soberminded Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Most likely you would be eliminated by one of her dealbreakers....so she probably wouldn't want to date you either just a thought... Not necessarily. I should elaborate by saying that if she's dating me only because of my looks or high powered career then I intend to stay away from her. For example I'm not a smoker but if one her dealbreakers is not to date a guy who smokes then I would not date her for the very reason that she prefers not to date a guy who smokes. It does not bother me that my gf smokes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheSilentType Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 You know there could also be a flip side to a girl like you describe. What if she just always seemed to be a bum magnet and then one day a nice guy comes along and treats her with respect and cares for her like a princess. She could have a deep understanding for how special that guy really is… Oh and right on ripples... No, I don't want to be the sucker that inherits this type of person. There is a lot to be said by the company a person chooses to keep. If she chooses to be with losers and to love these said losers, then to me there isn't something quite right about her. Frankly, I don't want to deal with that problem. Personally, I would never knowingly initiate a relationship with this type of girl. But say I got to know a girl and initially she seemed ok...but then later I found out how many guys she's slept with and what type of people they were....then I would have second thoughts on whether I wanted to be with her. And if she wasn't open, forthright, and honest about her past and I later found out....I would be pretty upset....and then I'd use her and throw her away. Oh, and all these people are getting hung up because I said "use and abuse." I would never physically abuse any girl I was with, even if I didn't like the type of person she was. Absolutely never. But I probably wouldn't care too much about her feelings or her emotional needs....if that's emotional abuse...then whatever. There's no need to be cruel, but you don't have to be nice to trashy girls. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Personally, I would never knowingly initiate a relationship with this type of girl. But say I got to know a girl and initially she seemed ok...but then later I found out how many guys she's slept with and what type of people they were....then I would have second thoughts on whether I wanted to be with her. And if she wasn't open, forthright, and honest about her past and I later found out....I would be pretty upset....and then I'd use her and throw her away. i would say you are setting yourself up for this very situation. you expect honesty and perfection at the same time, i think this is unlikely. i dated a guy who began calling me a "good girl" and calling other women who picked up guys for the night "sluts", of course i called him on this, but i also began to feel i couldnt be honest with him. actually the fact that he thought it was okay to use these "sluts" was a dealbreaker for me, i also noticed that he had other immaturities to go with this immature attitude. Oh, and all these people are getting hung up because I said "use and abuse." yeah, whats wrong with those people but you don't have to be nice to trashy girls.no you dont have to be nice to anybody, but if you are not nice to somebody, is it really their fault or yours? so you will not be nice, because you can get away with it, in other words. you say that you cant have a relationship with a girl who sleeps with low-lifes, yet you would sleep with a girl who in your opinion is a low-life. so you believe then in this double standard? do you consider yourself a desirable partner? what are the reasons you believe it is okay for a guy to sleep with anybody but not for a girl to do the same? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 TheSilentType, you want a girl who is meek, sweet, wears no make-up, yet she's had a huge disappointemtn in her life and is one-dimensional. That's pretty hard to find, but if you find one, you'll have her because... nobody wants her! Seriously, I think you will meet somone simple and sweet some day and fall in love thinkng that it's exactly what you were looking for, even if she is religious or doesn't wear dresses. When I was choosing a second husband (how funny that sounds! ), I had a long list of discrimination (on a personal level), but since all the profiles on the dating sites were so perfect, I had a hard time eliminating anyone. Well I was looking for an educated, honorable, Jewish guy with a good sense of humor and charm that would captivate me and most of all, who would my children. My second husband fits in what I was looking for. My first husband was the opposite of what I've always wanted in a man, even on paper (except for the sense of humor). Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 So he was uneducated, dishonorable, non Jewish, and no charm? Why did you marry him! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 My deal breakers 1.If he goes to strip clubs and/or gets lap dances there is no chance for us 2.being mean to animals 3.wanting kids 4.expecting me to be a good little house wife/gf and cook and clean for him 5.has the attitude that "the customer is always right" and treats employees at fastfood type jobs like servants 6.drives a truck with those huge wheels where you need a step ladder to get inside the vechile 7.doesn't treat me with respect 8.would rather look at porn then have sex with me... (not saying if he looks at porn it is a deal breaker just if he prefers it to me) Link to post Share on other sites
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