Touche Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Yes, if you look at my snowman thread, you can see how much I already knew about him within a few days. In two weeks, a lot more. Now, much, much more and not just from him or one source. Past experience always helps to reinforce the need to do the research. LS just reinforces it. I believe that about the car v. the fiancé/fiancée. Yes, in that we're similar. Yep. Perception is reality...as long as your perception is based on reality...and not in denial.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Well, first off, congrats on the engagement! Secondly, (you did know this was coming, especially asked by me) have you two had sex yet??? Or are you one those who's gonna wait till your wedding night. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Yep. Perception is reality...as long as your perception is based on reality...and not in denial.... No, not in denial...at all! Well, first off, congrats on the engagement! Secondly, (you did know this was coming, especially asked by me) have you two had sex yet??? Or are you one those who's gonna wait till your wedding night. Thanks wwiu! Wedding night? You've got to be kidding. I'd never marry anyone I haven't slept with. How would I know if he's compatible for something this important? For that matter, how could I resist? He's hawt, hawt, hawt! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks wwiu! Wedding night? You've got to be kidding. I'd never marry anyone I haven't slept with. How would I know if he's compatible for something this important? For that matter, how could I resist? He's hawt, hawt, hawt! That was a joke. OFCOURSE I know you're not going to wait till your wedding night. That's too long a way's.. Make a rule - NEVER go to bed angry with eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 That was a joke. OFCOURSE I know you're not going to wait till your wedding night. That's too long a way's.. Make a rule - NEVER go to bed angry with eachother. Yes, this is a very important rule. If you can't talk and resolve an issue before you go to bed, how can you have makeup sex? Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Congratulations!!! :bunny: And you're welcome for the encouragement back when he was just the tall, handsome stranger with a shovel :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks and double thanks allina. If you and SG hadn't pushed me, we wouldn't have gotten together that quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
citizen67 Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks Touche and yes, we've had our first fight. He's good at de-escalation and negotiation. Seems to understand that an olive branch isn't a throat-hold. Yes, it's the ring. Totally his choice. It's not what I would have picked out since it's a bit much but I love it because of what it represents. Edit - yes, summer 2010. VERY pretty ring! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks citizen67. Link to post Share on other sites
Crestfallen_KH Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Oh WOW! Many wishes for continued happiness and love! Congratulations, TBF! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks Crestfallen! Link to post Share on other sites
Dumbledore Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 He sounds quite desperate. Still, it's understandable. He probably expected to have his own children by now. Anyway, this is great news. Hopefully happy families will be right around the corner. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I have a question. Other than what he's told you, how do you know who he really is at his core? In other words, having not personally observed him through good times AND bad, how do you really know him? You're really relying on hearsay, don't you think? And how does he really know you? I guess I'm just asking this based on what I've learned about you. The speed of this whole thing just seems so against your character and temperament. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 I have a question. Other than what he's told you, how do you know who he really is at his core? In other words, having not personally observed him through good times AND bad, how do you really know him? You're really relying on hearsay, don't you think?I'm relying on hearsay from a number of trusted sources, personal observation and what's he's told me. I haven't seen any discrepancies. This doesn't guarantee anything but the next year and a half will help to alleviate any of those concerns. That's why it's a mini-leap of faith, the engagement period v. if I just dove into an immediate marriage. And how does he really know you?He doesn't, although I've been straight up with him, since he's straight up with me. I've instinctually trusted him because he's so solid. I've never had a sense of double-vision with him, like I've had in the past. I guess I'm just asking this based on what I've learned about you. The speed of this whole thing just seems so against your character and temperament.You're friggen' telling me... I've been thinking hard these past five days, wondering if this was a good move. That's why the 1.5 year engagement period is helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 He sounds quite desperate. Still, it's understandable. He probably expected to have his own children by now. Anyway, this is great news. Hopefully happy families will be right around the corner. I've uploaded some pics and are going to allow a select member to view it. Stargazer, would you mind telling Dumbledore if you think this man looks like the desperate type. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I wonder how many people just clicked on TBF's profile to see if they could see the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
lord alfred douglas Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 All I saw was a cat sitting on cottage cheese Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 i've uploaded some pics and are going to allow a select member to view it ..... ... Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 That is awesome....It's wonderful that you found each other!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Thanks gopher. 2009 has been a crazy year and it's barely begun! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Guess my smilie turned upside down worked...Sucka!! Definately a very good looking man. You have good taste. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 He does cook but it's very simple and healthy fare. Quite a bit of grilling, you know, guys and their love of flame and propane! Haha...proposal details...okay. We had dinner at my fave seafood restaurant, tucked away by the window, with candlelight. I gave him his present and he gave me mine, which was the gorgeous bracelet. I was floored by it, sitting stunned and now I'm wondering if my mouth was open. Attractive picture, right? So, he told me to put the bracelet on so he could see how it looked. Then he told me to give him my hand, so he could get a closer look at it, so I shifted over a bit and did so. He slid off his seat still holding my hand, got down on one knee and asked if I would spend my life with him. The look in his eyes brought tears to my eyes. I said yes and he slipped the ring onto my finger and was a perfect fit. He doesn't miss a detail, getting my ring size from my Mom. Even the bracelet was from a store I like, which he noticed from previous jewelry I wore. How can I not be amazed by someone like this? My goodness, a really beautiful scene Congradulations !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Okay. I saw the Snowman. He's ... ridiculously hawt. I'm officially sightly jealous. And the ring (or really, the ROCK) looks a LOT bigger in the other pictures. So yeah... I'm jealous. But then, I've got it good too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Guess my smilie turned upside down worked...Sucka!! Definately a very good looking man. You have good taste. Thanks! My goodness, a really beautiful scene Congradulations !!! Thanks Lovelybird! Okay. I saw the Snowman. He's ... ridiculously hawt. I'm officially sightly jealous. And the ring (or really, the ROCK) looks a LOT bigger in the other pictures. So yeah... I'm jealous. But then, I've got it good too. Haha...you have nothing to be jealous about. September... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Yes, a pic or two will tell us all about him. After all, perception is reality. I wonder how many people just clicked on TBF's profile to see if they could see the picture. All I saw was a cat sitting on cottage cheese I can't see the snowman..oh well. I tried. All I saw was the cat too! Link to post Share on other sites
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