I am 47 and my wife is 36. She and I have been together for 5 years. We're happilly married and life in general is great. Getting right to my point ... I have this strong desire to watch my wife have sex with other men and then have her myself afterwards. She knows how I feel but doesn't have a strong desire to fulfill my fantasy. Two years ago before we were married, she took the summer off and worked in Florida. I gave her my permission to take care of her sexual needs any way she wanted including doing other guys. Her response was, "Yeah, right." I continued to suggest it to her before she left and only asked that she told me all the details. Well, after 2 weeks of being in Florida, she met a guy at a club that she found very hot. 2 nights later she screwed him and called me to tell me. I was in sexual heaven. She did him again 2 nights later and then just about every other night for 2 months. Each time, she would call me and tell me how he would cum in her at night and then again in the morning. She became his little slut. Anyway, all the fun came to an end when she came home. I still like getting her to tell me about things that happened while there but she doesn't like to bring it up. Now I want her to meet a local guy and bring him home for sex. I can't seem to get her interested though. I don't want this to be a nightly thing or anything. Maybe once a month or so. She is seriously in love with me and I have no fear of her running off with another guy. Sometimes I think I'm some sort of sicko but the image of watching her get pounded in bed is just locked in my head and makes me soooo horny. Wouldn't you think that most wives would love to have an arrangement like this? Oh, by the way. I have no interest in having sex with any other women myself and she knows that.
How could you ShareHer! I think its time sunshine to stop dressing up in your Superman suit and grow up.
I dont think you respect your wife, but just think of her as a sex toy to get your rocks off with.
It is obvious there is a relationship problem here. A man (!!!?????) asking his wife to do something she is not interested in. This is abuse at it's best. This is the worst kind of emotional abuse ever. It will eventually lead her to total devastation. Marriage is about security and satisfaction. Women are not sex toys. This poor wife has self-respect and high self-esteem. Leave her and LEAVE. That may be better for both of you. You may find your match very soon somewhere else.
Re: I want to watch my wife have sex with other men.
Originally posted by ShareHer
Wouldn't you think that most wives would love to have an arrangement like this?
Uh, no, I don't, is the answer to that question.
Sexual fantasy is great, but there needs to be some consideration for the emotional needs of your marital relationship. I'm only speaking for myself, but I know I want to feel treasured by my husband. I don't think I would feel that if he wanted to see me get "pounded" by some other guy.
I think, if you love your wife, you are going to have to let go of having this fantasy become a reality. She is not interested in doing it, and you need to understand that. Perhaps the 2 of you could compromise on some way to introduce this fantasy more into sex between the 2 of you.
I can understand this because I too have this fantasy about my wife.
I want to watch her have sex with another guy, or preferably with 2 or more guys at the same time.
She also has a fantasy of having 2 or 3 guys do her at the same time.
Early in our relationship we actually seriously looked for a guy to have a threesome with; but it never went down. We didn't want a friend and we feared picking up a stranger.
We settled for a dildo as the "other man" and often used it to simulate a threesome.
Why do I have these thoughts? I feel it's because I want to degrade my wife. The thought of 2 or more men holding my wife down and plugging every orifice for then selfish horny pleasure arouses me.
My wife is very dominate in our household and earns more money then I.
Having her be a slutty sex slave puts her down and makes me hate myself less.
I guess I'll never understand why or how men can desire watching the part of his wife which belongs to him being taken by another man. It would literally kill me!!! Isn't it weird how love and hate gives you the same gut feeling? The heart pounding, the twitter in your stomach.....How could anyone watch his wife take pleasure with another man?
My Brother-in-law, deacon of our church, holier than thou type individual has the same fantasy. Only his wife has a fantasy of being with my wife.......something that we've talked about allowing to happen. Only I see it as a form of cheating and a part of her I'm not willing to share with man or woman.
If you allow this to happen, you give up the only thing that should be sacred to you......a man who has nothing sacred is like living with no purpose.
I know you think this behavior is totally fine and wonderful, but maybe you should really think about why you want your wife to do this. It's not good. It's not normal. It's not healthy.
Also, I really think that your wife is going to start doubting your love for her if you keep pushing her. I know that you say you're not forcing her, but you ARE pushing her to do something she really doesn't want to do, and that will make her resent you and become annoyed, etc... It's just the truth.
You came here trying to get help to get your wife laid by another man. We are telling you that you have the problem, not her. You should work on why you want her to do this, instead of trying to work on why she doesn't want to.
Definately look into swinger sites or boards. Perhaps literotica.com's forums might help. Personally I think you're nuts but different strokes for different folks... I wouldn't push your wife into this though as that will lead to major issues so be careful what you wish for...
From experience with this matter, I wouldnt recommend it. I felt pushed into it by my husband and his pre-occupation with this and other adult activities eventually led to our divorce. Your wife, will not be your wife for long if you asks her to do something that she does not want, and also asking her will make her feel as though she does not satisfy you, so you better be careful.
I'm sorry but your post seems to me more like a bragging post than anything. You say though, that your wife doesn't share your excitement level about her doing other men, hmmm gee I wonder why? maybe because she feels its wrong! I know you say she has done it before, I think maybe the only reason was to please you, not really because she truely wanted too. She doesn't share your desire about it because she doesn't like it. Don't tell me that if she didn't like it she wouldn't be doing it either, because shes doing it for you. Also I'm sorry but i have a feeling that your marriage is about to go down the tubes right before your face. Are you willing to let that happen? Not only that but you say you were being sarcastic and mimicking others post or respones, that just shows you don't like what people have to say. What do you want from your post anyway? Do you want people to tell you how to go about getting her to share your desire and excitement about doing other people? I doubt that will happen.
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