LexiB Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 SF, you assume that a minority of women is representative of all women. While most women are not like that. You basically believe that the minority is a majority. Thus you give what in a practical sense is the exception, the status of normalcy. And thus delude yourself that what in a practical sense is normal, is the exception. What is so hard to understand about that? And see, I guess I was off anyway! oh well:lmao:
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Why so emotional? Because it's not reality. Sorry, but I do not live in a fantasy world where the vast majority of women aren't shallow, superficial, flighty people who actually value intelligence, personality, honesty, and self-respect in men.
loony Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Because it's not reality. Sorry, but I do not live in a fantasy world where the vast majority of women aren't shallow, superficial, flighty people who actually value intelligence, personality, honesty, and self-respect in men. Don't you think it's time you should stop with your "women are this" and "women are that"?
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 And your population assumption is simply false SF. I have written it twice. Should the next time I explain that to you be in a Scandinavian language? Why is it simply false? Explain yourself, please. Go ahead and explain it to me in ANY language - pick one... Danish, Norwegian, Swedish, Icelandic, Faroese. It won't make a damn bit of difference. Hey, maybe even in Finnish (I know, not technically a Scandinavian language since it's not related to the others I mentioned)! I'm dabbling in that one myself! Puhutteko suomea?
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Don't you think it's time you should stop with your "women are this" and "women are that"? Same to you, loony. Quit saying "men are this" and "men are that!" Or are you a subscriber to double standards?
loony Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Same to you, loony. Quit saying "men are this" and "men are that!" Or are you a subscriber to double standards? The only people I see maintaining this double standards are the guys here who have been complaining about women all the time. If you call them out on it, you're told to stop bitching. It's absolutely ridiculous.
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 The only people I see maintaining this double standards are the guys here who have been complaining about women all the time. If you call them out on it, you're told to stop bitching. It's absolutely ridiculous. Yawn. No it isn't ridiculous because deep down inside women really think they are *better* than men. It shows in their attitudes towards them.
lindya Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 I'm not a gold-digger. I would rather be with a man I spiritually feel at one with than with some rich bloke who will buy me everything my heart desires. I'm so f***ing non-materialistic and unshallow that I'd like to eat myself up for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Oh....and brunch too. I'm just marvellous. I like myself a lot...so give me lots of positive strokes. After all, if I've posted all these good things about myself here, then they must be true - so I feel that I deserve some validation. I'm off out now. If any kind gentleman would care to lend me £20 for the taxi fare home, I'd be most impressed by the chivalrous gesture.
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 I'm not a gold-digger. I would rather be with a man I spiritually feel at one with than with some rich bloke who will buy me everything my heart desires. I'm so f***ing non-materialistic and unshallow that I'd like to eat myself up for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Oh....and brunch too. I'm just marvellous. I like myself a lot...so give me lots of positive strokes. After all, if I've posted all these good things about myself here, then they must be true - so I feel that I deserve some validation. I'm off out now. If any kind gentleman would care to lend me £20 for the taxi fare home, I'd be most impressed by the chivalrous gesture. Your delivery smacks of sarcasm and insincerity. No taxi fare for you.
d'Arthez Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Well, just keep it at English, as it is an American messageboard. Conversations in other languages will be hard to follow for the majority of posters after all. Even Spanish would be problematical for most, I think. As for loony, her thread was about SOME men. It was not about ALL men. Which part of the word "some" do a few posters not understand? The lack of "three" before it? This thread is about ALL women.
lindya Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Your delivery smacks of sarcasm and insincerity. No taxi fare for you. Then I'll walk, damn you!!! Who needs men anyway! Ladies...anyone lend me a tenner? :love:
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Then I'll walk, damn you!!! Who needs men anyway! :lmao:
lindya Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Of course lindya. A tenner for you Thanks d'Arthez. I promise I'll spend it wisely
Mary3 Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Dates I have had : Date # 1 ) Older man ( maybe 50 ) who posted a 20 year ago pic ( when he was 30 ) Took me to a nice dinner and was a nice guy. I was not visually attracted to him and could not imagine kissing him. He had $$$$ but I did not feel a connection Hence : No fireworks . His money = Nothing Date# 2 ) Younger , more handsome, metrosexual , with A.D.D. ( later discovered ) and very controlling. Had $$$$ bought me clothes and an expensive dinner $ 80 plate. Had some good chemistry. But he was too impulsive and moody. Wanted to buy me a house ( I kid you not ) Hence : No future dates . His money = Nothing Date # 3 ) CEO vice president . Very arrogant , chatty, dominating , boring. I told him off after dinner. lol Hence : No future dates . His money = Nothing Some recent dates : Struggling musician. Very strong chemistry. Great kisser..Excellent vibes Hence : Another date coming . His money = Struggling. No fancy car. Outstanding Personality ! Another date : Struggling service worker. Very strong chemisty. Great kisser . Excellent vibes I mean they dont have to be struggling but think about this : If you are correct that most chicks wont give the struggling man the time of day , then I just proved Alpha wrong ! hehe Hence : Went out for a year.
Author Nomad Posted October 21, 2005 Author Posted October 21, 2005 Maybe I should try a little experiment with my online profile, and substitute a picture of a hot guy in my place and see how many replies I get THEN. I have a feeling the number will be much higher, regardless of what my profile SAYS. I HAVE been funny/nice/generous/charming to girls I meet and it doesn't get me anywhere. I appreciate the feedback from everybody, but it's a constant bewilderment to me why, especially on this forum, when a girl is ASKED she'll say looks don't matter, then when she's out at the bar/club with her friends, she's hanging on a HOT guy. Many psychological experiments have shown that people downplay the importance of looks when directly asked, but when told to rate a sample of pictures with the questions, "Who would you most like to meet?" "Who do you perceive as being the friendliest?" etc, they always choose the good-LOOKING guys. Actions speak louder than words, ladies. Maybe the girls here are somehow less looks-oriented than everybody else in the world, but I have the feeling that's probably not the case.
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Mary3, you are a woman of quality. You are an exception to the rule. Period. Thank God I am now involved with a woman of quality. After a lifetime of &^@#!* relationships - including one with a woman who ditched me cuz I wouldn't hit her (WTF???) I have found THE ONE. She isn't psycho, doesn't have a *Daddy complex*, isn't materialistic, and for God's sake doesn't use the word "like" in every sentence! Yeah, she definitely is an EXCEPTION!
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Maybe I should try a little experiment with my online profile, and substitute a picture of a hot guy in my place and see how many replies I get THEN. I have a feeling the number will be much higher, regardless of what my profile SAYS. I HAVE been funny/nice/generous/charming to girls I meet and it doesn't get me anywhere. I appreciate the feedback from everybody, but it's a constant bewilderment to me why, especially on this forum, when a girl is ASKED she'll say looks don't matter, then when she's out at the bar/club with her friends, she's hanging on a HOT guy. Many psychological experiments have shown that people downplay the importance of looks when directly asked, but when told to rate a sample of pictures with the questions, "Who would you most like to meet?" "Who do you perceive as being the friendliest?" etc, they always choose the good-LOOKING guys. Actions speak louder than words, ladies. Maybe the girls here are somehow less looks-oriented than everybody else in the world, but I have the feeling that's probably not the case. THANK YOU! Someone who GET'S IT! Anyone remember that experiment shown on ABC - that's America's ABC, not Australia's - that demonstrated that women consistently chose taller guys over shorter ones. They even said that they would only choose the short guys if the tall dudes were ax murderers or something. It REALLY is all about looks for MOST women.
Mary3 Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Thank you Smoochie for the nice words I am glad YOU found someone of substance and worth ! Alpha what do you make of this ? 2 females so far who are not gold diggers ?? You know I never knew what a gold digger was until someone mentioned it . hehe ..Just as I always thought women loved chest hair ! But of course I found out they all don't hehe,... Looking back on my life I never looked for wealthy BMW drivin' kind of guys. I looked for PERSONALITY ! Wow Alpha you ought to pull out more books to read because the latest ones still have you posting on here about what women ALL want ?? . Not true But we will always be here to help ya out ALpha to prove good women DO exist
SmoochieFace Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Thank you Smoochie for the nice words I am glad YOU found someone of substance and worth ! Alpha what do you make of this ? 2 females so far who are not gold diggers ?? You know I never knew what a gold digger was until someone mentioned it . hehe ..Just as I always thought women loved chest hair ! But of course I found out they all don't hehe,... Looking back on my life I never looked for wealthy BMW drivin' kind of guys. I looked for PERSONALITY ! Wow Alpha you ought to pull out more books to read because the latest ones still have you posting on here about what women ALL want ?? . Not true But we will always be here to help ya out ALpha to prove good women DO exist I don't think Alpha REALLY wants a *good* woman. That would involve commitment and we all know his stance on that! Besides, a good woman wouldn't put up with his ways. I should send my Xs up his way!
d'Arthez Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Many psychological experiments have shown that people downplay the importance of looks when directly asked, but when told to rate a sample of pictures with the questions, "Who would you most like to meet?" "Who do you perceive as being the friendliest?" etc, they always choose the good-LOOKING guys. Actions speak louder than words, ladies. And that is only true, provided you know nothing about the guys. In a bar, even before conversation, you give cues by the way you dress, your body language, your being active / passive et cetera. That is already 3 freaking variables were any guy can work on. And that is even before you have even had a chance to glance at someone, not to mention start a bit of conversation. We can imagine how much weight an "abstracted face" has on a setting in the real world. And gentlemen, research has shown the SAME thing with regards to guys judging women's appearance. If you complain that women do something, look at yourself as well.
Mary3 Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 I once had a bf who would not be considered attractive by any means but we had a strong chemistry and 15 years later when I met up with him again that strong pull was still there. But of course I had moved on with my life. Just goes to show looks are NOT always as important as we think they are. Met him through my brother and we just hit it off. He had a certain charismatic effect. He was not wealthy. We were only 17 years old so no money involved there. He was kinda of a bad boy type. I need that small element of bad boy in and out of the bed Chemistry is priceless !
Author Nomad Posted October 21, 2005 Author Posted October 21, 2005 EXACTLY!!! That's the whole point of this post: looks matter! I'm asking for a way AROUND that, or to find a way to cope with my own less than stellar looks. I never said looks don't ALSO matter for guys: they very much matter for me, too! That's why I'm asking, "How can ugly people really be happy together?"
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