waynebrady Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Because I'm a man and I don't really like the chase at all. Maybe I'm weird like that but I just don't see what's supposed to be so fun about it?
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Because I'm a man and I don't really like the chase at all. Maybe I'm weird like that but I just don't see what's supposed to be so fun about it? I'm more goal oriented. I like the capture part the most. Chasing is fun too. Just don't be all emotional about it. It's just like a game you win some you lose some, and the losing should teach you better how to win.
Serenitynow Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 The chase is ****ing stupid. but it will ALWAYS live on, because there will always be dumb-ass men that play along!
collegeguy_24 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I hate the chase! I honestly don't know why women make men do it, things would be so much easier if people were up front. "would you like to get coffee with me sometime?" -Man "sure." -woman See, easier. Instead women make men try to follow these clues and subtle hints that frankly, guys like me miss all the damn time. And don't get me started on the dumb-ass men who make people like me look bad.
Star Gazer Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I hate the chase! I honestly don't know why women make men do it, things would be so much easier if people were up front. "would you like to get coffee with me sometime?" -Man "sure." -woman See, easier. Dude, for most women, that IS the chase... Asking her out, as opposed to her initiating the dates.
collegeguy_24 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Its irritating as all hell though, especially since there is no need for it aside from playing mind games.
Fouts Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Too many great women out there to be hung up on one. If we have a good date and she's distant, then she gets left in the distance for someone who wants to be upfront and close
Feelin Frisky Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I can't say I've chased. But developing feelings for someone who is a little out of reach has at times caused me to be more disciplined with myself to hopefully win her attentions. That kind of "slow" chase is a wonderful state to be in--even if it never turns out the way I hope.
Mad Max Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Noooooo. If a woman is playing hard to get, I move on.
Author waynebrady Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 I'm more goal oriented. I like the capture part the most. Chasing is fun too. Just don't be all emotional about it. It's just like a game you win some you lose some, and the losing should teach you better how to win. If I am dating a woman I would like that she puts in some effort aswell and shows her intrest. Otherwise if she is playing the hard to get game and making me chase her it feels like I'm WAY more intrested in her than she is in me.
Cracker Jack Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I understand asking the woman out, but I really see no point to chasing. Unless you're in high school or something.
robdrm32 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Define chasing please. I'm always confused about this, if you ask a girl on a date and she says yes and you continue this trend i don't consider it a "chase". Girls want guys to make the moves, if she agrees to your dates and answers your phone calls there really isn't any chase, more like effort. Yeah i like a girl to make an effort, it's awesome but I don't expect right away. When she begins to make effort thats when you know you are grooving and should go in for the kill.
mlh5046 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 its so dumb, so thats why I make them chase me instead. haha. girls like the chase it makes them more interested. on the other hand for guys, it makes them move on to other girls.
lilbunny Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I associate the 'chase' with the efforts to get into your knickers and common wisdom suggests if you give it up too early then they will be off like a shot. Maybe if a lot of men still didn't carry all of these prehistoric ideas about women who ask men out being forward, women who have sex with them early on being easy etc then there would be no need for any sort of games. I refuse to play them, I am terminally single! Saying that whoever came out with that 'rules' crap seriously needs to have a word with themselves!
bobdole Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 My last 2 R's that lasted 3 years each - both were really into me and let me know it - had sex with one first night, the other about a week after knowing her. I hate "the chase"... I always make my intentions clear. Women that don't annoy me and don't hold my interest for long.
phineas Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 The chase is fun for a little. Then I get bored.
lilbunny Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 My last 2 R's that lasted 3 years each - both were really into me and let me know it - had sex with one first night, the other about a week after knowing her. I hate "the chase"... I always make my intentions clear. Women that don't annoy me and don't hold my interest for long. Bob we should date, seriously, call a spade a spade, dream scenario
Gattica Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I don't think either side should chase. I seem to meet the guys that run for the hills if I call and it wasn't a return phone call. I agree with some other posters, just be upfront. No matter which gender is doing the asking out, be honest with your answer. It is better to be honest/upfront then to string someone along. Also, if either gender is just looking for a hook up, be honest about that as well. People need to grow the hell up and truthful about what they are looking for and think about the other person and not just your needs/wants. [/rant]
Rxwoman Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 The chase? Weeell, that's because people ( especially men, unfortunately) tend to really, REALLY want what seems hard to catch. It's unfortunately true that if a woman asks a man out, he'll decide she's desperate and dateless. Or if she has sex too quickly, like on first, or second date, the guy will generally become remote, and less likely to ask her out again.
jamesum Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 (edited) Dude, for most women, that IS the chase... Asking her out, as opposed to her initiating the dates. Approaching is not chasing. You are confused between the two. Anyway, sometimes I approach someone I feel attracted to when I think I might have a chance. But I dont chase. If a girl doesnt show interest then I stop. Back in high school I liked chasing though and it was when I was more immature and due to peer influence I saw girls as nothing but objects to play games on. It's unfortunately true that if a woman asks a man out, he'll decide she's desperate and dateless. Yeah, repeat a lie often enough, and it will be believed. Women are the ones who think women initiating is desperate, not men. Women chasing uninterested men is desperate. But women initiating contacts with interested men is assertive and thats not desperate. I don't think either side should chase. I seem to meet the guys that run for the hills if I call and it wasn't a return phone call. They probably werent that into you from the beginning. I agree tho no one should chase. People should initiate contacts or make approaches, but they shouldnt chase. Edited September 11, 2010 by jamesum
SpaceJazz Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I agree tho no one should chase. People should initiate contacts or make approaches, but they shouldnt chase. No chasing? WTF? I need a heavy weight boomerang to bring down most women I chase. If that doesn't work a composite bone bow as last resort. Man if you don't chase them you won't get a good one.
meerkat stew Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I -love- getting favorable attention (I don't really like the "chasing" terminology), and even more, love when I find a diamond in the rough who elicits my attention, it's feeling more alive, makes the sap rise
jamesum Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 No chasing? WTF? I need a heavy weight boomerang to bring down most women I chase. If that doesn't work a composite bone bow as last resort. Man if you don't chase them you won't get a good one. Nah, I prefer mutual attraction. I found that when I chased someone, I started to see that person more as an object and when I got her, usually the relationship wasnt healthy since the attraction wasnt mutual so she behaved as if its a privilege for me to be with her.
lino Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I'm not a big fan of it but I know several men who are.
Author waynebrady Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 The chase? Weeell, that's because people ( especially men, unfortunately) tend to really, REALLY want what seems hard to catch. It's unfortunately true that if a woman asks a man out, he'll decide she's desperate and dateless. Or if she has sex too quickly, like on first, or second date, the guy will generally become remote, and less likely to ask her out again. If a man is intrested then he won't think you are desperate if you ask him out. That's something only women say, not men. Just because a man rejects you it doesn't mean he rejected you because you asked him out he might just have been not intrested. Men get rejected all the time.
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