Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 Did you read the email Ariadne ? He was giving you the closure you need... I don't believe in his words or anybody's words. I just go with what I feel. If I did, I would be over this ages ago. He got engaged, you know.
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I don't believe in his words or anybody's words. I just go with what I feel. If I did, I would be over this ages ago. He got engaged, you know. Maybe you should look at your own words then and seek some help with this.. You know you should be over this, but you are not... Nothing wrong with asking for help..
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 Maybe you should look at your own words then and seek some help with this.. You know you should be over this, but you are not... Nothing wrong with asking for help.. Oh yeah, I'm going to go to some therapist and I'm going to be completely brain washed against DG.
sfsassy Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I was just explaining to her that he had stated these things in the email that he was really busy and such. You don't control the board. No, but it is emotionally damaging to her but you can say what you want, of course And you were right, since he did wrote
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Oh yeah, I'm going to go to some therapist and I'm going to be completely brain washed against DG. At this point DG has nothing more to offer you.. He has done the right thing and asked you to move on and he made it clear that he has NO intention of having a romantic relationship with you.. He wished you well Ariadne and wants you to move on to someone else...
Trialbyfire Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 There are some societal and moral obligations involved in this situation. I hope the fantasy man can understand this and do whatever is within his power, to help Ariadne move on. I guess it might be wishful/idealistic thinking on my part that Ariadne might have been right about him being an honourable man. Of what I've experienced with honourable men, much of this would have been intuitive. Oh, But didn't you guys say that he was some narcissistic, selfish, cruel and what not guy? Are you changing your minds? Were you too fast to judge? I quoted my previous posts for your reference!
Nevermind Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 I don't believe in his words or anybody's words. I just go with what I feel. Ariadne deliberately choses insanity. That has noting to do with love. As I said in the other thread: DG is just a tool to avoid living her life. Sorry, Ariadne. I believe you're simply scared, bored and confused. Love is something else. Sad. [/off] 1
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 At this point DG has nothing more to offer you.. He has done the right thing and asked you to move on and he made it clear that he has NO intention of having a romantic relationship with you.. He wished you well Ariadne and wants you to move on to someone else... As far as I'm concerned... I just started writing.
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 As far as I'm concerned... I just started writing. I'm confused.. are you saying that you are now going to continue to write to DG after he made it clear that he has no intention of have a relationship with you and doesn't see you in a romantic way ?
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 What do you mean you just started writing? Do you mean that you're going to continue to write him after he JUST basically gave you closure and a goodbye? How are you going to feel in the upcoming weeks, months, possibly years when you write to him and he doesn't respond? His silence IS telling you he isn't wanting a romantic relationship with you. He TOLD you that in his email, he wasn't lying so if you choose to believe that he is pretending to give you the brush off - Go ahead, live a big fat lie for the rest of your life. Sorry A..
Touche Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 All she sees is this. No, you don't suck. You're a great person. Caring, supportive, attractive, funny, smart--more than you give yourself credit for. and this: Now if having the fantasy helps by keeping you from having to deal with the real, imperfect people around you, I can understand the psychological value in that. Guarantee you that nothing else got through. Maybe DG wants it that way. He made "all the right noises" elsewhere in his email but he probably knew that A would focus on the above. Smooth operator.
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 All she sees is this. No. All I see is that "he is writing".
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 Do you mean that you're going to continue to write him after he JUST basically gave you closure and a goodbye? How are you going to feel in the upcoming weeks, months, possibly years Well, as long as he is writing I can't help it. He is my drug. But I have to know that he loves me/is attracted. Otherwise I don't care about him if I don't believe that.
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Yes he wrote..But that email you got from him is more than likely the last one you're going to receive from him.
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 Yes he wrote..But that email you got from him is more than likely the last one you're going to receive from him. Well, if it is then I'll move on. But I'll make sure he keeps on writing.
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 But I have to know that he loves me/is attracted. He told you in his email that he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. He told you he doesn't have those feelings. He isn't attracted to you Ariadne, read his email again with an open mind and see what he is saying. Otherwise I don't care about him if I don't believe that. I hope you DO get to this point because right now you're choosing not to believe what he is telling you.
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 No. All I see is that "he is writing". I think he is done writing Ariadne... He made it CLEAR to you that he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you.. how can you ignore that ?
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 But I'll make sure he keeps on writing. How? If you're not careful, he could get a restraining order against you.
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 He told you in his email that he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. He told you he doesn't have those feelings. He isn't attracted to you Ariadne, read his email again with an open mind and see what he is saying. Well, I asked him to specify that. If that's true, then I don't care for him either.
Author Ariadne Posted June 25, 2008 Author Posted June 25, 2008 How? If you're not careful, he could get a restraining order against you. For what? For sending emails? I just send him emails.
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 Well, I asked him to specify that. If that's true, then I don't care for him either. It is true Ariadne.. he wrote it in the email.. he used those basic words.. I don't want to be cruel, I don't want to hurt you. I want you to be happy, successful, all that sort of stuff. But you should understand that I'm not looking for a romantic relationship with you. You'd be disappointed anyway when you found that the real me isn't perfect or flawless or all those other wonderful things you're free to imagine that I am as long as it's all just a fantasy that somehow ended up with my name on it.
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 But you should understand that I'm not looking for a romantic relationship with you He doesn't owe you a big long explanation or detailed reasons why he doesn't want to have a romantic relationship with you. Him telling you this should be enough. He doesn't need to explain himself to you Ariadne.
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 But you should understand that I'm not looking for a romantic relationship with you It bears repeating..... over and over....
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 For what? For sending emails? I just send him emails. What happens if you continue to write and he never writes you back, and that upsets you, to the point of wanting to get into your car and driving to Denver again. People do crazy things when irrational and upset. I'm just sayin that you need to really work on changing your thinking patterns about him and TRY your best to focus on other things in your life.
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2008 Posted June 25, 2008 But you should understand that I'm not looking for a romantic relationship with you AC is right. You need to read this over and over again and don't fool yourself into believing that he is lying to you about this. The man isn't into you A - Someday you're going to have to accept this and let go of your hopes that he will come to you. This is doing DAMAGE to you in so many ways, even he mentioned that in his email to you.
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