newbby Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 i hadnt looked at this particular thread for awhile. now that i have, i agree, she cannot be for real. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Why would i be spending all this time on here typing things out that arent for real?? And just to set the record straight i am not a small child, i am 22 years old so my parents cant control me, not that they ever try, they couldnt care what i get up to as long as it doesnt harm them. And just to let all the others know who know i am legit. I had to call him today to arrange more blood tests for my next visit, and i called him at work, i told him all the blood test stuff i needed to and then said thanks for Monday, i had a real good time and hope we can do it again soon. He didnt say anything but "thanks mandy, will organise those tests for you" and hung up. He called later and said in a domineering voice "please dont mention anything at work, i know its all innocent, but people talk" What is that meant to mean? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Why would i be spending all this time on here typing things out that arent for real?? And just to set the record straight i am not a small child, i am 22 years old so my parents cant control me, not that they ever try, they couldnt care what i get up to as long as it doesnt harm them. And just to let all the others know who know i am legit. I had to call him today to arrange more blood tests for my next visit, and i called him at work, i told him all the blood test stuff i needed to and then said thanks for Monday, i had a real good time and hope we can do it again soon. He didnt say anything but "thanks mandy, will organise those tests for you" and hung up. He called later and said in a domineering voice "please dont mention anything at work, i know its all innocent, but people talk" What is that meant to mean? I know your parents can't control you at 22, but damn, I was 24 and my parents gave me HELL over it. And I've never had to have blood work for the dentist. Is that normal? I think you should wanting a relationship with this guy. Why would you pursue a MM? Maybe it means he doesn't want you to tell anybody you guys hung out.. people tend to come to their own conclusions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 erika2610 - Am scared of needles and avoid them at all costs, thats why having teeth under sedation via oral pills first LOL My specialist required blood tests which were done last time and he needed one more done this time for me health problem, i am having this done Monday and the specialist had no time to organise it so asked me to do it instead. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 erika2610 - Am scared of needles and avoid them at all costs, thats why having teeth under sedation via oral pills first LOL My specialist required blood tests which were done last time and he needed one more done this time for me health problem, i am having this done Monday and the specialist had no time to organise it so asked me to do it instead. Why are you actively pursuing a MM? Why? Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 erika2610: I am pursuing him because we connect, there is a special chemistry between us. I am not going to walk away just because he is married. If he turned around and said to me "Back off i am married" then i would, but since he responds and accepts my advances(if u could even call them that) i will keep going for him. It obviously doesnt bother him that he's married. I am not the bad one here, if he didnt want anything with me, he's old enough to tell me so. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 erika2610: I am pursuing him because we connect, there is a special chemistry between us. I am not going to walk away just because he is married. If he turned around and said to me "Back off i am married" then i would, but since he responds and accepts my advances(if u could even call them that) i will keep going for him. It obviously doesnt bother him that he's married. I am not the bad one here, if he didnt want anything with me, he's old enough to tell me so. JUST BECAUSE he's married? That's a big deal. And he's a man, yea, he's gonna accept your advances. You're not the bad one, no.. but you should know better. Haven't you read the millions of posts in this forum from heartbroken girls who were in the situation? And most of us were chased by the MM.. some didn't know they were married. I don't understand why someone would pursue the MM knowing what they know. If you haven't read alot of posts, read them. It's a horrible situation to be in. You give and give and give. And 99% of the time, get nothing in return. I was with my MM for over a year, he chased me for a year before that. I gave and gave. I even got my own apartment to be with him more. When I needed him, he basically spit in my face. Being with a MM is nothing but stress and heartache that nobody deserves. Go find a single man who can give you everything you deserve.. because a MM can't. He's already giving it to his wife.. that's his #1 priority. On birthday's and holidays, he'll be with the fam. When you're sick and need somebody, he's with the family. You can't call his house. You can't just stop by when you're in the neighborhood. it's not fun.. now why would you knowingly get yourself into this? Link to post Share on other sites
Tiny Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I feel really sorry for Mandy, 22 yrs old and unable to find a meaningful relationship with a guy who just wants to love her for herself. You must have a very low sense of self worth, if your happy just wanting to be a sex puppet for an old lech. Come on girl see the woods and not just the trees, before you end up "just another casualty" ffs WAKE UP. ps: If this is just a wind up, as it obviously feels, then i've been suckered too but i'm used to that. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I'm still not convinced this is real - it is too much like a stereotype of what someone who hates OW will write when pretending to be an OW. IF it is, though... He called later and said in a domineering voice "please dont mention anything at work, i know its all innocent, but people talk" It means he wants to remind you of your place, and that your worth to him lies in how well you keep your mouth shut. He is ashamed of what people will think of him for messing with you, and afraid of what he stands to lose if he is caught. My specialist required blood tests which were done last time and he needed one more done this time for me health problem, i am having this done Monday and the specialist had no time to organise it so asked me to do it instead. This absolutely cannot be real. Link to post Share on other sites
scarletletter Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Hi Mandy, I think you have a real situation here...and one that is going to become even more real as time goes on. I wish you the very best in whatever you decide. I am never going to judge you or any one else in this room because that is not why we are here...for support, not to be knocked down and told we are a fake...which is ridiculous. I hope you find everything that you are looking for and I really hope that you don't get hurt. I will be around the forum to see how things are going with you. I know that in the end, you are going to do what you want, just like I did, but it helps to know that someone else is going through the same thing. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 because we connect, there is a special chemistry between us You poor, naive, deluded little thing. That 'special chemistry' is you having a crush on him and believing that the lust he's feeling for you (that he feels for probably 75% of the female population) is somehow 'special'. You're not 'special' to him other than that you have too little self-respect to reject a married man so he has some hope of getting laid. Which you will mistake for 'love' and 'romance' the way all naive females do. Until they finally realize they were only used and the 'love' was just a word he used to get her into bed. Keep a copy of this thread and read it in six months or so and you'll be furious at how right I and the others are and how foolish you were to ignore all our warnings. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 He called later and said in a domineering voice "please dont mention anything at work, i know its all innocent, but people talk" What is that meant to mean? and how did this make you feel? excited because it confirmed that it isnt innocent or ashamed because you realised you are his dirty secret? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 He called later and said in a domineering voice "please dont mention anything at work, i know its all innocent, but people talk" What is that meant to mean? Mandy, come on...He explained why. He doesn't want ANYBODY at work to know you and him are socializing outside his office. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure that one out. People will gossip and he doesn't want that to happen! He's such a fool, people are talking NOW and that is why he said that to you. I am not the bad one here, if he didnt want anything with me, he's old enough to tell me so. You aren't bad, but your actions ARE! You are allowing it to happen. Boy, what comes around goes around...You're so young right now and maybe one day when you're married and have kids of your own - A situation like this could happen to you...Just keep that in mind, k. You could be the WIFE, and some young girl is going after your husband, welcoming his advances... Bet you'll be real happy then. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I am not going to walk away just because he is married. / I am not the bad one here, if he didnt want anything with me, he's old enough to tell me so.The hell you're not! Not walking away because he's married makes you the harlot! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Harlot scarlot. Sorry, it popped into my head and kinda fits... Mandy - I don't know what else to say to you...Just remember that right now you have the power to say NO. In afew more weeks you won't be able to get out of this wreck waiting to happen. It's really sad that you can't see or understand ONE word that we're all saying. You're so caught up in this little warped fantasy. Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 but since he responds and accepts my advances If you smarten up one day and get a man who is not married fall in love and get married would you want some office fluzy pursuing your husband?Anyway you look at this you are not walking off into the sunset happily ever after.Find someone who isn't married. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 24, 2005 Author Share Posted November 24, 2005 scarletletter - Thanks for your advice and thanks for not judging me. I can't believe that some people here think I am making all this up. I must have a real big imagination to "come up" with all this stuff. I am not really fussed though, people can believe what they want to believe, you can never please everyone and no matter what u do someone is always going to have a nag and a whinge about something. Mean time i am sitting here waiting on my MM to call me back, he's at work right now, and calls between patients when he gets a chance, we are arranging what to do tomorrow night. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Think about where his lips were last night as you kiss him, when it progresses as it will, you can wonder is that his wife you are tasting or is it your imagination...when he tells you that you are special, different from anyone he's ever met and that he's never known love until you, just remember that you're not the first he's said that to and you won't be the last. When you come back here in 6 months crying the blues about your cake eater not wanting to leave his wife because of the kids, or that he'd lose everything in the divorce, or it wouldn't look good in his profession, etc. I'll be standing in line to say "I told you so." Finally remember that if he is capable of lying to the woman that he made a marriage vow to (his wife), that he is capable of doing the same to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 25, 2005 Author Share Posted November 25, 2005 Craig - If things work out the way everyone in here says it will, then i am bound to have my heart broken big time. But its worth the chance. Right now i am happy with MM. Nothing happened much last night......he came over.....was meant to come over tonight, but couldnt wait to see me so he came over last night and will come over again tonight.....We have progressed to the hugging and kissing stage but thats about it for now. I am having my teeth done Monday, thats going to be interesting, how he's going to concentrate doing his job knowing his tongue was in my mouth just days before. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Craig - If things work out the way everyone in here says it will, then i am bound to have my heart broken big time. But its worth the chance. Right now i am happy with MM. Nothing happened much last night......he came over.....was meant to come over tonight, but couldnt wait to see me so he came over last night and will come over again tonight.....We have progressed to the hugging and kissing stage but thats about it for now. I am having my teeth done Monday, thats going to be interesting, how he's going to concentrate doing his job knowing his tongue was in my mouth just days before. No it's not worth the chance.. not at all. Read all of our stories. Does it seem like it was worth it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 25, 2005 Author Share Posted November 25, 2005 erika2610 - Yes I have read all the other stories, and yes I do think it is worth following my HEART instead of my head. I like to live dangerously and thats exactly what I am doing. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Why ask for advice then? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 erika2610 - Yes I have read all the other stories, and yes I do think it is worth following my HEART instead of my head. I like to live dangerously and thats exactly what I am doing. Then obviously everybody's wating their time. You just don't wanna listen. You know what you're headed for.. and don't care. And no.. it's not worth it. No no non non no. I lost most of my friends and family over it. And I had close to $1000 worth of damage done to my car over the whole thing. Not to mention the feeling like a fool when it was over, realizing I had been used for over a year. Lied to for over a year. And then when I needed him, he basically spit in my face. It was heartbreaking. Not to mention meeting his family a few times, and actually seeing what I was doing. The innocent family who doesn't deserve it. I have a hard time believeing that anybody would knowingly get themselves into this & go and pursue a MM. You must like to be hurt.. that's all I can think of. And to go and brag about it like they're proud of it to top it off.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goingforgold Posted November 25, 2005 Author Share Posted November 25, 2005 erika2610 - I am really sorry that u had that experience. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 erika2610 - I am really sorry that u had that experience. Thank You - but most of us have had experiences like that .. that's why I said it's not worth it. And I just don't understand why that with all this information, you would still pursue a MM.. Link to post Share on other sites
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