kgcolonel Posted June 13, 2018 Posted June 13, 2018 Yes, Ser...it is too early....today's generation is marrying much later than my gen....my son is 29 and he's in no rush. Her comment is interesting in that she still didn't see the wrong in the trip and the itinerary...i.e. one room etc.... This solidifies the fact that you two are not a good match. The upside that I hope you can focus on is "finding that person who shares your values and loyalty". That is the pot of gold you're seeking, not someone who would do what she did and ignore your discomfort. Who knows what actually went on with her and her friend but never the less, it caused you trouble and that is sufficient enough. Thank you for the follow up and do not get discouraged.
Author SerPundnes Posted July 17, 2018 Author Posted July 17, 2018 Hey guys, I think I've become quite the douchebag .. I keep stringing her along, because of me feeling lonely at times. We talked a bit about us a few weeks ago and she asked if we were going somewhere and I told her "We'll see". I know I didn't lie when I said that, because I want it to work, but 5 days a week I don't want it to work, I wanna be away from her and do my own things. We were both on seperate partys this Saturday and she kept sending snapchats of her and other boys, wich made me a bit irritated (was a bit drunk) and sent her a message explaining how she hasn't changed one bit from earlier in the relationship. She called me up and I basically dumped her on the phone, as soon as she hung up I blocked her everywhere. This lead to her friends starting to call me telling me how I'm a piece of sh*t etc .. I just ignored it all and kept having a good time at the party I was on. Oh, one of her friends said she threw her phone into the ground wich messed up the phone, so that's why these friends callled. Now my ex has started contacting my friends asking if she could call them and talk to them. Deep down I know I don't want her, but deep down I think I want some of this drama. What on earth is wrong with me?
Sunlight72 Posted July 17, 2018 Posted July 17, 2018 What is wrong with you is that like almost everyone, you want to be special and you want someone to like you in a special way. The solution is to actually keep the no contact with her you started at the party when you blocked her social media and phone number. But there is something more important that you don't seem to understand. 1 - it is very difficult for a person (you) to just stop any behavior (like being in touch with your ex). You need to add something to your schedule for you to put your time and energy into. That way, you've got something better to do than speaking with her/thinking about her. Spend more time with your family, work, other friends, take little trips out of the house - something. Go to the Library. Something. 2 - Since we all want to feel special to someone, I would suggest that you start feeling more special to yourself, and seek that feeling less from her or any other person. Look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Slap your shoulder or biceps when you stand up. Strut around your own house for your own self. When you go outside give the mailman or a neighbor a big smile and wave and remind yourself how nice it is for you to have them as a neighbor, and also how nice it is for them to have you as a neighbor. You have all the tools you need to get more centered. Take out your tools, and build yourself - by yourself - for yourself. Best Wishes, Sunlight 1
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