sagetalk Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 funny how being hammered makes everything seem "natural" Call it wisdom or whatever you want, but this doesn't smell good to me. If she gives in and has sex with him in a date or so, I think she's setting herself up for disaster. Sober attraction and chemistry is 1,000 times better than drunk chemistry. When you're sober your brain is actually working, that's a huge difference.
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 I love what I'm reading, Shadow! Good on you! Thanks!
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 (edited) Call it wisdom or whatever you want, but this doesn't smell good to me. If she gives in and has sex with him in a date or so, I think she's setting herself up for disaster. Sober attraction and chemistry is 1,000 times better than drunk chemistry. When you're sober your brain is actually working, that's a huge difference. We've hung out a bunch in a group in a sober state, and he asked me out today when he was sober to see him on Friday. Also, he said to me last night that he liked me from when he first met me. I would say our sober chemistry is also pretty good. Even though he irked me a bit at first, we always had lively conversations. I also realized that some of what I mistook as narcissism was really just extreme extroversion. What type of disaster do you foresee? Edited September 24, 2010 by shadowplay
SouthernSunshine Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 "Blame it on the a a a a a alcohol" .... <song popped in my head while reading this thread>
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 What type of disaster do you foresee? The kind you experienced over the last week or so... Just don't have sex with him until you've been on at least 5-6 REAL dates (not scrabble at his/your place, and your party doesn't count) AND you've established you're exclusive. Build a REAL foundation with him before you get any more physical.
sagetalk Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 The kind you experienced over the last week or so... Just don't have sex with him until you've been on at least 5-6 REAL dates (not scrabble at his/your place, and your party doesn't count) AND you've established you're exclusive. Build a REAL foundation with him before you get any more physical. What this very intelligent poster just said .
Cee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I wanted to chime in and say I am really happy for you. This sounds promising. I like that he's taking the lead, but also being thoughtful. Have fun at the fair.
LisaLee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I hope that all works out for you, Shadow. You sound very happy.
USMCHokie Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Congrats Shadow! Remember not to get ahead of yourself...take it one day at a time, one date at a time...and have fun!
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 OK, I've added a few people from this thread to my contacts and posted his picture for a very limited time in my profile. He's so cute!
AverageJoe Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Just don't have sex with him until you've been on at least 5-6 REAL dates Wow, five or six. You are welcome to this advice, but as a man I will tell you I would be calling the next number on the pecking list before that.
Romance Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 yeah drunken sex is a real relationship starter..
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 yeah drunken sex is a real relationship starter.. We didn't have sex. Also, I never said I was looking for a relationship. I'm just taking this a day at a time, no expectations.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Wow, five or six. You are welcome to this advice, but as a man I will tell you I would be calling the next number on the pecking list before that. Gross. And if this guy shares your attitude (which I doubt he does), that's all the more reason for Shadow to wait. They can still enjoy each other without doing the deed so quickly and catching feelings that he isn't worthy of her having. And Shadow, while he's not my type at all, he's definitely handsome (nice lips!!), and I can tell he's your type.
tigressA Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Cor! And also phwoar!! Shadow, he's a hottie! And geez, people, actually read the thread! Shadow didn't have sex with him!
LisaLee Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 He is not what I was imagining at all! I had envisioned someone more muscular, blonde, and more preppy. He looks very relaxed. Nice!!!
USMCHokie Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I can't say I have a man-crush on him, but he looks like he'd fit your personality and taste. Well done.
AverageJoe Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Gross. And if this guy shares your attitude (which I doubt he does), that's all the more reason for Shadow to wait. They can still enjoy each other without doing the deed so quickly and catching feelings that he isn't worthy of her having. And Shadow, while he's not my type at all, he's definitely handsome (nice lips!!), and I can tell he's your type. This is going to gross you out even more. Many men share the same outlook as I do, especially if he is the 'alpha male' as described.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 This is going to gross you out even more. Many men share my same outlook as I do, especially if he is the 'alpha male' as described. I don't believe you. I've NEVER had a problem with a relationship minded guy waiting...EVER. But don't TJ, start your own thread on it if you want.
AverageJoe Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 I don't believe you. I've NEVER had a problem with a relationship minded guy waiting...EVER. But don't TJ, start your own thread on it if you want. Disagree as much as you like, it is true. However, she said she wasnt looking for a relationship. Hey, im just telling it like it is. It is relevant to the topic at hand, and she should know this. Men want to get laid. Some might wait six dates, many wont. GL Shadow.
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 there's some mention of my type in this thread. I'm curious, what do you guys see as my type?
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 there's some mention of my type in this thread. I'm curious, what do you guys see as my type? Physically? Ashton Kutcher. Tall, preppy yet arty, modelesque, intelligent guy in a trucker hat.
SouthernSunshine Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Hey, im just telling it like it is. It is relevant to the topic at hand, and she should know this. Men want to get laid. Some might wait six dates, many wont. GL Shadow. :laugh: :laugh:
stefspets Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Oooh, can I see his picture? I am excited for you! Have fun at the fair tomorrow. This is exactly what you needed, a little confidence booster. Men are attracted to you, both physically and mentally. Enjoy yourself and see how it goes!
Author shadowplay Posted September 24, 2010 Author Posted September 24, 2010 Oooh, can I see his picture? I am excited for you! Have fun at the fair tomorrow. This is exactly what you needed, a little confidence booster. Men are attracted to you, both physically and mentally. Enjoy yourself and see how it goes! Yeah, I just added you to my contacts.
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