Question for Guys 40 - 50

[Capricciosa]

People typically used to marry early, and stay married. Being 40 -50 and single is awkward and hard for men and women.

 

 

What planet do you live on? If your English wasn't so good, I'd swear you came from some backwater in Eastern Europe.

[almost famous]

Word, I am perfectly happy watching bad cable TV while eating a DQ Snickers Blizzard on a Friday night. Probably won't be next Friday night, though.

[Jake Barnes]

And say you marry a woman a couple years younger,say she becomes ill or otherwise ages poorly, she going to get the boot too? More importantly would you have the cajones to tell her she was being "traded in" and why?

 

Good luck to you, may you meet and fall head over heels in love with a woman who's as cold and calculating as you are.

Oh he doesn't mean it

 

He's really a big softie underneath

 

Don't you know anything about Germans?

[Taramere]

If they are engaged, why did you say they are married?

 

She had children with Rod, ..She was 21, he was 45... You didn't see a man with options opting for a 55 yr old did you?

 

Whether it's an older man marrying a younger woman, or vice versa, I don't know how useful showbiz marriages are as evidence of social norms. Obsessed though people are by showbiz celebrities, they're hardly representative of the general populace.

 

Would a wealthy, famous man with options marry a 55 year old? Prince Charles, future king of the UK and the commonwealth, married a not particularly glamorous 58 year old - so it does happen. Some people click strongly enough that it supercedes looks and age. A very cerebral individual might well go for a 50 year old woman who's his intellectual equal, rather than a 30 year old who bores him.

 

He might well have affairs with younger and more nubile women. Who knows? I think, though, that when it comes to marriage people tend to pair up with those they click with, respect and enjoy the company of. The more unusual the person, the more difficulty they're liable to have in finding that person. Celebrities are often quite odd people. Perhaps some of them feel "well, I don't really click on a deep level with anyone - so I might as well just marry a pretty young girl".

 

A little along the lines you mentioned earlier - where the man with a bit of cash doesn't feel as if any woman's going to love him for who he is, so he thinks it's as well to marry a 25 year old mail order bride as to marry a 45 year old woman from his own culture. Either way it's going to be a hollow existence, so he might as well at least get the decor right.

[vonerik012]

And say you marry a woman a couple years younger,say she becomes ill or otherwise ages poorly, she going to get the boot too? More importantly would you have the cajones to tell her she was being "traded in" and why?

 

Good luck to you, may you meet and fall head over heels in love with a woman who's as cold and calculating as you are.

 

It's just called thinking ahead, and not wasting peoples time. To be honest, if a woman is my age or younger, I would rather be with a fun woman whom ages poorly, than a woman with a strict diet/lifestyle that runs around asking everyone if she looks younger than she is.

 

Women my age are APPLAUDED for have 1000 requirements in a mate, and on every LS thread are told DO NOT SETTLE! The only requirement I mentioned was not wanting to marry an older woman, and I am repeatedly bashed for it.

 

And then in the process women rip on other younger women, calling them stupid, not intellectual, gold diggers etc..

[OpenBook]

Teri Hatcher is gorgeous and you condemn her for aging. You would probably sit there and say how much better Paul newman was the older he got but say something as arrogant as say Teri hatcher was a better woman for being younger? Women just can't win can they? Because we are crap apparently to you unless we are 18. And what happens when we aren't 18 anymore? You want to treat us like we are less women for it. Do you know insulting that is to EVERY WOMAN that ever loved her man or raised a family through out the years? Is there no loyatly? Is there no pride in your woman? When it comes to men, the message you are giving many of us ladies that there isn't. And that we can't count very strongly on men to be the kind of honorable men that we want in our lives. And we can't count on men to still consider us beautiful and worthy of their affection because we got older. It's not eve something we control!

 

Jersey, this jumped out at me and I wanted to address it. Unfortunately, this is the conclusion I have reached in my own life, at the ripe old age of 48:D:D. I no longer count on men for anything, as it is just too dangerous to assume that their interest, caring, reliability, love, etc. will last. Make no mistake - I thoroughly enjoy their company... but I no longer believe that a romantic relationship is supposed to lead to marriage. Romance is beautiful and wonderful and life-enhancing, but it isn't built to last - with anyone. Marriage is a practical life arrangement, nothing more and nothing less.

 

Therefore, anyone's criteria for a marriage partner is well within their rights to set for themselves, as it is a practical decision that affects the rest of their life. My objection to some of the views presented in this thread is the underlying message to women as they age, that they become useless to men and ergo, their worth as human beings is reduced to nothing. Not only is this incredibly cruel, it's just plain wrong. And for a man to even assume that this view is the ultimate "law of the land" is so delusional as to be pushing psychotic. I hope no woman reading this thread is buying into it. Men, whatever they think of us, do not determine our worth. It's not their call.

[vonerik012]

Open,

 

Please...

 

 

All some of us said is we do not want to marry a woman older than ourselves. Does that mean you are worthless? Does that mean we said you are worthless? Especially if the man wants a family.. Sorry, the world does not revolve around you.

 

Millions of women do not want to marry a shorter man, or a man with a small income, or an older man.. So? Thats life.

 

It is still far easier for you to get sex at any age, than a comparable man.

[vonerik012]

The only delusional things I have seen on this thread are...

 

All these women seem to look 10-15 years younger.

 

Men and women have the same biological clocks

 

Men should marry a woman 7 years older because women statistically live longer, lol.

 

Some older women do not like older men, yet expect younger men to love them!

 

Open your eyes, and see the ages of married people. Younger women typically marry older men. Very rarely do younger men marry an older woman(4 years or more, less than 7% of all marriages) Thats life.

 

Some of us men are actually trying to help women, as they seem to have lost common sense. If you are 40, and your target market for a male is 33, good luck. Feel free to waste all the time you want , and feel free to sleep with hundreds of younger men until you find one that will stick around for a bit.

[Jersey Shortie]

Jersey, perhaps you are an exception. Women typically like older, more mature men.

 

Women typically like "mature" men. This is true. Sometimes maturity comes with age. But if a woman can find a mature 30 year old, and she is also within in the same age, she is going to perfer that over a mature 40 year old.

 

And you're right, I am the exception. Because I am the only one out of my many girlfriends that has dated anyone significantly older then myself. And boy did I ever get teased about it from the guys and girls that are my friends! Dating older men was fun. I learned alot from those experiences and honestly liked the guys I dated. They also took me to nice places and had experiences I never would have had otherwise. But these older men also had some money. I wasn't dating poor older men for their stellar company. And while fun, it was more of a lark. Much like your assertion of older women dating younger men. I never got very serious about these men. Although plenty of them were more then willing to get serious with me and offering me a "better life". They had their male biological clocks ticking and were ready to settle down yesterday. I know from my experiences that men feel the pinch of growing older just as women do. That as human beings we are all in that same boat together. I never once heard an older man say "Damn, i'm 40 now! Now this is when life begins!". What I have heard is that " I can't believe 40 years went by, I better get my butt in gear"... kind of thing. You've never dated older men. I have. And I know this experience better then you.

 

 

You continue to ignore what I have been telling you. Not one of my friends has dated anyone older then themselves. Not one. Not anyone I know outside of my group of friends, except my parents and one uncle that do have a significant age gap, are dating or marrying anyone 15 years older then themselves. No one I know at work, not one of my cousins, not one of the families I babysat for...not one. I was the exception. Because I did date older men. That made me the exception. Maturity is attractive. But if a woman can get maturity in a man who is 30 over 40, 30 is the better biological option for her.

 

Ask any doctor Vonerik, any. And not one doctor will ever tell you a that it's best that a man wait until he is 40 before he has children. On strictly a biological level, any doctor will say for men or women that the sooner you have children within reason, the better. Now you can go on how older men can provide better and offer maturity but so can an older woman. Especially in a day and age where women are making their own money.

 

 

When she is a senior, she likes college guys.

 

When she graduates college, and is 23-27 she likes guys in their early 30's.

 

Not exactly fair points of reference because the age groups you are mentioning are still young. Now 40 isn't old but there is a far difference in a man of 30 then a man of 40.

 

In high school, no one I know dated college guys. And also in high school, high school boys are looking at porn of girls 18-25 themselves. They also think college girls are hot.

 

You make alot of untrue stereotypes based on what you wish was true.

 

In all of the above situations, men her own age are rejected.

 

Tell that to my friends that met their boyfriends/girlfriends in college.

 

 

I would love to grow old with a woman my own age or a bit younger. If somehow I married a woman that was 10 years older, I am sure I would trade her in as I age as well.

 

You lower women for aging. Any woman that marries you will be stuck with a man that thinks she is less for the fact that she is getting older , just as you are. Or he will be making pervy glances at his daughters friends. ANd no woman respects or honors that kind of man.

 

At the end of the day, I think we get what we give. So I wouldn't be surprised if a woman left you for someone that made 10 grand more then you did.

 

 

 

Let me say that I would marry Taramere if I was a guy. I like her wit.

[vonerik012]

Jersey,

 

Ask any doctor, and they will tell Jews they have a much higher chance of their child having Tay Sachs disease, if they breed with each other. Are you saying they should not?

 

Blacks have a higher chance of having a kid with sickle cell. So they should not breed?

 

Sure, everyone should have kids at 21. That would be ideal biologically. But the VAST VAST VAST VAST majority of men who have kids over 40 have perfectly healthy babies. Women cannot naturally conceive past 40, in 90% of cases.

 

I don't care about your friends, lol.. Look at marriage stats, and you will see tens of millions of men that marry younger women. It is quite common, outside of your group of friends. Men marrying older women is NOT common anywhere in the world, never was, and never will be..

 

You say I lower women for aging.. LOL.. Yet every woman on this thread lowers men for aging, yourself included. So? Who cares.

 

And women often times do leave a man for someone who makes more money. Thats life.

[Lizzie60]

Yes, men DO live biologically shorter lives. If you look at the list of longest living people in history they are 95% female. This is across societies and cultures. Nurture may play some role, but most scientists believe that women are naturally longer lived than men. Do a little research.

 

 

Yes... women live longer than men.. this comes from waaaaaay..

 

'Female sperm live up to 5 days, male sperm up to 3 days.'...

[Balthazar]

Actually, I talked about Teri Hatcher, not Vonerik.

 

I am just pointing out realities from a man's point of view.

Does Teri Hatcher look better to you now than she did in 1991?

Would most men choose the present version?

No, but she still looks attractive.

 

We are not to blame for the problems you have with the men in your lives.

With every post, it is clear that you are just venting all your frustrations on us, especially since we are highlighting exactly what you don't want to hear.

 

Post after post has continued to twist everything most male posters have said on this thread blaming us for everything evil under the sun, and there is no reason for me to believe this will not continue. Many female posters have gone into specifics about what their husbands' behavior and how they feel.

While their feelings are to be respected, are they really relevant to the central issue of the thread?

 

I have tried to address the basic question of this thread time and time again, only to have some hag start raving about my views.

 

And I ask once more

 

What do you care if I(and most men) prefer younger women?

 

Don't you prefer younger men yourselves?

 

If you do, then there is nothing to argue about, we both like younger and can leave it at that.

 

Would the ladies of LS prefer male posters to lie about these issues and state they prefer older women?

Would that help you in your lives and make the men you desire want you in turn?

 

In fact, would females in this forum accept ANY view males have about women that doesn't serve their purposes?

 

Or is it our fate to be labeled "trolls" or "conspirators" or "gays" when our view is unpopular?

Without a shadow of a doubt, that is a sign of a person lacking intelligence; a closet fascist.

 

In all my posts, I emphasize the tenets of free will and personal preference;

Why are many people unwilling to do the same?

 

Female posters in this thread have criticized many males for being women haters, trolls, and lacking intelligence.

A certain male(?) poster even went so far as to suggest men who don't agree with certain opinions are "gay".

How is that for an exercise in intelligence?

 

What is especially shocking is the clearly one-sided bias by certain female LS posters to accept any insult made against men with impunity, while at the same time crucifying males for even the least significant slight.

 

And why all this hatred?

Because we don't want to date older.

Yet at the same time, you applaud all the women who date younger and spur them on;

"You go girl!" and whatnot.

Women who are grandmothers are lusting after young dudes.

Then, these same women turn around and accuse us of double standards and hypocrisy.

 

So in a nutshell, I will repeat my basic ideas.

 

You can't dictate to me and other men what to like or not like.

We are not to blame if some of your husbands and boyfriends leave you for younger, more attractive women. Similarly, it is not your fault if some women do the same.

S**t happens to everyone;deal with it.

 

If you want to date younger, more power to you.

After all,there seems to be no shortage of men who want older women.

I have no problem with this. In fact, I wish you the best of luck.

 

Yes, there are a lot of men who are bastards out there, but there are a lot of women who are bitches too.

But they are not bastards because they prefer younger women!

If we accept one side of the equation, we must also accept the other.

[soserious1]

Actually, I talked about Teri Hatcher, not Vonerik.

 

I am just pointing out realities from a man's point of view.

Does Teri Hatcher look better to you now than she did in 1991?

Would most men choose the present version?

No, but she still looks attractive.

 

We are not to blame for the problems you have with the men in your lives.

With every post, it is clear that you are just venting all your frustrations on us, especially since we are highlighting exactly what you don't want to hear.

 

Post after post has continued to twist everything most male posters have said on this thread blaming us for everything evil under the sun, and there is no reason for me to believe this will not continue. Many female posters have gone into specifics about what their husbands' behavior and how they feel.

While their feelings are to be respected, are they really relevant to the central issue of the thread?

 

I have tried to address the basic question of this thread time and time again, only to have some hag start raving about my views.

 

And I ask once more

 

What do you care if I(and most men) prefer younger women?

 

Don't you prefer younger men yourselves?

 

If you do, then there is nothing to argue about, we both like younger and can leave it at that.

 

Would the ladies of LS prefer male posters to lie about these issues and state they prefer older women?

Would that help you in your lives and make the men you desire want you in turn?

 

In fact, would females in this forum accept ANY view males have about women that doesn't serve their purposes?

 

Or is it our fate to be labeled "trolls" or "conspirators" or "gays" when our view is unpopular?

Without a shadow of a doubt, that is a sign of a person lacking intelligence; a closet fascist.

 

In all my posts, I emphasize the tenets of free will and personal preference;

Why are many people unwilling to do the same?

 

Female posters in this thread have criticized many males for being women haters, trolls, and lacking intelligence.

A certain male(?) poster even went so far as to suggest men who don't agree with certain opinions are "gay".

How is that for an exercise in intelligence?

 

What is especially shocking is the clearly one-sided bias by certain female LS posters to accept any insult made against men with impunity, while at the same time crucifying males for even the least significant slight.

 

And why all this hatred?

Because we don't want to date older.

Yet at the same time, you applaud all the women who date younger and spur them on;

"You go girl!" and whatnot.

Women who are grandmothers are lusting after young dudes.

Then, these same women turn around and accuse us of double standards and hypocrisy.

 

So in a nutshell, I will repeat my basic ideas.

 

You can't dictate to me and other men what to like or not like.

We are not to blame if some of your husbands and boyfriends leave you for younger, more attractive women. Similarly, it is not your fault if some women do the same.

S**t happens to everyone;deal with it.

 

If you want to date younger, more power to you.

After all,there seems to be no shortage of men who want older women.

I have no problem with this. In fact, I wish you the best of luck.

 

Yes, there are a lot of men who are bastards out there, but there are a lot of women who are bitches too.

But they are not bastards because they prefer younger women!

If we accept one side of the equation, we must also accept the other.

 

 

Excuse me but I've been able to express my POV without the use of demeaning terms like "hag" and I feel you do have a problem with the idea that older women dare to have any sort of standards whatsoever concerning

the men they date. I think it enrages you to no end that we're not smiling,cheerful and laughing as we're shipped off to the glue factory.

 

You want not only the right to express and exercise your preferences for younger women which is totally fine but you also wish to reserve the right to make debasing,mean degrading comments to and about older women in the process.In short it pisses you off to no end that women like me won't sit back content to live sexless lives, relegated to providing all sorts of caretaking and money for adult children and grandchildren before we're shipped off to die alone in some sub-par nursing home.

 

I might have been born at night but it wasn't last night, your agenda here

is crystal clear to anyone with the ability to read.

[Shygirl15]

Actually, I talked about Teri Hatcher, not Vonerik.

 

I am just pointing out realities from a man's point of view.

Does Teri Hatcher look better to you now than she did in 1991?

Would most men choose the present version?

No, but she still looks attractive.

 

We are not to blame for the problems you have with the men in your lives.

With every post, it is clear that you are just venting all your frustrations on us, especially since we are highlighting exactly what you don't want to hear.

 

Post after post has continued to twist everything most male posters have said on this thread blaming us for everything evil under the sun, and there is no reason for me to believe this will not continue. Many female posters have gone into specifics about what their husbands' behavior and how they feel.

While their feelings are to be respected, are they really relevant to the central issue of the thread?

 

I have tried to address the basic question of this thread time and time again, only to have some hag start raving about my views.

 

And I ask once more

 

What do you care if I(and most men) prefer younger women?

 

Don't you prefer younger men yourselves?

 

If you do, then there is nothing to argue about, we both like younger and can leave it at that.

 

Would the ladies of LS prefer male posters to lie about these issues and state they prefer older women?

Would that help you in your lives and make the men you desire want you in turn?

 

In fact, would females in this forum accept ANY view males have about women that doesn't serve their purposes?

 

Or is it our fate to be labeled "trolls" or "conspirators" or "gays" when our view is unpopular?

Without a shadow of a doubt, that is a sign of a person lacking intelligence; a closet fascist.

 

In all my posts, I emphasize the tenets of free will and personal preference;

Why are many people unwilling to do the same?

 

Female posters in this thread have criticized many males for being women haters, trolls, and lacking intelligence.

A certain male(?) poster even went so far as to suggest men who don't agree with certain opinions are "gay".

How is that for an exercise in intelligence?

 

What is especially shocking is the clearly one-sided bias by certain female LS posters to accept any insult made against men with impunity, while at the same time crucifying males for even the least significant slight.

 

And why all this hatred?

Because we don't want to date older.

Yet at the same time, you applaud all the women who date younger and spur them on;

"You go girl!" and whatnot.

Women who are grandmothers are lusting after young dudes.

Then, these same women turn around and accuse us of double standards and hypocrisy.

 

So in a nutshell, I will repeat my basic ideas.

 

You can't dictate to me and other men what to like or not like.

We are not to blame if some of your husbands and boyfriends leave you for younger, more attractive women. Similarly, it is not your fault if some women do the same.

S**t happens to everyone;deal with it.

 

If you want to date younger, more power to you.

After all,there seems to be no shortage of men who want older women.

I have no problem with this. In fact, I wish you the best of luck.

 

Yes, there are a lot of men who are bastards out there, but there are a lot of women who are bitches too.

But they are not bastards because they prefer younger women!

If we accept one side of the equation, we must also accept the other.

 

Great post, Balthazar. Excellent.

[vonerik012]

Excuse me but I've been able to express my POV without the use of demeaning terms like "hag" and I feel you do have a problem with the idea that older women dare to have any sort of standards whatsoever concerning

the men they date. I think it enrages you to no end that we're not smiling,cheerful and laughing as we're shipped off to the glue factory.

 

 

Is that what you think the men on here are saying?

 

Actually, since we don't want older women, we could not care less about your standards.

 

If you are having success in building long term relationships with younger men, there is no jealousy, or animosity towards you at all. Have at it. I mean this sincerely. If you fall in love with a younger man, and marry him, why would I be angry?

 

 

In the real world, taking away all emotion and personal life issues, far better advice to the OP would be to concentrate on finding a man her age, or a little older.

 

Telling her "age does not matter" would actually be setting her up for failure, and she would be wasting precious years with younger men. Of course, that is if she is looking for a life partner. If she justs wants random sex, then date 18 year olds, or men of any age.

 

It is the women that rip apart younger women for being with older men. They also rip the older man. The girl is not intellectual, a gold digger. The man is just being used for money and a geyser.

[almost famous]

Life is that the hockey player just got engaged to Rachel Hunter after a 2 year serious relationship, a 12 year age difference there.

Life is that I'm not expecting to get a man several years younger, but life is that I do look a lot younger and seem younger and get a lot of younger men interested.

Life is that many women have babies in their 40's, including the Rielle woman who at 44 had that guy John Edwards' or whatever his name is baby.

 

 

Open,

 

Please...

 

 

All some of us said is we do not want to marry a woman older than ourselves. Does that mean you are worthless? Does that mean we said you are worthless? Especially if the man wants a family.. Sorry, the world does not revolve around you.

 

Millions of women do not want to marry a shorter man, or a man with a small income, or an older man.. So? Thats life.

 

It is still far easier for you to get sex at any age, than a comparable man.

[almost famous]

She doesn't look worse than she did, she just looks different and definitely not in a bad way.

A woman who is older isn't less attractive or beautiful, she just has a different beauty.

That is why there are many men who have been married 25 years and still believe their wives are as beautiful as they were when they first were married.

Personally I think I look better than I was when I was 25 as I exercise more and am 10 pounds thinner, a size thinner, and have more muscletone. Also my face is gorgeous.

There are also a lot of women in their 20's who only date men in their 20's and in fact that is the majority of women. I had no desire to date men in my 30's when I was in my 20's. On college campuses you are seeing men and women the same age walking around and in love, these women aren't going for the older men. that is where you are delusional yourself, that the majority of younger women than yourselves are interested in men your age, and you are facing that reality, whereas many of us women in our mid 30s/40s (not necessarily grandmas, that is why you are rude and trollish, because of your smug condescending attitude) are getting interest from men younger than ourselves because we look great and they like us.

 

Also, love is love, why can't we just leave it at that. If I fall in love with a man and he is 5 years younger, that is who I fall in love with, and vice versa.

 

Love is love.

 

 

 

Actually, I talked about Teri Hatcher, not Vonerik.

 

I am just pointing out realities from a man's point of view.

Does Teri Hatcher look better to you now than she did in 1991?

Would most men choose the present version?

No, but she still looks attractive.

 

We are not to blame for the problems you have with the men in your lives.

With every post, it is clear that you are just venting all your frustrations on us, especially since we are highlighting exactly what you don't want to hear.

 

Post after post has continued to twist everything most male posters have said on this thread blaming us for everything evil under the sun, and there is no reason for me to believe this will not continue. Many female posters have gone into specifics about what their husbands' behavior and how they feel.

While their feelings are to be respected, are they really relevant to the central issue of the thread?

 

I have tried to address the basic question of this thread time and time again, only to have some hag start raving about my views.

 

And I ask once more

 

What do you care if I(and most men) prefer younger women?

 

Don't you prefer younger men yourselves?

 

If you do, then there is nothing to argue about, we both like younger and can leave it at that.

 

Would the ladies of LS prefer male posters to lie about these issues and state they prefer older women?

Would that help you in your lives and make the men you desire want you in turn?

 

In fact, would females in this forum accept ANY view males have about women that doesn't serve their purposes?

 

Or is it our fate to be labeled "trolls" or "conspirators" or "gays" when our view is unpopular?

Without a shadow of a doubt, that is a sign of a person lacking intelligence; a closet fascist.

 

In all my posts, I emphasize the tenets of free will and personal preference;

Why are many people unwilling to do the same?

 

Female posters in this thread have criticized many males for being women haters, trolls, and lacking intelligence.

A certain male(?) poster even went so far as to suggest men who don't agree with certain opinions are "gay".

How is that for an exercise in intelligence?

 

What is especially shocking is the clearly one-sided bias by certain female LS posters to accept any insult made against men with impunity, while at the same time crucifying males for even the least significant slight.

 

And why all this hatred?

Because we don't want to date older.

Yet at the same time, you applaud all the women who date younger and spur them on;

"You go girl!" and whatnot.

Women who are grandmothers are lusting after young dudes.

Then, these same women turn around and accuse us of double standards and hypocrisy.

 

So in a nutshell, I will repeat my basic ideas.

 

You can't dictate to me and other men what to like or not like.

We are not to blame if some of your husbands and boyfriends leave you for younger, more attractive women. Similarly, it is not your fault if some women do the same.

S**t happens to everyone;deal with it.

 

If you want to date younger, more power to you.

After all,there seems to be no shortage of men who want older women.

I have no problem with this. In fact, I wish you the best of luck.

 

Yes, there are a lot of men who are bastards out there, but there are a lot of women who are bitches too.

But they are not bastards because they prefer younger women!

If we accept one side of the equation, we must also accept the other.

[almost famous]

And then in the process women rip on other younger women, calling them stupid, not intellectual, gold diggers etc..

 

Ha ha, no one on here did that, that is funny.

[vonerik012]

If you find that many younger men base their lives around "love", and they want to marry you, then why are you debating this? Have at it. I don't consider Rachel Hunter to be the average woman, but she married a man 24 years older to start a family.

 

I value age over beauty. That is just me. Everyone is different. I would rather marry a less attractive 25 yr old, than a more attractive 43 yr old. Not even debatable for me.

 

YES.. LOL Now "love is just love" when you are 40. Tell that to the attractive younger women on Loveshack who have a list a mile long of what they want to find in a mate, and then are applauded for it.

[almost famous]

No one's "applauding" anybody, I go out and date, find that I don't have trouble finding men who are interested in me and ones that are suitable for me, that is the reality.

Sometimes a guy is younger by 5 years or so, who cares? Last spring I was set up with a guy who was 6 years younger because a buddy of his who works with me thought I was actually early 30's (so yes, men do often think I look younger.) I went out with this guy and he was floored when I told him I was 40, just like his male friend who is my coworker. However, he had started liking me and the age made no difference to him whatsoever.

However, because of incompatibilities I saw in him on my part, and I wasn't really that attracted to him for certain reasons, I stopped going out with him after 2 dates.

 

So if I had fallen in love with him and wanted to continue, I could have. Just sayin', love is love.

 

Most aren't seeking a number like you are, they are seeking love. Love is not a date on a driver's license, just like the hockey player who is engaged to Rachel Hunter knows.

[vonerik012]

Thats your evidence? 2 dates with a guy who was 6 years younger?

 

He may have just been trying to get into your pants, who knows?

 

 

I have dated older women as well. Thats does not mean at all I want to marry them, trust me.

 

None of it means anything until a man is putting a ring on your finger. Many men spend years dating women they know they will not marry, but stick around for the company and sex while seeking someone better.

[Jersey Shortie]

It is the women that rip apart younger women for being with older men. They also rip the older man. The girl is not intellectual, a gold digger. The man is just being used for money and a geyser

 

 

Not one woman here ever said such a thing.

 

 

 

 

I had no desire to date men in my 30's when I was in my 20's. On college campuses you are seeing men and women the same age walking around and in love, these women aren't going for the older men. that is where you are delusional yourself, that the majority of younger women than yourselves are interested in men your age, and you are facing that reality, whereas many of us women in our mid 30s/40s

 

I completely agree. Vonerik seems to have a history of making of "statistics" to support his side but they have no base for support. The exception is a younger woman marrying an older man. The truth is if we are talking about strictly biological factors of healthy. A younger woman is better off phsycially with a younger male to have healthy babies. The vast majority of people in my experience marry close to their age. And I live in New Jersey, not bumble-**** USA.

 

 

 

Thats your evidence? 2 dates with a guy who was 6 years younger?

 

I have given you my life experience and you wanted to ignore that too. Your lose.

 

Many men spend years dating women they know they will not marry, but stick around for the company and sex while seeking someone better.

 

And many women do the same. This has nothing to do with the topic.

[vonerik012]

Rod Stewart was called a geyser..Other women implied men would like an older "intellectual woman" instead of a younger one, etc.

 

Jersey, Rod Stewart just had a healthy child at the age of 60. How do you feel about that? Still no difference between male and female biological clocks? LOL And I am guessing he has not even let the most healthy lifestyle, and still has no problem..

 

The vast majority of men will not consider marrying an older woman. The vast majority of women ACTUALLY DO marry older men. From 1 year older, to 20 years older..

 

 

 

http://bulletin.aarp.org/states/ca/articles/when_men_marry_later_age_gap_is_larger_researchers_find.html

 

While the age differential is narrowing in first marriages, a significant portion of husbands are still substantially older than their wives.

 

In about one-third of American marriages, husbands are at least four years older than their wives, according to 2006 Census data. Wives are more than four years older in just 7 percent.

 

Men in their 40s tend to marry women who average seven years younger, and men in their 50s are marrying brides who average 11 years younger, according to England's research. And men in the 60s? They marry women who are 13 years younger.

 

 

With both older and younger men chasing younger women, the law of supply and demand makes the marriage market a tough place for middle-age people of both genders, England said.

 

For women, the marriage market may be limited to potential husbands who are significantly older, because many men of the same age are interested in younger women, she said.

 

 

SORRY, thats life.

So if you want jersey, write these experts and tell them they are wrong, because your girlfriends do not date older men..

[Shygirl15]

Ha ha, no one on here did that, that is funny.

 

Ha ha, it's funny you chose to respond to that allegation...

[soserious1]

Rod Stewart was called a geyser..Other women implied men would like an older "intellectual woman" instead of a younger one, etc.

 

Jersey, Rod Stewart just had a healthy child at the age of 60. How do you feel about that? Still no difference between male and female biological clocks? LOL And I am guessing he has not even let the most healthy lifestyle, and still has no problem..

 

The vast majority of men will not consider marrying an older woman. The vast majority of women ACTUALLY DO marry older men. From 1 year older, to 20 years older..

 

 

 

http://bulletin.aarp.org/states/ca/articles/when_men_marry_later_age_gap_is_larger_researchers_find.html

 

While the age differential is narrowing in first marriages, a significant portion of husbands are still substantially older than their wives.

 

In about one-third of American marriages, husbands are at least four years older than their wives, according to 2006 Census data. Wives are more than four years older in just 7 percent.

 

Men in their 40s tend to marry women who average seven years younger, and men in their 50s are marrying brides who average 11 years younger, according to England's research. And men in the 60s? They marry women who are 13 years younger.

 

 

With both older and younger men chasing younger women, the law of supply and demand makes the marriage market a tough place for middle-age people of both genders, England said.

 

For women, the marriage market may be limited to potential husbands who are significantly older, because many men of the same age are interested in younger women, she said.

 

 

SORRY, thats life.

 

So if you want jersey, write these experts and tell them they are wrong, because your girlfriends do not date older men..

 

 

And if that is the case,if it is indeed true, then I will stay alone for the rest of my life and happily so. My wallet will remain firmly closed,no older husband sucking me dry for money because he's broke from paying off a younger wife who dumped him, my time will remain my own too... no caretaking for an elderly husband or having care of his pre-existing children or aging parents foisted off onto me.

 

I can stay alone quite happily and reject the subservient,caretaking role you'd just love to see older women forced to accept.