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Better than arguing.

Instead of arguing, schedule half an hour a week, to discuss matters of concern, before they become 'big issues.'     For ten minutes he/she speaks without any interruptions.   Then you get your ten minutes of uninterrupted talk time.   The last ten minutes is two way chat.   You alternate who speaks first every week.   The first time, you toss a coin.     Its much better than arguing, and can actually be very enjoyable

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Can't move on?

There are three very common reasons why some people have difficulty moving on even after a long time has passed:   1. An omitted or incomplete grieving process.   2. Rebound relationships.   3. Genuinely traumatic experiences within the relationship.   1 and 2 are much more common than 3.

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Fake.

Fake Mainstream News Fake Alternative News Fake Election Fake Winner Fake Loser Fake Democracy Fake Patriotism Fake Political Parties Fake Hair Fake Tits

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The Best.

I choose to give only the best of myself to others. The less than best, I work on in my own time.

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Time.

May it come, may it come, the time you will fall in love with.

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Gestation.

From my journal:   "The baby grows inside the Mother. Our consciousness grows inside the Baby. What is to come grows inside our consciousness. In that sense, we are our own Mothers, or at least Mothers of that which is to come."

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Love.

Love is total commitment. Nothing held back. Nothing conditional. It is the total extension of self.

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Duty.

The first duty of love is to listen.

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A simple technique for dealing with fear.

The only way to overcome fear is to face up to it. Allow yourself to feel the fear without trying to push it away.   Trying to push it away creates tremendous inner tension, and feeds the fear.   Notice the physical sensations in you body that come with it, but don't try to suppress them, just notice the way your body feels.   Allow yourself to fully experience it for a few minutes, and then just go about your business.

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On being a Person.

"Our search for such [moral] principles can start with . . . the unconditional imperative to acknowledge every person as a person. If we ask for the contents given by this absolute, we find, first, something negative—the command not to treat a person as a thing. This seems little, but it is much. It is the core of the principle of justice."   - Paul Tillich.

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How to be Sane.

Mental and emotional health hinges on the acceptance of reality and the ability to adapt to it.

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Time.

Our intentional thoughts and feelings in the present change the past and future.

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Dealing with anger.

The key to dealing with anger is externalising it.   You can do this by:   Speaking about it to a trustworthy person, writing about it, or any other means of expression that works for you.   Anger is very physical, so physical ways of externalising it can be be particularly helpful. Some examples are:   Going to a place where nobody can hear you and shouting it out as loud as you can, for as long as you can.   Hitting a punch bag until you can't punch any more.   Breaking something, and th

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Giving and receiving.

To be loved, be loving. To find peace, be peaceful. To find forgiveness, be forgiving. To be cared about, be caring. To be treated kindly, be kind. To be understood, be understanding. To have friends, be friendly.   Etc.   We have no right to receive anything that we do not give.

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Focus.

That which you focus on will become more real to you.

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Change.

Your mind is the easiest thing to change.

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Resistance is futile.

*Don't try to avoid your thoughts and feelings. That resistance just creates conflict and tension inside of you.   Allow your thoughts to come and go naturally, and do the same with your feelings.   You will find that there are nuggets of understanding and realisation in there which will help with your recovery.   If you block the painful feelings, you are at the same time blocking any good feelings which are being formed.   What you resist, persists.

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What you have.

The relationship you have, is the relationship you have today.   If you're happy with it today, you'll probably be happy with it tomorrow.   If you're not happy with it today, you'll probably not be happy with it tomorrow.   The past is gone, and the future is unknown.

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A useful mindfulness exercise.

1. Sit down in a dining chair, or other upright chair.   2. Close your eyes, and let your attention come to your body. Let your attention wander around your body, just noting any sensations you feel. You may feel anything. Itching, hot, cold, tight, heavy, relaxed etc. Just notice any sensation.   3. Notice your breathing. Don't try to breathe in any particular way, just notice your breathing.   4. Bring your attention to the heart area, and let it rest there for few moments. You might like t

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A nice quote from RD Laing.

All in all Each man in all men all men in each man All being in each being Each being in all being All in each Each in all All distinctions are mind, by mind, in mind, of mind No distinctions no mind to distinguish

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Don't believe the cheaters reason why...

They all say,"I needed xyz, and you weren't giving that to me."   Then you can get really clear in your head that its all your fault.   Then you can get really clear in your head that you're just not good enough.   Then you can get really clear in your head that you must do better.   Or, you can look at it this way: He did it because he wanted to.   Which is a good way of looking at it, because it's the truth.

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