They all say,"I needed xyz, and you weren't giving that to me."

Then you can get really clear in your head that its all your fault.

Then you can get really clear in your head that you're just not good enough.

Then you can get really clear in your head that you must do better.

Or, you can look at it this way: He did it because he wanted to.

Which is a good way of looking at it, because it's the truth.