Ocean-Blue Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Thank you. Something new I don't look forward to, but you never know what will happen. I'm open. Seeing as how you've obsessed over this man, I think whatever is next is GOOD GOOD GOOD. Being open to new things is wonderful. I'm glad you're giving yourself that chance.
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 This 180 is just abit odd that's all, considering..... Anyway, it's a fantastic start and if you can continue to build upon this and each day just focus on you and your life, in a year you'll be saying DG who???!!
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I tried to click on the link and it told me there were some harmful files on there so I closed it. The CBT books are just to help you, nothing too deep and not like therapy. It's like learning about yourself in a new way, that's all. How to do some internal changes within and change your thought patterns as well.. Anyway, I know you hate therapy..
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I tried to click on the link and it told me there were some harmful files on there so I closed it. The CBT books are just to help you, nothing too deep and not like therapy. It's like learning about yourself in a new way, that's all. How to do some internal changes within and change your thought patterns as well.. Anyway, I know you hate therapy.. It probably asked you if you wanted to open the link because it may contain have harmful files or some such. But you can see that topic if you want in this site, the talk is: Life Without a Story. He has good stuff there, I like Adyashanti.
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I don't know, it seems "interesting" that Ariadne can simply decide to end the fantasy...if you're really seeing it this way now, Ariadne, then I am very glad. Congratulations. Thank you.
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 this thread NEVER added up! NEVER believed it! Never believed her son wrote, etc. It IS indeed, twisted! (omg)......
Storyrider Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I think you feel elated because you're letting go of a big weight, and opening yourself up to what the universe has to offer you.
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I think you feel elated because you're letting go of a big weight, and opening yourself up to what the universe has to offer you. Yeah, maybe that's what it is. I'm free. It took two years to finally be able to communicate with him but I'm glad I could do that. Thank you.
Art_Critic Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Yeah, maybe that's what it is. I'm free. It took two years to finally be able to communicate with him but I'm glad I could do that. Thank you. I'm happy you are free Ariadne.... it must feel good after all this time One thing to remember about the communication to keep your eyes open is : But you should understand that I'm not looking for a romantic relationship with you
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 I'm happy you are free Ariadne.... it must feel good after all this time One thing to remember about the communication to keep your eyes open is : Thanks for all your input Art. And no, I'm not into conquering some guy that doesn't want anything to do with me. He has to adore me. In my fantasy he did. Did anyone listen to that clip btw? Is good for anybody going through break-ups heartache etc, but you'll have to listen to the end or it'll not make much sense.
Art_Critic Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Thanks for all your input Art. And no, I'm not into conquering some guy that doesn't want anything to do with me. He has to adore me. In my fantasy he did. No sweat Ariadne.. You would've been there for me too if I was in your shoes... You are right.. the guy that flips your switch should adore you.. and he will be in your life for real one day..you'll see...
sfsassy Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 I am simply speculating on how much of her talk is true or how much is attention seeking. It almost seems histrionic to me.... I have no doubt that she was obsessed two years ago. That is clear. Was she STILL obsessed when he responded back to her after two years? I don't know. Seems weird that she was totally obsessed last week and now she isn't. That isn't how obsession looks. You can't just change your mind. It takes lots and lots of work to get over that type of thing. What I do doubt is how easy it will be to give the obsession up just like that if, in fact, she truly is still obsessed. If she is able to just walk away, she is odder and more bizarre than I thought. And totally out of my realm of understanding. This situation gets crazier and crazier by the day.... Doesn't make sense. But, then again, this type of situation has NEVER made sense to me. WA Well I know at a certain point with my ex (which yes, was luckily not like this) I started to pretty much pretend not to be obsessed.. "fake it until you make it I guess" I cut off communication with our one common friend. (She was really much more his friend anyway, anmd we would badmouth him constanly...) Didn't write or text or phone After awhile it became real, but it took awhile .
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 Btw, If you want to know "another" reason I got over so fast. Well, for the past two years I've been stalking his blog, her blog, her doll blogs, her million blogs, every single day several times a day. Not only that, I'd spend hours and hours reading all of his posts in old forums since 1991. Since I couldn't talk to him, I figured that was a good substitute because his thoughts were there. And after all of that... he tells me: I haven't read any of the intervening discussions on Loveshack (just the one that our mutual friend pointed out two years or so ago and the two new ones). OMG I mean, I've been posting my whole entire life here, and not only that, all I've been posting about is "him". And he couldn't give a sht. All the threads that I started about him for the most part. (The vortex thread, that I drove all the way to Sedona for 500 miles to be in a special place on his birthday, etc) And he never even came here for the past two years!!! When he knew perfectly well about LS and my alias and so on. So that completely turned me off. After reading that, I don't want anything to do with that guy.
sb129 Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Hey Ariadne- Well done. That is exactly the kind of perspective you need to be looking at this from. SB
marlena Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 Ariadne, And so closes a chapter in your life and a new one begins. May it be a happy one. M
luvmy2ns Posted June 27, 2008 Posted June 27, 2008 It already sounds like you're feeling free. Good! I hope wonderful things come your way.
Author Ariadne Posted June 27, 2008 Author Posted June 27, 2008 Thanks guys! Well, this was quite a ride. But it wasn't so bad... I'd say it was frustrating not to be able to talk to him for the past two years. But aside from that, I didn't suffer per se. Since I was convinced that he loved me and all was beautiful in fantasyland. It was like living a dream.
Author Ariadne Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Hi guys, I just wanted to give an update. I've been writing with DG every day for the past several days. Things are more or less back to what they were before, before he got engaged. And of course, he told me all his side of the story of how things were in the house for the past two years. Which is quite a different story from what you guys heard here. I'm not going to be posting any of his emails because that is his private stuff. But I'm not mad at him, or not writing, or any of that. I'm so very happy to be hearing from him again.
marlena Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Ariadne, If this is enough to make you happy, then, I am happy for you too. Just a little word of advice, if you don´t mind, that is. Be on your best behaviour. OK?
whichwayisup Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Just remember the facts here Ariadne.. DG is JUST a friend, nothing more, nothing less. He is not inlove with you and he doesn't want a romanic relationship with you. I think you know how hard it is to be friends with someone you're inlove with. Good luck with this one, obviously you see something worthy in him which makes you hang onto someone who doesn't love you back and the rest of us don't see it.
Kasan Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 I've been writing with DG every day for the past several days. NO, NO, NO! *Sigh* What are you doing? Oh Ariadne, words just escape me at this point!
Art_Critic Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 I feel that one day you will wish that you had moved on and showed yourself and your son more self respect ...
Author Ariadne Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Ariadne, If this is enough to make you happy, then, I am happy for you too. Just a little word of advice, if you don´t mind, that is. Be on your best behaviour. OK? Yey! You are back. And you were right before when you said I was confused. It's true that I'd be glad to be a penpal. Or just hearing from him. Yes, I'm very very happy.
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