Author shadowplay Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Well, okay. At the very least, try to hold off on getting more physical with him than you already have been. Since he "doesn't know", the chances are very high that if he gets sex from you without a commitment, he'll see absolutely no reason to commit. I'm of the opinion that you may not be able to handle having no-strings-attached sex again at this time. Nope, no sex as long as things are casual. Not doing that again. He's not pushy, though, with the physical stuff.
Author shadowplay Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 for what it's worth he hasn't logged on to the site since we hooked up; the last time he did was actually a few hours before the party. that could mean nothing, but i just thought it was interesting.
tigressA Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 for what it's worth he hasn't logged on to the site since we hooked up; the last time he did was actually a few hours before the party. that could mean nothing, but i just thought it was interesting. Means nothing, honestly. Don't bother with counting days he hasn't logged in, etc. That's diving back into obsessive behavior.
Author shadowplay Posted September 26, 2010 Author Posted September 26, 2010 Means nothing, honestly. Don't bother with counting days he hasn't logged in, etc. That's diving back into obsessive behavior. Haha, yeah, you're probably right.
D-Lish Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 Just play it cool Shadow, let him do the contacting, play this one with more patience and see how it works. I actually have on my profile "I am looking to date, but nothing serious"... But that is because the next available option is "actively seeking a relationship". If I come into contact with someone that blows me away, I'll happily explore it. It's hard to answer what you are looking for until you actually find it and it works. Just enjoy the process and take it slow.
Ariadne Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 She tends to skip over a lot of things. I've noticed this before...who knows if it's passive/aggressive or whatever else. Don't let it bother you. (Hey Tigressa, hope things are going well with "C" and glad that he came back... is that the virgin ex?) And Shadow, just give this a try and see what happens. You will probably continue to see him like you said so you will have to deal with it.
BobSacamento Posted September 26, 2010 Posted September 26, 2010 I can feel my skin thickening with all this new experience. Now you're getting it. I applaud you for your courage.
donnamaybe Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Doesn't his OKC profile say that he's only looking for something casual? That's what my sweety and I told each other at the onset of our now 5 1/2 year R.
Kamille Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 That's what my sweety and I told each other at the onset of our now 5 1/2 year R. Yeah, sure, but I don't think now is the time to encourage Shadow to ignore the fact that he says himself he's leaning towards not wanting anything serious. I sincerely hope Shadow lets him take the lead here and fights all of her quick-attachment impulses until he proves himself to be a safe emotional bet.
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