Image and Style - Again

[Heatherknows]

Exactly.

 

The answer is....

 

I'll keep an open mind and continue seeing both, while on the thread topic: Will try to add a few little hippie accents and Depp style versatility to the wardrobe.

 

 

I'm not sure you need to worry so much about style. Guys can get away with jeans and a white T-Shirt. A handsome face and a toned body is what attracts attention.

[xxoo]

Not dating ugly or fat people End of story.

 

To all those who want me to.... why don't you do so yourselves?

 

The really interesting side story here is that very attractive people, based on this thread, must have nobody interested in then because they are attractive, therefore noit good people.(great logic)

 

I'll stick to attractive girls and wait it out to find one with a good personality too.

 

What the heck do all of you do?

 

Try to date the fat or super ugly, then try to get them on a diet? :lmao;

 

 

The suggestion is to focus on women around your age. Why do you interpret that as fat and ugly? A hot 40 year old should be able to attract another hot 40 year old. A good person should be able to attract a good person.

 

These teenagers and 20 year olds may well be good people, but they are still developing and growing in person. If you want mature and responsible, date older.

[loveweary11]

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[loveweary11]

I'm not sure you need to worry so much about style. Guys can get away with jeans and a white T-Shirt. A handsome face and a toned body is what attracts attention.

 

Well, one out of two isn't bad.

 

I don't have the pretty boy looks, but make up for it in other ways.

 

I'll make slight changes to the wardrobe, I'm thinking.

 

Good advice though.

[loveweary11]

The suggestion is to focus on women around your age. Why do you interpret that as fat and ugly? A hot 40 year old should be able to attract another hot 40 year old. A good person should be able to attract a good person.

 

These teenagers and 20 year olds may well be good people, but they are still developing and growing in person. If you want mature and responsible, date older.

 

I don't want mature or responsible.

 

I'm mature and responsible enough for two.

 

My life is in perfect order.

 

It's simple not even a requirement.

 

As I said, I'm open to all ages. Trying to limit the younger ones, but if one with a good heart/personality comes along, I'm probably not ruling her out based on age. I am shooting for 30yo age or so as my primary target though.

[Heatherknows]

Not dating ugly or fat people End of story.

 

To all those who want me to.... why don't you do so yourselves?

 

 

LOL! I haven't read one post that suggests you should date a fat ugly woman. That would be terrible advice. You must date someone who you're attracted to or there won't be any passion and the relationship will be pointless. The posts here indicate that you're in your 40's and have been dating mostly 18-25 year olds which hasn't seemed to work out for you. If you still find a girl who is 24 and fantastic great! But if you open up your age range you might find what you want.

[Heatherknows]

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You're dating a pile of blankets???

 

I mean I think I see a head. Maybe ask her if you can take a picture and post it.

[loveweary11]

LOL! I haven't read one post that suggests you should date a fat ugly woman. That would be terrible advice. You must date someone who you're attracted to or there won't be any passion and the relationship will be pointless. The posts here indicate that you're in your 40's and have been dating mostly 18-25 year olds which hasn't seemed to work out for you. If you still find a girl who is 24 and fantastic great! But if you open up your age range you might find what you want.

 

Ages are incorrect here, but yes, I've been getting mostly 18-25 year olds, mostly due to who I end up meeting.

 

My age range is wide open.

 

It's because I don't discriminate based on age that I have been seeing these younger ones.

 

Ideally, someone in their 30's is perfect.

[PrettyEmily77]

Not dating ugly or fat people End of story.

 

To all those who want me to.... why don't you do so yourselves?

 

The really interesting side story here is that very attractive people, based on this thread, must have nobody interested in then because they are attractive, therefore noit good people.(great logic)

 

I'll stick to attractive girls and wait it out to find one with a good personality too.

 

What the heck do all of you do?

 

Try to date the fat or super ugly, then try to get them on a diet? :lmao;

 

Hopefully this post was made in jest...

 

The free-spirited, health-driven open-minded girls I have met were the least shallow, appearance-driven ppl - on that basis alone, you already face major incompatibilities potentially. True free-spirited ppl won't care one jot how tight you wear your clothe, how much you weigh ... Just sthg for you to consider.

[loveweary11]

You're dating a pile of blankets???

 

I mean I think I see a head. Maybe ask her if you can take a picture and post it.

 

It's not allowed on this forum.

 

Pictures of identifiable people is a big no no that can get you banned.

 

You have to keep it all anonymous.

[loveweary11]

Hopefully this post was made in jest...

 

The free-spirited, health-driven open-minded girls I have met were the least shallow, appearance-driven ppl - on that basis alone, you already face major incompatibilities potentially. True free-spirited ppl won't care one jot how tight you wear your clothe, how much you weigh ... Just sthg for you to consider.

 

Initial attraction is important to each and every human being alive.

 

If they are considering having sex with you, they are deciding that based on looks in the first few seconds of seeing you.

 

All human beings do this.

 

You are either in a "maybe" or a "no" pile in seconds.

 

Yes, my post was with heaping portions of sarcasm.

[Heatherknows]

Ages are incorrect here, but yes, I've been getting mostly 18-25 year olds, mostly due to who I end up meeting.

 

My age range is wide open.

 

It's because I don't discriminate based on age that I have been seeing these younger ones.

 

Ideally, someone in their 30's is perfect.

 

Then dude you're gonna be fine. Like I said NY and Long Island are filled with beautiful 30 something women. You can have like two dates a day if you want. Odds are in your favor.

[xxoo]

I don't want mature or responsible.

 

I'm mature and responsible enough for two.

 

My life is in perfect order.

 

It's simple not even a requirement.

 

As I said, I'm open to all ages. Trying to limit the younger ones, but if one with a good heart/personality comes along, I'm probably not ruling her out based on age. I am shooting for 30yo age or so as my primary target though.

 

What is a "good heart/personality"? Are you really running into bad people? I don't think so. I think they all have a good heart and personality (or the vast majority), and are simply incompatible due to age and development.

[loveweary11]

Then dude you're gonna be fine. Like I said NY and Long Island are filled with beautiful 30 something women. You can have like two dates a day if you want. Odds are in your favor.

 

Agreed.

 

I just started a thread about clothing and people derailed it (as usual) with age difference dating BS.

 

Pretty typical of love shack.

 

Happens all the time and the same old posters stir the pot.

 

The on topic posts were great though. Thanks to all who have helped with style and using it to attract the more hippie leaning ones.

 

Much appreciated.

[loveweary11]

What is a "good heart/personality"? Are you really running into bad people? I don't think so. I think they all have a good heart and personality (or the vast majority), and are simply incompatible due to age and development.

 

That would be someone with a good sense of morality (doesn't hurt others, doesn't steal, is kind, caring).

 

It's a pretty rare find.

 

Couple that with someone in shape, petite and it definitely takes a while to find them.

[regine_phalange]

It'll sound boring, but I think clothes aren't that important. If they smell and fit nice then great.

 

I personally like minimalism and simplicity. I've grown into the kind of person who buys a skirt in 4 different colours if it fits perfectly and it feels good to wear.

 

Find a uniform with garments that make you feel handsome and are from really good fabric and suit your lifestyle. Wear things that you really like wearing because they feel nice. If you want a more mature "vibe" stick to natural colours, such as grey, brown, white, black, dark blue, dark green. T-shirts or shirts. No sleeveless shirts! If you want to iron less look into cotton/polyester mixes (even though if you're active 100% natural fibers are healthier -- but you'll need an iron for those). Don't buy items that have prominent logos on them. Keep the brand hidden. But still, wear items that are well-tailored and feel good on your skin. Prefer dark wash jeans and chino pants. Good quality, comfortable, soft leather shoes in the simple colours brown and black. If you want to add a bit of hippie element don't do it through your clothes, you can wear some fancy necklace, or a scarf or a hat or retro sunglasses (or a combination of those).

[PrettyEmily77]

Initial attraction is important to each and every human being alive.

 

If they are considering having sex with you, they are deciding that based on looks in the first few seconds of seeing you.

 

All human beings do this.

 

You are either in a "maybe" or a "no" pile in seconds.

 

Yes, my post was with heaping portions of sarcasm.

 

It would take me a whole lot more than a few seconds and loosely worn T-shirts to want tphave sex with someone regardless of how attractive the guy is but maybe that's just me. Anf I speak as a fairly free-spirited, 5'2, petite, muscular brwon-haired 39 year-old

[loveweary11]

It would take me a whole lot more than a few seconds and loosely worn T-shirts to want tphave sex with someone regardless of how attractive the guy is but maybe that's just me. Anf I speak as a fairly free-spirited, 5'2, petite, muscular brwon-haired 39 year-old

 

It would be a lot better if I didn't know that about you.., now you will get a free pass. Probably this is part of my problem. I do tend to overlook negatives when there is a strong biological response, but...

 

 

How long does "no" take?

 

That takes milliseconds and isn't a conscious decision.

 

That's what I'm really getting at. There are maybes and no's within seconds.

 

You've got to end up in the maybe category to move forward.

[loveweary11]

It'll sound boring, but I think clothes aren't that important. If they smell and fit nice then great.

 

I personally like minimalism and simplicity. I've grown into the kind of person who buys a skirt in 4 different colours if it fits perfectly and it feels good to wear.

 

Find a uniform with garments that make you feel handsome and are from really good fabric and suit your lifestyle. Wear things that you really like wearing because they feel nice. If you want a more mature "vibe" stick to natural colours, such as grey, brown, white, black, dark blue, dark green. T-shirts or shirts. No sleeveless shirts! If you want to iron less look into cotton/polyester mixes (even though if you're active 100% natural fibers are healthier -- but you'll need an iron for those). Don't buy items that have prominent logos on them. Keep the brand hidden. But still, wear items that are well-tailored and feel good on your skin. Prefer dark wash jeans and chino pants. Good quality, comfortable, soft leather shoes in the simple colours brown and black. If you want to add a bit of hippie element don't do it through your clothes, you can wear some fancy necklace, or a scarf or a hat or retro sunglasses (or a combination of those).

 

Exactly my current approach and plan to use some accessories to bring in the little hippie vibe.

 

Thanks!

[xxoo]

That would be someone with a good sense of morality (doesn't hurt others, doesn't steal, is kind, caring).

 

It's a pretty rare find.

 

Couple that with someone in shape, petite and it definitely takes a while to find them.

 

This is why I am bringing up maturity. The moral development of an 18 year old is not yet complete. This is normal.

 

If you truly want a partner, let kids be kids and date grown women.

[PrettyEmily77]

It would be a lot better if I didn't know that about you.., now you will get a free pass. Probably this is part of my problem. I do tend to overlook negatives when there is a strong biological response, but...

 

 

How long does "no" take?

 

That takes milliseconds and isn't a conscious decision.

 

That's what I'm really getting at. There are maybes and no's within seconds.

 

You've got to end up in the maybe category to move forward.

 

You probs need to review your 'yes' policy, TBH. Physical attraction is what gets the attention initially but should just be your base-line, not an absolute criterion. Every other attribute is far more important.

 

FWIW, I thought I had a type until I met my BF. He's super handsome in his own but lools nothing like my 'usual type'. We had this mad connection from the start, we still do, and now I feel kind of silly for having these physical criteria in the first place, and the better I know him the more handsome I find him, whether in a tight shirt or not . Of course initial physical attraction is essential but that can come in more forms than you think. You also seem to talk a lot about your ex wife still - maybe sthg isn't completely resolved yet...

Edited August 14, 2015 by PrettyEmily77
ETA- thank you for the free pass :)

[loveweary11]

You probs need to review your 'yes' policy, TBH. Physical attraction is what gets the attention initially but should just be your base-line, not an absolute criterion. Every other attribute is far more important.

 

 

I just talk about the ex here because posters tend to lump me into some "he can't get a relationship" pigeon hole.

 

They seem to forget I've spent my entire post pubescent life in them, including a 10 year marriage to someone 10 years my junior who fits my type.

 

I only think of the ex when on love shack.

 

But I do exactly what you are saying. Initial interest based on looks, then discontinue if not a good person.

 

Standard human mate selection process.

[Heatherknows]

I just talk about the ex here because posters tend to lump me into some "he can't get a relationship" pigeon hole.

 

They seem to forget I've spent my entire post pubescent life in them, including a 10 year marriage to someone 10 years my junior who fits my type.

 

I only think of the ex when on love shack.

 

But I do exactly what you are saying. Initial interest based on looks, then discontinue if not a good person.

 

Standard human mate selection process.

 

Maybe ask your ex if she has any friends?

 

 

(JK)

[SycamoreCircle]

Phew...good to be out of County. The food was terrible.

 

LW, look at the trajectory of this post! You went from questioning your personal style/looks based on something a stranger told you to defending the type of women to whom you're attracted to posting a pic of said stranger, an 18 year old girl, in your bed the next day!

 

C'mon, man---I've said it before and I'll say it again---why do you need all this validation? What is going on? Start being honest with yourself.

[loveweary11]

Phew...good to be out of County. The food was terrible.

 

LW, look at the trajectory of this post! You went from questioning your personal style/looks based on something a stranger told you to defending the type of women to whom you're attracted to posting a pic of said stranger, an 18 year old girl, in your bed the next day!

 

C'mon, man---I've said it before and I'll say it again---why do you need all this validation? What is going on? Start being honest with yourself.

 

Sycamore...

 

I enjoy thinking. Questioning. Debate.

 

It's interesting to discuss people. That's why I'm here.

 

The "stranger" who made the interesting comments that started this thread is the girl in my bed.

 

Typically love shack thread. They all go off topic into age differences and stuff. Did you expect any less?