How, or if, to ask a girl you are dating if she has breast implants

[joystickd]

See, the man in the video already taught you so much!

 

I prefer to say pu**y better. You never responded about you being wet for me so I take it as a yes.

[TheBigQuestion]

I know for a fact, that this isn't true for most men. Men do not want to be referred to degradingly anymore then women do. It is why men will talk about how poorly they can be represented in tv and film.

 

I do not have to internalize everything to understand that the words people use matters and how each gender chooses to talk about one another matters.

 

I choose to live my life with a little more passion and the fight for justice. We have different goals in life. No big deal.

 

You're right that men don't desire degradation. Where you slip up is with the simple fact that most men don't have the same highly sensitive reaction to relatively innocent terms that you've displayed in this thread. You asserted that men here would be up in arms if women were using terms like "dickbag," "moneybags," or any other term that "objectifies" a man's looks or money. I can tell you that I honestly don't give a crap if you or anyone else used those terms, and in the circles that I travel, none of the men I know would be up in arms over that terminology either. There are numerous reasons for this, I'm sure, but that could be a matter for a whole other thread.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I prefer to say pu**y better. You never responded about you being wet for me so I take it as a yes.

 

In your dreams.......... Cheap Trick time?

[joystickd]

In your dreams.......... Cheap Trick time?

You know you like guys like me. Its a whole lot better than the ones that whine about feminism and paying for dates. We can actually find the g-spot

[Leigh 87]

If your intimate and totally comfortable around a girl, you should be able to ask her such questions...

 

In a relationship, if you are thinking things could head that way, you HAVE to be comfortable enough to ask these sort of things.

 

 

 

I have large breasts for my size. When I am 120 lbs and 5 ' 6, I have DD round ones that stick out a lot. with high shoes, I look very thin for my breast size.

 

Some guys, my BOYFRIENDS friends, when my boyfriend was PRESENT, have just asked me " mann, do you have fake boobs, sorry HAD to ask"

 

 

.......... So, as long as u have more tact than THAT, " knock yourself out" haha.. go for it, ask her if you feel your close enough.

[joystickd]

If your intimate and totally comfortable around a girl, you should be able to ask her such questions...

 

In a relationship, if you are thinking things could head that way, you HAVE to be comfortable enough to ask these sort of things.

 

 

 

I have large breasts for my size. When I am 120 lbs and 5 ' 6, I have DD round ones that stick out a lot. with high shoes, I look very thin for my breast size.

 

Some guys, my BOYFRIENDS friends, when my boyfriend was PRESENT, have just asked me " mann, do you have fake boobs, sorry HAD to ask"

 

 

.......... So, as long as u have more tact than THAT, " knock yourself out" haha.. go for it, ask her if you feel your close enough.

Damn you got some big ol' milk jugs.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

You're right that men don't desire degradation. Where you slip up is with the simple fact that most men don't have the same highly sensitive reaction to relatively innocent terms that you've displayed in this thread. You asserted that men here would be up in arms if women were using terms like "dickbag," "moneybags," or any other term that "objectifies" a man's looks or money. I can tell you that I honestly don't give a crap if you or anyone else used those terms, and in the circles that I travel, none of the men I know would be up in arms over that terminology either. There are numerous reasons for this, I'm sure, but that could be a matter for a whole other thread.

 

And I know of men that do not enjoy being referred to in certain derogatory names. Neither do they like to be made into a function of their wallets and money. As women do not like to be made into the function of what men think their breasts should be.

 

Now you can keep erroneously making the insideous little commentary on my sensitivity, which is ironic in the light of your sensitivity to me having an issue with out each gender decides to talk about the other, or you can admit that words matter. And that is my message here. It matters how each one of us talkes about men and women. And until that can be admitted with honestly, this conversation is going to go around in a circle. but I think you know what I say has truth in it. Ironic how the person that actually used the ignorant name isn't getting your attention but I am..and why..because I called out someone for using the term "funbags".

 

"Funbags" isn't an innocent term. Boobies is pretty innocent. "Funbags" is rather creepy. I get that you don't give a crap about this. Then don't post BigQ. Seriously. But I think the ease with which certain words are tossed about women and their body parts to be misogonistic. This is not a word I use to see....now I see it quite often and usually among men to describe women. And it only breeds more disrespect and contempt among each other.

[joystickd]

misogonistic.

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Misogynistic. Misogyny and misandry get used too loosely on this forum. No woman on here is like Valerie Soldanas. No man is hates women or think low of them. Its a forum and just like you can whine about porn or talk about being the thought police I can say funbag. I get on this forum and have seen negative talk about black people I ignore it because its their right to talk about it. Saying it on here is different than saying it to someone's face although most on here wouldn't have the courage.

[DjinnAgain]

I'm sure this has been addressed, but DON'T.

 

 

If she doesn't have tacky obviously fake ones, she got them hoping people wouldn't notice they were fake and asking her will offend her.

If they're real, there's equal chance it will offend her or make her laugh.

 

Either way, risk benefit analysis says - not worth it.

[Babolat]

Well, I have lost track in this thread though I do appreciate the on topic replies.

 

I have not asked her, no plans to do so in the near future. It's too early for that..still getting to know each other..still moving through those "awkward" moments in the beginning of dating.

 

I love her body, her breasts look and feel fantastic...she does not flaunt or show them with her clothing choices either, which I like.

[zengirl]

This is from way back:

 

Daesin: I find it really bizarre that you're equating a woman's "body issues" with materialism.

 

How does a woman's body issues (reasonable or not in YOUR eyes) establish that she is materialistic??

 

fwiw, I would equate it with materialism too, as is any fixation on your physical shape and being.

 

However, I'd say getting a boob job is equally as materialistic as getting ripped at the gym (not simply exercising for health reasons, but if you're working to get a high level of muscle or muscle definition, then you're working beyond what is needed for health reasons unless you're an actual athlete and doing it primarily for the "look"). The fact that one is surgical and the other is not holds no bearing. Anything you do primarily for looks is materialistic.

 

For instance, a materialistic thing I often do is get my hair straightened. I spent a summer living in a beach hut without electric, plumbing, or proper doors, windows and teaching orphans how to speak a little English right after getting my hair straightened. I say this to illustrate: People are complex.

 

Anytime you're brushing up the exterior, you're probably being materialistic. We are ALL materialistic to some degree -- there are varying degrees. Apparently some people consider surgery a stronger degree. Oh, and it's an even stronger degree based on the quality of the breasts beforehand or what prompted you to get implants. I don't really get those qualifiers. Do you look at an average-weight and height guy who looks just fine before he goes to the gym and say, "Why spend all those hours at the gym? Why so superficial and materialistic? You didn't need that!"

 

As to the question, I don't see any harm in asking if you're actually close and intimate with someone. If she's someone you just met, you might want to wait a bit -- it seems a bit rude as an overly early question just because it's overly familiar. I know many girls with implants, and not one of them who's ashamed of it or wants to hide it/lie about it, so I imagine you'll get the truth.

[dasein]

Apparently some people consider surgery a stronger degree. Oh, and it's an even stronger degree based on the quality of the breasts beforehand or what prompted you to get implants. I don't really get those qualifiers. Do you look at an average-weight and height guy who looks just fine before he goes to the gym and say, "Why spend all those hours at the gym? Why so superficial and materialistic? You didn't need that!"

 

Is it really that hard to get? 5'4" guy wears thick soled shoes purposefully to enhance height, well that's understandable. 6' guy doing the same? More materialistic. Same with implants. A woman getting implants after a mastectomy? Understandable despite that some could call her materialistic under a strict definition. Woman with a fine set who goes under the knife for an incremental benefit? As I said at the beginning of the thread watch for other signs of materialism, not assume she is materialistic. I've never not seen other signs of undue materialism IME dating in my dating pool with these types. Could they exist somewhere in LaLa where standards and mores are different? Sure.

[Babolat]

Well, I found out, without asking, that they are implants (she indirectly volunteered it)..and I love them! I think what adds to my "love" of them is I have grown closer and closer to her prior to knowing.

[Andy_K]

Funny how so many guys say they dislike implants, right up until they find themselves with a girl who has a good set of fake ones.

[mtber75]

if you groped them, you can pretty much tell if they are fake or not. Do they feel hard and jelly like? But now a days, some of these implant jobs do feel very natural! Also if you look at her naked breast, are they perky and not sagging .Than those are fake.

 

Just a take from a breast man myself:)

[FitChick]

A woman getting implants after a mastectomy? Understandable despite that some could call her materialistic under a strict definition.

So if her boobs were originally smaller than yours, you'd be okay?

[Babolat]

Well, I found out, without asking, that they are implants (she indirectly volunteered it)..and I love them! I think what adds to my "love" of them is I have grown closer and closer to her prior to knowing.

 

I like them regardless..fake or not fake. In fact the night I found out, I was thinking how natural they were and they must not be fake.

[Phennyphen]

This is a weird thread yet it reminds me of a guy I went on one date with a few months ago, during the conversation he randomly states "I'd prefer a woman to be flat chested than have fake breasts" I was like what... Mine are real..and I'm not flat chested either.. Do you think this was his way of asking if they were real?