portableversion Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Yeah, i read worriedsick's post about her husband recently putting up photos on a dating site. Did he use recent, fat photos...or photos of him when he wasn't fat? That says something about online dating! Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Yeah, i read worriedsick's post about her husband recently putting up photos on a dating site. Did he use recent, fat photos...or photos of him when he wasn't fat? That says something about online dating! It also says something about his wife. Maybe she is being overly critical to put him down, feeling threatened that he is cheating on her, punishing him by witholding sex. I think the whole situation is messed up on both ends. I feel no empathy for either party. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Sad, but that's how I feel. I know, I'm an evil bitch. YES YOU ARE... I have tried to shy away from this thread...but lady... if I was your husband and i read what you have written on this whole thread.... I would dump your selfish vain ass!!! what if something physical happen to you? What if you got in a car accident on the way home and got life long scars on your face that made you look unattractive? What if one day you get breast cancer and you need to have a breast removed? What if you husband came to you and said....dam honey I just cant have sex with a scar faced one boobed female....I mean come on, go get some surgery to touch that s*** up... you met me on a bad day worried....but I would make love to my wife if: she lost a breast wieghed 300 lbs had acne on her face you name it... I would love all of her just the way she was/is and will be later in life....I fell in lust with the outside but I am in love with the inside and that far out wieghs what I SEE with my eyes...I look with my heart Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I don't want to hijack, but we need a new thread on how you kept from getting stretch marks. Valuable info. Get Tonilastil by Lacleor (hope I spelled the names correctly). You need both the cream and the lotion. I got it for my sister in law for her second pregnancy and she said that it removed some of the ones from the first. I also bought it for my friend when she got pregnant and she has just two tiny unnoticable ones (less than 1/2cm long). Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Know what's really interesting here? How often do men say that they separate sex and love? That's why they need to go to strip clubs, look at porn, have threesomes, whatever. Because it's not love, it's just sex. Women shouldn't get mad about that, or they're just insecure. It has nothing to do with how they FEEL, right? And how many women agree with them? And yet, Worried hasn't said on here that she doesn't love him, just that she doesn't really want to have sex with him. They have scads of other problems from their history, it's true, and maybe I missed a post where she said she doesn't, but I don't recall one. And everyone keeps saying that she doesn't love him because she doesn't want to have sex with him. I mean, men on this thread are FURIOUS because "she's so shallow, she doesn't love him." But I thought sex and love are separate for men? It's all very confusing. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 YES YOU ARE... I have tried to shy away from this thread...but lady... if I was your husband and i read what you have written on this whole thread.... I would dump your selfish vain ass!!! what if something physical happen to you? What if you got in a car accident on the way home and got life long scars on your face that made you look unattractive? What if one day you get breast cancer and you need to have a breast removed? What if you husband came to you and said....dam honey I just cant have sex with a scar faced one boobed female....I mean come on, go get some surgery to touch that s*** up... you met me on a bad day worried....but I would make love to my wife if: she lost a breast wieghed 300 lbs had acne on her face you name it... I would love all of her just the way she was/is and will be later in life....I fell in lust with the outside but I am in love with the inside and that far out wieghs what I SEE with my eyes...I look with my heart I think that there are certain things that are avoidable and some that aren't. Similarly, there are things that you can do to make changes and then there are things that once it happens, that's it... you can't do much about it. Acne, losing a breast from disease, being maimed in an accident are unfortunate circumstances that is beyond one's control. I have met many people who are disabled who are not able to excercise normally and they have been able to keep fit. In most cases weight is controllable. Honestly, I think that the marriage has more problems than how much this man weighs. But I wouldn't like it if my H gained a lot of weight and my H knows that if I gained a lot of weight, that there is something most definitely wrong with me. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I have a male friend who cannot get it up with his wife because of her weight. She attempts to lose the weight but snarfs poptarts while on the treadmill. I can see where he would not be able to get it up ...... it would be like an ant on a water buffalo. So is he so awful for being limp dicked about his wife? He did go to a strip club a couple of weeks ago to satisfy his needs. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 That's terrible, a4a. Poptart snarfing is a sacred act. To defile it by doing it while doing ANYTHING else is inexcusable. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Acne, losing a breast from disease, being maimed in an accident are unfortunate circumstances that is beyond one's control. TRUE I am just having a bad day....I knew I should stayed away.... Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Know what's really interesting here? How often do men say that they separate sex and love? That's why they need to go to strip clubs, look at porn, have threesomes, whatever. Because it's not love, it's just sex. Women shouldn't get mad about that, or they're just insecure. It has nothing to do with how they FEEL, right? And how many women agree with them? And yet, Worried hasn't said on here that she doesn't love him, just that she doesn't really want to have sex with him. They have scads of other problems from their history, it's true, and maybe I missed a post where she said she doesn't, but I don't recall one. And everyone keeps saying that she doesn't love him because she doesn't want to have sex with him. I mean, men on this thread are FURIOUS because "she's so shallow, she doesn't love him." But I thought sex and love are separate for men? It's all very confusing. Oh so you don't have a problem with his infidelity either, saying it has nothing to do with love but agree with the wife that his fat is the bigger issue. And don't mask the whole fat issue with having s*** to do with his health. Even the OP said she's an evil bitch, implying it's all about her horniess level towards him. They both deserve each other. One's a cheater, the other's a shallow bitch. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Even the OP said she's an evil bitch, implying it's all about her horniess level towards him. They both deserve each other. One's a cheater, the other's a shallow bitch. Is she supposed to just spread her legs and let him hump away until he is done as her wifely duty? Even though she is not sexually attracted to him? Mercy F*ck? I would agree he is a past cheater and still trolling for new meat..... but I do not think she is shallow for not being physically attracted to him. His body and personality leave much to be desired..... perhaps if he was a better person the body would be easier to look past? Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 TRUE I am just having a bad day....I knew I should stayed away.... TMW, everyone has those days! Hope you'll feel better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 No thanks! I believe I am perfectly justified for feeling the way I do, and don't need a bunch of grief from a fat, ugly audience group to make me feel bad! If that is the case, why post here in the first place? Hubby is posting on sex sites looking for something you are withholding. Not saying it is right or wrong (on either part) but he will find it and he will more likely than not stray again and if you catch him---so be it. Girl, the writing is on the wall---you have turned him against you. You made the bed so now you may need to lie in it. I just hope that when he leaves (or you leave) that you will be able to find the perpetually perfect partner! Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Is she supposed to just spread her legs and let him hump away until he is done as her wifely duty? Even though she is not sexually attracted to him? But it is ok for her to mercy f*** him when she is too horny or drunk? Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Oh so you don't have a problem with his infidelity either, saying it has nothing to do with love but agree with the wife that his fat is the bigger issue. And don't mask the whole fat issue with having s*** to do with his health. Even the OP said she's an evil bitch, implying it's all for her horniess level towards him. They both deserve each other. One's a cheater, the other's a shallow bitch. You've obviously never read anything I have ever posted. EVER. Check out the lapdance threads. I am an anti-cheating NAZI, and you are being really silly. She was being sarcastic when she called herself an evil bitch. To say that because she doesn't find his extra weight attractive that she is a bad person who doesn't care about him is just inane. I agree that she shouldn't have taken him back because he's a cheater. I don't do second chances for that crap. But she doesn't have to find him attractive just because she loves him. That's nonsense. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 They both deserve each other. One's a cheater, the other's a shallow bitch.hmmm.... she stays with him despite the fact that he's cheated and is still looking. It doesn't seem shallow to me. Its obvious that you no longer desire to offer Worried any support. I think that the graceful thing is to bow out and stop with your flinging insults her way. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 hmmm.... she stays with him despite the fact that he's cheated and is still looking. It doesn't seem shallow to me. Its obvious that you no longer desire to offer Worried any support. I think that the graceful thing is to bow out and stop with your flinging insults her way. I agree. This is just bashing. The scenarios they outline are all nonsensical extremes and have nothing to do with her situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 perhaps if he was a better person the body would be easier to look past? What about if perhaps she was a better person he would take better care of his body? She comes across as a bitch here, imagine how she talks and treats him in person. Maybe he purposely is avoiding having sex by staying fat. He can put his ad up and have sex with women who are less bitchy and critical. She doesn't associate love with sex, so it should be ok for him not to either. If she is witholding sex for physical reasons, then she must also reason that his infidelity is exclusive of reasons pertaining to his love and therefore what to her is his character flaw for her to have to look past? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 But it is ok for her to mercy f*** him when she is too horny or drunk? Well she could go trolling for no strings attached adult sex hook up sites and avoid the whole thing. Have you never heard of a man having sex with a girl he thought was actually ugly but he was just horny? Hell it happens all the time........ Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 hmmm.... she stays with him despite the fact that he's cheated and is still looking. It doesn't seem shallow to me. Its obvious that you no longer desire to offer Worried any support. I think that the graceful thing is to bow out and stop with your flinging insults her way. I offrered several suggestions such as encouraging him to lose 10 pounds at first to take baby steps, set a goal for the end of the year and so on. She has ignored all advice everyone gives and only pays attention to the pitty party of putting down her husband in insulting ways. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I agree. This is just bashing. The scenarios they outline are all nonsensical extremes and have nothing to do with her situation. LOL... There is something seriously wrong with some of the folks here. Anyway, I've said my piece and frankly am getting kinda sick of how cruel some people are on this forum. I'm going back to the OW forum where I belong. Ciao! Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 What about if perhaps she was a better person he would take better care of his body? She comes across as a bitch here, imagine how she talks and treats him in person. ? The OP stated she does not say such cruel things to him in person. I myself rant about my H but I do not treat him like that to his face. This is not RL this is an online forum where people feel or should feel safe to express themselves about how they truly feel. It sounds like she is very frustrated has dealt with quite a bit from him and is looking to get things off her chest in this forum. Oh the poor fat man that lays around the house and posts his profile to adult sites and has already cheated once she knows about..... your right she should be nicer to him. Obviously he is getting the short end of the stick in this marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I offrered several suggestions such as encouraging him to lose 10 pounds at first to take baby steps, set a goal for the end of the year and so on. She has ignored all advice everyone gives and only pays attention to the pitty party of putting down her husband in insulting ways. You know sometimes that's just what a gal needs... a pity party. Have you had one of those before, its quite a cleansing experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 Well, I apologize for coming across harsh if I did. I don't mingle in the marriage section and have not come across a wife witholding sex because she's repulsed her husband has gained weight. I might not be the best to offer advice. It's too troubling and shalllow in my minority opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I would love all of her just the way she was/is and will be later in life....I fell in lust with the outside but I am in love with the inside and that far out wieghs what I SEE with my eyes...I look with my heart You're ALL THAT, Thumbs. You know, shortly after my husband and I got married, I had this weird dream that he had turned into a robot. Somehow, he'd lost his body, but it was definitely his personality and soul inside this 'Lost In Space' looking robot. But I loved him anyway. Our physical relationship was never going to be the same.... but it was still HIM on the inside, and that's all that mattered to me. Maybe that's a rarer thing than I once thought. Anyway, I'm out for the summer, but I'll try to check in from time to time. I hope the OP will continue to post, so we'll all hear how this thing turns out. I'm thinking maybe 933's got it right though. If nothing positive happens to change this relationship... the writing may very well be on the wall. Link to post Share on other sites
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