Does breast size matter?

[LosingBattle]

Pancakes? This is a new one to me. What do you plan to do? Find a guy who likes your other assets or get implants? Would you consider a guy of a different ethnic background that doesn't focus as heavily on the boobs? I'm serious, what do you plan to do?

 

I don't know, it'd be so much easier if all boobs were equally good. But I'm dreaming, aren't I? I mean, the way I see it, all boobs should be equally good, they are essentially all the same: skin, fat, milk producing tissue, areolas and nipples. So what if some are bigger and others are smaller they're all the same thing.

 

I guess worst case scenario I'll settle for a guy who settles for my small breasts, like in my last relationship (yes, I'd be settling, I'd like a guy who can't help but drool over me and who prefers my body type). Best case scenario, I'll find that guy. Who actually does prefer almost flat breasts, who doesn't really like big ones that much, and who likes the rest of my body.

 

It can't be THAT hard, I'd believe, since I felt that way with my ex. Every inch of him was perfect in my eyes. I'm not too picky about looks anyway, never have been, but whenever I've been strongly attracted towards someone (I've liked MANY different types of guys), I never find flaws with their physique.

 

I will never get implants. Ever. Not even if I get cancer. I don't think I'd want reconstruction after a mastectomy because I've heard it can be even riskier than getting implants out of vanity. I don't have anything against women who get reconstructions, I think it's very good that they can somehow get what they had back, but I think I'd wear my scars proudly.

 

I hope there would be guys of different ethnicities here, but where I live we're all mixed race! I live in South America, so we're all practically half Inca, half Spaniard. And in my country in particular, we follow all the trends from the US (which I find kind of sad, not because it's the US, but because whatever happened to our own identity). As a matter of fact, a survey was conducted recently, and one of the questions was something about which developed country we would like to be like the most and the majority of people answered was the US. So guys here follow American standards of beauty, Playboy playmates being the epitome of sexiness. As a matter of fact, practically every model you see on TV here has implants. Men's magazines are full with pictures of busty women, often in news stands, in full display at kids' eye level, no brown cover 'censoring' the content.

 

I hope to find a guy who's flexible, like very very flexible in his physical tastes. I feel like variety is indeed the spice of life, and being flexible regarding looks can be very beneficial since you get to enjoy all types of beauty. That's how I think, and I usually enjoy the view a lot more than women who fixate on a certain kind of guy.

[LosingBattle]

Ok, so as I've been talking so much about how I look, I figured I'd just post a pic of me:

 

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Edited August 21, 2010 by LosingBattle

[somedude81]

So guys here follow American standards of beauty, Playboy playmates being the epitome of sexiness. As a matter of fact, practically every model you see on TV here has implants. Men's magazines are full with pictures of busty women, often in news stands, in full display at kids' eye level, no brown cover 'censoring' the content.

Hmm, it seems that the men where you live are being socialized (is that the right word) to prefer women with larger breasts.

 

BTW I would have never guessed that you lived in South America, your English is perfect.

Ok, so as I've been talking so much about how I look, I figured I'd just post a pic of me:

Cool, you play guitar. Aside from the demon eyes, you look like a normal girl. You also don't even seem to be that small judging from the lines in your shirt.

 

Based on your pic, if you want to get more male attention, just dress a little sexier. Jean jackets are so 1980's.

[LosingBattle]

Hmm, it seems that the men where you live are being socialized (is that the right word) to prefer women with larger breasts.

 

BTW I would have never guessed that you lived in South America, your English is perfect.

Cool, you play guitar. Aside from the demon eyes, you look like a normal girl. You also don't even seem to be that small judging from the lines in your shirt.

 

Based on your pic, if you want to get more male attention, just dress a little sexier. Jean jackets are so 1980's.

 

Lol, thanks for the compliment, I'm always trying to improve my English, so that means a lot

 

And about the clothes, yeah, I'm a bit lazy in that aspect, I admit. Some gene went wrong with me, because shopping bores me quite a bit (a lot, actually). And when I go to rehearsal, like in that pic, I'm usually in an anti-glamour mood. Lol, come to think about it, I have many anti-glamour days. I'll work on that.

 

Haha, demon eyes, damned flash. My eyes are usually brown, just so you know

[LSNoob]

Seriously what makes you think every man shares the same opinion with your stupid ex bf? The "small breast" issue is your ex's problem NOT your problem. You are attractive and you can get the man that you want IF you really want to.

 

Those girls were jealous from you, that's why they started calling you "pancakes" and all, it's how some people deal with their jealousy and insecurities. They call you out names to make you feel bad, because all the time, 24/7, they are thinking about you and envying you. So don't even bother with those low lives.

 

The trick is you need to love yourself first then the others will love you. You will see how men be chasing after you.

 

And for the normal women and pornstar women comparison...hmm... it's similar in comparing a healthy gourmet food with junk food. So seriously stop worrying. Life is too short to worry about stupid things. Good luck.

[BlackLovely]

Whatever IR, no point in trying to argue with you. I give up. You're one of those people that just have to have the last word. You win.

 

Look, people have complained about my small breasts, my ex being one of them. It did affect my self esteem. As did the people who have mocked me and called me Pancakes.

 

Whatever, you win.

 

I agree that IR's posts were harsh. Perhaps they were tongue in cheek??

 

However, Losing Battle, you already wrote what I bolded. I'm so sorry that your ex hurt you so badly, but in order to be happy, you will need to find a way to heal. It seems like you are very traumatized by your ex's actions.

 

The most important opinion is the one you have of yourself. You're playing a dangerous game, if you put your self esteem in other people's hands.

 

Just so you're aware, I was not trying to be mean in this post. I was only trying to help you out. We are our own worst critics; I bet you're hotter than you think!

[BlackLovely]

Just what I thought. YOU ARE GORGEOUS!! Stop being so mean to yourself please...

[Curious-One]

i could care less about the size of the breast as long as the girl has a nice round ass.

[BlackLovely]

Thank you for calling me many things that well, are plain not nice.

 

The way you speak about me being insecure makes it seem like it's the worst thing in the world, much worse than being say, shallow.

 

That's uncalled for. I mean so what if I'm insecure. And so what if I'm a bit defensive. Obviously you haven't grown up with the "online porn" generation of guys, who don't see anything wrong with silicone and what have you.

 

One time we were in class and they had a poster of a model who had recently got breast implants. They were all cheering something like "HOORAY FOR SILICONE!"

 

My generation is probably a bit different from the women who have no problem attracting men.

 

And you probably have never dealt with being called Pancakes. Yes, men like that are jerks, but it's not something that you just brush off easily. It does effect my self esteem.

 

Who knows, maybe now you'll call me weak.

 

Again, I don't understand what's so mean about agreeing with you, when you're talking about yourself.

 

I am insecure about certain things too, LB. It certainly isn't the worst thing.

 

I'm only 28, so I am of this generation. Most men I know do not like silicone because they think it looks (and feels) gross and fake.

 

Sweetheart, I have dealt with bullying from my brother and my cousins. I have dealt with white children calling me a "black dog" and throwing rocks at me. I have dealt with my own mother telling me that I'll be a whore when I grow up. I didn't brush those things off easily, but I rose above it eventually. All of the *******s I mentioned were the problem, not me. The sooner you see that your ex is the flawed one, the better you will feel.

[InceptorsRule]

Ok, so as I've been talking so much about how I look, I figured I'd just post a pic of me:

 

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WOW you're pretty cute.

 

Your ex-bf is an idiot. Don't worry about his b.s. There have got to be PLENTY OF GUYS who would love to date you.

 

By the way, can you shred?

[SlevinKalebra]

OK, concensus has it, you are cute. I am not going o go through the thirteen pages to see if someone had pointed this out or not but, if you were to get implants, although they'd be larger there are guys who'd object to fake boobs too. They do not always feel real. a lot of thetime they are extremely firm and as they get closer to thier thiry thousand mile mark and need to be rotated they start to feel like a partially deflated bag of chips. Go with what you got, be more flirtatious and work it

[O'Malley]

OK, consensus has it, you are cute. I am not going o go through the thirteen pages to see if someone had pointed this out or not but, if you were to get implants, although they'd be larger there are guys who'd object to fake boobs too.

 

It's natural to have some insecurities about appearance, but the real problem here is that you need to get rid of the boobs/pu**ys who criticize your appearance. It has nothing to do with your features and everything to do with their need to manipulate your self esteem. Your breasts are no more relevant to this behavior than is your nose or your knees.

 

Everyone has physical preferences (and as you can see, there's not some universal standard of beauty, or ideal breasts, but only a personal, subjective one ) but certain types of unpleasant individuals are seeking to point out flaws -- they would find flaws on supermodels, on fitness buffs, on every person they dated, because it's a means of control.

Edited August 21, 2010 by O'Malley

[ViciousViolet]

I didn't know you were South American. That could explain a few things. Here in the states you could easily find a guy who would be so taken by your exotic looks and curvier bottom half that the top wouldn't matter. Natalie Portman and Keira Knightley are both highly desired by men and neither have a large chest.

[alexlakeman]

WOW you're pretty cute.

 

Your ex-bf is an idiot. Don't worry about his b.s. There have got to be PLENTY OF GUYS who would love to date you.

 

By the way, can you shred?

 

 

There's plenty of guys who'd date anything... lol, doesn't mean if they have a choice , they wouldn't go with the bigger breasts.. don't kid yourself..

 

OP, get a boob job, somewhere in teh 300-500cc range... finance it, it's just like a car payment... and notice the difference in attention you'll get.

[LosingBattle]

There's plenty of guys who'd date anything... lol, doesn't mean if they have a choice , they wouldn't go with the bigger breasts.. don't kid yourself..

 

OP, get a boob job, somewhere in teh 300-500cc range... finance it, it's just like a car payment... and notice the difference in attention you'll get.

 

Hmm... well after 13 pages of a majority of people telling me it's my attitude, not necessarily my breast size, and that there are many men in the world, with many different preferences... and then you, telling me to get implants anyway...

 

Maybe I would get more attention and look better, but when guys realize they're fake, they might think I'm easy or something. I guess I prefer to have less guys drooling over me, than for them to think I'm easy or that I'm one of those girls willing to do anything to please a guy.

 

Of course it'd be nice to be a bombshell, but I don't think I'd like to get implants. The cost, dammit. To have to pay like 5 grand every 10 years. And not only that, but you never know how the body will respond to them. And the judgement from both men and women. Imagine how bad I feel when I think people judge me for my natural small breasts. I think I'd feel 10 times more insecure if people were judging me over something fake.

 

I think I'll just stay my size, but thanks for your advice

[ViciousViolet]

Hmm... well after 13 pages of a majority of people telling me it's my attitude, not necessarily my breast size, and that there are many men in the world, with many different preferences... and then you, telling me to get implants anyway...

 

Maybe I would get more attention and look better, but when guys realize they're fake, they might think I'm easy or something. I guess I prefer to have less guys drooling over me, than for them to think I'm easy or that I'm one of those girls willing to do anything to please a guy.

 

Of course it'd be nice to be a bombshell, but I don't think I'd like to get implants. The cost, dammit. To have to pay like 5 grand every 10 years. And not only that, but you never know how the body will respond to them. And the judgement from both men and women. Imagine how bad I feel when I think people judge me for my natural small breasts. I think I'd feel 10 times more insecure if people were judging me over something fake.

 

I think I'll just stay my size, but thanks for your advice

 

Don't mind him, he goes for shock value. Unless he's 6'5 and has a 9" or longer male member, he's in no position to talk. Now if he is indeed tall and packing, I'd heed his advice;).

[kalikula]

^ Agreed...

 

If you want more attention try dressing sexier. It's not just about how big your boobs are. My roommates always got more attention than me and they were significantly flatter than me (skinnier but not by that much). But they still flaunted what they had and looked way hot.

 

I also know many guys that are turned off by plastic surgery and wouldn't want someone if they found out she had a nose or boob job.

[LosingBattle]

Exactly, which is why I don't think I'll get implants. Of course I'm a chicken and the thought of spending US$5K for someone to slice me open and put a plastic bag inside me creeps me out. Especially because, like I said, you never know how your body will react to that.

 

Then again, I also care about what men think, and the majority of guys think negatively of such surgeries. Some don't even think negatively because it looks or feels fake, but because of what it means. Most guys will not take a woman seriously when she gets such a surgery, unless it was really warranted (which is often not the case, at least with breast implants, nose jobs are usually probably more justifiable).

 

So not only would I end up with odd-feeling breasts, but most likely, the majority of men (and women) would judge my personality over it, which is not something I'd like. I want to be taken seriously.

 

I know some guys, like Alex, love women who have implants. But from what I've heard, the majority of men only love implants as eye candy, nothing else. Not even for touching. Just as eye candy.

[LosingBattle]

Again, I don't understand what's so mean about agreeing with you, when you're talking about yourself.

 

I am insecure about certain things too, LB. It certainly isn't the worst thing.

 

I'm only 28, so I am of this generation. Most men I know do not like silicone because they think it looks (and feels) gross and fake.

 

Sweetheart, I have dealt with bullying from my brother and my cousins. I have dealt with white children calling me a "black dog" and throwing rocks at me. I have dealt with my own mother telling me that I'll be a whore when I grow up. I didn't brush those things off easily, but I rose above it eventually. All of the *******s I mentioned were the problem, not me. The sooner you see that your ex is the flawed one, the better you will feel.

 

Oh my God. I apologize, sincerely. There I was, complaining about some stupid teenagers calling me Pancakes, when well, you've had it worse than me. I'm really sorry. I was being too self centered and selfish to realize how little my problem is.

 

The good thing is that your experience has obviously made you a strong woman and that's awesome. Lol, now I feel so immature for having been such a princess. I think I'll follow your example. It is time for me to move on.

 

Thank you BL. I do think now I need to stop feeling so sorry about myself and be glad of how easy I've had it. Thank you!

[lilbunny]

Well if it is any consolation I think you are beautiful and have a great figure. I would never have described you as flat chested based on your picture either.

Personally I don't think you need to change your body, attitude (other than a bit more self belief) or clothes. There are millions of men who would jump through hoops for a chance to go out with you and treat you an awful lot better.

As for the debate in general, let's face it we all have a wish list, in an ideal world I would like a man/woman who has... I can't say a Brad Pitt look alike comes home to me every night, it doesn't mean I don't love and adore what I've got or secretly feel any disappointment. Even if he did, I might get bored quickly if we didn't have anything to say to one another. I don't suppose any man I would want to give the time of day to feels any different.

 

A close friend of mine (who is incidently very slim and petite and has naturally baby blonde hair) had breast implants. She has noticably uneven breasts and it seriously harmed her self confidence and made her very unhappy. She is a very sweet and shy girl and it has given her a much needed boost. Some people have very valid reasons for cosmetic surgery.

[LosingBattle]

Well if it is any consolation I think you are beautiful and have a great figure. I would never have described you as flat chested based on your picture either.

Personally I don't think you need to change your body, attitude (other than a bit more self belief) or clothes. There are millions of men who would jump through hoops for a chance to go out with you and treat you an awful lot better.

As for the debate in general, let's face it we all have a wish list, in an ideal world I would like a man/woman who has... I can't say a Brad Pitt look alike comes home to me every night, it doesn't mean I don't love and adore what I've got or secretly feel any disappointment. Even if he did, I might get bored quickly if we didn't have anything to say to one another. I don't suppose any man I would want to give the time of day to feels any different.

 

A close friend of mine (who is incidently very slim and petite and has naturally baby blonde hair) had breast implants. She has noticably uneven breasts and it seriously harmed her self confidence and made her very unhappy. She is a very sweet and shy girl and it has given her a much needed boost. Some people have very valid reasons for cosmetic surgery.

 

I agree. That's a very valid reason. But as Alex pointed out that I should get implants just because I'm small chested, that doesn't seem like a valid enough reason.

[lilbunny]

I don't think it is your body that is bringing you down from what you have said it is the put downs you have been listening to.

The bit of my body I am most conscious of is my stomach. I'm not fat by any stretch of the imagination, but I was very skinny as a teenager and I am different now. I just filled out and turned into a woman. My bloke once told me not to dislike it, it was his favourite bit of me because it was soft and feminine and had I been around at the time Reuben would have killed to paint me. I'm not sure if that is the absolute truth, but it made me feel great about myself, especially because it was about the part of me he knew I liked least. Before that I used to wish he wouldn't rest his hand on my tummy, now it makes me feel loved and attractive. The guy who does that for you is the keeper, not one who picks at your appearance and does nothing to make you feel good.

[BlackLovely]

Oh my God. I apologize, sincerely. There I was, complaining about some stupid teenagers calling me Pancakes, when well, you've had it worse than me. I'm really sorry. I was being too self centered and selfish to realize how little my problem is.

 

The good thing is that your experience has obviously made you a strong woman and that's awesome. Lol, now I feel so immature for having been such a princess. I think I'll follow your example. It is time for me to move on.

 

Thank you BL. I do think now I need to stop feeling so sorry about myself and be glad of how easy I've had it. Thank you!

 

 

Any time, cutie pie. No need to apologize; we all deal with things differently. There are people that have had it even worse than me too, remember that. At least I grew up with all the material things, even though my mother was horribly abusive and my Dad was too afraid to do anything. Some people never even know their fathers, you see it? Whoops, patois!

 

One of my best friends has comparatively small issues with her parents. These are parents that have never laid a hand on her, went to counseling as a family and even BUILT HER A BASEMENT APARTMENT. None of this is good enough for my friend; she is determined to believe that she's so hard done by. After a few months of listening to her whine about her privileged existence, I finally told her about the abuses I have suffered. (Sexual, physical, emotional) I let my friend know how I loved her, yet I was also honest about how hard it was for me to listen to her complain.

 

I'm telling this story because she responded the same way you did...apologizing and being more grateful for her advantages. I try never to begrudge someone the need to share. Obviously, what your ex said hurt you, or you would not have posted here.

 

I would encourage you not to to focus on the negative things people say. We are complimenting you, but you are choosing to focus on the fact that someone told you to get implants.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Ok, so as I've been talking so much about how I look, I figured I'd just post a pic of me:

 

Here

 

 

Oh good gawd, stop fussing over your breasts then - forever!

 

 

Lots of things about that picture are in fine order, so emphasize your great skin and get a sharp haircut (doesn't need to be 'short', but just a cut that makes it look 'recently-cut') and lose track of any thought you ever had about your breasts.

 

The bottom line is this:

 

YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU dated/mated an insecure guy whose warped sense of appreciation for humanity scarred you considerably on the inside. Stop fretting the size of your breasts and let it be abundantly clear to you that HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE was your FLAW.

[Phateless]

Ok, so as I've been talking so much about how I look, I figured I'd just post a pic of me:

 

Here

 

You're very cute! As for breast size, I can't even tell because of what you're wearing.

 

Try wearing clothes that are more form-fitting. Not necessarily revealing, but clothes that actually show your shape! I would bet money that what you notice is a result of the way you dress and not your body.