dreamingoftigers Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 I am a 29 year old Mormon girl with a kid and a weight problem that would want a guy who wouldn't use porn when he is with me. Granted he'd be getting some at least 4-5 nights a week regularly. What the Hell do you think my odds are? Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 Dont bother bad mouthing the mum or OM in front of your kid. Just change the subject or tell him to talk about you and your son. I do the same thing. I dont want to hear about what my kids do with scumbag, so i nod and change the subject. much easier. I concur - mm, please don't bad mouth either of them in front of your son, even the smallest remark... I know it's hard not to but for right now you need to just change the subject really quick when he mentions either one and you get that feeling (yes, I know how it feels)... they are a big part of his life, soon when he mentions them you should have a conversation with him... It's really important that you get to that point - for your good and his, if he sees that any mention of the OM gets a negative reaction he may stop talking about him all together, and there may be a day that there is something he NEEDS to tell you about mom's new BF but won't feel comfortable... he has to be able to communicate the good AND the bad (and hopefully there won't be any bad) Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 Make sure you're documenting that she's working part time but cannot take him to get his shots. This is just neglect. What a witch. You know, this kind of stuff pisses me off. I was wayward at one point in my life but I never ever neglected my kids. Ever. She needs to man up and take care of her kid. You're not taking him so she can play hide the cucumber with OM. Geeze what the hell is wrong with women. Can they not screw and take care of their kids? I don't get it!!!!!! :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 She needs to man up and take care of her kid. You're not taking him so she can play hide the cucumber with OM. Geeze what the hell is wrong with women. Can they not screw and take care of their kids? I don't get it!!!!!! :sick: I started a thread here that relates to this issue. My ex is about to abandon her 12 year old to move in with a man half way across the county who she has known for about 2 months. I really don't get it either. My sole purpose is to give that little girl a stable home and a great life, my ex can have her new life, I'm still working on the life I have.... Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 WOW This thread made my morning. I just saw a picture of my 23 year old ex with her bald lanky 37 year old boyfriend that lives in a trailerpark and I wanted MM4 to start taking shots at her. I would have bought the bitch a ring in december but she saved me a few grand by leaving me when i caught her at the bar all over this guy. I thought I was going to be sick when I saw the picture, I actually just laughed. At least OPs wife left someone with a lexus, this guy doesnt even have a car. I am so glad I dodged this bullet. I would be posting here in a couple years like MM4 probably with more rage. Im down for a trip to NOVA if you want to grab a beer. Im going to start interviewing for jobs up there in a couple months Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 WOW This thread made my morning. I just saw a picture of my 23 year old ex with her bald lanky 37 year old boyfriend that lives in a trailerpark and I wanted MM4 to start taking shots at her. I would have bought the bitch a ring in december but she saved me a few grand by leaving me when i caught her at the bar all over this guy. I thought I was going to be sick when I saw the picture, I actually just laughed. At least OPs wife left someone with a lexus, this guy doesnt even have a car. I am so glad I dodged this bullet. I would be posting here in a couple years like MM4 probably with more rage. Im down for a trip to NOVA if you want to grab a beer. Im going to start interviewing for jobs up there in a couple months yea man, if you want to grab a cold one hit me up when you're in the area. i live in Ashburn (divorce capital of VA). i'm glad you dodged a bullet, sounds like your ex really traded down. i would say mine did too.. she'll find out one day. so I realized why I've stepped to making fun of her the past few weeks.. I truly see her for what she is, she's never coming back, and if for some insane reason she did I'd be the biggest dip**** on the planet if I even CONSIDERED reconciling with her. I should be rejoicing that I'm free of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 (edited) My List of Red Flags (bear with me, its LONG) 11yrs younger, horrible idea pierced clit (wtf) slag tag educational background: 2 Fs, a D and 3 incompletes from community college (and she's the valedictorian of the family) said her ex boyfriend was crazy and had threatened to kill her from Sterling put out everything on first date dressed like a hooker crazy, heavily medicated mother super abusive father who abandoned her years before. probably sexually molested her too lower middle class background 2 brothers, 2 half brothers-- all uneducated redneck dickheads stupid as **** positives: the sex, the tits, gorgeous teeth and smile, the most beautiful blue eyes I've ever seen, always "there" for me, and she liked hockey. she was also friendly with the owner of the Capitals and got tons of free tickets. I have no one to blame but myself, LOL. honestly, I guess I did look at her as a long term project. a project that failed miserably. Edited July 23, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 (edited) Make sure you're documenting that she's working part time but cannot take him to get his shots. This is just neglect. What a witch. You know, this kind of stuff pisses me off. I was wayward at one point in my life but I never ever neglected my kids. Ever. She needs to man up and take care of her kid. You're not taking him so she can play hide the cucumber with OM. Geeze what the hell is wrong with women. Can they not screw and take care of their kids? I don't get it!!!!!! :sick: you rock. honey, its ALL TRUE. I remember one time my car got towed from our neighborhood. she went with me to get it back. we were sitting in the car and she's like "I'll handle this" and adjusted her DD tits. stay classy. it didn't work either, lol! manipulative POS. Edited July 23, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 "How can I "Respect Her Relationship" with OM?" In reply to the above I would ask why would you want to? Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 "How can I "Respect Her Relationship" with OM?" In reply to the above I would ask why would you want to? oh God I don't want to.. I just didn't know if thats how I should feel. i never say a word about this clown.. she wants me to so she can rub it in my face and say thats none of my business or whatever. I'm not giving her the satisfaction. Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 oh God I don't want to.. I just didn't know if thats how I should feel. i never say a word about this clown.. she wants me to so she can rub it in my face and say thats none of my business or whatever. I'm not giving her the satisfaction. Yep, don't give her the satisfaction. Take it from me, not saying anything about the clown will bug her more Link to post Share on other sites
Meatballsmom Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 (edited) MM4 I truly am sorry for the pain that you are being put though. At the present moment there isn't much you can do to change the situation, other than to fight for your kid. Make sure that he knows that you love him and are there for him Someday he will grow up, and figure things out with the view point of an adult. Chances are you Ex and OM's lives, if he is still with her will take a dramatic turn. I work with two very sad ladies who did exactly what your wife has done. When their kids grew up, and finally had a say about who could and who could no be in their lives, they totally cut off their mom. The kids of both of my associates have long since married, they were not invited to the wedding, and have since had kids of their own. The grandkids are now teenagers and grandma has been totally excluded from their lives. One has never seen any of her grandkids, and for the other it has been over 10 years. It is quite common for children when they reach adulthood, to point to the parent that broke up the family and say I don't want you in my life Edited July 23, 2011 by Meatballsmom misspelling Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 My lesson is father not around for daughter... huge red flag... never again... look at my friend gf has gigs post in breakup forum... 2 other people posted same story with father not around... Link to post Share on other sites
FreeNow Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Their mother didn't have time for our children then so they, as adults, have no time or patience for her now. She's completely shut out of their lives. As with the whole mirage and divorce, her life is the product of her own choices. But, it still doesn't stop her from blaming others... usually me. Link to post Share on other sites
updown Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) no one of substance? really? you DO realize WHO you're talking to, right? fairfax country has 1 million residents. trust me, there are women of substance. they might not look right to you, but they have substance! Where I live there have to be a few million people in a 30 mile radius. I still have no faith I'll meet anyone of substance. Edited July 24, 2011 by updown Link to post Share on other sites
updown Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 get through the next year, without a man and you will see that you don't NEED a man! believe me. it's wonderful to have one in your life that truly LOVES you for who you are and what you bring to the relationship. but, if they don't, it's miserable and pointless. there are many good men out there. and there are many good men that have been burned BIG time by women. and i mean BIG TIME! just like we have been burned by men BIG time! if you want a man that doesn't view porn then make that a priority! they do exist! there are men that will immediately jump to " i want pictures of your boobs." and then there are men that in a million years would never reduce a women to a picture of her tits! there are men that STILL open car doors for you! give YOU some time to heal and deal. give yourself a full year ALONE! i swear, life looks much better after you TRULY heal. which you can't do if you're chasing down the next thing or telling yourself that there is no point, or that there is nothing out there good enough or that YOU are not good enough!!! hang in there momma! the journey sucks. it does. and it's long as hell. lean on your RS sisters if you can! make the most amazing life with your daughter. be the most amazing mom you can be. once things start getting right in your world, more and more will fall into place. AND! you will be in a place to be able to tell the pieces of sh*t out there just where to go and stick it!!! I am a 29 year old Mormon girl with a kid and a weight problem that would want a guy who wouldn't use porn when he is with me. Granted he'd be getting some at least 4-5 nights a week regularly. What the Hell do you think my odds are? Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) updown, it isn't about just looks.. its about ALOT of things.. and finding a combination that works is NOT easy around here. I have a West coast attitude/mentality and I'm stuck in the DC area. I'm pretty sure thats why I ended up settling for my exW. Of course I want someone who I'm physically attracted to.. and I want to be wanted like anyone else. I would LIKE to be appreciated for who I am and all the positive things about me. I don't think thats asking too much. Edited July 24, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) oh, and btw you coat tail riding slag.. I bet you think when I meet a woman who is "right" for me that we'll be friendly and you'll even have the audacity to try and take credit for ending things between us.. that ain't happening Edited July 24, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
jaymz Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 oh, and btw you coat tail riding slag.. I bet you think when I meet a woman who is "right" for me that we'll be friendly and you'll even have the audacity to try and take credit for ending things between us.. that ain't happening That would be nice, the alternative is she blows up and becomes even worse! I am quite sure my stbxw thinks i have a girlfriend and every time i take the kids somewhere she wants to know who i am meeting and where... Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) That would be nice, the alternative is she blows up and becomes even worse! I am quite sure my stbxw thinks i have a girlfriend and every time i take the kids somewhere she wants to know who i am meeting and where... yea, my ex really, really doesn't care. lately i've been wondering how I'll handle it when I finally meet the low life OM. I know the best thing to do is shake the dudes hand and act like I'm above it all. hopefully I can pull this off, because talking smack would be a waste of time, although it would feel good for a few minutes. Edited July 24, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
andyg99 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 yea, my ex really, really doesn't care. lately i've been wondering how I'll handle it when I finally meet the low life OM. I know the best thing to do is shake the dudes hand and act like I'm above it all. hopefully I can pull this off, because talking smack would be a waste of time, although it would feel good for a few minutes. you can and will pull it off... just keep thinking of your son and every time you are faced with a situation like this you will always make the right choice Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 yep.. I'm not going down to their level. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 mm4: You are a better man than I. If I ever saw OM, even now.. even after all of this has dissolved.. still, I would break his f'ing jaw. No question about it. I know that makes me seem like a caveman idiot. I don't advocate violence, I am into yoga, spirituality and peace - yet I would destroy this dude. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 lately i've been wondering how I'll handle it when I finally meet the low life OM. I know the best thing to do is shake the dudes hand and act like I'm above it all. hopefully I can pull this off, because talking smack would be a waste of time, although it would feel good for a few minutes. Remember this: you, sir, are an honorable man. Stay consistent with that. You have a moral compass, and don't let some jerk - even for a moment - remove you from that. If you take the high road, I guarantee you will feel better about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marqueemoon4 Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 mm4: You are a better man than I. If I ever saw OM, even now.. even after all of this has dissolved.. still, I would break his f'ing jaw. No question about it. I know that makes me seem like a caveman idiot. I don't advocate violence, I am into yoga, spirituality and peace - yet I would destroy this dude. well.. yea. honestly im not a violent person but I'd like to inflict as much pain and punishment on him as I could get away with. what would that accomplish? not much really.. and I'd prob get in major trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
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