Author Jclements00 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 I don't babysit her kids they are old enough to watch themselves. I don't text her nearly as much as I used to. It does aggravate me what she does and I get tempted to text and ask but I'm getting more and more to the point of just not caring and I know I shouldn't care when she doesn't. She even tells me she will block my texts at time so what's the point. But like last night she wasn't here still isn't back today yet she let her daughter have a friend sleep over. I texted her that unless she's here no one besides her kids sleeps here cause it's BS she isn't here all night and day. I seriously cannot wait to move out and not have to deal with that's messy loud kids running around all the time. She wonders why her kids don't listen to her and are the way they are when she never raised them right. And don't dare call her a bad mother cause she claims she does everything for them. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 My thing I mean wife didn't come home last night and still isn't here this morning. Her kids slept here though. That's so aggravating if her kids sleep here she needs to sleep here. Sick and tired of her doing what she wants with no care for her own kids it's so pathetic. She says she does everything for them. I said it's BS she only cares about herself and her girlfriend. Which the other night when we talked she wanted it to work out with her girlfriend so bad and the next morning she says her girlfriend was with her other girlfriend and she didn't care. So why in the world would my wife date a girl and hope it works out when the girl has another girlfriend? She makes zero sense and she has a lot to figure out. You need to move ASAP. And you need to call CPS - she doesn't intend to make her kids a priority and is neglecting them. Lying about how much time she's with them is just showing her denial. Get those kids help. It's not even about her anymore but the kids need help. She's so selfish she's not likely to give up her girlfriend to be a decent Mom. When do you move? It can't be soon enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 I move in 3-5 weeks when the place I want is ready and I have my income taxes to afford to move and buy all the things I need like a bed food cleaning supplies whatever. Right now I don't have much as I gave away what I had before I got married and all the furniture is my wife's. The place I'm moving to has all the appliances in it even a microwave washer and dryer. I have a decent free sofa a friend is giving me so I just need a bed and food and household items really. I should get more than enough taxes back to get all that plus stuff like curtains rugs that I already have but need new ones cause it's a small mobile home I'm wanting and I really wanna make it look as awesome as possible. Been living in a two bedroom apartment the last three years. The inside decor doesn't match here it's not the best decorated apartment and I may be wanting too much for myself but I really want this new place to have an awesome modern look and feel to it you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 I'm seriously considering calling the CPS but I don't want to cause any problems so I'll wait till I leave. She hasn't seen her girlfriend all weekend I don't think and I think the way she's acting something happened with them cause she seems more depressed and not saying much about her. Maybe she'll spend more time with her kids if she's not stuck up the girls butt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 So tonight I go to watch Netflix and it won't let me cause my wife is watching it in her bed and her daughter on her phone. Only two users can watch at a time and it's my account I pay for. I told her nicely one of them had to get off I'd let her decide. She says how bout you watch something else. I said its my account how about I make it to where no one but me watches it. She gets mad says cut it all off and pack your stuff and go. I said stop being a $@?&! I was being nice about it. I was real tempted to delete her stuff on my account but I'm so tired of fighting I'll just sit back and watch her get what she deserves on her own. I'm leaving her alone now and letting her ruin her own life. Link to post Share on other sites
Lurkeraspect Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 So tonight I go to watch Netflix and it won't let me cause my wife is watching it in her bed and her daughter on her phone. Only two users can watch at a time and it's my account I pay for. I told her nicely one of them had to get off I'd let her decide. She says how bout you watch something else. I said its my account how about I make it to where no one but me watches it. She gets mad says cut it all off and pack your stuff and go. I said stop being a $@?&! I was being nice about it. I was real tempted to delete her stuff on my account but I'm so tired of fighting I'll just sit back and watch her get what she deserves on her own. I'm leaving her alone now and letting her ruin her own life. I've read this entire thread and to be honest, it gets more bizarre and petty by the day. You say the Netflix is in your name. Simple, you cancel it, establish a new email account and reactivate it. Sorted. As for you living situation. You need to leave tomorrow. I know, I know, you're getting a trailer, waiting on your taxes, etc...you must have a relative, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, grandparent, friend, acquaintance, SOMEONE you can crash on their couch or guest bedroom for the next few weeks until your new place is ready. And yes, if you suspect (or know) child abuse or neglect you absolutely have an obligation to inform the authorities, or you're just as guilty as she is. You know, it's about protecting innocent children. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 She's definitely not abusing her children she's just not spending as much time with them it's not like she's totally neglecting them. And my friends and family live a bit too far away from my work to stay there a few weeks so I choose to stay where I am for now. It's not horrible living with her as now we basically just do our own thing and stay out of each others way. I will admit I can add stress for her by being upset and texting her things one minute then being nice the next or just leaving her alone. That's something I need to focus on not doing is giving her more stress then things would be civil living together but shes the one who wanted this and I have a right to get upset I just can't bother her with it. I don't have it in me to just cut her off everything and I wish I did but I think I'm too nice in that regard. Heck I still care about her but I don't really feel bad or get depressed I just care about the woman I married and lived with the last three years. I know I shouldnt I know I should have left already and I know once I am gone very soon then everything will be a lot better and I won't bother her at all and we both go our seperate ways. She wants to be my friend and really get to know me better but Im not one to be friends with an ex. This is also my first marriage and divorce so I don't know what'll happen later on as far as being friends goes. Maybe not now but one day years from now I dunno. She does try to be civil but I'm the one who gets upset more since she wanted it and is doing whatever she wants. As long as I don't bother her we can live together in a civil manner a bit longer till I'm gone. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 She wants to be friends as a way to reduce her feelings of guilt for destroying the marriage. Do not be her friend. Avoid her. Have you even read the 180? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 Yes I read the 180. I know she wants to be friends only for herself. She said she didn't want the marriage to end with her feeling about me as she does now. She wants to get to know me more and know the real me. I told her why would I want to be friends with my ex wife who has a girlfriend and didn't care enough about me. But now she says they are just friends. Her mind is screwed up I told her she needs to figure stuff out. I have left her alone today I don't care to talk to her at this point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Yes I read the 180. I know she wants to be friends only for herself. She said she didn't want the marriage to end with her feeling about me as she does now. She wants to get to know me more and know the real me. I told her why would I want to be friends with my ex wife who has a girlfriend and didn't care enough about me. But now she says they are just friends. Her mind is screwed up I told her she needs to figure stuff out. I have left her alone today I don't care to talk to her at this point. Man I thought I had heard it all. You know this is a bunch of grade A, pure USDA b.s. right? Ask her where she got that or if she made that crap up herself. She knows you...she knows you very well. All she is doing is trying to find some way to blame her bad behavior on you. Nip it in the bud and tell her to go pound swamp mud. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 I know it's BS and I won't be friends with her once I leave. She's so messed up right now she can't even make sense of herself. She has a girlfriend one day then says just friends the next. Doesn't want anything to do with me but wants to get to know me. She says we never talked so she doesn't know me yet we lived together the last three years so I'm sure she knows as much as she can. As long as I leave her alone and just do my own thing things will be fine until I leave. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 I have to ask, is it really that easy to just stop caring about someone you're married to and love and just completely try to ignore them? I know not for her obviously but for me and the people in my type of situation. I had s very rough two weeks after she told me she wanted to separate and that was two months ago but since then I been feeling better and better about this. I know I'll be better off I know she doesn't care even though she says she does but it is hard to just leave her alone not text her at all or not think about it at random times. I'm hardly depressed at all anymore so that's good I just hope I don't get all depressed when I do move out. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I know it's BS and I won't be friends with her once I leave. She's so messed up right now she can't even make sense of herself. She has a girlfriend one day then says just friends the next. Doesn't want anything to do with me but wants to get to know me. She says we never talked so she doesn't know me yet we lived together the last three years so I'm sure she knows as much as she can. As long as I leave her alone and just do my own thing things will be fine until I leave. Cheaters do this. It is called re-writing the marital history. Like friend-zoning, they do this to reduce the guilt they are feeling. If she can re-write the marital history in her head to make you out to be the bad guy, then she won't feel so bad about what she is doing. This is straight from the cheaters playbook. My exWW did the same to me. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I have to ask, is it really that easy to just stop caring about someone you're married to and love and just completely try to ignore them? I know not for her obviously but for me and the people in my type of situation. I had s very rough two weeks after she told me she wanted to separate and that was two months ago but since then I been feeling better and better about this. I know I'll be better off I know she doesn't care even though she says she does but it is hard to just leave her alone not text her at all or not think about it at random times. I'm hardly depressed at all anymore so that's good I just hope I don't get all depressed when I do move out. You'll go up and down. You will heal at your own pace and your own way. Some guys get over women quickly, some carry torches the rest of their lives. Do not compare yourself to others. There is no "right" way to heal from infidelity. Just concentrate on taking care of yourself. Feck her. Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 You can end this anytime you want. Tell her not to expect you to be around to babysit her kids, you have a life you want to pursue, one that doesn't include her. Spend less time at home until she gets it. Be very clear that your future girlfriend will take precedence over her friendship so being friends is not part of your plan any time soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 I see this is what cheaters do, I've been cheated on before and the girl kinda acted the same. I don't get why my dumb wife would say she wants to be friends be civil yet she walks around wearing her girlfriends shirt. When I saw her in it when I got home from work today I said nice shirt! What really ticks me off is we agreed no dating no seeing anyone else nothing until I at least moved out. She broke that so why should I be civil? Maybe one day way down the line if she ever grows up we can try to be friends but it won't happen for a long time. I don't babysit her kids they can watch themselves. I already told her the heck with being friends. It's funny I saw her brother the other day and when I told him we were splitting he didn't know and the first thing he said was I told you the b*tch is crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I have to ask, is it really that easy to just stop caring about someone you're married to and love and just completely try to ignore them? I know not for her obviously but for me and the people in my type of situation. I had s very rough two weeks after she told me she wanted to separate and that was two months ago but since then I been feeling better and better about this. I know I'll be better off I know she doesn't care even though she says she does but it is hard to just leave her alone not text her at all or not think about it at random times. I'm hardly depressed at all anymore so that's good I just hope I don't get all depressed when I do move out. Every time you put in ANY effort, to be nice, to be considerate just gives her more power over you. Think of it like this, you've handed her the gun and each time you put any energy into her is like supplying the bullets. You should seek counseling so you don't go into a depression and talk about it. Your wife has done a number on you and she certainly isn't the woman you married years ago. She changed, detached and moved on without your knowledge. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 It's funny I saw her brother the other day and when I told him we were splitting he didn't know and the first thing he said was I told you the b*tch is crazy! Quality family there. Marry a girl from Mississippi or Alabama next time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 I did better. I married a girl from Louisiana. Time for me to do my own thing and forget about her. I come first. No one else. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 And this is the girl never home when I go home for my lunch break everyday and today leaves the front door unlocked and most of the lights on in the place. Must have been in a hurry to see her girlfriend lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 I guess it's official she put seperated on her facebook lol. Now she needs to put in a relationship with another girl while still living with my husband! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
I_Give_Up67 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Once you are out of that place and away from her, I think a pilgrimage to Bourbon St is in order to celebrate. I'll buy the first two rounds! Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Once you are out of that place and away from her, I think a pilgrimage to Bourbon St is in order to celebrate. I'll buy the first two rounds! Court of Three Sisters for a Hurricane...or two. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jclements00 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 One of my friends asked me when I'm gonna celebrate. I've been to Bourbon St. several times it's only two hours away the perfect place to go. Now she's worried about me not paying back rent I owe and not telling her when I get the income taxes since it's going into my account she can't see. I told her she'd know when I go to the casino lol. I told her I'd pay the rent and tell her when taxes come she needs to calm down dang. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nightmare01 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 WS really hate it when they finally realize that what they do, think, and want just don't matter to us anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
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