Why do so many older men think younger women want them?

[autumnnight]

This is exactly like those threads that say all women should give short men a chance or all women should give men without jobs a chance or that single parents should give people without kids a chance. Life is not fair or "even". People want what they want. Instead of trying to change everyone's wants because you feel entitled to a chance from every man, just concentrate on the men who desire your demographic.

 

In sulting people because you don't have the same preference is rude and juvenile.

[Robert Z]

Why won't you just accept that he's actually in love with an older woman?

 

 

That wasn't the point. The point was that there is a difference between wanting a relationship and essential physical attraction.

 

 

Chasing young women is one thing. But to deny that the fundamental attraction exists for almost all men was be fallacious. And as evidence I offer several million nudey calendars found in male-dominated shops all over the country. The next bit of evidence is internet porn, which is popular with older men as well as younger men.

[xxoo]

Many younger women do want older men, so that's why.

 

The mistake men make is believing it's primarily because of their appearance, when usually it's more about their resources.

[Robert Z]

Okay, I have read some articles about "creepy older men" who try flirting with younger women, particularly servers at restaurants and get rather "pervy" with them. The question in my mind is what makes them think that the younger girl would go for it if they make inappropriate comments towards them?

 

 

There are men, and I know of one personally, who will approach women directly and ask for sex. They know they are going to get slapped or rejected by most. But they don't care. They have learned that every once in awhile, a woman will take them up on a direct request.

 

 

The guy I know through a friend will walk up to a complete stranger and ask for a bj. And apparently it works; not very often but it only takes one. My buddy says he is always sending photos of himself and his latest hookup from his boat.

[wizer]

I have never found a man in his 40's, 50's or beyond even remotely attractive

 

FINE! You can just consider our date for next week officially canceled.

 

I'll find someone else to celebrate my 53rd birthday with.

 

[Robert Z]

Many younger women do want older men, so that's why.

 

The mistake men make is believing it's primarily because of their appearance, when usually it's more about their resources.

 

 

Smart and funny is the key. But you still have to stay in shape. No one wants to date a fat slob.

 

Women start dating men for their resources in high school. The guys with the nicest cars generally have the hottest gfs. Men learn this early on in spite of what women try to tell us.

 

When I got my first hot bike [motorcycle] in hs, within a few weeks I was dating a model. My first sports car had much the same results. Suddenly all sorts of women were interested that would never give me the time of day before that.

Edited March 27, 2015 by Robert Z

[Robert Z]

This is exactly like those threads that say all women should give short men a chance or all women should give men without jobs a chance or that single parents should give people without kids a chance. Life is not fair or "even". People want what they want. Instead of trying to change everyone's wants because you feel entitled to a chance from every man, just concentrate on the men who desire your demographic.

 

In sulting people because you don't have the same preference is rude and juvenile.

 

Exactly! Beyond that, having an attraction to young women doesn't exclude older women. Hell, I've even been with an escort who was probably about 40 years old. So it isn't like I'm only attracted to women in their twenties. I've paid to be with a middle-age woman!!!

 

To me, being fit is more important than youth. But many women want to let themselves go and then get mad when men aren't interested. And as a general rule, young women are more physically fit than older women.

Edited March 27, 2015 by Robert Z

[preraph]

Well, you know there was a recent study someone posted that explained a lot of inexplicable things. It showed that the more attracted to a woman a man was, the more he believed the woman was attracted to him also. So there's a good bit of delusion involved.

[Robert Z]

I wanted to throw in a bit of advice for men. As part of my effort to win the heart of my sugar baby, I keep an immaculately clean home. I have often joked with a friend that you could eat off of my toilet. But I've been around the block enough to know that many if not most women hate dirty bathrooms, as I do.

 

My sb used to get after me about relaxing and not worrying about having the place immaculate before she gets here. She always insisted that it didn't matter. Then, a few months ago, she admitted that part of what has influenced her feelings towards me is the way that I live. And she has also commented about men's bathrooms that she found disgusting.

[thefooloftheyear]

Many younger women do want older men, so that's why.

 

The mistake men make is believing it's primarily because of their appearance, when usually it's more about their resources.

 

That only applies to the obvious, like Anna Nicole Smith's codger she had, or Larry King...

 

Those guys are ugly as fck and use their money and power to get gold diggers...

 

A friend of mine (53) recently married a 29 year old woman who is very attractive...She owns an ad company and makes almost 200K....He hasn't worked steady in years and has no assets..Another customer of mine is in his late 50's and married a 26 year old..He is an attorney, but has a private one man office and makes a fraction of what most legit attorneys make..

 

Its not always that dynamic(Rich guy with gold digger)..

 

TFY

[xxoo]

 

Its not always that dynamic(Rich guy with gold digger)..

 

TFY

 

I wasn't thinking anything that extreme. A guy with a decent house, 20 year career, and a nice car is comfort and security for a late 20s person with a student loan payment, apt, roommate, and Kia.

 

Another thing I've noticed is that older guys are "easier" for young women. They are thrilled by youth and beauty, while attractive guys her own age may be less impressed and be looking for more.

[Robert Z]

PS. I said queues when I meant cues. My brain is stuck in computer mode!

[Male]

Why do so many older men think younger women want them?

 

Because those are the egotistical type guys that think they are alpha-male studs. They live in a fantasy world created by their own delusions to mask insecurities. They usually have issues with getting older, so it makes them feel better by thinking younger girls want them.

 

I know 2 guys like that personally. 24/7 they talk non stop about how women love them, or how this woman or that woman wants to sleep with them. They are the type of jerk that think the bartender or stripper "truly likes them" instead of realizing that the girl is just flirting with his stupid ass to get a better tip.

Edited March 27, 2015 by Male

[elaine567]

I wasn't thinking anything that extreme. A guy with a decent house, 20 year career, and a nice car is comfort and security for a late 20s person with a student loan payment, apt, roommate, and Kia.

 

Another thing I've noticed is that older guys are "easier" for young women. They are thrilled by youth and beauty, while attractive guys her own age may be less impressed and be looking for more.

 

I think it is only certain younger women who are interested in much older guys for relationships and I do think other factors come into play; resources or perhaps looking for a father figure, or an inability to attract younger guys, or even as a rebellious gesture, a finger up to societal norms maybe?

Of course a younger women looking for just sex may think "what the hell, why not?", if his age and appearance are not that off putting.

[xxoo]

I think it is only certain younger women who are interested in much older guys for relationships and I do think other factors come into play; resources or perhaps looking for a father figure, or an inability to attract younger guys, or even as a rebellious gesture, a finger up to societal norms maybe?

Of course a younger women looking for just sex may think "what the hell, why not?", if his age and appearance are not that off putting.

 

Yes, just certain younger women. I know I was only interested in men my age when I was young. And now that we are in our 40s, I'm very glad I partnered with a man my age back then. I'm not ready to be married to a 60 year old!

[Anela]

This is exactly like those threads that say all women should give short men a chance or all women should give men without jobs a chance or that single parents should give people without kids a chance. Life is not fair or "even". People want what they want. Instead of trying to change everyone's wants because you feel entitled to a chance from every man, just concentrate on the men who desire your demographic.

 

In sulting people because you don't have the same preference is rude and juvenile.

 

I only respond that way to people who have insulted my age demographic before - repeatedly.

 

I don't want to date someone who would consider me a partner they settled for. What I haven't understood is the need to continually push the idea that men only want younger women and will settle for what they can get (eventually).

 

I agree - insulting is childish. I didn't insult RobertZ, I commented on his post. I have never felt entitled to a chance with every man. Ever. So maybe you need to check your own assumptions? (And my post wasn't the one that Timshel was referring to, in that other thread.)

Edited March 27, 2015 by Anela

[Quiet Storm]

There are lots of younger women attracted to older men, for a variety of reasons. Read the OW forum here at LS- some young women are even attracted to married older men, who already have families and don't even have resources to share. I don't think it's just about money. I do think that many are genuinely sexually attracted to them.

 

Older men have had decades of experience with women, whether it be their mom, sisters, daughters, coworkers, friends, exes. They know what to say (and what not to say). If you are a young woman who's been dating guys that are nervous, fumbling around in bed, constantly playing video games and are cool with having their sexual needs met by porn, it's easy to see why a younger woman would be genuinely attracted to an older guy. Attraction is not only based on looks, especially for women. Many women like to be pursued, they enjoy the "dance of seduction" and older guys are often willing to do that, when many young guys won't even respond when the women are the ones pursuing. Even though their physical bodies may not be as sexy, they are often better at younger at building sexual tension, teasing, being attentive... in other words, they have more "game".

 

So it's not surprising to me that many older men hit on younger women. They have to, in order to find the ones that are willing to date them.

 

I do think when men (age is redundant) are attracted to a woman, some will perceive innocent behavior as a sign she's attracted. This explains why guys will think the friendly waitress or the smiley sales girl is into them.

[Woggle]

The thing I want to know is that if both people involved are happy and of legal age why do people care? It might not be most but there are some age difference couples that are genuinely happy and attracted to each other. Let them live.

[thefooloftheyear]

There are lots of younger women attracted to older men, for a variety of reasons. Read the OW forum here at LS- some young women are even attracted to married older men, who already have families and don't even have resources to share. I don't think it's just about money. I do think that many are genuinely sexually attracted to them.

 

Older men have had decades of experience with women, whether it be their mom, sisters, daughters, coworkers, friends, exes. They know what to say (and what not to say). If you are a young woman who's been dating guys that are nervous, fumbling around in bed, constantly playing video games and are cool with having their sexual needs met by porn, it's easy to see why a younger woman would be genuinely attracted to an older guy. Attraction is not only based on looks, especially for women. Many women like to be pursued, they enjoy the "dance of seduction" and older guys are often willing to do that, when many young guys won't even respond when the women are the ones pursuing. Even though their physical bodies may not be as sexy, they are often better at younger at building sexual tension, teasing, being attentive... in other words, they have more "game".

 

So it's not surprising to me that many older men hit on younger women. They have to, in order to find the ones that are willing to date them.

I do think when men (age is redundant) are attracted to a woman, some will perceive innocent behavior as a sign she's attracted. This explains why guys will think the friendly waitress or the smiley sales girl is into them.

 

 

Good post...

 

But sorry...You are just wrong about the bolded part...There are a good deal of young women who will actively pursue older guys..For a variety of reasons, many of which you have already outlined...

 

These women infuriate older, middle aged women...They will hurl insults at them, shame them, whatever...Its mainly because the younger women will often not go for the 47 year old shlub with the shytty job and the beer gut, but they go for the successful, fit, and good looking ones...I suppose for these older women, its about maintaining pissing turf when they are at a disadvantage physically...

 

TFY

[Quiet Storm]

Good post...

 

But sorry...You are just wrong about the bolded part...There are a good deal of young women who will actively pursue older guys..For a variety of reasons, many of which you have already outlined...

 

These women infuriate older, middle aged women...They will hurl insults at them, shame them, whatever...Its mainly because the younger women will often not go for the 47 year old shlub with the shytty job and the beer gut, but they go for the successful, fit, and good looking ones...I suppose for these older women, its about maintaining pissing turf when they are at a disadvantage physically...

 

TFY

 

Yeah, I know there are young women that will actively pursue older guys, but the reason I said (the bolded part) was because the OP's post was about too many older guys hitting on her, and her being annoyed by that. Since she's not pursuing older guys, I was focusing on why older guys might be hitting on her.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Some women are really making an effort to sell older guys off as stupid, easy, more resourceful, or a sign of desperation on the younger woman's part.

 

What about..

- more mature, intellectual

- masculine, confident in one's self and that reflects in their behavior

- more skilled/experienced in the bedroom, less selfish and a better lover

- emotionally mature

- less clingy, jealous, more independent...not calling them every 5 secs in a panic

- more reliable, past the party all night every weekend phase

- more developed as men, instead of having to invest in a guy who's maybe got one or two things going for him

- less desperate and horny, willing to bang anything that moves in his direction

 

Look, I'm not an advocate of older guys fishing out younger more naive women. But you ladies have it twisted if you think older men are the ones always making the moves...in fact, many people on LS promote the age is just a number idea.

 

You can say all the crap you want about men in their 30's and older men, but don't forget it works both ways...you're not exactly as hot, fit or flawless skinned as your younger counterparts either..some of these young women's breast hardly drop an inch after that bra comes off. And guess what...you're a whole lot easier to these men too, that's why they hit on you...just a tip! They think you're going to roll around in bed with them on the first date and teach them moves they can use with younger hotter women...so don't flatter yourself.

 

So if you really want to go there ladies, we can.

[Vercetti]

Maybe just maybe cause some younger women do like some older men. Take age out of it and boil it down to someone for everyone and some people just being attractive.

 

I've seen teen girls ( when I was younger ) go gaga over men twice their age. Saw girls non-stop going for at least slightly older men while wanting nothing to do with peers.

 

I get flirted with ( when with wife ) and she clues me in. Girls in general are off my radar, and girls the age of my little sisters completely off. So much so when wife clues me into thier actions...I'm still in denile cause WTF I'm a grown freaking man and she was in some bloody collage maybe high school jacket.

 

It's not all the time but it does happen, I'm not throwing out bait and I'm usually 100% oblivious. As for 40-50 year men playing numbers games in bars going after thier daughters thinking are all that is pathetic ( what have nothing to offer peers ).

 

Maybe some girls are like me, I consider being with someone older to be flattering as to my maturity and whatever it is have to offer. Maybe some girls are flattered that a worldly wise man could be captivated when they are still formative and estiblishing themself. Maybe dealing with a older man is better then some peer horndog with roomates that lacks social grace.

 

I don't know, just my experance I've seen girls leave peers in the dust and personally someone older then I is the only way I can make a connection. I have a bloody widows peak that can talk to god and encounter girls stammering from time to time. If I can see women a decade or decades older that floor me, only logical the reverse would be true. My wife as a teen discovered her attraction for man from celebritys over twice her age...not aquward peers in school.

 

Rambling I know, just in my eyes it's a two way street. Older men or women thinking they are gods gift to all is contrived. Yet there is something for experance and being able to navagate the courting process.

[jphcbpa]

men want beauty and women want security. ??

 

I am early 40's and younger women do not appeal to me unless they are extremely mature and we are aligned. In my book beauty does not trump in connection.

[Daisy2013]

Well I like older men, but I'm almost 47 so now I am considered old myself, lol. But, even as a younger woman I liked them. Not for money reasons but I think there is just something about them. If my marriage to my husband, who is 4 years younger than me, ends, because it's in a bad place, I would definitely consider someone up to his late 50s. In fact, I'm turned off by young ones these days due to what I've been through.

[Auspecial]

Well, you know there was a recent study someone posted that explained a lot of inexplicable things. It showed that the more attracted to a woman a man was, the more he believed the woman was attracted to him also. So there's a good bit of delusion involved.

 

So funny and so true! :DD

 

I learned long ago not to smile too much at men I don't know, because for some bizarro reason, many think that means I want to "date" them. I had a man recently approach me and we chatted, not flirty at all, but just a potential. He gave me his card and I did call him a few days later. He began being rude so of course I lost all interest and ignored his calls. He then made the comment that "we are both hot for each other..." LOL! What the F? Dude, I don't even know you!!