What do you do when you get hit on by 45-50 year old men?

[gaius]

A horrible man hit on me on Friday. We have history. He was one of my dad'd friends & then he became an out of control drunk who ruined his family. He is dangerous & I am afraid of him. As he moved to touch me I told him to back the F off & promised him that if he touched me I was going to take the wine glass in my hand, smash it on the bar & stab him in the throat with the stem, after which everyone in the bar would swear that he fell on it. Before I had to make good on my threat, he was physically escorted from the premises.

 

My level of anger & violence as outlined above was not the starting point.

I might have to start inviting you to my parties. If I ever threw any parties.

 

hot, pursure whoever you want. I think the old pot bellied geezers who hit on younger girls have a healthier attitude than women who might pass up a good thing cause the guys younger or whatever. =/

[hotpotato]

Whilst your reaction is entirely your perogative you might want to bear in mind that time eventually makes fools of us all and one day you will be that 50 year old cougar lusting after that hot guy with the 6 pack who is young enough to be your son. Guess what? He thinks you are disgusting and should stick to a more appropriate age range.

 

Chew on that for a bit and you may realise that 'there but for the grace of God' is the best attitude to go forward with in the future

 

I think we have already chewed on that. Most people dont want to date their parent or grandparent. Its difficult for average men and women to date significantly younger people. Im all for facing reality.Heck, ill be 30 fairly soon. I can get why say a 20 year old guy might not want to date someone 10 years older. Theres a good chance he would be very turned off.

[preraph]

I'm talking about the old, pot bellied, bald, armpit stains, divorced older dude with 4 kids that hit on me. You don't find that disgusting? I'm not talking about george clooney or brad Pitt. I don't live in Hollywood where all the good looking older men live.

 

I'm with you -- and I'm old. I do think it's disgusting when old geezers, whether male or female, are hitting on someone young enough to be their daughter or even granddaughter. I think they should know better, and I am not the least concerned with whether it's unfair to think of them as geezers because that behavior is really inappropriate and a clear indication that someone doesn't have a very good grasp on reality.

[hotpotato]

True but you don't know that the 1st time you meet someone. All I advocated was trying polite 1st.

 

If it doesn't work then you move on to something stronger.

 

A horrible man hit on me on Friday. We have history. He was one of my dad'd friends & then he became an out of control drunk who ruined his family. He is dangerous & I am afraid of him. As he moved to touch me I told him to back the F off & promised him that if he touched me I was going to take the wine glass in my hand, smash it on the bar & stab him in the throat with the stem, after which everyone in the bar would swear that he fell on it. Before I had to make good on my threat, he was physically escorted from the premises.

 

My level of anger & violence as outlined above was not the starting point.

 

 

Im not suggesting bust a glass over someones head as a first resort. However, im all for f bombs and stank face. For example, I had a man hit on me who was 70 (i knew hi). I was around 22 at the time. He asked if id like to go back to his assisted living home and have wine. I gave him some awful stank face, and thankfully, he got the picture.

[contact1]

If a 50 year old man started hitting on me, I'd tell them they need to go see their ophthalmologist

[nofeelings22]

Im not suggesting bust a glass over someones head as a first resort. However, im all for f bombs and stank face. For example, I had a man hit on me who was 70 (i knew hi). I was around 22 at the time. He asked if id like to go back to his assisted living home and have wine. I gave him some awful stank face, and thankfully, he got the picture.

 

Omfg , "Hey, baby. Let's go back to my place for some wine and pills. The nurse comes around at 3:00. " :lmao:

 

Really? I can't believe that happened.

 

But it's a weird subject. While I don't hit on women at all.. not my style, I routinely have been with girls pushung 15-20 years my junior for a long time now. Why is it I'm not foud to be creepy? Instead, I'm accepted... as the fun, cool older guy.

 

It kind of makes me feel bad that some guys in my age demographic are going to get stank face and f bombs while I'm hanging out with these girls.

 

AND omg... i know a girl (20 now, known her for a year) that gives the BEST stank face.

 

It's powerful enough to send guys her age at clubs nearly crying as they head off, not a word spoken by her. Like every couple minutes, a guy comes up, looks at her, starts to open his mouth to say something and she unleashes the stank face. They just close their mouths and walk away hunched over. Very powerful thing. In I'm guessing you have some pretty good stank face skills?

[hotpotato]

Omfg , "Hey, baby. Let's go back to my place for some wine and pills. The nurse comes around at 3:00. " :lmao:

 

Really? I can't believe that happened.

 

Oooh it did. I'm 100% old dude has some viagra lying around lol. A lot of things happen to me that are unbelievable.

 

 

But it's a weird subject. While I don't hit on women at all.. not my style, I routinely have been with girls pushung 15-20 years my junior for a long time now. Why is it I'm not foud to be creepy? Instead, I'm accepted... as the fun, cool older guy.

 

Are you sure they're not just being nice? lol

 

It kind of makes me feel bad that some guys in my age demographic are going to get stank face and f bombs while I'm hanging out with these girls.

 

Why? I wouldn't expect guys 20 years younger than me to want me hanging around.

 

AND omg... i know a girl (20 now, known her for a year) that gives the BEST stank face.

 

Lol I've seem some crazy stank face. I saw a girl on youtube who didn't have stank face she had stank body. She'd freeze in some weird pose and hold it for like 20 seconds. She said dudes ran.

 

 

It's powerful enough to send guys her age at clubs nearly crying as they head off, not a word spoken by her. Like every couple minutes, a guy comes up, looks at her, starts to open his mouth to say something and she unleashes the stank face. They just close their mouths and walk away hunched over. Very powerful thing. In I'm guessing you have some pretty good stank face skills?

 

I actually have resting bytch face. I just kick it up a couple notches when i need to he he

[nofeelings22]

Oooh it did. I'm 100% old dude has some viagra lying around lol. A lot of things happen to me that are unbelievable.

 

 

 

Old boy had Viagra too???!?! This is a story for the records! ha ha

 

 

Are you sure they're not just being nice? lol

 

Maybe! They text me, invite me out, have that damn revolving door sex with me and whatnot for charitable purposes. That's probably it. Let's pick an old man out of the crowd and make him our pet. Can't be because I'm well liked...

 

 

 

Lol I've seem some crazy stank face. I saw a girl on youtube who didn't have stank face she had stank body. She'd freeze in some weird pose and hold it for like 20 seconds. She said dudes ran.

 

Looking this up now.... ha ha

 

 

 

 

I actually have resting bytch face. I just kick it up a couple notches when i need to he he

 

Whoa! A whole new level! Resting bitch face... lol awesome.

[elaine567]

http://femebblog.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/tumblr_n28t957kdx1tps6uqo1_5002.jpg?w=920 - Resting Bitch face.

[BluEyeL]

I think it is mean and rude to talk that way about people that are 45-50 yo. Getting older is quite contagious. I'm turning 43 in a month, and I don't think I'm all that disgusting, but I also don't hit on younger men.

 

On the other hand, I find I harbor a secret satisfaction that men who are 45-50 and should be dating women my age, get treated badly by much younger women.

[nofeelings22]

I think it is mean and rude to talk that way about people that are 45-50 yo. Getting older is quite contagious. I'm turning 43 in a month, and I don't think I'm all that disgusting, but I also don't hit on younger men.

 

On the other hand, I find I harbor a secret satisfaction that men who are 45-50 and should be dating women my age, get treated badly by much younger women.

 

 

True. If I walked around hitting on 20 yo girls randomly, I'd expect a lot of blow back and like 9/10 to stank face me.

 

I'd say only around 10% of the population is interested in age gap dating.

 

Last night I saw one of those girls on my list wasn't too down with her, but very nice. 21 yrs. Tonight I have a call with Miami (23) I'm dreading because it's about getting serious, exclusive, etc... and I have no idea if it's rejection or a relationship budding. She has been meditating on it. Prepared for the worst. This is the "do me" one and the girl I was with at Art Basel. The on/off for sooo many years.

 

Text started with "Heyyyyy )" though, so overall, a positive sign.

 

But as an older guy, I'm ready for the more difficult road we have to get anywhere.

 

Let's hope there's no stank face on the other end of the phone! lol

[SincereOnlineGuy]

 

What do you do when you get hit on by 45-50 year old men?

 

I'm in my early 30's and I'm disgusted by this. And I don't even TRY to even get their attention. Geez. At times like this, I really wished I had a boyfriend to defend me when these nasty creeps are hitting on me.

 

 

 

LOL - A study was done in the mid-1990's, asking men what age woman they felt was ideal for them to date.

 

The answer was normalized for all men, with the answer being

 

"Half his own age plus seven years"

 

 

Therefore, a woman of, say, age 33, is most likely to be targeted for romance by men who are 52 or so.

 

So what you are complaining about is nooooooooormal life.

 

 

Now a woman of 33 could wait 5 years, without a boyfriend, at which point the vast realm of men targeting her for romance will be sixty-two.

 

And if you aren't too fond of that idea, then you can wait ten years without a boyfriend... at which point the seventy-two year old men will be the ones most interested.

 

 

Given all of that data, there are multiple reasons why you'd better leap while you can, because to wait fifteen years, at that rate, might not be too promising or productive.

[elaine567]

LOL - A study was done in the mid-1990's, asking men what age woman they felt was ideal for them to date.

 

The answer was normalized for all men, with the answer being

 

"Half his own age plus seven years"

 

 

Therefore, a woman of, say, age 33, is most likely to be targeted for romance by men who are 52 or so.

 

So what you are complaining about is nooooooooormal life.

 

 

Now a woman of 33 could wait 5 years, without a boyfriend, at which point the vast realm of men targeting her for romance will be sixty-two.

 

And if you aren't too fond of that idea, then you can wait ten years without a boyfriend... at which point the seventy-two year old men will be the ones most interested.

 

 

Given all of that data, there are multiple reasons why you'd better leap while you can, because to wait fifteen years, at that rate, might not be too promising or productive.

 

This is obvious rubbish as 80 year olds, are supposed to date women who are 47...

[salparadise]

It's a case of your perception being your reality. It's that's the way you see it, then that's the way it is to you... trying to impose your own narrow-mindedness on the rest of the world makes you look like the oddball. People of varying age differences have relationships all the time. It's not a cultural taboo, it's just less common.

 

I'm late 50s and I volunteer at a place where the vast majority are college age women. We all get along just fine, talk and laugh and share stories. I started dating a woman 7 years younger that I met there. We kept it somewhat discreet just because we didn't want to be the, "oh aren't they cute" older couple who got together. After we started dating she told me that one of the young women (22ish) had an infatuation for me and had confided this to her. I told her, nah, you're pulling my leg just to see what I'd say. But she wasn't at all. The younger woman was keeping it to herself because she didn't think I'd be interested in her, and because she also didn't want to feed the rumor mill.

 

That's like a 35 year difference, and I assure you none of us were judging or thinking less of anyone else. Perhaps it take actually getting older for some to come to the realization that we are all just people, all the same species, all with similar needs and wants. Some are just more open-minded than others. It's really no big deal until someone turns it into one.

[hotpotato]

LOL - A study was done in the mid-1990's, asking men what age woman they felt was ideal for them to date.

 

The answer was normalized for all men, with the answer being

 

"Half his own age plus seven years"

 

 

Therefore, a woman of, say, age 33, is most likely to be targeted for romance by men who are 52 or so.

 

So what you are complaining about is nooooooooormal life.

 

 

Now a woman of 33 could wait 5 years, without a boyfriend, at which point the vast realm of men targeting her for romance will be sixty-two.

 

And if you aren't too fond of that idea, then you can wait ten years without a boyfriend... at which point the seventy-two year old men will be the ones most interested.

 

 

Given all of that data, there are multiple reasons why you'd better leap while you can, because to wait fifteen years, at that rate, might not be too promising or productive.

 

Guy who hits on me is 70. I was 22. Where does that figure in mathematically?

[hotpotato]

I think it is mean and rude to talk that way about people that are 45-50 yo. Getting older is quite contagious. I'm turning 43 in a month, and I don't think I'm all that disgusting, but I also don't hit on younger men.

 

On the other hand, I find I harbor a secret satisfaction that men who are 45-50 and should be dating women my age, get treated badly by much younger women.

 

I guess im a face the faces kind of person, so I dont get the hubbub. I would fully get it if I were 40-50 and men in their 20s were turned off by me. Unless im looking like Halle Berry or Courtney Cox, thats the reality.

 

That is something I wanted to point out on ls. Older women say that younger women should be grateful that a guy old enough to be her dad hits on her. The next thread older women are up in arms about older men and younger women dating. O_o

[hotpotato]

It's a case of your perception being your reality. It's that's the way you see it, then that's the way it is to you... trying to impose your own narrow-mindedness on the rest of the world makes you look like the oddball. People of varying age differences have relationships all the time. It's not a cultural taboo, it's just less common.

 

I'm late 50s and I volunteer at a place where the vast majority are college age women. We all get along just fine, talk and laugh and share stories. I started dating a woman 7 years younger that I met there. We kept it somewhat discreet just because we didn't want to be the, "oh aren't they cute" older couple who got together. After we started dating she told me that one of the young women (22ish) had an infatuation for me and had confided this to her. I told her, nah, you're pulling my leg just to see what I'd say. But she wasn't at all. The younger woman was keeping it to herself because she didn't think I'd be interested in her, and because she also didn't want to feed the rumor mill.

 

That's like a 35 year difference, and I assure you none of us were judging or thinking less of anyone else. Perhaps it take actually getting older for some to come to the realization that we are all just people, all the same species, all with similar needs and wants. Some are just more open-minded than others. It's really no big deal until someone turns it into one.

 

Um, kay. Most people are with people their own age more or less. If they are not, theyre with an older person who looks younger, which proves my point.

 

I dated a man 17 years older than me. That was not the norm.

[CALOVELY]

LOL - A study was done in the mid-1990's, asking men what age woman they felt was ideal for them to date.

 

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I will gently point out that ideal and reality doesn't always line up. My ideal car would be an Aston Martin and yet I drive a Jeep. That's the reality of things.

[MidwestUSA]

What do you do when you get hit on by 45-50 year old men?

Let me think about the last one. Hmmm.

 

 

 

 

Oh yea, I MARRIED him. I must be getting a bit forgetful.

 

 

Sal, is that you? My hearing's going too.

 

Dupe post, sorry. Damned Alzheimer's. Mods, fix me up!

Edited December 23, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Fixed!

[Lady2163]

Oddly enough, I know my time is being wasted when a man 5-7 years younger than I am hits on me. I'm past having kids, they are not.

 

I try to regularly hit on men who are uh....out of my league whether it be age, looks or income. If I find them interesting, would like to get to know them better, why not? I do t want to be 80 and regret not making the effort.

 

One time when. I was 31 I was at a conference that literally was 400 men and me. Most of the men were 55 and older...the majority over 65. My phone rang all night in my room. I got crankier and crankier. Viagra was at its peak. I finally said to one of the. At 300 AM, "What exactly do you think you can offer me that is special and I don't already get many times a week?"

[ponchsox]

Why are they creeps? What are they whipping out their packages?

[hotpotato]

Old boy had Viagra too???!?! This is a story for the records! ha ha

 

Well, i don't know if he did, and I wasn't gonna find out. LOLz

 

Maybe! They text me, invite me out, have that damn revolving door sex with me and whatnot for charitable purposes. That's probably it. Let's pick an old man out of the crowd and make him our pet. Can't be because I'm well liked...

 

hehe

 

Looking this up now.... ha ha

 

 

 

 

 

Whoa! A whole new level! Resting bitch face... lol awesome.

 

This was at a bookstore. I'm sure i was reading so my rbf was strong lol.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

This is obvious rubbish as 80 year olds, are supposed to date women who are 47...

 

 

 

Guy who hits on me is 70. I was 22. Where does that figure in mathematically?

 

 

 

Nobody said anything was "supposed to" happen. This was a survey, offered to males, who were simply asked what age in a woman they thought would be ideal for themselves.

 

It had nothing to do with what the women thought, and clearly it could have entailed an entire survey audience of 20 people, ten of which might have been 18yo guys (who each gave the same answer of "16")...one ninety-year-old man who said: "fifty-two" (because the woman next door is fifty-two), along with nine 40-year-old men who each said "twenty-seven" (or, more likely, averages which approximated such a representation).

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I guess im a face the faces kind of person, so I dont get the hubbub. I would fully get it if I were 40-50 and men in their 20s were turned off by me. Unless im looking like Halle Berry or Courtney Cox, thats the reality.

 

That is something I wanted to point out on ls. Older women say that younger women should be grateful that a guy old enough to be her dad hits on her. The next thread older women are up in arms about older men and younger women dating. O_o

 

 

Boiled-down more precisely, one thread will say: "the people I want to be hitting on me, AREN'T hitting on me - what should I do?"

 

... and the next thread (penned by the same person) will say: "the people I don't want to be hitting on me, ARE hitting on me - what should I do?"

 

 

I guess some people think that baseball should be altered so that the only pitches thrown to some batters are fastballs (because those batters want fastballs)... while the only pitches thrown to other batters are curveballs {because that's what those batters want}...)

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Why are they creeps?

 

 

If somebody knows where your locker is, he's creepy.

 

 

If somebody knows your homeroom, he's creepy.

 

 

If somebody knows where you get off the school bus, he's creepy.

 

 

If somebody knows where you work, he's creepy.

 

 

If somebody knows your email address, he's creepy.

 

 

 

They hadn't invented all of this when I was little - thankfully.