OLD The truth about what really works for guys.

[Potz4prez]

a million women giving you some of their attention doesn't come close to that One giving you all of theirs.

 

That "One" is hard to find in a sea of those million when doing online dating.

 

just sayin'

 

There is no "one." Stop trying to fill the hole in your soul with a woman.

[normal person]

a million women giving you some of their attention doesn't come close to that One giving you all of theirs.

 

That "One" is hard to find in a sea of those million when doing online dating.

 

just sayin'

 

That really isn't the point of this thread at all, and it doesn't make much sense.

 

People are using OLD because they're trying to find "that one." And these guys are struggling to get any attention. Having a million options that might be "that one" is a lot better than having zero, don't you think?

[slizl]

You can tell from ktya's postings that the dude has game. Looks get you in the door, but your personality/know how seals the deal. Seems like he uses the same strategies that work for me.

[DArtagnan2]

There is no "one." Stop trying to fill the hole in your soul with a woman.

 

did I say soul mate? or the like?

 

I am not looking to date around with a bunch of girls, I am looking for one I want to date. ONLY ONE

 

Thanks for your advice and assumptions though.

[DArtagnan2]

That really isn't the point of this thread at all, and it doesn't make much sense.

 

People are using OLD because they're trying to find "that one." And these guys are struggling to get any attention. Having a million options that might be "that one" is a lot better than having zero, don't you think?

 

Who says I am have not tried or am not struggling with online dating as well? Maybe I should have "quoted" a few responses when I posted what I did because it was directed at some of the comments about dating a bunch of women at the same time.

 

jeez.. bashing someone who just has an opinion about how they want to date. Thanks for the support. I'll try to come up with a disclaimer next time I post.

[Joaquin]

Totally with ktya.

 

Don't over invest in anyone too early. Play the stats. Bit of alcohol. And frickin relax.

[normal person]

Who says I am have not tried or am not struggling with online dating as well? Maybe I should have "quoted" a few responses when I posted what I did because it was directed at some of the comments about dating a bunch of women at the same time.

 

jeez.. bashing someone who just has an opinion about how they want to date. Thanks for the support. I'll try to come up with a disclaimer next time I post.

 

I didn't mean for you to take offense and I'm sorry if you thought it came out that way. I don't know who's struggling and who's not. My response was just factual, not an insult. 1,000,000 > 0.

 

Sorry for the misinterpretation. I'm here to help, but my love is tough.

[Bruce Leigh]

Men and women have been dating, having sex, marrying and having kids for years and all of it done without "options" thanks to online dating.

If it worked/works for you, great but it is clearly not for everyone.

[PogoStick]

I'm an attractive guy (I think), and OLD is hit and miss, but definitely not worthless for me. I don't know if it's because of summer or what, but this last week or two I'm suddenly swamped with women.

 

1. Had 2 dates with an OLD girl last week. She's a sure thing if I choose.

 

2. Last week, a long time friend I hadn't talked to in 3+ months invited me over. She's having marriage problems and her midlife crisis...and well she had something specific in mind when she invited me over. Enough said.

 

3. A girl I messaged briefly months ago, I let it fade out, she suddenly started messaging again. I'd like to meet her but haven't had time.

 

4. Went to a Meetup dinner (why don't more of you do this?) on Monday and a cute girl threw herself at me. She was kissing me a couple hours later.

 

5. Yesterday I met a new OLD girl for lunch. It went well and we will be meeting again.

 

6. After lunch, girl from #4 asks me out to dinner. 2 dates in one day, might as well.

 

This is how it seems to go. Really dry at times, and others it more than I have time for. And I'm noticing new profiles showing up on OKC recently so I think women are looking for summer fun. Get out and find them.

[deathandtaxes]

Totally with ktya.

 

Don't over invest in anyone too early. Play the stats. Bit of alcohol. And frickin relax.

 

 

 

Disagree. Multi-dating nine women and sleeping with three? Does everybody involved know about the others? I know it's assumed that people from OLD multi-date until told otherwise, but geez.

 

 

The whole 'playing the stats' gives OLD the worst rap. It leads to so much GIGS because people DON'T INVEST THE TIME because they can always go find another.

[Under The Radar]

I'm popular with single mothers right now.

 

 

My profile specifically details a proficiency for babysitting .

 

 

Multi-dating my ass ...... try rounding up 6 or 7 small children.

[ktya]

Disagree. Multi-dating nine women and sleeping with three? Does everybody involved know about the others? I know it's assumed that people from OLD multi-date until told otherwise, but geez.

 

 

The whole 'playing the stats' gives OLD the worst rap. It leads to so much GIGS because people DON'T INVEST THE TIME because they can always go find another.

 

Yes. All the girls know I am dating other girls. I'm a guy playing the field, not a liar.

 

Playing the stats is the only way to date, whether its IRL or OLD. Trust me bud, the girls are doing it too, because it's so easy for them and guys are throwing themselves at them and making the ask all the time.

 

They choose "the one". Not the guy. In the meantime, until one chooses you for the long haul, get out there and play the stats.

[Joaquin]

I'm popular with single mothers right now.

 

 

My profile specifically details a proficiency for babysitting .

 

 

Multi-dating my ass ...... try rounding up 6 or 7 small children.

 

Dont get me started on the single mothers. That's a whole nother category. But good for you!

[Kid_Charlemange]

I think maybe older people have better results, IDK.

 

That's entirely possible. My search age range is 42-55. There are an incredible number of women on OKC in that range in my area. Some are intimidatingly beautiful, and I'd say most of them are in very good shape. It seems like newly-single moms, empty nesters, or professional women who have never been married are a gym-obsessed demographic. I've gotten plenty of dates from OLD. Only one has really been my "type," and I think I'm about to be friendzoned by her. Still, the results are better than I'd ever imagined.

 

As I continue to get over my out-of-my-league ex, I feel more and more confident I'll meet someone new, who can be that special someone. In the meantime, I'm meeting new people and having fun, and that's all I really want at this point.

[ktya]

I'm an attractive guy (I think), and OLD is hit and miss, but definitely not worthless for me. I don't know if it's because of summer or what, but this last week or two I'm suddenly swamped with women.

 

1. Had 2 dates with an OLD girl last week. She's a sure thing if I choose.

 

2. Last week, a long time friend I hadn't talked to in 3+ months invited me over. She's having marriage problems and her midlife crisis...and well she had something specific in mind when she invited me over. Enough said.

 

3. A girl I messaged briefly months ago, I let it fade out, she suddenly started messaging again. I'd like to meet her but haven't had time.

 

4. Went to a Meetup dinner (why don't more of you do this?) on Monday and a cute girl threw herself at me. She was kissing me a couple hours later.

 

5. Yesterday I met a new OLD girl for lunch. It went well and we will be meeting again.

 

6. After lunch, girl from #4 asks me out to dinner. 2 dates in one day, might as well.

 

This is how it seems to go. Really dry at times, and others it more than I have time for. And I'm noticing new profiles showing up on OKC recently so I think women are looking for summer fun. Get out and find them.

 

#1 I met a filipino girl in January. Started seeing her every other day, action between the sheets first date. Great girl, didnt want a boyfriend, she was moving away. After she moved she moved in with a boyfriend, still comes over 2-3 times a month. She asks me for pictures of my potential dates and chuckles when I leave things like her valenties card on my end table. "What about the other girls what would they think?" she asks. I laugh and say thats their problem. She eats it up. She is a nurse. She's coming back to see me again on Wednesday night this week. (8.10) Source: Plenty of Fish

 

#2 Met a Korean Girl also in January. Was banging her every other day same time as the filipino. Both knew about eachother, it was a crazy time up until March, sometimes both in one day. Teacher. She broke it off around March, she had a meltdown. Looks and bangs like a porn star, I'll never forget that one. I kept grinding her since, she was seeing another guy for a while and broke it off with him because he wanted too much of her time (ie. SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP). She zapped me out of the blue and we hooked up for dinner a few days ago. We're back in daily communication now, only a matter of time. (24/10 - this girl is incredible) Source: Plenty of Fish

 

#3 Met a white girl in March after the Filipino moved away. The Korean had a meltdown so it freed up some time. Had her over every weekend for a while but then she got busy, probably coming to stay the night on Saturday. Smart girl, medical researcher, little awkward but once she gets going a crazy lay. (8/10) Source: OK Cupid

 

#4 Met another filipino girl in April. Smart girl, works underwriting insurance deals. Pictures misleading, from the shoulders down quite fat. She's still on my roster and tries to get me out for drinks late at night. One day I'll budge and get nasty with her. (3/10) Source: Plenty of Fish

 

#5 Back to March, met another teacher. White girl. She was a bit thick, but fun to talk to. She went off about monogamy forever before even hitting it in the sack with me. Nexted her. (6/10) Souce: OK Cupid

 

#6 Met this blonde white girl. Nice, talked to her on the phone first time, she was embarassed as she fell asleep. Said to me, "I'm embarassed because I slept with you BEFORE the first date". Luckily and laughably due to this thread, I was checking my texts to see if I could screenshot my BB hub to show OP his "proof". Noticed I set a date for her at 730pm tonight, would have forgotten if it wasnt for him. I've made reservations for drinks at a place a block from her house. I'll see how it goes. Environmental consultant. Also a running instructor for a local gym. (9/10) Source: Tinder

 

#7 This week got a 20 year old chick's number. She keeps answering my texts around 1-330 am while I'm asleep. Sounds like booty calls. I'll keep grinding it until I can take her out for drinks. No idea what this girl does. (9/10) Source: Tinder

 

#8 Last Sunday I woke up to see a message on Tinder. Cute Chinese chick in an open relationship. Has a boyfriend, lives with him, just wants to date or screw around, sounds good to me. Was going to go for lunch with her yesterday but her work got busy and my work had a team meeting over lunch. Shes away for the weekend and we're going to get together next week. She wants to meet me before I lure her to my house Event planner. (8/10) Source: Tinder

 

#9 Few weeks ago met a girl online who was 10 days from moving out after her divorce. Obvious what this one wants, been a while. Cute and wants to go for a date, doesnt care about money just wants a nice time. Deleted her OKC profile after meeting me and talking on the phone. Shes just settling in her new place, maybe I'll squeeze her in this weekend. Works with people with addictions. (7/10) Source: OK Cupid

 

#10 Met yet another filipino girl back in January, works like 12 hrs a day 6 days a week. Havent met her yet, but still talk to her a few times a week. Will try to line it up. First date didnt work out because I was helping someone move. Child care worker with disabled kids. (10/10 - I've seen her in a bikini) Source: Plenty of Fish

 

#11 Met a cute 24 year old chinese girl. Tried to line up a date but, she didn't save my number and some other chump she gave her number to kept phoning her (IMO never phone until theyve given you permission to phone, keep it to text until then) and our numbers were similar so she was screening me. We figured it out, but, after a while I deleted her number, too flakey. Made custom soaps for a large company. (8/10) Source: Plenty of Fish

 

#12 Met a girl here on Loveshack, got her number. Been talking to her incessantly, 10,000 text messages a month and a phone call most days. A bit of a LDR but shes awesome. We trying to figure out how to spend a week together on my boat but money is tight. Dispenses medicine. (30/10 - Super hot super :-P ) Source: Loveshack :-P

 

#13 Met a 26 year old hispanic. Nurse. Talk on the phone with her every other day. Had her come over to my house gave her a dresser she wanted. Out of a crazy relationship, not sure she wants to date yet, but I'm working on it. Little thick. (6/10) Source: Tinder

 

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SO yeah. Online dating works, at least for me.

[Under The Radar]

Uh, you're giving us quite a bit to process here - LOL.

[ktya]

Uh, you're giving us quite a bit to process here - LOL.

 

Imagine my poor phone

[jay1983]

That's entirely possible. My search age range is 42-55. There are an incredible number of women on OKC in that range in my area. Some are intimidatingly beautiful, and I'd say most of them are in very good shape. It seems like newly-single moms, empty nesters, or professional women who have never been married are a gym-obsessed demographic. I've gotten plenty of dates from OLD. Only one has really been my "type," and I think I'm about to be friendzoned by her. Still, the results are better than I'd ever imagined.

 

As I continue to get over my out-of-my-league ex, I feel more and more confident I'll meet someone new, who can be that special someone. In the meantime, I'm meeting new people and having fun, and that's all I really want at this point.

 

A gorgeous 43 year old shot me a message one time. I didn't go for it, cause I'm looking something long term, not just sex. Yeah that's almost impossible to find.

[jay1983]

The only men I knew with any success online gave up on dates and relationships and just looked for flings and hookups.

 

Since most of the women there have gotten picky about who they respond to, you have to focus on women you wouldn't normally date. Maybe she's not as attractive as you'd like. Those women will respond much more often. If they say they aren't looking for hookups, that's even better, because it means they've probably had a few of them online, and are most likely willing to have another.

 

Well if your nice looking and have dated nice looking girls in the past, I don't see how an overweight or a completely unattractive girl would be a match. That's not realistic.

[PogoStick]

Trust me bud, the girls are doing it too, because it's so easy for them and guys are throwing themselves at them and making the ask all the time.

 

Yeah the girls I was with last night asked why I haven't dated the last 2 months. They asked "why don't you have someone on the side for fun?" Which made me happy because I'll gladly play in the short term.

[SJC2008]

OP you're a good looking guy, no homo. Don't let OLD lower your standards because that's what it does. The mai problem is that men usually outnumber women and many men date down for easy sex so the women get big headed because they're attracting better men than they did IRL. Well, they get pumped and dumped and wonder what they they did wrong and still ignore them men in their league. Those are two factors that will cause most men to quit before they get their first date. Even if my men date down example isn't true you're still at a numerical disadvantage.

 

Most of my attention on POF came from BBWs and I'm not "Big and tall". So if BBWs are going for me, a cute chunky guy, Imagine what men average/cute women are going for!!!

 

Old doesn't work for most people because most men are just looking for sex/cheating and most women are dating up or are rebounding.

[firmness]

I met my current girlfriend on OKC. She is stunningly beautiful and remarkable in just about every way - so it might just be luck of the draw.

 

Someone told me once that POF is the "white trash dating site." My matches there confirm this. Stay away from that.

 

No matter what list of advice you will ever get, it boils down to two major themes:

 

1. Be yourself. Be honest. Be unapologetic. Women can smell when you are posting crap to get laid. They can see right through it and it appears that many men are doing this. If you just want to hook up, use Tinder.

 

2. Once you have an honest, real, genuine profile with the most brutal honesty you can muster - look up online dating profile mistakes. Find out what women are saying that turns them off. Get 20-30 different list items from different sources - you tube, etc. - and then go back and adjust your profile accordingly. It should not have to change too much.

 

Good luck.

[oberkeat]

I met my current girlfriend on OKC. She is stunningly beautiful and remarkable in just about every way - so it might just be luck of the draw.

 

Someone told me once that POF is the "white trash dating site." My matches there confirm this. Stay away from that.

 

No matter what list of advice you will ever get, it boils down to two major themes:

 

1. Be yourself. Be honest. Be unapologetic. Women can smell when you are posting crap to get laid. They can see right through it and it appears that many men are doing this. If you just want to hook up, use Tinder.

 

2. Once you have an honest, real, genuine profile with the most brutal honesty you can muster - look up online dating profile mistakes. Find out what women are saying that turns them off. Get 20-30 different list items from different sources - you tube, etc. - and then go back and adjust your profile accordingly. It should not have to change too much.

 

Good luck.

 

Waste of time in my experience. OLD is mostly a scam. Every date I've ever had was with gals I met in real life. I've had zero results with multiple stints on match.com and okcupid. They were more than happy to take my money though.

[Glinda.Good]

Guys message girls that don't respond, so they message the next and the next, until they hit the bottom of the barrel with girls 2 times their size.

 

What gives you the impression that a girl 2X the size of some dude is necessarily "the bottom of the barrel"? If nobody wants to date that guy, from my perspective, HE is the one at the bottom of the barrel.

 

Using a person's size as an indicator of how low they are is …

[SJC2008]

What gives you the impression that a girl 2X the size of some dude is necessarily "the bottom of the barrel"? If nobody wants to date that guy, from my perspective, HE is the one at the bottom of the barrel.

 

Using a person's size as an indicator of how low they are is …

 

It's a figure of speech. It doesn't mean they're worthless. There are women who can get any man they want and would't touch me with a ten foot pole. Who am to judge? Dating market value doesn't equal "human" value. Women told another poster he should give (significantly) heavy woman a chance becauae he may miss out on a good woman. So what? All thin/average/chunky girls are bitches? I dated two rather chunky girls. One was an emotional wreck (good woman though) and the other was the biggest bytch I datedin my life.