Green Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I have not in any way tried to insult the OP. I do think we had a mutual misunderstanding on the last page, but as far as I know it ended well. Meanwhile, I am horribly afraid of ending up alone and cougar aged, but none of the guys here could be vastly overestimating their chances with younger women? That doesn't strike you are ridiculously slanted? And if I'm the bitter one while you guys are fighting off 19 year olds, why are you and meekrat so angry with me? It just doesn't add up to two guys drowing in ladies. I'm not drowning in ladies I just have no trouble finding one to like me. I happen to be lucky enough to have a girl I really like in my life right now and I'm loving it. You joke about being afraid but its obviouse you are insecure about the idea. Oh well you're missing out. Just date who you're attracted. Follow your heart and be true for yourself and let others do the same.
that girl Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I'm not drowning in ladies I just have no trouble finding one to like me. I happen to be lucky enough to have a girl I really like in my life right now and I'm loving it. You joke about being afraid but its obviouse you are insecure about the idea. Oh well you're missing out. Just date who you're attracted. Follow your heart and be true for yourself and let others do the same. I'm really not insecure, you're projecting again because it upsets you to hear than in my opinion, most young women do not like guys in their 40s.
meerkat stew Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I've actually never told the OP that she needs to date men her own age. My point was actually that regardless of who she chooses to date she should reconsider her perconceptions about men her own age because it could be problematic. First, not all of my prior post was directed at you alone. BUT, you did say on page six that she needed to stop writing younger men off (and that's exactly what I called you on), and unless I am mistaken, you have reiterated that elsewhere in the thread, despite OP not really writing anyone off. She dates younger men, she dates older men, she prefers the older. That's not exactly writing anyone off. But I do know lots of 20 something women and I can count on two hands the number who have dated a way older guy (10+ years) and still have fingers left over. Now this might be because of the people I happen to know, but considering all the posts on here from men about how hard it is to get a date, I doubt many 40 year olds have 25 year olds constantly approaching them. I'm telling you I do, am not special, they are everywhere. Friday night a friend of mine told me "that girl at the bar is checking you out," I looked over and snorted "she's no more than 24," (she also happened to be a perfect 10) he was like "whatever man." Then not five minutes later, he says, "there's another one staring a hole in your back drinking a martini," I looked at her and she was even younger. I didn't talk to those two because at that moment, a 26 y.o. I have dated and slept with came in and sat down next to me. While talking to her, another one came up and started talking to the 26 y.o. I thought at first that she was a friend of the 26 y.o., when she left, 26 told me, "I hardly know that girl, I think she digs you." So I decided to do a sociological experiment, the next time that one came around, I told her, "you know you have lovely hair." She danced around beaming like someone just gave her a winning lottery ticket and gravitated near me the rest of the night. She was probably 22. Remember, I am not approaching these, not flirting with them, not even trying, and am not much above average looking. The Friday before, I had a 20 year old do everything but actually get up and sit in my lap in a different club. Can only imagine what kind of attention the rich, really good looking men with nice cars my age get. Of course some don't like me or check me out, but more of that young range check me out than my own frickin age. As stated before, I don't seek them out and I usually don't pursue them, but I am going to change this due to having so many bad experiences with shrewish women my own age, and some relatively good recent experiences with younger women. Admittedly, this isn't all my own charms. They have little to choose from in their own demographic. Half the guys there had some weird ass facial hair or groover looking sideburns that didn't fit them at all. 80% of them were wearing HATS in a nice bar/club. Only one or two had slacks and a collared shirt on. Most had greasy hair and bad haircuts, dirty clothes and not well groomed. Lots had jewelry and earrings. I didn't smell them, but imagine they weren't wearing good cologne like I do, or worse some reeking Axe smelling stuff or something similar. Several were obviously high or working drug deals. Have never said it's all about me, but when I was that age we dressed nice, didn't wear hats, didn't look like we were waiting to get back home to the xbox, kept our drugging under wraps and discreet, and if we had facial hair, it didn't make us look like Abe Lincoln. Kids today I tell ya. The women on the other hand WOW, they were actually wearing DRESSES, pretty ones but not too clubbish, not the constant jeans women my age wear out. They had their hair styled and DOWN, not all bound up or chopped too short like women I meet my age. They were smiling and flirtatious, very social, not blowing guys off like shrews. This was a nice club though, other places I went, the women were acting like Girls Gone Wild with not much class. I imagine I wouldn't get as much attention in the Girls Gone Wild places. But then I don't -have- to go to those places. So I'm basing my beliefs on my own experience, plus the marriage data I've seen, plus the other threads here. Your "marriage data" got beat down, whooped, devalued, defeated, completely countered. Drop it while you are behind, and as far as your experience, all these women I described from one night out were gorgeous, in a very nice club and well-dressed... don't know where you been hangin out You are basing your ideas on the idea that women are terrified of missing out on awesome guys like you. I know I'm not. Sorry babe, wish I could work you in, but it seems I have my hands full. I made a mildly rude "tables turning" jab, and as you came back with "catty little bitches?" and you wonder that someone flames that? C'mon. Dish out>>> take it.
Green Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I'm really not insecure, you're projecting again because it upsets you to hear than in my opinion, most young women do not like guys in their 40s. I could care less what you think, I'm happy I'm in love life is good for me. I'm just trying to help the OP by tackling her DEMONS for her mainly ur attitude
meerkat stew Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 why are you and meekrat so angry with me? It just doesn't add up to two guys drowing in ladies. "meekrat?" if that's not a typo that's funny. I'm not angry with you, but don't you reckon calling people "catty little bitches" is a bit over the top? You made the comment that older men thinking they can attract younger women were living in some kind of fantasy world. Isn't that a bit aggressive on your part? My "table turning" jab was in direct response to that. I usually don't jump right in these age gap threads. I read them and lo and behold, women come in the thread attributing all sorts of BAD TRAITS to older men who date younger women. It's in this thread and every other one like it, particularly the BS about older men expecting to dominate younger women? Like Green said, do you just make this stuff up as you go along? Another pet peeve of mine is all the "old man creepers hitting on me" text and subtext in threads like this. It's totally fine when a young woman 20 years my junior hits on me, checks me out, takes me out in a driveway, and f_cks my brains out. But if I ever want to start up with them, I instantly become an "old man creeper," despite the fact that they are crawling on me left and right. THAT's a total double standard and it's wrong. Have had trouble with crazy women my own age, young women seem to like me, am having trouble frankly with the perception that talking to them could brand me a pervo geezer, but the more I experience, to hell with that, call me a pervo all you want, it's just envy. Eventually my BS detector goes into overdrive and I just have to have my say. If you don't want that, don't say ridiculous unfounded things. In other words, saying again, Dish out>>> take it.
Surrealist Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Ok, I've posted about this before...but I just can't get over my attraction to older men. I've legitimately tried to go out with guys my own age (I'm 25) and have an open mind about it, but I am just not attracted to anyone my age. What is my deal?! Is anyone else like this? It's becoming a problem because most of these older men (usually later 30s early 40s) are not interested in watching a 25 year old 'grow up'...they've already been there and done that. When I've gone out with guys my own age, I try really hard not to think of their age and just find of who they are as a person but as they're talking to me, I just glaze over and tune out...I find every one I've been out with so boring and I am not at all attracted to any of them. Before anyone calls it out, I do not think I have 'daddy issues.' I have a wonderful father whom I have a great relationship with and I am not looking to replace him in any way. I just find myself really attracted to successful, older men...anyone older man who has an established career and is good at what they do, I'm into it. Can anyone help? Sure I'm an 'older man' lol. Just turned 40 last month and I would certainly never criticise you, or anyone for that matter, if you felt an attraction to me. Just sayin'. And having said that, honestly I do get a lot of young women (even much younger than yourself) who show attraction to me. I don't look my age which helps. The problem with me is I also seem to attract middle-age obese ogresses which seriously drives me nuts at times! Go away please, you've lived your 'bad boy' lifestyle for the past 15 to 20 consecutive years and NOW..... you finally decide you want the 'nice guy' but damn, you've piled on the baggage and we nice guys are no longer interested in that!!
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