Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Hey Confused - I've read that only 'unmet needs motivate'. What needs of yours aren't being met by guys closer to your age from your dating experiences so far? That is an excellent question. From my experience, I find that guys my age tend to come on very strong. They seem to not have more loosely defined 'boundaries' if that's the right term to use than older men. I mean, I really don't need you to be touchy feely with me within the first couple of hours I know you. I automatically dismiss guys who come on too strong. I also just find the way most younger guys talk to me to be very immature/flirty even in just normal conversation. I really don't even know how to describe that properly but it just feels like a frat guy is talking to me...and this is not just one guy, I have noticed it with several! I don't like it. Additionally, younger guys seem to lack the confidence that older men have. Again, this is just my personal experience but they just seem rather unsure of themselves and I find that to be a turn off. Or, on the other hand, many guys my age seem extemely cocky and really don't care to hear what you have to talk about because it's all about them. Please note that I do realize older men can also be unsure of themselves and can also be cocky, but that has not been my experience. I also think that I somewhat enjoy the fact that a man in his 40s has pretty much grown into the person he is going to "be." I don't know if that makes sense but when you are younger, you still have a lot of learning and life experiences and changes to go through. You may not be the same person at 35 that you were at 25. A man in his 40s has done that and, for the most part, this is who he is. I guess an older man could look at me and see that I will go through many more changes as I get older and that is why they are not willing to become involved.
fwang Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 We are in the same boat. I am turning to 23 in 2 months and hanging out with a guy who is 15 years older than me. Because of the age gap, he stopped seeing me after 2 weeks. We almost cut each other off at that time. However, 10 days later, we met in the same place again and we hit it off. And now, he and I are in kinda FWB situation. We meet each other twice a week and also exchange text messages (maybe 10 in total) every day. He talked about the same **** with me. "Oh, you are too young. A girl whose age is between 22-28 is not stable at all. Maybe 3 years later, you will change to the person I barely know. I can't take that risk. I can't be the father when I am 90 years old. I like you, and I feel relaxed and comfortable when I am with you. But I can't let myself attach to you. I don't want to lead you on." Guess what? Last Saturday, I happened to know that he brought another girl back to his condo at night, who is also 22.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Ok, I've posted about this before...but I just can't get over my attraction to older men. I've legitimately tried to go out with guys my own age (I'm 25) and have an open mind about it, but I am just not attracted to anyone my age. What is my deal?! Is anyone else like this? It's becoming a problem because most of these older men (usually later 30s early 40s) are not interested in watching a 25 year old 'grow up'...they've already been there and done that. When I've gone out with guys my own age, I try really hard not to think of their age and just find of who they are as a person but as they're talking to me, I just glaze over and tune out...I find every one I've been out with so boring and I am not at all attracted to any of them. Before anyone calls it out, I do not think I have 'daddy issues.' I have a wonderful father whom I have a great relationship with and I am not looking to replace him in any way. I just find myself really attracted to successful, older men...anyone older man who has an established career and is good at what they do, I'm into it. Can anyone help? I for one am glad to know there are ladies out there like you. I don't want to psychoanalyze it, just revel that it's a fact that wonderful stuff happens. My best friend is 55 and just gave up his confirmed bachelor life and his comfortable diggs filled with guitars, amps, keyboards, a piano, mixing boards, synths, professional recording equipment all of which he mastered, all for the love of a 34 year old with 3 kids. I lament his loss to me as he was always there for me to talk to for about 30 years. But he must love her to let go of the whole music platform that occcupied his free time for so long as well as the spacious diggs he rented still paying 1970's prices for. Today my favorite expression is "stay thirsty my friends" like that old guy with the young harem says on the Dos Eqixx's commercial.
Fouts Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Why are you so worried about it? You can't change who you are, or the kind of people you're attracted to. Yes, like most others have stated, people tend to be drawn to people in their own age group. But as with everything in life, there's exceptions. Most guys in their early-mid 20's are still figuring out what they want to do with their life. Most women that age are usually unsure themselves too and it's naturally more comfortable and sometimes exciting for a couple to figure those things out together. You're probably unusually focused and grounded and drawn to men who have their life together. Enjoy it, if it makes you feel better I'm in my early 40's and get approached by women in their mid 20's quite often. It's not quite as uncommon as you seem to think
Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Confused - *most* people end up dating and marrying people very close to their own age. And there is a reason for that - there is instant understanding of one's generation and current position in life. Personally, I would have no interest in dating someone significantly younger in a serious way, as I wouldn't want to deal with him going through his career growth, change of personality, etc. I get the feeling that you want to "be older", if you feel. That you want to be an established woman with a solid career, etc. But, getting there is half the fun! Dating someone who has what you aspire to isn't going to change your own life. It's only going to make you a glommer onto someone else's scene. Don't compare yourself to older women. Live your life as a carefree 25-year old who has the ability to still make mistakes and learn and grow. Jilly Bean, you completely hit the nail on the head with your statement about not wanting to deal with his career growth and personality changes. That is the primary reason why older men do not typically have any interest in pursuing a long term relationship with me, a couple of them have pretty much told me that word for word. Sure, they will sleep with me for awhile but much beyond that they just think we are at such a different place in our lives. I completely understand and the reasoning makes sense to me but when I think about the prospect of dating someone closer to my own age, I lose all interest. I do agree about the understanding of one's own generation and that is obviously a valid point....but for me, I feel like I enjoy being a part of someone's life who is very different from me and who has experienced different things from me. I feel like, ok I already know about my generation and my time growing up...now I want to know about yours! Maybe that is weird but it is how I feel. I guess I should point out that I was in a very serious relationship for several years with a man 12 years older than me. We were very different and from different backgrounds but we really fit well together. The only reason it ended was because he had alcholism issues that were getting worse and, after urging and begging him to see a therapist or go to rehab and he refused, I had to start thinking about myself and my happiness.
Jilly Bean Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Yeah, but you should be enjoying the journey - not just trying to coat tail someone else's destination. Are you happy in your career? Is it in an appropriate spot for your age/education? Because dating someone who is established isn't going to change your personal situation. And if it's about being with someone who is different than you and has experienced different things, then date a guy your age, but someone who is the opposite on some levels. If you're white collar - date a blue collar guy. If you grew up in a nuclear family, then date someone who lived with relatives or a single parent. If you never traveled, then date someone who was an army brat or lived overseas. It's very easy to expand your own viewpoint AND date someone age appropriate.
fwang Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 When I was 20, I had my frist boyfriend who is 7 years older than me. Our relationship lasted 1 year, almost LDR. And I broke up with him because I would never move Maybe I do have a thing for guys who are more matured than me. Or I am too matured for the guys at my age. Even though I am 22, but sometimes I feel like I was already in my late 20's.I am pursuing the master degree, also working full time. At the same time, I am studying the CFA exam. I am barely out of the party phase. After a long day, I just wanna stay home, watch TV and do some reading. And I really wonder, what kind of people I will be in 3 years.
FitChick Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Most men in their forties, if they don't have kids by then, generally don't want any, so they'd worry that you would. Or they are divorced and have kids and don't want any more. That's why they prefer someone their own age with similar backgrounds. I have the opposite problem. I've always preferred younger men. Men seem more hung up on the number than women, regardless of how a woman may look. That's changing but too slowly for me. I hate lying about my age but until and unless things gets serious with a man, my age is none of his business, just like his bank balance is none of my business. If you're talking marriage, that's another story. Of course by then, the bank balance or the age shouldn't even be a problem.
Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Why are you so worried about it? You can't change who you are, or the kind of people you're attracted to. Yes, like most others have stated, people tend to be drawn to people in their own age group. But as with everything in life, there's exceptions. Most guys in their early-mid 20's are still figuring out what they want to do with their life. Most women that age are usually unsure themselves too and it's naturally more comfortable and sometimes exciting for a couple to figure those things out together. You're probably unusually focused and grounded and drawn to men who have their life together. Enjoy it, if it makes you feel better I'm in my early 40's and get approached by women in their mid 20's quite often. It's not quite as uncommon as you seem to think I only am worried about it because I cannot seem to maintain a relationship with someone much older than me. They are not interested in a long term relationship with someone much younger. So, while I don't want to change who I am, the way I am currently doesn't seem to be working out for me relationship-wise
fwang Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I only am worried about it because I cannot seem to maintain a relationship with someone much older than me. They are not interested in a long term relationship with someone much younger. So, while I don't want to change who I am, the way I am currently doesn't seem to be working out for me relationship-wise The 38 years old guy told me that the ideal age for his future wife is around 35. And also, she should have a good body function which enables her to carry a baby.
Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 The 38 years old guy told me that the ideal age for his future wife is around 35. And also, she should have a good body function which enables her to carry a baby. Oh man, that does not sound like a good situation for you! I don't think I would give this guy the time of day(of course that is usually easier said than done)!
Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 We are in the same boat. I am turning to 23 in 2 months and hanging out with a guy who is 15 years older than me. Because of the age gap, he stopped seeing me after 2 weeks. We almost cut each other off at that time. However, 10 days later, we met in the same place again and we hit it off. And now, he and I are in kinda FWB situation. We meet each other twice a week and also exchange text messages (maybe 10 in total) every day. He talked about the same **** with me. "Oh, you are too young. A girl whose age is between 22-28 is not stable at all. Maybe 3 years later, you will change to the person I barely know. I can't take that risk. I can't be the father when I am 90 years old. I like you, and I feel relaxed and comfortable when I am with you. But I can't let myself attach to you. I don't want to lead you on." Guess what? Last Saturday, I happened to know that he brought another girl back to his condo at night, who is also 22. I have totally been there...it really does hurt because it's not something that you can really do anything about. You can't help that you are young. Do you know what you are going to do about it? Are you ok with FWB for now or do you definitely want more?
Scottdmw Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Confused - *most* people end up dating and marrying people very close to their own age. And there is a reason for that - there is instant understanding of one's generation and current position in life. Personally, I would have no interest in dating someone significantly younger in a serious way, as I wouldn't want to deal with him going through his career growth, change of personality, etc. I'm not sure that is true. I read some statistics a while back that if you look at the average age difference at marriage for women in their mid-20s, it is about four years, that is on average a woman of age 25 will marry someone 4 years older. That average age difference goes up as the woman's age goes up, so that a 35-year-old woman will on average marry someone more like 8 years older. Do you have some statistics to back up your assertion that most people marry very close to their own age? Regarding understanding of one's generation and current position in life, I guess that might be important to some people. It's not important to me. I've heard people talk about needing to have grown up with the same music and things like that, and I just think to myself why would anyone care about that? If two people can make a connection that's the important thing. Hi Jilly Bean, that is a very good question and one that I have certainly asked myself a number of times. When I think about women in their 30s and 40s, I am not sure how I would measure up because they too have many more life experiences than I have had and I think that makes them vastly more attractive to men than I can be at my age of 25. Confused, it's very useful to keep in mind that what men want and what women want may be very different. Certainly speaking for myself, I find youth and beauty much more romantically attractive in a woman than life experience. That's not to say I place no value on life experience and such, but when it comes to things like that the emotion I feel is more like intellectual respect than attraction or interest in a relationship. I'm in my mid-30s and would prefer to date someone younger. So, if that's what you want too, I would like to reassure you that there are men out there who would love to date you. They may need a little encouragement/reassurance from you that it's okay with you, some men in that situation might feel like they are doing something socially unacceptable. There are people out there who will put quite a lot of social pressure on these kind of relationships. It is funny to me, it's like we have an anything goes society where all manner of relationships are acceptable that used to be forbidden, but age gap is the one remaining taboo that some people will frown upon.
Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 I'm not sure that is true. I read some statistics a while back that if you look at the average age difference at marriage for women in their mid-20s, it is about four years, that is on average a woman of age 25 will marry someone 4 years older. That average age difference goes up as the woman's age goes up, so that a 35-year-old woman will on average marry someone more like 8 years older. Do you have some statistics to back up your assertion that most people marry very close to their own age? Regarding understanding of one's generation and current position in life, I guess that might be important to some people. It's not important to me. I've heard people talk about needing to have grown up with the same music and things like that, and I just think to myself why would anyone care about that? If two people can make a connection that's the important thing. Confused, it's very useful to keep in mind that what men want and what women want may be very different. Certainly speaking for myself, I find youth and beauty much more romantically attractive in a woman than life experience. That's not to say I place no value on life experience and such, but when it comes to things like that the emotion I feel is more like intellectual respect than attraction or interest in a relationship. I'm in my mid-30s and would prefer to date someone younger. So, if that's what you want too, I would like to reassure you that there are men out there who would love to date you. They may need a little encouragement/reassurance from you that it's okay with you, some men in that situation might feel like they are doing something socially unacceptable. There are people out there who will put quite a lot of social pressure on these kind of relationships. It is funny to me, it's like we have an anything goes society where all manner of relationships are acceptable that used to be forbidden, but age gap is the one remaining taboo that some people will frown upon. Hi Scott, thank you for your insight! I guess that, while I have not found the right guys my own age, I have also not found the right older men either. None seem interested in the long term. They are certainly interested in what I look like but they do not want a real relationship. I won't give up though, thanks for the encouragement.
fwang Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I have totally been there...it really does hurt because it's not something that you can really do anything about. You can't help that you are young. Do you know what you are going to do about it? Are you ok with FWB for now or do you definitely want more? I used to like him very very much, even hoping to have a very serious relationship with him. He approached me first, and he initiated all the conversation at the beginning. But after we moved to the FWB zone and knew the truth, I don't want a serious thing with him either. Maybe I am waiting for him to feel attached to me, and then I would break up with him. I gotta say, dating an older guy challenges me a lot.
bac Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I only am worried about it because I cannot seem to maintain a relationship with someone much older than me. They are not interested in a long term relationship with someone much younger. So, while I don't want to change who I am, the way I am currently doesn't seem to be working out for me relationship-wise You can not have a LTR with an older man because he does not want to have it because of his personal reasons. Sure, it is easy to have a short-term or a long-term FWBs with older males. Older males do want to have fun, and they do not want to have anything else including responsibilities and other boring stuff. If your men wanted to have a serious LTR, they would surely get married by 40s. It is a nice excuse to let you know that you are too young for them if you want a serious relationship with them. But, I am sure they are positive that you are mature enough to have hot sex with them anytime. The point is that you age is fine for the right older man. But, some older guys just want to have fun with younger girls and truthfully with females of any age as far as it is not a serious LTR.
Author confused192 Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 (edited) Yeah, but you should be enjoying the journey - not just trying to coat tail someone else's destination. Are you happy in your career? Is it in an appropriate spot for your age/education? Because dating someone who is established isn't going to change your personal situation. And if it's about being with someone who is different than you and has experienced different things, then date a guy your age, but someone who is the opposite on some levels. If you're white collar - date a blue collar guy. If you grew up in a nuclear family, then date someone who lived with relatives or a single parent. If you never traveled, then date someone who was an army brat or lived overseas. It's very easy to expand your own viewpoint AND date someone age appropriate. Oh no, I am very happy in my career and do not feel that being with someone successful will help me to reach a certain goal or improve my working relationships. I work at a university and I have a great position that I love. I do not need any help career-wise. I have dated other guys my age who are very different than me but none really intrigued me. I didn't even stay friends with them nor do I have any desire to know what is going on in their lives. I don't even have Facebook because I really don't feel the need to keep up to date on all these guys from high school and college that I used to know...I don't honestly care what any of them are doing these days. Its sounds awful to say that but I just don't. I get approached by conventionally attractive guys my age often and I just don't want to make a connection. While women my age find celebrities like Channing Tatum hot, I just find their baby faces completely unappealing. I must have major issues Edited August 12, 2010 by confused192
fwang Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 You can not have a LTR with an older man because he does not want to have it because of his personal reasons. Sure, it is easy to have a short-term or a long-term FWBs with older males. Older males do want to have fun, and they do not want to have anything else including responsibilities and other boring stuff. If your men wanted to have a serious LTR, they would surely get married by 40s. It is a nice excuse to let you know that you are too young for them if you want a serious relationship with them. But, I am sure they are positive that you are mature enough to have hot sex with them anytime. The point is that you age is fine for the right older man. But, some older guys just want to have fun with younger girls and truthfully with females of any age as far as it is not a serious LTR. I think you make a very good point here. I bet Confused 192, you are into the older guys who are successful in both career and life. You can never imagine how many women want to sleep with them! At first, I thought that old guy should feel lucky to have me because I am young, pretty and good on paper. But now I realize that he just has way too many choices. The 38 years old guy told me that some women who are already taken or even married are trying to approach him. And I remember one time, he brought me to a floor party, there are so many women were checking him out and asking details about him. He also told me that before 30, he had 3 very serious relationship which are 3 years, 5 years and 2 years respectively. He planned to marry the 2 years dating girl, and it turned out that she was cheating on him. After that, he started to have short-term romances. But I think all of these are excuses. People are driven by their desires.
sumdude Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 First of all don't worry so much and no you don't have major issues. You are attracted to what works for you at the moment. You're still young and have time to find the right match. Maybe he'll end up closer to your age or maybe not. Does it matter that much? Women in their teens and 20's are usually more mature than men the same age. It starts to change around 30 or so. I've seen successful relationships with all sorts of age differences and just as many crash and burn with people the same age. So age has no real affect on the outcome. I'm 42 and was married to a woman one year younger and guess what? She left me for an older man. Does that mean anything? Not really.. My freinds father is maybe 20 years older than his wife and they've been married 50 years! Enjoy life as much as you can and don't over analyze or let someone else's or "society's" ideas about age and relationships affect you.
Fouts Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I only am worried about it because I cannot seem to maintain a relationship with someone much older than me. They are not interested in a long term relationship with someone much younger. So, while I don't want to change who I am, the way I am currently doesn't seem to be working out for me relationship-wise Be patient, the right one will come along eventually. Yes, us older men are very hesitant to get involved with someone 15-20 years younger, but it's possible the right one will come along and you're everything he's looking for. Me personally, of course I prefer women early 30's and up, but that doesn't mean that one wouldn't come along and change my mind. Keep looking and don't get so frustrated. Life isn't always easy, especially in affairs of the heart.
that girl Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 One guy just simply told me that I have not gone through many of lifes obstacles yet and he really didn't want to have to go through them with me since he has already been throught them before! I'm a little bit older than you but I think this is really common with big age difference relationships when the woman is under 30 or maybe even 35. A guy in his late 30s has often made his decision regarding marriage. If he's on the dating scene either he is divorced (maybe with a few kids) or isn't interested in it. So yes, I think guys in the 35+ age range are often less open to a long term marriage minded relationship than say a 27 year old. They've often either been there done that or they don't ever want to go there. The other thing is that a lot of times guys like to date way younger because they don't think they have to take her seriously. She's the just for now girl who they assume will move on. I guess I wrote this post to see if there is anyone else like me and how you deal with it. If you think I need to give guys my age a chance, how in the world do I do it when I can't even seem to bring myself to sit down for a conversation with any of them?! I have honestly tried and I just feel that none of them remotely interest me and I am certainly not attracted to any of them. This is an issue even if you ignore dating because you are assuming that guys your own age have nothing going on when that simply isn't true. I read some statistics a while back that if you look at the average age difference at marriage for women in their mid-20s, it is about four years, that is on average a woman of age 25 will marry someone 4 years older. That average age difference goes up as the woman's age goes up, so that a 35-year-old woman will on average marry someone more like 8 years older. Do you have some statistics to back up your assertion that most people marry very close to their own age? The average Americans are 26.8 (male) & 25.1 (female) when they first get married. The average number is also going to make the age gap look bigger since it is more unusual for a women to be 10 years older than her husband than the reverse. Personally, I can't think of one married couple I know who has more than a 5 year age gap and most of them are within 2 years of each other. Of course it does happen, but the norm does seem to be couples close in age.
elaina Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Hello Confused, I don't really know why you need help? Personally, older men is not my cup of tea, but you are 25 right? If you want to be with a man much older, that's fine. Dont worry. One should show up, sometimes guys show up when you least expect them, so be ready! (Sorry if I sound like a fortune cookie, i don't mean to... it is interesting though how sometimes, if you stop looking, "Mr. Right" comes to you...)
BlackLovely Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I have always preferred men who were older than me. I believe that this is because of my relationship with my father. Daddy is a sweet, dear man who adores his only daughter. However, he is also weak, ineffectual and henpecked. Subconsciously, I was looking for an older man to protect me the way Daddy never did. My mother was always abusive and tyrannical. I think that the OP is not mindful of the pitfalls of dating older men. She is only seeing financial/career stability and maturity. Many older men love to play the age card, when they have a younger partner. I had an ex who was so pushy and bossy that he kept braying "I'm older, I know better!" A lot of older men just want a younger woman to mold. This will make you resentful and angry; no woman wants to feel like her partner thinks she is a stupid kid, or not good enough the way she is. Some older men are still 20 years old mentally and not in a good way. These Peter Pan types seek out younger girls, because they know that a woman their age would laugh at them. I'm talking about the ones that still have roommates and are working on their 10th get rick quick scheme, at 45+ . Before I was engaged, I found that the older men I dated rarely wanted a serious relationship. Even if they said they did, they would often be lying about this and other important details. Younger women were just toys to play with until an older and more established woman came along. Lastly, there is the baggage issue. We women in our twenties can be very naive about the realities of blended families~ stepchildren or ex wives. It's not easy to become a stepmother, especially if you are not much older than the kids! Ex wives can be very bitter and ruthless creatures. On the other hand, a man who reaches the age range of 40-50 and has never even shacked up must have commitment problems. I hope that the OP can see that I'm only mentioning these considerations to help. I would hate to see such a beautiful woman, get hurt by some geezer that just wanted to bed her. Speaking of bed, older men are GREAT lovers, erectile dysfunction notwithstanding. Less quantity, but more more quality! My fiance and I swing from the chandelier and he is 8 years my senior. Hopefully, there will be no wet noodles for a looong time.
Scottdmw Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I'm a little bit older than you but I think this is really common with big age difference relationships when the woman is under 30 or maybe even 35. A guy in his late 30s has often made his decision regarding marriage. If he's on the dating scene either he is divorced (maybe with a few kids) or isn't interested in it. So yes, I think guys in the 35+ age range are often less open to a long term marriage minded relationship than say a 27 year old. They've often either been there done that or they don't ever want to go there. The average Americans are 26.8 (male) & 25.1 (female) when they first get married. The average number is also going to make the age gap look bigger since it is more unusual for a women to be 10 years older than her husband than the reverse. Personally, I can't think of one married couple I know who has more than a 5 year age gap and most of them are within 2 years of each other. Of course it does happen, but the norm does seem to be couples close in age. The statistics you present are not precisely age gap statistics, though they probably correlate. But, they are talking about a woman who is 25 years old only. Here is a quote from the Psychoanalytic Review: “Most marriages in our society are age hypergamous; that is, a man marries a woman younger than he. Sixty-nine percent of marriages exhibit this pattern. In another 11 percent the partners' ages are equal and in only 20 percent is the woman older than the man.1 The median age gap at first marriage is 1.8 years; at remarriage 3.7 years. This remarriage median reflects a heavy weighting toward women and men in their 20s and early 30s, when most remarriage occurs. A man in his 40s who remarries is likely to choose a mate nine to ten years younger then he. “ http://www.pep-web.org/document.php?id=psar.073d.0202a So, again, the average normal age gap depends greatly on what the ages of the people in question are. The age gap goes up with age, and as I said for a woman who is 35 she is likely to marry a man 10 years older. I'm not sure why you think that men who are 35+ and single are not interested in marriage. Certainly in my case I very much want to get married. Also, there are many many men in their 20s who do not want to get married. I don't think it's useful to make generalizations like this, to assume that because of age you can do a good job of predicting whether a man will want to get married. Why not check with the individual man to find out? Scott
OceanTropic Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 There is nothing wrong with that. I am attracted to older guys as well, and the youngest guy I have ever had relationship with was 10 years older that I was. It's normal, after all who wants a little boy who doesn't know what to do with his life and is still "discovering" himself? It's attractive when a man is well established, knows where he is and where he's going and most of all, knows how to treat a woman. He's been through all the heartbreak and craziness and blablabla and he knows a real thing when he sees one. I tried dating guys my own age, but its not that i'm bored, they just don't seem attracted to me and they never approach me. I don't know why.
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