MissBee Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 We need a clapping icon! :bunny::bunny::bunny: Brilliant post of the day! :laugh::laugh: I always appreciate a woman that can make things happen. What's that old show? I Dream of Jeannie. Yupp! That's the life we women lead...the cat is out of the bag! With a mere flutter of our lashes men come running, they can also disappear with another flutter, and we have them right under our thumbs with a stare...so they aren't going anywhere and the relationship just self-propels as we lay around being fanned and fed grapes by our dutiful man servants. Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Eh, I always figured that show was so popular because she called Major Nelson "Master" lol:D:D:D:D Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Relationships don't = coasting...I would keep trying! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I'm feeling fairly optimistic about the possibility of finding love these days, but at the same time I'm starting to think about how I can be happy and live a full life even if it doesn't happen. I must be maturing, because for the first time in my life, considering such a future is giving me a feeling of liberation. I used to think it would be such a sad fate not to find lasting romantic love. Now I'm realizing that if that's what it comes to, I might as well make the best of it, and I have the power to do so. I also feel like letting go of my attachment to a certain future and simply focusing on enjoying life gives me a lightness and magnetism that are bound to attract more quality prospects. I'm in a good state of mind about it. Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Hey OP, I only read the first page of responses but wanted to put my $.02 in anyway. I was thinking along some similar lines as you and saw your post. I've been in a few semi-long term relationships. None of them great enough or they would have become marriages. I spent a good stretch alone as well. I hated that. Now I'm married, almost 15 years. I waited to get married bc frankly I did not like any of my choices up till then. Till I met my spouse. I was thinking this is fantastic! We are so compatible it is scary! Even now, I still think this. Thought we would be together till death. I used to text, TDDUP, (Till death do us part) a quote from the wedding vows. Then my "fantastic" spouse became a WS, had an affair. Now I'm thinking, do I really want to go start dating again? Get into a series of failed relationships again. I do enjoy intimacy that builds over a long time with the same person. The sex is way better, the closeness, the companionship. But I just hate the endings. Whether I want to end it or the other person. It seems inevitable and I'm just sick of it. So while I hate being alone, maybe I hate breaking up even more. Maybe I should just face it that being in a relationship is a temporary thing. I'm never going to find that TDDUP person. So therefore, it is not worth it. For me. A large part of me feels exactly this way as well. I mean even at tddup, one person departs and the living one ends up heart broken. All relationships are temporary and end in heart break, unless you die first. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I'm not even bad-looking, however it's just such a burden to find, date, and attempt to make women happy. Even if something serious does start to form, at no point in time can I "coast" like the woman does; I need to keep making her happy and always have in my mind the possibility of her cheating or walking off. It just seems too stressful to get involved with anyone. I'm not even motivated by sex. That's what masturbation and escorts are for. I'm giving serious consideration to just dying alone; never finding someone. Anyone else gone down this path? Ha. That's how I feel about dating men. Fwiw myself and many other women have never coasted through a relationship. In short, a lot of work, very little return. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 LOL I don't think Red Robin has "no sex drive" going by her past posts in the sex forum! It'd be fun to find out but maybe in another lifetime Any woman who is not trying to bang every man within a 5 mile radius ~obviously~ has a low sex drive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I have never felt I coukld coast in a relationship. Just because my particular type of effort might not be exactly the same as a man's, that does NOT mean I am not making effort. I think that is what a lot of people's problems boils down to: all they focus on is the idea that the other gender isn't doing as much/isn't as good/has a double standard/ has it easier/ might make a false rape allegation/might go off the pill secretly/might cheat/might rape me.... Honestly, focusing on all that negative that probably doesn't even exist is a CHOICE. And that choice gives off a definite vibe, even if one DOESN'T think they are letting any of the women around them know they feel that way. And the same goes for women. I can spot a man-hater a mile away...or a laptop 1,000 miles away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 To answer the question, I could see myself fa, and thats ok. At this point im more practical about dating. Maybe ill date again in 2 or 3 years, who knows. I no longer care about having kids so I dont feel any sense of urgency. At this point in my life I enjoy doing what I want, when I want. I like my peace and quiet. To be honest, I dont have the same views on relationships as I do in other parts of my life. Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 Don't care if I die alone lol. I am pretty sure I could scrap some unorthodox lifestyle together to scrap by. I still whole heartedly believe if you had no kids your life was an epic failure. The disappointment is only temporary. Walk around with a smile ! Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 I have never felt I coukld coast in a relationship. Just because my particular type of effort might not be exactly the same as a man's, that does NOT mean I am not making effort. I think that is what a lot of people's problems boils down to: all they focus on is the idea that the other gender isn't doing as much/isn't as good/has a double standard/ has it easier/ might make a false rape allegation/might go off the pill secretly/might cheat/might rape me.... Honestly, focusing on all that negative that probably doesn't even exist is a CHOICE. And that choice gives off a definite vibe, even if one DOESN'T think they are letting any of the women around them know they feel that way. And the same goes for women. I can spot a man-hater a mile away...or a laptop 1,000 miles away. Hmm well maybe ive just had it very rough and also known otger women whove had it rough, but ive seen or experienced many of those things. I do consider the lack of drama a benefit of being single. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 Well you and I must run in different crowds because I have met a good number who feel like that. It's to the point where a woman was almost a pariah if she admitted she loved her husband and was happy. My wife was treated like a pariah at work because she wouldn't cheat on me. I admit it is much better where I live now though. It appears you live in Santa Monica now, but when you were married you lived in NJ, correct? There are pockets of populations where the values are just upside down. My mom gushes over my dad to this day... and she's no weak sister. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 No sex drive Victim complex Acceptance Rationalization and deflection Good luck with that! You're just pissed I'm not banging you, lol. Any woman who is not trying to bang every man within a 5 mile radius ~obviously~ has a low sex drive. *shrug* yep LOL I don't think Red Robin has "no sex drive" going by her past posts in the sex forum! It'd be fun to find out but maybe in another lifetime Well... lemme tell you about my new BF. Looks like this guy... is super smart, and a geeky goofball like me... I think I'm in lurve!! We'll see though... He's a Mensa Man. I've gotta stay on my toes. I did kick his butt in backgammon the other night. Ok, with his help. I think he likes me https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/05/4d/47/054d47d92c45d3b36e0477d924240df9.jpg 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 It appears you live in Santa Monica now, but when you were married you lived in NJ, correct? There are pockets of populations where the values are just upside down. My mom gushes over my dad to this day... and she's no weak sister. Yes I met my wife at the same beach where they filmed the show Jersey Shore. We moved to Santa Monica after we realized that this place is going to close to a decade to recover from Hurricane Sandy and the fire plus my in laws out here know a lot of people in the real estate community who got us a good deal. I did it to please her but I ended up loving it here. I loved my old neighborhood as well but both of us had the misfortune of having some real pieces of work as coworkers. In short my old neighbors were great but our coworkers not so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Raines Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 I'm giving serious consideration to just dying alone; never finding someone. Anyone else gone down this path? Yes, I am ON this path and will stay there. I know there are good women out there, I simply am not interested in taking the chance of finding another cheater. I have my 2 kids, and they are all I need. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 I'm not even bad-looking, however it's just such a burden to find, date, and attempt to make women happy. Even if something serious does start to form, at no point in time can I "coast" like the woman does; I need to keep making her happy and always have in my mind the possibility of her cheating or walking off. It just seems too stressful to get involved with anyone. I'm giving serious consideration to just dying alone; never finding someone. Anyone else gone down this path? I am doing it now. Last summer, I got tired of failing or shenannighans. No luck with OLD -- no "fish" at all. No luck asking a girl for her number and she doesn't answer when I called her. I confronted her about why she gave me the number if she wasn't interested and she told me that she's not into me. Another woman at work ultimately friendzoned me. One woman would rather go back to her abusive ex-boyfriend than go out with me. When you strike out 100 times, you don't want to play baseball anymore. Instead of getting depressed, I decided to focus on myself, "turn off" my emotions like a light switch and give up looking for a girlfriend. If a woman is missing out on what I could have offered her, then she's missing out. Now I assume that every woman I come across automatically doesn't like me. Any attractive woman I come across, I'll fight and bury any amorous emotions (unless I encounter some mythical woman that proves me wrong). Life is good. No more anxiety about "will she or won't she". No worries about being alone. Although I was trying to date when I came to this forum, now I come for the entertainment. I'm not even motivated by sex. That's what masturbation and escorts are for. How much do you pay for escorts? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NGC1300 Posted March 16, 2015 Author Share Posted March 16, 2015 How much do you pay for escorts? To tell you the truth I've never used an escort. However as of lately I have been giving it serious consideration. I am seeing nearly 100 for even a 1/2 hour, so no I couldn't afford any more than "every once in a while". Link to post Share on other sites
Male Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 I truly think I'll be single and alone the rest of my life. I'm aware that I dont quite "fiit" socially into what women typically want. I dont chase, I dont play games, I dont shower the woman with flirtations or compliments. Link to post Share on other sites
Mangina Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 To tell you the truth I've never used an escort. However as of lately I have been giving it serious consideration. I am seeing nearly 100 for even a 1/2 hour, so no I couldn't afford any more than "every once in a while". Do not do it you will not get that satisfaction you are looking for. It is 200 hundred flushed down the drain in 20 minutes. You will get a terrible feeling when done. Also a lot girls have a problem with guys who have been with hookers so if you meet someone you really like you will be face with keeping a dark secret or telling the truth. If I am in that situation I will tell the truth and hope she is empathetic Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 To tell you the truth I've never used an escort. However as of lately I have been giving it serious consideration. I am seeing nearly 100 for even a 1/2 hour, so no I couldn't afford any more than "every once in a while". Oh no, I could never do that....I would want someone to get naked with me cuz they naturally want and desire me. Maybe men doing escorts is easier in their mind cuz some way or another - regardless if it's a date, gf, wife, a guy is still paying something out of his pocket and gets female attention in return. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Just walking out to the shop to put a new hinge on the truck door, I get this gargantuan dog barking at me and this whole scenario unfolds...... next door wife tells H 'oh goats are sooooo cute and the kids will love them. H folds and gets goats, even though there isn't a spec of edible grass on the place and hey we're in the middle of the drought. OK, nice flock of goats appears, along with a spiffy aluminum stock trailer to haul them. Then, well, duh, predators show up to eat the goats because, well, goats are tasty Then, they get this humongous dog to guard the goats and every time I walk out to the shop this dog charges the hog wire and thinks he's going to eat me. One of these times I'm simply going to shoot him. Damn noise. Yeah, I've accepted being alone. Now if I can get the neighbors on board or buy their property! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 No sex drive Victim complex Acceptance Rationalization and deflection Good luck with that! You've written similar posts about older women. Robin was sharing her own experiences, just as you have. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 I haven't fully accepted it, which is one reason that I still feel sad at times. Of course, there are other things that I have trouble accepting in my life, not just related to this. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobbi7 Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Yes! I'm already thinking about the nursery home I'm going to end up at when I'm like 65 or 70... Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 To what I highlighted in bold ^^...is what amazes me on some people who marry now a days. If she can't/doesn't cook, maintain a home, maintain her appearance, and/or treat/sex you like a "man" then why does she deserve a ring? Marriage is not just to have someone you deem appropriate to get pregnant - but with a woman who can make a "house" a "home"....but, the women guys marry now a days makes me scratch my head. So, I'm guessing some people marry cuz they don't wanna die alone....ok, what - ever Why does anybody deserve anything? I'm not competing in the Martha Stewart olympics, or in a race to get a ring on my finger. Link to post Share on other sites
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