Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks for answering all my questions, TBF. I really get a kick out of this sort of thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Marriage was the furthest thing from my mind at the time. I mean I was still legally married at the time he proposed! How crazy is THAT? But what can I say, sometimes you just know in your gut when something is right and meant to be.Yes, you were separated but only for a short time. Crazy times. I'm guessing that love potions do exist! Wish I could see Snowman. I missed them last night.I promise that the next time I upload him to an album, I'll tell you about it first! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks for answering all my questions, TBF. I really get a kick out of this sort of thing. You're welcome SG. Such a romantic. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Yes, you were separated but only for a short time. Yep...met him on the 3rd day into my separation! Crazy times. I'm guessing that love potions do exist! I promise that the next time I upload him to an album, I'll tell you about it first! YAY! Thanks, TBF. I can't wait to see. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Yes, you were separated but only for a short time. Crazy times. I'm guessing that love potions do exist! I promise that the next time I upload him to an album, I'll tell you about it first! I'd love to see his picture too when you repost! I'm curious to see how close my visual image is (based partly on the avatar you posted a few weeks ago of the Greek actor). Link to post Share on other sites
MindoverMatter Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Congratulations. I am usually not a big fan of long engagements, but in this case I'd say it's a wise choice. Hope all will be well. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I promise that the next time I upload him to an album, I'll tell you about it first! :mad: Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I promise that the next time I upload him to an album, I'll tell you about it first! Aww, can I see too? Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Next time we will hear TBF claim a bachelor party before wedding, aren't you western people do that? Link to post Share on other sites
ShoeGirl Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Congrats! That is exciting, and the ring is gorgeous! I hope I can catch the pictures sometime. I read through this would thread kinda fast so sorry if you already answered this, but did you have any idea that he was going to propose that night? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 That's what I get for even mentioning the pic. You guys are bad. Thanks MindoverMatter. I'm fairly confident things will work out but if it doesn't, I've been lucky to have him in my life. Lovelybird, I don't know what's going to happen for stags and stagettes. We've both had them in the past and aren't that big on having another set of them. We kind of threw around the idea of renting part of a nightclub and having both sets of friends, male and female, together. Thanks ShoeGirl. I had no idea he would do this, none what-so-ever. It shocked me. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 We kind of threw around the idea of renting part of a nightclub and having both sets of friends, male and female, together.. WB and I did this on New Years Eve. It was great. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 WB and I did this on New Years Eve. It was great. Hey, I'll bet it was fun! I've been to a few of these types of j&j bach parties and they're a blast. He's also been to some too and enjoyed them. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Do people really do those bacherlor/ette parties when it's a second marriage? Maybe it can just be an engagement party with both sets of friends/family like you were saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 Touche, I'm not sure what the etiquette for a second marriage is but the stag/stagette thing isn't something we both really want. We're a little too old to be staggering around from club to club, hammered out of our minds and we both don't do strippers, so there's no inspiration for a bach party. He's the only man I know who finds porn and strippers as funny as I do, not that I would begrudge him any of this, if he was into it in a reasonable manner. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Yes, I like the "grown up" version of the parties, mixing up the mutual friends and families, and enjoying the party TOGETHER. I've never had or believed in the "lets get puke drunk and flirt with scumbags" because :Gee, we want to spend our lives togather, concept. Didn't do it with the first H when we were 22 and 28, ( he thought it was stupid) or recently last oct. at 24 and 42. Again, he thought it was stupid, and BOTH times, we wanted to be TOGETHER, everything was more fun together, THAT's why we wanted to get married in the FIRST place ! You do realize TBF, you've given we LS ladies so much fun, girly, material to work with. By the time 2010 rolls around were going to have a bus going around the states and canada, picking us all up, to eventually BE at that afore mentioned party !!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 That would be both fun and hilarious mel! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 I'm with you, Mel. We never got that whole bacherlor/ette party thing either. Neither of us had them before our first marriages either...not our thing. It's good that you're on the same page with all that stuff, TBF. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 I had no idea he would do this, none what-so-ever. It shocked me. Really? Such a delightful surprise then! Interesting how some people can fool you (the general "you")... and you never see it coming. Crazy times indeed! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Really? Such a delightful surprise then! Interesting how some people can fool you (the general "you")... and you never see it coming. Crazy times indeed! Count me in then as another one who was "fooled!" I had NO idea he was going to propose either. I mean, as I said, I wasn't even legally divorced yet! Who knew? Yep, he's been "fooling me" now for 14 years! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 Count me in then as another one who was "fooled!" I had NO idea he was going to propose either. I mean, as I said, I wasn't even legally divorced yet! Who knew? Yep, he's been "fooling me" now for 14 years! I'm not worried about being fooled anymore. I've lived through it once and know I can and will survive. I'd just castrate him and move on! The bitterness that permeates this board sometimes, seriously makes you wonder how sad peoples' lives are. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 You know what though? I don't think you were really fooled the first time around. Your first instincts were right. You didn't really like him (the ex) at first, right? You just chose to ignore your first instincts (as did I.) Anyway, thankfully I haven't had reason to castrate mine. Hopefully you won't either! Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 The bitterness that permeates this board sometimes, seriously makes you wonder how sad peoples' lives are. Yes, it certainly does. I'm in TOTAL agreement with you there! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Just wanted to add that I'm laughing over here...only on LS can a surprise proposal (one of the happiest events in some people's lives) be twisted into something negative. Yep, the fact that you didn't know that your man was going to propose when he did is a HUGE red flag! Better watch it!:laugh::lmao: Yes this guy must be bad news to not alert you that he was going to do that! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 That's true about my ex. Didn't like him when I met him but after he pursued me for two years, changed my mind about him and fell in love. I will never ignore my gut instincts again. Lesson learned and reinforced. With my fiancé, I liked him on first meet. He's solid on the inside. Someone to lean on, someone dependable. Also, someone who's wickedly funny, who keeps me on my toes with wordplay but also challenges me intellectually with serious topics. Link to post Share on other sites
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