Trimmer Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I love it, you're just the no beating around get to it guy. Haha! Yeah, it sounds like TanBark isn't so much into beating "around" the bush, as being IN it... I mean, really, I was just curious. Men, do you like it when a girl dominates you in bed? I like it, but I haven't always been with guys that like me to do it. Is it like a superiority thing? I love taking control, putting a guy on his back, doing what I want to do. But then, I love pleasing the guy, it really does it for me. At first, I agreed with Monty: yeah, I like it when she takes control, not the whole dom/sub thing, but take the lead, take control, push me down on my back and do me.... Then coco says "nothing gets me hotter then being held down and 'made' to do what he likes", and yeah, ahem, <shifts in seat> that sounds really great, too. Then I read: Wow, when I DID have sex... Well now there's no sex for me so as I've said, I like to at least talk about it. It kind of alleviates the frustration you know what I mean? I miss it....I miss.....IT! I miss doing that. It's been about 1.5 years! Geeze! The hot water, the mist, the sight of the water dripping down each other.... Ok I'm done now! ...and I realize, of course! That's my deal here: I'm just an out-of-practice total horndog, and naturally it all sounds good to me... But seriously, the idea of either person taking control and the other person relinquishing it - in either direction - goes to trust, and is very arousing to me... Right then. Off to a cold shower now (alone! ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Right then. Off to a cold shower now (alone! ) Alone? Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, both ways ARE good, but it depends on alot of things I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 A petite girl who likes video games and boning at 3am. When are you getting back to the states? I was thinking the exact same thing.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 I was thinking the exact same thing.... Again, not soon enough. Sigh. I sure do miss it there. The food, the shops, the job I had, my car I sold, the bars, the dancing, the bars, the friends, the bars. Pool, bowling, pubs. geeze this island blows. Link to post Share on other sites
bozwa Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thanks a lot, People. Now I'm all horny and crap. And I'm at WORK! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thanks a lot, People. Now I'm all horny and crap. And I'm at WORK! Hey, bozwa, it's ok, I'm horny quite alot. Welcome to the party! Link to post Share on other sites
jdeedee Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thanks a lot, People. Now I'm all horny and crap. And I'm at WORK! Welcome to the last 6 hours of my life Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Welcome to the last 6 hours of my life Seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Welcome to the last 6 hours months of my life ...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 ...... 4 months for me and I'm stuck on this island! Can't wait to get off it. We should move this to the talk about anything thread. Starting now. Link to post Share on other sites
cracked1 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I mean, really, I was just curious. Men, do you like it when a girl dominates you in bed? I like it, but I haven't always been with guys that like me to do it. Is it like a superiority thing? I love taking control, putting a guy on his back, doing what I want to do. But then, I love pleasing the guy, it really does it for me. Guys, what's your take? Ladies, any experience stories? That's my problem with porn. I love dominant women. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 That's my problem with porn. I love dominant women. Raise your hand if you're a dominating woman *raises hand* Link to post Share on other sites
jdeedee Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 That's my problem with porn. I love dominant women. Ah porn. I have a love/hate relationship with it. I actually can't stand the stuff but since I don't have many options at this point I decided to find the most repectable porn I could, you may like http://www.ifeelmyself.com/ It's not about dominating women, persay, but it is about the female orgasm. Kind of artsy independant porn Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 I've never had to go to porn, even sexless as I am. But most men turn to it. Why is that? That I don't need it, just because I'm female? Link to post Share on other sites
jdeedee Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I've never had to go to porn, even sexless as I am. But most men turn to it. Why is that? That I don't need it, just because I'm female? I think women are better at fantasy than men. That would definetly be my experiences with my ex, she loved fantasy and while I am excellent at writing and interacting with people regarding sex I cannot just fantasize about some encounter in my mind. If I am masturbating without porn I need to think about a past experience, as my main focus during the act is the female involved, her expressions, reactions, etc. If it's not too personal -- when you do fantasize do you think of some generic everyman or is it someone specific? I have to think of someone specific and where I am in my life right now, that wouldn't work for me. I'd feel sad, lonely, depressed and kind of guilty. Link to post Share on other sites
cracked1 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I've never had to go to porn, even sexless as I am. But most men turn to it. Why is that? That I don't need it, just because I'm female? Its complicated and i'm trying to figure it all out. As far as i can see porn is an outlet for desires you are either ashamed of or can't fulfill. It doesn't hurt anyone or demean anyone other than yourself because you are having no interaction with people. Best guess.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 I don't fantasize much, but when I do it USED top be a person, now it's just the act. No specific person you know? I guess because there's no one I desire in specific, so I just picture the act with out a face or an actual guy. I still dominate sometimes in the fantasies though, but I have specific imagery in my mind that really does it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 As far as i can see porn is an outlet for desires you are either ashamed of or can't fulfill. I What an interesting idea. The shame and unfulfilled outlet. See with me there's no shame, and in my opinion, nothing I can't fulfill. But that's a great theory right there! Link to post Share on other sites
jdeedee Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I don't fantasize much, but when I do it USED top be a person, now it's just the act. No specific person you know? I guess because there's no one I desire in specific, so I just picture the act with out a face or an actual guy. I still dominate sometimes in the fantasies though, but I have specific imagery in my mind that really does it. With porn it's about the act for me too, I think I even use sex to validate myself as a person. What I mean by that is when I am watching porn it's the little things that really get me off, knowing she is actually enjoying the act so her thighs contracting, heavy breathing, facial expressions, twitching toes. Those are the things that get me going above all else. Link to post Share on other sites
cracked1 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I've never had to go to porn, even sexless as I am. But most men turn to it. Why is that? That I don't need it, just because I'm female? I think that's just a personal preference not based on male or female but i do think men generally are stimulated graphically more than women. Women seem to have more need for emotional bonding than men. Maybe... Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 Raise your hand if you're a dominating woman *raises hand* *raises hand* Guilty of being a dominating woman.... Link to post Share on other sites
cracked1 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 With porn it's about the act for me too, I think I even use sex to validate myself as a person. What I mean by that is when I am watching porn it's the little things that really get me off, knowing she is actually enjoying the act so her thighs contracting, heavy breathing, facial expressions, twitching toes. Those are the things that get me going above all else. For me porn has stripped me of my spiritualality and i can't deny it. I love everything about women and every sort of imagery from skirts, nylons, smiles, eyes etc etc etc... The fact remains that it is unfulfilling satisfying our needs that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 *raises hand* Guilty of being a dominating woman.... Sweet! There's more of me out there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 I think that's just a personal preference not based on male or female but i do think men generally are stimulated graphically more than women. Women seem to have more need for emotional bonding than men. Maybe... You are very wise, I believe too that there is an emotional need a bit more on the woman's side. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 For me porn has stripped me of my spiritualality and i can't deny it. The fact remains that it is unfulfilling satisfying our needs that way. I have often thought of the spiritual contradiction. And I've often thought it would leave one hollow in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
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