carhill Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 TP, from my read, it appears the genders are pretty much aligned in their advice/opinion and I'd like to echo those and wish you a satisfying and long-lived R with your new gal. I have a name for what apparently has been suggested/advised by some: It's called a silence sandwich. Serve it up any way you like By not writing and sending a long, detailed letter, within yourself you're letting go of the emotions which are attached to that past. So, like the past, those emotions have faded from perception with each lesser word, until there are none left and it is gone. Actively visualize that in your mind. It's worked for me. I wish you well Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 TP.. do whatever because it seems you want to contact her.. but remember that any contact has consequences and those consequences could come in the form of hurting the relationship you have right now with your current GF.. ~Art Link to post Share on other sites
czombie Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Think about this line. REALLY think about what it means. I disagree.....i think there is more to it Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I would find out what this tragic event is If Gigi (the girl I had a relationship with when I came to LS) alluded to something tragic Id be curious to see what it is If its something like a death in the family or a disease Id truly be supportive of her If it was just some kind of break up Id say Im sorry to hear that and leave it at that But see TP I really got over Gigi which is why Id feel natural doing that.Im not sure youre over the Teacher....even still... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Teacher's Pet Posted May 16, 2009 Author Share Posted May 16, 2009 Bah.. I did it. I replied. I used the "short" response I wrote a few posts back. Honestly, I didn't even think about this the last couple of hours. Amazing what a little pasta and some video games can do to a person. I guess since I was able to quickly put this out of my head (hey, fat boy gotta eat! lol).... I guess this isn't really having much of an "impact" on me. If she wants to talk to me, she knows my #. That's that. -TP now...bring on the bourbon and cigars! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Dear Xxxx..... I have to admit, I was completely shocked when you wrote me. I never expected to hear from you again. Since we broke up, I've become a happy and complete man again. I work hard, and finally enjoy what I do, have a terrific group of friends, and a wonderful new woman in my life. I am sorry to hear that you are going through some rough times. Perhaps this has truly given you a little insight into how you treated me. If you are looking for forgiveness, I can only forgive as far as hoping you become strong enough to face your issues and grow from them as I have with mine. If you would like to talk, I'd be willing to listen. My phone number hasn't changed, but the person on the other end of the line definately has. Respectfully, Me +++++++++++++ Better? I was thinking of adding "P.S. I miss your tits", but....nah. -TP she did have nice tits, even though they were slightly lopsided. No no no. It still says "I miss you, I want you and I am hurting" If you can't think of anything else then I'm going to have to (regretfully) agree with Alpha. Say nothing at all. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I wouldnt just say nothing unless he truly feels nothing Id be curious as to what this cup of poison is that shes tasting and why Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Bah.. I did it. I replied. You're looking for a back burner girl aren't you ? Link to post Share on other sites
Lisalisa2 Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I think the dumper only realises their behaviour in the relationship when they are forced to. At the time, she wasn't. Now perhaps something has happened that has made her see how she treated you. Maybe now she knows how it feels to be treated like she treated you. I think that's how we learn. She's sorry. There's no point making her feel worse. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Bah.. I did it. I replied. big mistake brother....no good will come of this and however you play your cards from here on you will lose Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 big mistake brother....no good will come of this and however you play your cards from here on you will lose Something struck me a bit off about it too Im not sure I can put my finger on it Is it because he seems so desperate to let her know hes ok without her? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I think I would write something simple like "Whats all this about Are you okay" Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Is it because he seems so desperate to let her know hes ok without her? which means basically that after 3 years he's not ok without her...no acknowledgement would have sent the message he's ok without her Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 which means basically that after 3 years he's not ok without her Yeah I agree Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I think I would write something simple like "Whats all this about Are you okay" i would have just not responded, that sends the loudest message of all Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 which means basically that after 3 years he's not ok without her...no acknowledgement would have sent the message he's ok without her Id still be curious about whats wrong with her just out of basic human decency Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Well now we have to wonder if she still has his phone number? She obviously already lied about sending a letter to his other address that he said he still had. I'm starting to think this is all about trying to score 2 chicks. Good luck I guess. There is also the good chance that she has or will find your posts here. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Well now we have to wonder if she still has his phone number? She obviously already lied about sending a letter to his other address that he said he still had. I'm starting to think this is all about trying to score 2 chicks. Good luck I guess. There is also the good chance that she has or will find your posts here. I think TP should have answered but I dont like his answer (sorry TP) Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I think TP should have answered but I dont like his answer (sorry TP) i don't think he should have answered at all, for the 500th time Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 i don't think he should have answered at all, for the 500th time Yeah I know your opinion on this, but her opinion about TP isnt as important as satiating TP's curiosity in my view Id want to know what caused this sudden act of contrition Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I think TP should have answered but I dont like his answer (sorry TP) I too think it would have been okay to respond. My response was similiar to yours. However, what the hell to we know? He didn't make it one day. After 3 years. She is trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 He didn't make it one day. After 3 years. She is trouble. He didn't make it 12 hours... Constipation can last longer than that Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I too think it would have been okay to respond. My response was similiar to yours. However, what the hell to we know? He didn't make it one day. After 3 years. She is trouble. yeah i can see that Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Where is AriaWoman??? She is the only one who can save us now. Link to post Share on other sites
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