alphamale Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 WTF.... anyone in that situation? I could just dump her... but we do have a good time together... dude we've all had our "beer goggle" moments....i think you should find a skinny girl
SilentVoice Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 dude we've all had our "beer goggle" moments....i think you should find a skinny girl See I would understood if this was some one night fling were he just ****ed the girl.. taught - hmm I like her ... then seen her relieved that ass looked way bigger in the daylight Sadly enough I would have understood that ... but i am pretty sure that is not what had happened her at all. And it is very wrong of him to lead this girl on. But if he was just banging her and told her he didn't want a relationship and she continued to get banged -- that will be her problem. But he is leading this girl on and when , if she does find out ... and if she is having all these plastic surgeries for cosmetic purposes... she is going to be so ****ed up in the head and end up looking like the cat women. PS: That is all
Author alexlakeman Posted May 4, 2010 Author Posted May 4, 2010 How much extra weight could she have if her clothing hid it? Even dressed you can tell if a woman is slender or not. OP, you must be talking about her tummy only. Seriously, that one part of the body is going to make a difference? Personally, I would prefer a man verbalize his dissatisfaction with my body before we have sex - even if it's "immediately" before. Once she learns how you really feel, she will most likely regret having had sex with you. Poor thing. She obviously is self conscious about her body or she wouldn't feel the need to inform you she will be having a tummy tuck. How does that even come up in conversation? You are the wrong guy for her. You think a guy is going to give you a head's up on that you are fat, b4 he gets laid? His ROI will be negative... after the fact... and do it show she gets in a fight with you, and you feel no guilt.. NOT that i've done that yet.. Nah I have to back the OP up, i've seen girls hide 20lbs through their clothes easy. Some girls have a pretty skinny face but blubber arms, blubber legs and a pudgy stomach. Thank you.. clothes can hide pounds; granted she wasn't wearing jeans, if not I think I would've noticed... It sounds like she has body image issues if she has already had a boob job and is going to get a tummy tuck soon. No, just divorced and two kids... divorced women do alot of that stuff... You may as well let her go. I've been with men who fell in love with me but I wasn't 'their type' or they simply weren't attracted to my body. It hurts to be with someone who is with you in spite of your body - you can tell with subtle things, with affectionate things, and so on. Now that I'm with someone who is attracted to my body AND is in love with me, I can see how much better it is this way. It works both ways. I suspect you will both be better off with partners more suited for each other. SO many guys have told you they don't like your body? It's gotta be pretty bad, lol... I would't tell a woman nothing negative about her body as a reason to break up...
dreamingoftigers Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 2 kids probably are what did it if it is really her shape and not her poundage.
CarrieT Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Alex, have you considered the fact that if you ever get married and your wife has two kids that she might be shaped exactly as this woman is? Would you divorce your wife then because of her body?
marsle85 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 SO many guys have told you they don't like your body? It's gotta be pretty bad, lol... You are -so- insensitive. I hope you break up with her. Let that poor girl go find someone who not only loves her, but loves her body.
amymarieca Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Obesity is a fine line with overweight. I use the term loosely, as very few people actually understand the minor differences between overweight and obesity. Obesity rates in the us are among the highest in the world with 64% of adults being overweight or obese, and 26% are obese. That means 2/3 of all people 18+ are overweight, and 1/4th of all overweight people are obese. Odds are pretty good if she's overweight, she's obese. By 2040 American statistics show that if the trend continues, 75% of americans will be overweight, and 40% obese. Yet we should tolerate this? I am in no way saying I am a greek god, here. I am average. Not overweight, not built, but I exercise and keep healthy. Do I think everyone should be chiseled out of stone? No. But I do think people need to be held accountable for themselves and not defended by others if they CHOOSE to ignore the problem, or solve it by superficial methods (Plastic surgery, etc.) You say this as though it is a problem that affects you in some life-altering way. What exactly is there to tolerate? I believe people do choose to be obese, and society doesn't exactly help this problem by building more fast food restaurants. Don't judge someone just because you can SEE they are different!
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 SO many guys have told you they don't like your body? It's gotta be pretty bad, lol... I would't tell a woman nothing negative about her body as a reason to break up... It is pretty bad. It isn't my weight though. I lost both my breasts to breast cancer and have only scars where breasts used to be. I am an open person and brutally honest and expect that of my partners too. I don't punish people for having opinions and nicely but honestly getting them across. I did get dumped because of it a couple of times. They just couldn't get around the 'amputee' thing. But.. the guy I'm with has been after me since way before the cancer thing and has waited all this time for a chance (with me not realizing that!) and he doesn't care at all about the scars. I'm a hourglass, with a busted top basically... haha. He likes the small waist and round bottom, and the thighs... let's just say the top has had no effect on him. Before, the men I was with liked really petite thin girls (by that I mean, 5'5 and under, with little or no curve) and I was 5'8 38-28-38 - big boobs, small waist, big butt, broad shoulders, strong arms (I was an athlete in my younger years) - your average valkrye. They would straight out say 'I usually like small girls' and with time even if they didn't say, you could tell. When someone isn't 'into' your body, it comes through in subtle ways. Like I said, it always messed things up in the end. If you aren't feeling someone, you aren't feeling them. You can love someone with all your heart, but if the attraction isn't there - one, if not both of you are going to end up hurting in some way.
Rorschach Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Sorry to hear that, I'm glad to hear though that you have a very positive personality and are working through it, and have met somebody who will accept you the way you deserve to be accepted. Good luck with life. I survived a battle with cancer too, I find cancer survivors to be the strongest most well balanced people out there.
lino Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I believe you are contradicting yourself because in today's world, the AVERAGE size of a girl is 12 and for most guys, that is considered fat. I got new for you; THIS is average and I'm willing to bet $100 that guys like you would think it is fat: http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_IA5nokOFh84/RpyOU9wSdsI/AAAAAAAAAWQ/R2m4Z2x7V20/s400/img-ad-campaign.jpg Is that photo touched up? If not, the girl on the far right is definitely fat, no 2 ways about it. The rest aren't... more pics are needed though. If the one on the far right is considered average in the USA then I can agree with the obese Americans stereotype they throw around here.
marsle85 Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 From theage.com.au There has been a survey and it tells you what you already know: when it comes to women, the vast majority of blokes prefer them well rounded. It seems their ideal girlfriends are pneumatic, not flat-tyred. They'd rather negotiate sweeping curves than sharp shoulders. They like women buxom, bosomy and bountiful. According to the figures, the jury is in: men will choose a Rubenesque size 14 over a stick-figure size 8 when it comes to their ideal woman. Admittedly, the science could be seen as somewhat superficial. It is based on an online survey — not the most accurate means of obtaining information — of 60,000 men conducted by laddish men's magazine FHM. The relevant issue is published tomorrow. The mag found that when shown pictures of three bikini-clad models, four out of five men said they were more attracted to the size 12 and size 14 models than the model who was a slimmer size 8. The majority of votes went to the size 12 woman, with 41% saying that she had the body shape of their "ideal girlfriend". Almost as many men voted for the Nigella Lawson-esque size 14 model. "A piddling 20% of readers selected our size eight model pictured as their ideal girl-physique," wrote FHM editor Ben Smithurst. "Which proves one thing, ladies: crack a beer, hoe into a hamburger and we'll love you just as much." Or maybe even more. There has been a survey and it tells you what you already know: when it comes to women, the vast majority of blokes prefer them well rounded. It seems their ideal girlfriends are pneumatic, not flat-tyred. They'd rather negotiate sweeping curves than sharp shoulders. They like women buxom, bosomy and bountiful. According to the figures, the jury is in: men will choose a Rubenesque size 14 over a stick-figure size 8 when it comes to their ideal woman. Admittedly, the science could be seen as somewhat superficial. It is based on an online survey — not the most accurate means of obtaining information — of 60,000 men conducted by laddish men's magazine FHM. The relevant issue is published tomorrow. The mag found that when shown pictures of three bikini-clad models, four out of five men said they were more attracted to the size 12 and size 14 models than the model who was a slimmer size 8. The majority of votes went to the size 12 woman, with 41% saying that she had the body shape of their "ideal girlfriend". Almost as many men voted for the Nigella Lawson-esque size 14 model. "A piddling 20% of readers selected our size eight model pictured as their ideal girl-physique," wrote FHM editor Ben Smithurst. "Which proves one thing, ladies: crack a beer, hoe into a hamburger and we'll love you just as much." Or maybe even more.
LondonS Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I guess when I first met her it was just to kill time until my ex gf decided to go back with me or I found someone else (can u say rebound?), but as I got to know her I got to like her. No, I don't have problems attracting women lol, and no I don't have a body builder body, b ut guys are generally more picky and hold higher standards dan women when it comes to physical attraction. I just feel kinda bad bc she reallyyyyy likes me, but she has a higher mileage dan I would really like long term. Douche for being picky? What does dat make womenout to b? Women are far worse dan guys!! And some are extremely far worst! Lol Oh and what's wrong with a boob job? Not self esteem loll. Give me a medical source that says that. How about a woman dat wants to look sexy and can afford it? Lol Continue wow- you have high standards with this retarded style of writing AND you have no problems finding women.. ? Back to the topic.. dump her so she can find someone literate and mature please:D
Twenty-ten Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 You are not picky, you are a user who takes what he can get. Big difference. A person who is picky would have been long gone. Clearly the streets aren't so good to you, which is why you latch on to this girl, chubby body and all....
Krytie TV Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Alex, have you considered the fact that if you ever get married and your wife has two kids that she might be shaped exactly as this woman is? Would you divorce your wife then because of her body? Seriously, can you people be any more shortsighted? Is it really impossible to believe that just because someone likes skinny women that they would not dump their wife after having their child? Isn't this a rather stupid and overdramatic analogy? If this thread affects you directly because you can relate to this girl, maybe you should instead use it as motivation to improve yourself if you see that as a necessity. Hard to believe but yes, most guys do have some form of physical standards in those they date. Deal with it and cry about it if you have to. And, women are totally hypocritical if they are going to come on here for condemning a guy for having the same kind of "superficial" standards that most women have too (need I mention height?).
Twenty-ten Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Seriously, can you people be any more shortsighted? Is it really impossible to believe that just because someone likes skinny women that they would not dump their wife after having their child? Isn't this a rather stupid and overdramatic analogy? If this thread affects you directly because you can relate to this girl, maybe you should instead use it as motivation to improve yourself if you see that as a necessity. Hard to believe but yes, most guys do have some form of physical standards in those they date. Deal with it and cry about it if you have to. And, women are totally hypocritical if they are going to come on here for condemning a guy for having the same kind of "superficial" standards that most women have too (need I mention height?). I'm not fat and it affects me directly in that I don't like to see innocent people being used. I would, and have had, the same reaction in threads where women say they want to use men because of all the past hurt men have caused them. I am not a man, but I can empathize with the cruelty of people's selfishness that they perpetrate onto innocent others. Perhaps the nearsighted one is you, since anyone who would encourage another human being to USE another person has got to have something severely deficient with them. It's not good advice, and it's not even a good suggestion to tell this guy to stick around and enjoy it anyway at this girl's expense. It is insensitive and downright selfish. Would you like a woman to stick around by your side thinking your penis was extremely inadequate and doing so out of lack of opportunities but hoping she could be with what she considers an average sized male instead? No one in their right mind can support what this guy is doing and you don't have to be "fat" to get that.
Author alexlakeman Posted May 5, 2010 Author Posted May 5, 2010 Tk u KR TV. You people crying about my standards should look in d mirror or just lk at any of the dating sites. Looking at Match, most of the women's criteria is "tall", "athletic built", etc, lol. Give me a break. If you feel you fit the person I described, get off ur but*s and go to a gym vs sitting behind a pc surfing! That's why some men cheat btw; if their woman is not doing crap to get in shape, just go find someone else and leave the little woman at home (certainly a lot cheaper than divorcing and having to pay c/s).
sally4sara Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Tk u KR TV. You people crying about my standards should look in d mirror or just lk at any of the dating sites. Looking at Match, most of the women's criteria is "tall", "athletic built", etc, lol. Give me a break. If you feel you fit the person I described, get off ur but*s and go to a gym vs sitting behind a pc surfing! That's why some men cheat btw; if their woman is not doing crap to get in shape, just go find someone else and leave the little woman at home (certainly a lot cheaper than divorcing and having to pay c/s). Oh you sound like quite the catch. See, I don't identify. I've never been so hard up that I stepped outside of my preferences (physical or non physical) for sex. That is just triflin.
donnamaybe Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 No one is "crying about your standards." We're b-tching about you using a woman for sex while planning to dump her as soon as someone you consider better comes along.
donnamaybe Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 See, I don't identify. I've never been so hard up that I stepped outside of my preferences (physical or non physical) for sex. That is just triflin. You always say it SO much better than me!
Twenty-ten Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 You people crying about my standards should look in d mirror Honey you have no standards. That is completely clear. A person with standards does not drag a situation like this on. A person with limited options does.
LondonS Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Tk u KR TV. You people crying about my standards should look in d mirror or just lk at any of the dating sites. Looking at Match, most of the women's criteria is "tall", "athletic built", etc, lol. Give me a break. If you feel you fit the person I described, get off ur but*s and go to a gym vs sitting behind a pc surfing! That's why some men cheat btw; if their woman is not doing crap to get in shape, just go find someone else and leave the little woman at home (certainly a lot cheaper than divorcing and having to pay c/s). LOL.. I would totally dump a guy who would write like you.. Its bloody annoying me...let alone trying to understand what you are actually trying to say.. what does she see in you in the first place !!
harmfulsweetz Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Tk u KR TV. You people crying about my standards should look in d mirror or just lk at any of the dating sites. Looking at Match, most of the women's criteria is "tall", "athletic built", etc, lol. Give me a break. If you feel you fit the person I described, get off ur but*s and go to a gym vs sitting behind a pc surfing! That's why some men cheat btw; if their woman is not doing crap to get in shape, just go find someone else and leave the little woman at home (certainly a lot cheaper than divorcing and having to pay c/s). I seriously hope she reads this thread and dumps your sorry a$$. You're an ahole. Plain and simple. No apologies from me for saying that. Sorry, but you are dating a woman who does not meet your standards, having sex with her, thus wasting her time and emotional energy on you. She deserves more. And you know what? Once she weeds out the losers (yes, I'm talking about you) she'll find more, and then some because heck the way you portray your attitudes towards women (as disposable and such like) means absolutely anyone is better than you. You can find some other fool to put up with you, a skinny fool, but please, dump this chick so she can find a real man. That is all.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Admittedly, the science could be seen as somewhat superficial. It is based on an online survey — not the most accurate means of obtaining information — of 60,000 men conducted by laddish men's magazine FHM. The relevant issue is published tomorrow. The mag found that when shown pictures of three bikini-clad models, four out of five men said they were more attracted to the size 12 and size 14 models than the model who was a slimmer size 8. The majority of votes went to the size 12 woman, with 41% saying that she had the body shape of their "ideal girlfriend". Almost as many men voted for the Nigella Lawson-esque size 14 model. "A piddling 20% of readers selected our size eight model pictured as their ideal girl-physique," wrote FHM editor Ben Smithurst. "Which proves one thing, ladies: crack a beer, hoe into a hamburger and we'll love you just as much." Or maybe even more. There has been a survey and it tells you what you already know: when it comes to women, the vast majority of blokes prefer them well rounded. I'm have to call foul on this Marsle. The guys were asked to evaluate photo-shopped images of professional models. Even size 12-14 models are photoshopped to still create an ideal image. They often smooth out lumps on models and clip in the indentation of their waists to give them a more hour-glass form. All this proves is that men like photoshopped images of size 12-14 models, not that they appreciate real women and their natural bodies.
LondonS Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 I seriously hope she reads this thread and dumps your sorry a$$. You're an ahole. Plain and simple. No apologies from me for saying that. Sorry, but you are dating a woman who does not meet your standards, having sex with her, thus wasting her time and emotional energy on you. She deserves more. And you know what? Once she weeds out the losers (yes, I'm talking about you) she'll find more, and then some because heck the way you portray your attitudes towards women (as disposable and such like) means absolutely anyone is better than you. You can find some other fool to put up with you, a skinny fool, but please, dump this chick so she can find a real man. That is all. well done for this post
harmfulsweetz Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 Honey you have no standards. That is completely clear. A person with standards does not drag a situation like this on. A person with limited options does. Exactly. A person with standards also has the decency to see the error in their ways and does their best to rectify the situation not continue it until it rectifies itself. A person with standards has a moral compass which dictates that it is selfish to lead someone on and use them until something better comes along. Also, we would all be grateful if you could actually type real words rather than 'dan' 'dat' 'd'. I believe we are not children on this forum, and have the right to read sentences with actual words in them.
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