alexlakeman Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 I started going out with this woman, very pretty face, recent boob job, but she isn't very slim ... defintely can't wear a bikini, she says she's getting a tummy tuck later this year... uggh, but everything is else is fine with her, partying, we click, sex is good... but not the slim type ... WTF.... anyone in that situation? I could just dump her... but we do have a good time together...
malala7 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 So who cares? Why do you care if she is slim or not if you obviously find her attractive.
CarrieT Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Biting my tongue, biting my tongue, biting my tongue..... Gee, you mean everyone in the world is not PERFECT as you would require for a relationship? Jeez...
Author alexlakeman Posted May 4, 2010 Author Posted May 4, 2010 She hid it very well the first couple dates... second date I had my questions... but then got to know each other, etc... then realized it only when I closed the deal, and of couse I saw the package undressed.. .. I've always had slims, and have no problem, but kinda like this one.. just s.ucks...
Enema Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 She's only going to get fatter as she gets older. Consider if that's something you want to deal with. Not to mention the type of person that deals with physical shortcomings through surgery.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Since this bothers you enough that you made a thread with a sad face about it, I say save yourself and her some heartache and drama and split now.
norajane Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 She can always lose weight or get a tummy tuck or whatever, but you'll still be an ass. If she's not your cup of tea, then best to move on. You'll just end up dumping her when you find someone skinnier to like, so stop leading her on now before she actually starts to care about you.
Author alexlakeman Posted May 4, 2010 Author Posted May 4, 2010 She can always lose weight or get a tummy tuck or whatever, but you'll still be an ass. If she's not your cup of tea, then best to move on. You'll just end up dumping her when you find someone skinnier to like, so stop leading her on now before she actually starts to care about you. Why an ass? B/C I have standards?
pandagirl Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Why an ass? B/C I have standards? How can you say you really like a girl, but then not accept her for who she is?
Yamaha Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Why an ass? B/C I have standards? B/C you think ur to good 4 her but you'll use her for sex until a slim comes ur way. You tell me.....does that make u an a$$?
USMCHokie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 The last girl I dated about a month ago was heavier...but I thought she was really pretty and I really liked her...she was working hard to lose the weight through diet and exercise, and I was a little bummed that it didn't work out...she had a great personality and would have been even more beautiful when she lost the weight...even so, I did not feel awkward at all with her in public and felt proud that she was with me... If you cannot honestly say that, I'm not sure it'd be in yours or her best interest to continue seeing her...let her find someone who appreciates her for who she is...
dreamingoftigers Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Not because you have "standards" but probably because you aren't meeting hers. She would probably want someone sleeping with her that actually appreciated her body.
terra Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Agree 100% with the statement below. If you feel that her body isn't good enough for you she is going to pick up on that and feel awful about herself. Look for someone who meets your "standards" and leave her to find someone who can appreciate her for her and she can maintain her self esteem. If you cannot honestly say that, I'm not sure it'd be in yours or her best interest to continue seeing her...let her find someone who appreciates her for who she is...
USMCHokie Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Agree 100% with the statement below. If you feel that her body isn't good enough for you she is going to pick up on that and feel awful about herself. Look for someone who meets your "standards" and leave her to find someone who can appreciate her for her and she can maintain her self esteem. I meant to add this to my first post here, but forgot..and what you said here reminded me of a side question I had related to this... One of the concerns I had while I was dating her was that she might have had self-image issues while she was with me...perhaps added pressure to be skinnier...? I was in decent shape and she saw it and knew it...do you think that would make her feel uncomfortable around me, even though I wasn't at all uncomfortable around her...?
CarrieT Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 She's only going to get fatter as she gets older. Not necessarily; some of us (me, for example) grew up fat and remained fat in our early 20s and finally leaned out later in life. When I was 34, I hit my all time low, which happened to be the same weight I was when I was 13. But I agree with others here; if you can't accept her for who and how she is, leave her now before she gets in deeper. There are men who will love her for exactly how she and every woman deserves that.
ADF Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Oh. My God. Why on earth would you dump a woman you really like because she has a less than perfect body? Forgive me, but get a clue! She's a person, not a new car.
Kaplan Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 Everyone else already said it, but, dude, don't date a girl and think, "Eww, she's fat" behind her back. That's messed up. She'll know you're thinking that and have self-esteem issues. Don't you know that even skinny girls have self-esteem issues?
SilentVoice Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 For her sake you should leave her alone . It is ok to have standards,which is BS in your case - since you are having sex with her, but let her go because you will son start to resent her and just hurt her. Which she doesn't deserve
kittykat84 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 What's the bet OP isn't a completely ripped Adonis either hmmmm?
Kamille Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 She hid it very well the first couple dates... second date I had my questions... but then got to know each other, etc... then realized it only when I closed the deal, and of couse I saw the package undressed.. .. I've always had slims, and have no problem, but kinda like this one.. just s.ucks... How fat can this woman really be if she only looks fat naked? At the same time, considering that this woman had a boob job and already has a tummy tuck planned, I'm guessing her self-esteem is already fragile. Also, this indicates alexlakeman and this woman are running in some extremely superficial circles.
Krytie TV Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 She's only going to get fatter as she gets older. Consider if that's something you want to deal with. Not to mention the type of person that deals with physical shortcomings through surgery. Unfortunately this is true. If you're worried about what others might think about you, you'll have to get over that. No sense being with someone you're not physically into. Once the novelty wears off you may even start resenting her for not being "hot". Suck it up and let her find someone else.
lino Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 I don't get how you can fall for someone that you don't find attractive. Maybe I'm different but I can't imagine myself going on anything more than a 2nd date a girl who isn't physically attractive. However a lot of females string guys along for even more ridiculous reasons so carry on if you like
marsle85 Posted May 4, 2010 Posted May 4, 2010 I started going out with this woman, very pretty face, recent boob job, but she isn't very slim ... defintely can't wear a bikini, she says she's getting a tummy tuck later this year... uggh, but everything is else is fine with her, partying, we click, sex is good... but not the slim type ... WTF.... anyone in that situation? I could just dump her... but we do have a good time together... Why is anyone surprised this guy is a douchebag. He's dating a girl who actively pursues plastic surgery- and he's referring to it as if it's the only thing GOOD about her. Sorry, but it's much harder to find someone who has a pretty face and even HARDER to find someone you click with. There are tons of plasticy, idiotic and slim girls for you to be a jerk to, with perfectly mediocre personalities. Save this girl, and her great personality for someone who deserves her.
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