LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Coping

How are you coping today?


Coping Learning to deal with one's emotions and loss.

Like Tree6332Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 9th November 2013, 1:25 AM   #61
Established Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 199
Quote:
Originally Posted by Phoe View Post
Feeling like garbage still, but more in an angry sense today, rather than in the depressed sense of yesterday.

Can't even look at myself in the mirror. I start judging myself so horribly, nitpicking at every little feature that might be making me not good enough, wondering what I can do to better myself.... and the more I look at myself the more alien and strange I look. Can't stand it. Need to go drown myself in the shower.
Don't let break ups break your self esteem.

Quote:
Originally Posted by strive View Post
Excited. Just booked a mountaineering trip for next month. For the first time I have something new to think about.
That's great.
Riou is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 1:50 AM   #62
Established Member
 
faithfully's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 312
happy, very happy happy. going to get a few piercing after work so looking forward to it
__________________
Everything happens for a reason
faithfully is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 6:12 AM   #63
Unconfirmed Account
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 5,045
Quote:
Originally Posted by Riou View Post
Don't let break ups break your self esteem.
There was no breakup. Just me wanting someone who doesn't want me.
Phoe is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 1:44 PM   #64
Established Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 210
Didnt talk to her since 1 months and half but as still looking her facebook profil picture .... I choose today to block her and delete her phone contact, I also block her instgramm page .

I'e done a therapy session and that help me a lot to understand that a liar cannot change . Step by step . That's hard and I still have up and down but I feel better every day !
the tank is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 6:26 PM   #65
Established Member
 
Blastoplast's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 370
Staying over at my new girlfriend's house helps -- well we're not official, but it's pretty close
Blastoplast is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 6:35 PM   #66
Established Member
 
Janni's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Denmark
Posts: 249
Had a great evening andnight out yesterday. But today I am feeling depressed. Went to the event I had signed up for, but am going home now. Can feel the tears wanting to come out. It's been a long time since I feel that way. My friend thought a guy was flirting with me and said I needed to get laid. Which only makes me even more depressed.

I want him to miss me. To fight for me. But I know he won't. It will never happen. He's too depressed to think about anything other than himself. And he's probably also still with her. I don't know why I even care. I don't want him back. I can't ever forgive him.

But today it crossed my mind, to be his friend just so he can see us close when I go out, when I have a great time, when I eventually meet a guy. Because I now he won't be okay with it. No matter how indifferent he acts and seems, I know he hasn't realized that I will find someone else. At some point. And it will kill him as much as all this is killing me.
__________________
The karma of ****ing over a good girl, is the bitch you end up with.
Janni is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 6:40 PM   #67
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 55
Im feeling good today, its been a week of being highly preoccupied and getting stuff done, i must admit i havent really taken much time to consider the ins and outs of him exiting my life completely (see here) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/brea...al#post5322098

But just deciding to get on things and understanding that without him, im still complete, im still the same person albeit a little more wisdom. I can be happy that the methods i used to recover from our breakup were healthy and while i was concerned about his methods and actions and the levels he would stoop to to get a reaction, im no longer concerned, its not my problem and i hope that he finds it for himself albeit still angry with me unnecessarily
SilverlinedCloud is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 9:54 PM   #68
Established Member
 
strive's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 372
I went to bed feeling really good. Then I woke up feeling really bad because of a dream I can't even remember. Sigh.
strive is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 9:59 PM   #69
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 1,827
Crappily. Just told him off in the post here thread. I kind of hate him a little bit right now. Wish I could just be indifferent.
AnyaNova is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 9th November 2013, 11:29 PM   #70
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Tucson, AZ
Posts: 185
Today has been yet another low, low day.......

Could not get my wife off my mind all day at work. Could not stop thinking about EVERYthing, including tonight.

On the verge of writing an email asking her to come back, to try and make things work, to not give up on us.

I better just go to bed and pretend like today never happened....it may as well not have, since it was basically a wasted day of my life that I can never get back.
AZtragedy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th November 2013, 4:20 AM   #71
Established Member
 
strive's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 372
Angry and frustrated that my daughter isn't home yet. Either she is being used in power play mind games or they don't respect the weekend arrangement enough.
strive is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th November 2013, 4:44 AM   #72
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2013
Posts: 392
Another rough night. Was planning to hang out with friends when I got off work and keep myself busy. Turns out everyone is either sick or busy, so my Saturday night ended up being me staying home. Naturally my depression took hold, worse than ever.

Spent a good deal of the night thinking about her some more, dwelling on my depression, my problems, you name it. Only good thing to come out of it is that I was so, so close to unblocking her on Facebook and checking her profile, just for the hope that I could see she's broken up with whoever she's been dating for some brief happiness on my part. But nope, restrained myself and kept NC.

Whatever, she's probably still dating someone, having the time of her life at her out of state school. **** her and **** tonight.
Chris715 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th November 2013, 3:45 PM   #73
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 49
Very rough morning. Been trying to stay busy but she moved all of her things out yesterday from the house we bought together almost 2 years ago. We lived together 1 year before that in my old condo. Just having all of her stuff gone really makes it so much more evident she is gone.

Our dog is back with me here for the month before she gets her for the month, which helps some to have my pup nearby...still a very tough time though. 6 weeks since she left for a break. 4 weeks since she called it off, completely moved out yesterday. Just feel sick about it all. Issues on both ends, but had I been more giving of my time and concerned with her priorities, it probably wouldn't be over. Feel like I've lost the love of my life with this one and a woman who would have been a great wife to me.
30andsad is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th November 2013, 4:13 PM   #74
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 1,827
Tubthumping (I Get Knocked Down) Lyrics - YouTube
AnyaNova is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10th November 2013, 10:14 PM   #75
Established Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 199
Quote:
Originally Posted by Phoe View Post
There was no breakup. Just me wanting someone who doesn't want me.
Theres more people out there..

Quote:
Originally Posted by positive poppy View Post
Keep crying, one month NC (5 1/2 year relationship) after seeing each other every day and talking day and night. It is real cold turkey. I am so down and keep having nightmares. I cannot think of anything else. ): Need tranqs to sleep and then I wake up in a cold sweat. I never want to fall in love with anyone again in my life...... it just takes too much of your life. I miss him sooooo much, part of me is missing, I just want to see him and hug him....... (sob).. my heart is broken
It will get better..

Quote:
Originally Posted by AnyaNova View Post
Nice song.
Riou is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
How are you coping today? QueenDafine Dating 0 7th July 2015 10:43 PM
Not coping very well today Gingerxr2 Coping 16 16th January 2013 4:47 AM
Not coping well at all today!!! aeren944 Coping 5 29th July 2010 6:05 PM
not coping at all today Lookingforward Coping 9 30th May 2008 1:20 AM
Not Coping Fed Up Today IfiKnewThen Coping 8 3rd August 2005 11:53 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 11:59 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2018 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.