep seeing me for now at least. I get the vibe he's kind of hesitant about jumping into another relationship, but is willing to give it a chance by getting to know me better and seeing where things lead. So obviously that has me a little worried. But the chemistry between us is INSANE. It's like the kind of chemistry you almost never find, where you feel like you see the world in very similar ways, yet there are enough differences for us both to learn from each other. He understands everything I say that other people don't get. He's incredibly sharp and perceptive. I also found out his bravado is kind of a facade, which made me feel more relaxed around him. He told me that he's always felt different and growing up he had no friends and had to learn to be more confident in social situations. But he seems pretty sweet underneath the surface. I don't know. I know if we got into a relationship I would completely fall for him. We have the potential for far more of a connection than any other guy I've dated. But I don't want to get attached right now because I don't know where things are leading. I guess I'm just pretty nervous.
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Oh, before we left for the fair my roomie (his best friend) said, "J is showering now. It takes him a long time to get ready." I thought it was cute that he was putting all this effort into looking nice for me.
leftfordead2 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Oh, before we left for the fair my roomie (his best friend) said, "J is showering now. It takes him a long time to get ready." I thought it was cute that he was putting all this effort into looking nice for me. Heheh that's so sweet, I hope it gets better for you
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Hihihihihi Looks like things are getting better for both of us
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Hihihihihi Looks like things are getting better for both of us Yeah, just saw your update! I don't want to jinx things by getting too excited, since I don't really know what's going to happen, but I have good feelings.
OceanGirl Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Yeah, just saw your update! I don't want to jinx things by getting too excited, since I don't really know what's going to happen, but I have good feelings. BTW this is my new username I am hoping to turn over a new leaf and leave all the negativity behind. I mean at least THIS proves that cute/hot guys that have options can really be interested in us.
OceanGirl Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I am almost thinking... do I dare to let myself dream a bit? Do I let myself beleive that things are actually GOOD? I am afraid of getting too carried away though
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 ^Awesome! Love your new name. You're right. This does kind of disprove our worst fears. OMG I am so glad I lost my ex, even if things don't work out with J. I just realize now that I can do so much better in every way. My ex was a moron and a bore. And not even a cute one.
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 I I am afraid of getting too carried away though that's how i feel. I think you have less to worry about, though. At least your guy seems totally emotionally available.
OceanGirl Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 As for your situation coloredinks, I don't want to get your hopes up but I have always beleived that falling in love is not something one can control. So J. can want to be casual in general - but if he falls for you, all bets are off
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 one other thing that impressed me. When we got to his place, I went into his room and looked at a few of his things, but he immediately led us back to the living room and said, "you want to talk?" which led to our long, lively conversation. He's clearly interested in getting to know me.
OceanGirl Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 ^Awesome! Love your new name. You're right. This does kind of disprove our worst fears. OMG I am so glad I lost my ex, even if things don't work out with J. I just realize now that I can do so much better in every way. My ex was a moron and a bore. And not even a cute one. Even if things end tomorrow, it makes me feel that our standards were not too high. I always thought that your ex didn't sound too bright (from the conversations/e-mails you have posted) but I didn't want to offend you before.
OceanGirl Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 one other thing that impressed me. When we got to his place, I went into his room and looked at a few of his things, but he immediately led us back to the living room and said, "you want to talk?" which led to our long, lively conversation. He's clearly interested in getting to know me. Even in his OKC profile, he says that he allows for possibility of meeting someone that blows him away and re-think his priorities or something like that.
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 (edited) lol! Ocean did you put your guy as your avvie? JUst so you know, mine isn't my guy. It's the lead singer of Blur. Edited September 30, 2010 by coloredinks
OceanGirl Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Lol yeah for a bit But then I realized that I am getting carried away..so removed it.
Author coloredinks Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 ^not much. Heh. I was just thinking, one thing I really like about this guy is he talks A LOT and doesn't ramble...almost everything that comes out is actually very interesting. I've dated a few guys who were shy and/or dumb, and had nothing to say. But this guys leads almost every conversation he's in, yet he's also a really good listener. This works out well since I'm naturally shy. He also has a projecting, confident, deep voice. It's cute.
Author coloredinks Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 I'm a little concerned about a couple of things. One is I left his place kind of early last night at like 430 am because I couldn't sleep. He clearly wanted me to say because he kept saying "oh-hh" in a sad voice when I mentioned leaving, but I told him I really needed to get sleep so I could get stuff done today. His place is right near mine in walking distance, in a very safe neighborhood, so it wasn't a big deal. He was half asleep when I left, in his underwear heh, but walked me to his door kissed me, and asked if I'd be OK walking back. I said "yeah, I'll be fine." I guess what worries me is this is the first time I resisted suggesting we hang out again before one of us left for the night. The other two times I did out of insecurity, but then he was the one to get in touch with me and suggest time/place. I resisted this time, partly because I wanted to see if he would. But he didn't. Yet I'd be surprised if I didn't hear from him again, given all we shared and also what he said about seeing my sketchbooks some time soon when we hang out again. It just worries me that he didn't suggest it when I left. It could partly be that he's incredibly busy and don't know what his schedule will be (he works 80-90 hour weeks often). But then today I was hoping he'd at least send me a text or something saying he had a nice time or asking how I was. But no. I guess I'm just disappointed because I thought we had a really nice time and we definitely had a strong connection and a deep conversation. I'm a bit worried I ruined htings by leaving early. Maybe he thinks I'm not interested now? Does that mean I should message him tonight and thank him for a good time? Or should I just wait it out. I'm worried he's confused by my leaving, or something. I'm pretty sure I'll hear from him again at some point, but I'm just concerned it will be one of those uncomfortable situations where it's like five days from now and it's so long that I should just write him off but I still want to see him again. So I'll be torn. And we'll have one of those awkward dates where I"m wondering the whole time if he even likes me anymore. Ugh.
tigressA Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Just TEXT HIM. Let him know you had a good time. And don't analyze it.
Star Gazer Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 BTW this is my new username . Ahhhh, now it all makes sense!
Author coloredinks Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 ok, just sent him a text saying i had a good time and thanking him for taking me to the fair. now i'm kind of cringing inside.
Author coloredinks Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 he wrote back: you are welcome. i had fun too! no mention of another date. ugh, i think that's a blow off. :( I can't believe it. I relaly thought that date went well.
LisaLee Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 he wrote back: you are welcome. i had fun too! no mention of another date. ugh, i think that's a blow off. :( I can't believe it. I relaly thought that date went well. Hey, at least he got back to you... pretty quickly, too. You need to stop yourself from over analyzing.
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