littlepiggy1 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 yeah its "just a fantasy" but what if these guys really WANT these girls? theyre girlfriend is so-so because THE MALE is so-so and he can't get any better. blah. If that's the case, then porn isn't really the issue is it? Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Besides, when I view porn my girl is always part of the fantasty. exactly, when im watching porn its like yeah its some chick but in my mind im imagining that im doing that to my gf Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 exactly, when im watching porn its like yeah its some chick but in my mind im imagining that im doing that to my gf you are so full of **** Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Nope sorry I do not have to accept something I do not find aceptable by becoming a lesbian or a nun. It doesnt matter what you find unacceptable, you dont dictate the persons life However I will make sure I am with someone who respects me enough understand my feelings on this issue. Yet on the flip side, you dont respect the man enough to understand his feelings on the issue? Its a double edged sword you know, it seems you're implying you'd dump a guy who looks at porn, if so..thats very sad and immature. Really, if you're that against a guy looking at porn, its very simple : dont try to catch him doing it, dont be fishing through his internet history. Hell, you shouldnt be doing that anyways while we're on the issue of respect. Just so you know I am a women and I HATE shopping. I can think of 1000 things I would rather do then stand in long lines in hot stores buying stuff I really don't need. it was just an example. Replace shopping with whatever you want..shoes, clothes, etc. Oh and if you hate all of those, please dont come back saying you do, I hope you could understand the point I'm trying to make. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 hmm.. hasn't anyone ever heard of you take what you can get? to some guys, these girls in porn are unreachable to them except, of course, in a porn. yeah its "just a fantasy" but what if these guys really WANT these girls? theyre girlfriend is so-so because THE MALE is so-so and he can't get any better. blah. So you'd be ok if your guy wasn't actually looking at porn, but was fantasizing about hot women doing things he'd never actually want you or anyone else to do with him in real life? Or are all of his fantasies to be of you and you only? Don't you ever fantasize when you masturbate? What do you fantasize about? Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 you are so full of **** Not really. Granted it isnt everytime, but a good majority I do think of doing whatever is going on to her. Meh, what can I say, I love her. A lot of times the reason I got horny in the first place is because I was thinking of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 you are so full of **** You are so cynical. Just because you have never been with a woman hot enough to masturbate to... Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 It doesnt matter what you find unacceptable, you dont dictate the persons life Maybe not but I do dictate whether or not I date someone who does things I don't agree with. Yet on the flip side, you dont respect the man enough to understand his feelings on the issue? Its a double edged sword you know, it seems you're implying you'd dump a guy who looks at porn, if so..thats very sad and immature. Really, if you're that against a guy looking at porn, its very simple : dont try to catch him doing it, dont be fishing through his internet history. Hell, you shouldnt be doing that anyways while we're on the issue of respect. I don't look through his internet history. Its not immature to dump a guy who looks at porn. I find porn disgusting and if I don't want to date someone who doesn't masturbates to porn that is my choice. it was just an example. Replace shopping with whatever you want..shoes, clothes, etc. Oh and if you hate all of those, please dont come back saying you do, I hope you could understand the point I'm trying to make Well you told me not to say I hate these things so I can't reply to this. Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Well I guess I should be more specific. I don't really have a problem watching porn with my boyfriend, my problem comes when it is him alone masturbating to a picture of some random chick. Sorry in my mind that is totally disrespectful. I know many of you will disagree with me and that is fine, we are both entitled to our opinon. I work very hard to look good for my bf and him masturbating while looking at some other chick is just wrong in my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I am baffled that men keep comparing porn to shopping. Shopping is in no way sexual, and it's not like we're thinking, damn, if I could only have this pair of shoes instead of my boyfriend. It's apples and oranges and just makes absolutely no sense to me. Unless the point you're making is that sex is as meaningless to men as shopping is to women. If you have a couple of hours to kill, you go have sex? what is your girlfriend so upset about, it's just sex? The bottom line is, no one has to accept anything they don't feel is right. She doesn't have to have a boyfriend who is into porn if that is something she feels is wrong. HE doesn't have to have a girlfriend who feels porn is wrong. You have to find someone who feels the same way you do about things, and the only way to find out is to talk about it. Telling her that her feelings are stupid and don't matter seems a little defensive to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Porn i similiar to vibrators. I have no issue with my wife having her various devices and she has no issue with my porn. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I am baffled that men keep comparing porn to shopping. . :lmao: I would prefer porn over shopping.... H would love the shopping spree and want to skip the porn..... unless maybe he was shopping for it. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Well I guess I should be more specific. I don't really have a problem watching porn with my boyfriend, my problem comes when it is him alone masturbating to a picture of some random chick. Sorry in my mind that is totally disrespectful. I know many of you will disagree with me and that is fine, we are both entitled to our opinon. I work very hard to look good for my bf and him masturbating while looking at some other chick is just wrong in my mind. It's a very personal thing. You don't have to answer but do you masturbate alone? Who do you think about? Maybe you should free yourself a little more. I believe in monogomy, but with this closed up, restrained view of sexuality, masturbation and fantasy, I really think you are limiting your own growth. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I believe in monogomy, but with this closed up, restrained view of sexuality, masturbation and fantasy, I really think you are limiting your own growth. See, I disagree. I don't think that feeling that watching porn alone is disrespectful to her makes her views about sex closed. This is just something she doesn't agree with. Someone saying they have different views about sex than you do doesn't make them wrong. It is possible for people to have different opinions and still both be right. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 See, I disagree. I don't think that feeling that watching porn alone is disrespectful to her makes her views about sex closed. This is just something she doesn't agree with. Someone saying they have different views about sex than you do doesn't make them wrong. It is possible for people to have different opinions and still both be right. I am actually refering to some of the comments made in her earlier posts. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I am actually refering to some of the comments made in her earlier posts. Oh, oops, sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 I just saw an interview with Julianne Moore and David Duchovny about their new movie (Trust the Man), and David just reminded everyone: "Men Like Porn." :lmao::lmao: I'll bet even Brad Pitt watches porn. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
DarkShadows Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 What did David have to say? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 What did David have to say? I guess there's a scene in the movie where he and his wife are going to watch porn together...like, she would watch and describe what was happening while he just layed back...and she kept focusing on how the people looked and razor burn and ick and ew...so it didn't turned out to be this erotic thing, but a silly thing... Then the ladies interviewing and Julianne all went into hysterics about how dull porn is and how it's like gynecologist training films... and David kept quiet during the hysterics and laughter, and then when they quieted down he said, "All I have to say is: Men Like Porn." And that's it. They went to commercial. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Men like hookers, too. Link to post Share on other sites
DarkShadows Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Men like anything with boobs... Except their own girlfriend. *lol* Never satisfied. Has anyone seen this movie yet? I was wondering if it would be a wake up call for my boyfriend. If it's in the sense of this is wrong.. or whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 And any woman who objects to a man sleeping around on her is just "insecure." Link to post Share on other sites
littlepiggy1 Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 Men like hookers, too. This man doesn't. Ew. Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 It's a very personal thing. You don't have to answer but do you masturbate alone? Who do you think about? Maybe you should free yourself a little more. I believe in monogomy, but with this closed up, restrained view of sexuality, masturbation and fantasy, I really think you are limiting your own growth. If I masturbate alone I usually either don't have any thoughts in my head or I think of my bf. (yeah I know you think I am lying but that is your opinion) It just takes more for me to get turned on by a guy then a nice face and hot body. And just curious which one of my earlier posts were you referring to? Just wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
megnog Posted September 9, 2006 Share Posted September 9, 2006 i agree with rainfall. i've thought about strange men with hot bodies vs. my boyfriend and my boyfriend always wins. i think it might be different for some men? anyway so my boyfriend definately has lots of porn and i can tell hes the kind of guy that is obsessed with naked women (or maybe thats just the paranoia? ) but um he always sarcastically jokes (in a very negative way) that i have a vibrator or something of that sort. i don't. but it seems like he would be upset if i did. and then ALSO he asks me what i watch (IF i decide to look at porn) and was surprised that i looked at porn blah blah blah.. so like... isn't that kind of one-sided? it pisses me off but i don't know what i can do about it! i'd rather us just not use porn as a method to get off, rather.. we could use ourselves? i mean damn why do guys feel like they need to get off every 2 hours? also, do guys masturbate to previous girlfriends when they are with someone else? i found a sex tape of my bf and his ex (left a scar in my mind) waaayy back and well.. does anyone else suspect that he used it as a tool for getting off while him and I were dating? i find that wrong, does anyone else? i will never know for sure, of course, but i figured he did. that hurts me Link to post Share on other sites
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