Green Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I had all intentions of being a lifelong player after my first marriage but I met my wife and I was so shocked to find a good woman. Despite my issue we go together so well beyond that. I just see what other men go through and how not all but sadly too many women think and it makes me very paranoid about my own marriage. My gf knows I think men are better at certain things. She some times does anoy me and say I'm sexist but I'm not... I'm just not politicaly correct because I'm not afraid to offend women. The truth is YES men cheat and stuff. But its so obvious who and what kind of man is a cheater... I mean cmon ladies don't be suprised when your player bf cheats.... but from a mans perspective really its imposible to tell who and what kind of women is going to cheat. Plus women really do have this culture of standing up for the cheater... I mean for christs sake a woman in this country can shoot her sleeping husband to death and claim "battered wifes syndrome" as a defense.... the double standards are ridiculouse and really... it all goes to the level of cheating... men who cheat are some what obviouse... women who cheat are obviouse but not always in the begining.
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I had all intentions of being a lifelong player after my first marriage but I met my wife and I was so shocked to find a good woman. Despite my issue we go together so well beyond that. I just see what other men go through and how not all but sadly too many women think and it makes me very paranoid about my own marriage. Well I am very happy that you managed to find a good woman Its difficult because i'm sure like many of us, you sometimes struggle differentiating between what is the truth and what is paranoia. I hope you can keep the mistakes and problems of other wives out of your own marriage with your own wife.
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 My gf knows I think men are better at certain things. She some times does anoy me and say I'm sexist but I'm not... I'm just not politicaly correct because I'm not afraid to offend women. The truth is YES men cheat and stuff. But its so obvious who and what kind of man is a cheater... I mean cmon ladies don't be suprised when your player bf cheats.... but from a mans perspective really its imposible to tell who and what kind of women is going to cheat. Plus women really do have this culture of standing up for the cheater... I mean for christs sake a woman in this country can shoot her sleeping husband to death and claim "battered wifes syndrome" as a defense.... the double standards are ridiculouse and really... it all goes to the level of cheating... men who cheat are some what obviouse... women who cheat are obviouse but not always in the begining. I agree that some cheaters are obvious, but many inconspicuous men cheat too. There isn't really a way of identifying a cheater. Cheaters come in all shapes and sizes IMO. I think the problem really is that many people can tell the signs of a cheater, but they don't always believe them because they don't want to. I've seen some very devoted friends of mine with very good relationships cheat, and I've always been shocked at how I'd never have seen it coming. I think there are two groups of cheats; 1) the obvious type and 2) the type that has learnt to almost camouflage themselves. Its not that they are bad people, its just that they've learnt to be the loving partner in certain situations and a cheat in another.
Author Woggle Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 My gf knows I think men are better at certain things. She some times does anoy me and say I'm sexist but I'm not... I'm just not politicaly correct because I'm not afraid to offend women. The truth is YES men cheat and stuff. But its so obvious who and what kind of man is a cheater... I mean cmon ladies don't be suprised when your player bf cheats.... but from a mans perspective really its imposible to tell who and what kind of women is going to cheat. Plus women really do have this culture of standing up for the cheater... I mean for christs sake a woman in this country can shoot her sleeping husband to death and claim "battered wifes syndrome" as a defense.... the double standards are ridiculouse and really... it all goes to the level of cheating... men who cheat are some what obviouse... women who cheat are obviouse but not always in the begining. I do know that some women will take a woman's side no matter what but not all of them condone it.
Green Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 I do know that some women will take a woman's side no matter what but not all of them condone it. Women romanticize cheating I mean look at movies like "The Notebook" "an afair to remember" "gone with the wind" the list goes on.
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Women romanticize cheating I mean look at movies like "The Notebook" "an afair to remember" "gone with the wind" the list goes on. I do agree with this. I think though it is a way of enabling or excusing their own behaviour. I mean cheating is ALWAYS a fantasy whether the cheat is male or female, but I do think most women's affairs are romanticised, yes I'd agree with that. Though we have to remember that books and movies will nearly always romanticise affairs, real life affairs I would assume aren't half as glamorous and rarely end up the way the movie ones do - with a happy ever after.
SteveC80 Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Women romanticize cheating I mean look at movies like "The Notebook" "an afair to remember" "gone with the wind" the list goes on. We dont hold women responsible for anything in relationships its always the mans fault Weve raised a group of entitled princesses and i cant blame em,if you are never blamed for anything how can u earn from your mistakes?
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 We dont hold women responsible for anything in relationships its always the mans fault Weve raised a group of entitled princesses and i cant blame em,if you are never blamed for anything how can u earn from your mistakes? Not all girls are raised as entitled princesses. My mum and dad raised me very well, but i've never thought I was an entitled princess. I maybe am a little too romantic and unrealistic about relationships but I don't think i'm a princess. I actually think more girls suffer from a strong lack of self-esteem and feel that they DON'T deserve much in my personal experience going to an all girls school. But its all about balance, you have to teach your children pride, confidence and self-worth without drumming into them that they are somehow super human. Also I do think women are still blamed a lot in relationships. You see it all the time.
Author Woggle Posted September 8, 2010 Author Posted September 8, 2010 I notice the women who don't have the princess mentality were raised to be held accountable for their actions. My wife was taught to earn everything she has and to be responsible for herself. That is a big reason why she is the way she is. My ex on the other hand could kill somebody and her mother would call me up and blame me. She is facing some serious jail time and her mother blames me who has not had any contact with her since 2006 and her current or most recent boyfriend who is just as guilty as her but didn't put a gun to her head. Nothing ever seems to be her fault. I hate to see what excuses she is going to use in prison with women a lot tougher and more dangerous than she is.
Mary3 Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Radio show today went something like this : The DJ's pretended to be a new restauraunt in NY and were offering this man dinner for 2. The guy was pretty rude , hung up on them , they called him back and he finally was warmed up to the idea of going to dinner. They told him to please tell them the name of the girl he was going to take : He said * Libby * Then a voice comes on , ( on the radio ) his GF from the South , and asks him " Who the H*** is Libby " The guy said " Theresa ? " ( his present GF's name ) and she answered " Yes it is , now who is Libby " After much hemming and hawing the guy said " : Libby is my wife " The GF screamed and said " YOU wanted me to move 1,400 miles to be with you and you have a wife ! ? " He said " Yes " and she said how come you didn't tell me . And he said " Because you didn't ask " ( lol ! ) So she said how many years have you been married and he said " 10 years ". He was totally stumbling about his marriage , no definate : "Yes Teresa I am married but its over and I love you " Instead he was tripping on his words saying : Well the marriage is rocky , blah , blah , blah , blah CHEATER ! Okay Woggle that was my exposure to cheating today.... PS : I hate cheaters !@
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