shadowplay Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 (edited) OK, I'm still in a state of shock. But my housemates and I had a party tonight, and somehow this guy and I, whom I found very attractive before but I thought was out of my league, hooked up. And we're hanging out again on Friday night. This is the emotionally unavailable alpha male from this post I made about a month ago: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2978217&postcount=15 He's extremely cute and smart, cuter and smarter than OKC guy, and we have a ****lo#d in common. I assumed before he wasn't attracted to me, but apparently he is very attracted. He said he was into me from the first second he laid eyes on me. I don't know exactly how it happened. But I got progressively drunker, and suddenly we were off to the side talking about animation and films, watching videos on youtube. Then everyone went to bed except us, and we moved to the couch, he put his arm around me and we started making out. I know this sounds fairly normal, but it's bizarre for me. NOTHING this natural has EVER happened to me. Excuse me, I'm still a little drunk. But really, it's always a forced courtship. This was totally like natural, like the kind of thing I never understood how other people slipped into. It was weird. And he kept saying he liked all this stuff about me that other people find weird. He even said, "I like how you're crazy." And I said, "crazy how?" And he said, "Like how you have all these really strong opinions. That's hot." WTF. So my craziness attracts rather than repels a guy. Y'all were wrong! I don't know what to make of this. I was totally not expecting it.... Edited September 23, 2010 by shadowplay
alexlakeman Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Drunk? Attractive? Sex? Yeap, he's into u or maybe he's shy and d alci made him more bold.
Author shadowplay Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 Drunk? Attractive? Sex? Yeap, he's into u or maybe he's shy and d alci made him more bold. True, but I believe him that he was into me before. I'm good at picking up bull****. We'll see. I don't have huge expectations. I'm just kind of shocked...
TaraMaiden Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 The moral of the story is: Never go looking for it. It will find you and slap you up de head in the most unexpected places. Tru dat.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Woah, I am thrilled for you Shadow I did always feel that with online dating things tend to feel somewhat forced. See, no plastic surgery needed either I am now dying to see what this guy looks like (yep I am sooo superficial )
Author shadowplay Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 Woah, I am thrilled for you Shadow I did always feel that with online dating things tend to feel somewhat forced. See, no plastic surgery needed either I am now dying to see what this guy looks like (yep I am sooo superficial ) Lol this was completely natural. It was so weird. Like I always fantasize about this kind of stuff, I even did with him a month ago when I first met him, but it never actually happens.
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Lol this was completely natural. It was so weird. Like I always fantasize about this kind of stuff, I even did with him a month ago when I first met him, but it never actually happens. I know exactly what you mean. I fantasize about stuff like that too. Good to know that it can actually happen. I just want to inform everyone here that this guy is HOT. He has really nice expressive eyes and very cute face. Looks to be exactly Shadow's type too I like the fun vibe I get from his pictures.
Veronica K Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 ... And he kept saying he liked all this stuff about me that other people find weird. He even said, "I like how you're crazy." And I said, "crazy how?" And he said, "Like how you have all these really strong opinions. That's hot."... My favorite part. Sounds like you had good chemistry to me. I like that you don't have any big expectations, too. Waiting and seeing. Love when things flow so naturally between two people. I know what you mean about how it can feel a bit surreal. Good luck.
Ariadne Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Woah, I am thrilled for you Shadow I fantasize about stuff like that too. Good to know that it can actually happen. Yeah. That's wonderful! Congratulations Shadow finding a great guy and maybe even love.
tigressA Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 The best part about all this is that you don't seem to be freaking out about it, wondering if he's interested, blah blah. You seem really relaxed. This is great; keep it up
Author shadowplay Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 The best part about all this is that you don't seem to be freaking out about it, wondering if he's interested, blah blah. You seem really relaxed. This is great; keep it up I know, right? Maybe it's that it was so unexpected, so I had no time to work myself up. But I think it's also learning from my mistakes with the other guy. Also, I just don't have high expectations, because I know he's not really looking for a relationship (based on what his online profile says)...and honestly neither am I after realizing how much I need to work on myself. I think I'm just tripping over the fact that this cool, hot, super smart and confident alpha who I assumed was totally indifferent to me was secretly attracted all along. And not just because of my looks; he actually enjoys my personality quirks! I guess it gives me confidence that there are interesting guys out there who will like me because of who I am, not in spite of it.
donnamaybe Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Yay, Shadow! And, for the record, just because a woman has strong opinions does NOT mean she's "crazy."
Author shadowplay Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 Yay, Shadow! And, for the record, just because a woman has strong opinions does NOT mean she's "crazy." Yeah, good call!
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 We definitely learn from our mistakes. I think you can clearly see where you went wrong with that OKC guy (mind you we have no way of knowing what the outcome would be if you did things differently). I think that if you keep your expectations on the down-low and just remember to have fun, it will turn out well I also always thought that an alpha male would be good for you
donnamaybe Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 I always thought that an alpha male would be good for you Yep. Someone to challenge you. That's what I've always preferred as well. I never wanted some mealy mouthed milquetoast. I like a man who considers my opinion, though, because I am an intelligent gal, but I also like a man who expects to be heard.
Kamille Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 YES! I knew it! I feel like prancing around chanting: I told you so! Men do find you attractive. All you have to do is learn how to put yourself out there with confidence and men will come flocking. So stop with the insecurities already. You're an attractive, interesting, unique young woman. Some guys will love it, some guys won't. Find the ones who dig you and don't sweat the ones who don't.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Now hold onto your positive attitude and ENJOY yourself.
elaina Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 Yeah you go girl!!! That's so exciting Shadow!
alphamale Posted September 23, 2010 Posted September 23, 2010 funny how being hammered makes everything seem "natural"
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 He sent me a message on facebook with his phone number and asking me how I was doing today. I sent my number back to him. My friends and I are thinking of going to the county fair on Friday night and he'll probably come along, since we're part of the same circle. We'll see how it goes.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 What does "hooked up" mean here? Everyone has a different definition of it...I'm always so confused!
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Are you interested in a relationship with him? Because in his profile you said he indicated he was only looking for something casual. Just pay attention to what he telling you, and go with it only if it matches what you want.
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 We didn't have sex, but some clothes did come off. It was pretty hot, and he was way more into it than the other guy. He actually TALKED to me while we were making out and noticed a bunch of little things about me that he kept mentioning. At one point he even said, with emphasis: I like you! We also had a good conversation about our dreams for the future. He was actually interested in hearing what mine were -- something I'm not really used to with the guys I've dated. He just asked me out to go with him and my friends to the county fair tomorrow night. He gave me the option of either that or doing something else like a movie, but I told him the fair sounded like more fun. I'm excited! I wish I could post a photo of him on here, because he's soo adorable. I don't know what I want from him. I"m trying not to think in those terms. I like the idea of dating people casually, since it's something I've never done.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I love what I'm reading, Shadow! Good on you!
Recommended Posts