Breasts

[notsoleet]

Yes, I'm always this snarky in person....

 

So you're just reticent in person?

 

You must be new to the internet to not know that people act differently when they are anonymous.

How did you guess - I didn't even know the Internet existed until 2 weeks ago.

[somedude81]

So you're just reticent in person?

If you're still not aware. My height is a very big deal to me. It's affected me much more than your beasts have.

 

You've admitted that you've had no problems in the dating scene so your small size hasn't affected you at all. While I simply haven't dated. Period.

 

Then you said you've been in love with/dated men who were below average height only to show that you haven't.

 

What you did was basically equivalent to me saying, "I've been in love with and dated girls that had smaller than average breasts. They ranged from C to F."

[betterdeal]

Is this the thread about breasts sizes?

[Els]

Since I'm tired of repeating myself. Maybe I wasn't clear enough?

 

If height or my muscle mass was really that important to a girl and she would constantly think about it in a negative way because she feels that strongly about it. Then she shouldn't date me.

 

This is exactly what I mean!

 

If big breasts are so important to you, then don't date the women with small ones and then ask them to have implants.

 

You doing so would be EXACTLY the same as a girl 'getting with you because she has no other options' and then trying to convince you to do surgery!

[somedude81]

This is exactly what I mean!

 

If big breasts are so important to you, then don't date the women with small ones and then ask them to have implants.

 

You doing so would be EXACTLY the same as a girl 'getting with you because she has no other options' and then trying to convince you to do surgery!

Do women who have no other options even exist? I seriously doubt I'll ever meet a woman who has me as her only choice.

 

The point I was trying to get across with post 59, is that I hope the woman I do end up getting into a relationship with doesn't have small breasts. I'm a man who has no options and it would basically be a miracle to find a woman willing to get serious with me.

 

Even If she had small breasts, I'd be stupid to turn her down because of that. But I'd also be somewhat disappointed. That's why I brought up the implant thing. I figure it would be easier trying to talk my girlfriend/wife into getting implants than finding another woman who is willing to date me and also has a body that I like.

 

Of course the best thing is to only date a woman who has a body that works for me, but I feel I don't have much choice in the matter.

Edited October 29, 2011 by somedude81

[Els]

And I am trying to tell you that any woman I know who does not care about a man's height, would be crushed and hurt and balk at her man trying to convince her to get implants for him. Heck, any woman I know would, actually. Maybe they might stay with you, even consider it, but then the fog will leave their eyes and they will realize that a man who wants them to put their body through major surgery to change something that they themselves did not even think needs changing, is not a man who truly loves them. And that's why I put my question to you about how you would feel about a woman who wanted you to do steroids for her. If a girl truly loved you, she would not want you to endanger your health just to please her.

 

Basically, it's a surefire way to find yourself single again. AND for the girl to have self esteem issues over the next few months/years.

Edited October 29, 2011 by Elswyth

[alphamale]

Yes, I'm always this snarky in person....

 

You must be new to the internet to not know that people act differently when they are anonymous.

yea i guess you're a pretty decent person from what i've read in the past

[Cypress25]

Why would I date a woman with small breasts even though it's not my ideal?

 

For the same reason that you dated shorter than average men who were not your ideal.

 

But the problem is, every time I'd look at her, I'd be wishing she had larger breasts and that's just not fair for her.

 

You're right, it wouldn't be fair to her. So how would you make it fair for her? By admitting that you're not attracted to her body type and letting her go, so she can date someone who does appreciate her. Convincing her to get implants is NOT how you make it fair for her.

 

How would she feel if she caught me looking at porn that featured large breasted women? In the end, all I can do is hope that the woman I get together with is buxom, so I can be happy with who she is.

 

What does porn have to do with it? I don't look like a porn star, but the guys I date are still attracted to me. I'm sure they watch porn that features women who don't look like me. So?

 

Even If she had small breasts, I'd be stupid to turn her down because of that. But I'd also be somewhat disappointed. That's why I brought up the implant thing. I figure it would be easier trying to talk my girlfriend/wife into getting implants than finding another woman who is willing to date me and also has a body that I like.

 

Easier for you, maybe. That's why it's totally selfish. "Honey, I don't find your body attractive, but I'll never be able to get my ideal girl, so would you mind having surgery to make yourself look more like my ideal girl? It sure would make my life a lot easier." Yeah, that would go over well. You'd be single again in two seconds if you did that.

 

The problem is not that you like big boobs. The problem is your selfish attitude. Why should any woman change for you?

[somedude81]

So then what should I do?

 

Turn down a perfectly good woman because she has smaller breasts? And possibly being alone forever?

 

Somehow change my desires?

[Yamaha]

the best thing is to only date a woman who has a body that works for me

 

I used to only like women with round, bubble butts. Even if she was attractive, if she had a flat butt I was turned off. Then I met my GF who is Asian and has a small butt. I am soooo attracted to her. Yes, she has large breasts but I was never a boob man in the past.

 

My point is that you can change what you find attractive in a person. It really is the person you fall in-love with and the outside is just a bonus.

[Cypress25]

So then what should I do?

 

Turn down a perfectly good woman because she has smaller breasts? And possibly being alone forever?

 

Somehow change my desires?

 

These are your two options: Either accept the woman as is, or don't date her if you can't accept her.

 

This is YOUR problem. Don't make it HER problem by asking her to change her body for you. It's not her fault that you have unreasonable expectations. No one ever gets their perfect man/woman. Welcome to the real world.

[alphamale]

So then what should I do?

 

Turn down a perfectly good woman because she has smaller breasts? And possibly being alone forever?

 

Somehow change my desires?

look dude...have you ever had sex with a chick with big titties? I used to date this chick with 38Ds and the damn things would get in the way of everything and make all sorts of slapping sounds. The only thing good about them was that it was easy to titty f**k.

 

I'd much rather prefer medium sized boobies.

[somedude81]

Funny how my expectations are now unreasonable. Give me a break.

 

It's as if women with large breasts are rare and more valuable than women with small breasts. And only few men can get them.

[ptp]

I would never dream of asking a girl I cared about to get implants...Never.

 

I love big boobs as much as the next guy, but that is just wrong. Small boobs medium boobs or big ones I am fine with all of them, they are all beautiful to me.

 

In fact if a girl I was with had small boobs and wanted to get implants, I would discourage her.

 

The only way I would support implants would be if she felt extremely self conscious due to surgery or a deformity...etc...

[alphamale]

In fact if a girl I was with had small boobs and wanted to get implants, I would discourage her...

lets say you were born with a micro-penis of around 2 inches and wanted to have it surgically enlarged and she discouraged you. how would you feel?

 

this is basically a very personal decision...

[xxoo]

Funny how my expectations are now unreasonable. Give me a break.

 

It's as if women with large breasts are rare and more valuable than women with small breasts. And only few men can get them.

 

Thin women with large (natural) breasts are rare.

[ptp]

lets say you were born with a micro-penis of around 2 inches and wanted to have it surgically enlarged and she discouraged you. how would you feel?

 

this is basically a very personal decision...

 

Even though I am not afflicted with that, I do have imperfections that could be improved with plastic surgery. If I ever found a woman who I loved and would mind me imperfections and all I would be ecstatic.

 

I never said it wasn't personal, but that doesn't mean a SO doesn't get to express their opinion especially considering it is something as serious as surgery.

[Cypress25]

Funny how my expectations are now unreasonable. Give me a break.

 

It's as if women with large breasts are rare and more valuable than women with small breasts. And only few men can get them.

 

Your expectation that a woman should change her body for you is unreasonable. You have no right to expect that from anyone.

 

Your expectation that you should be able to date a woman who matches your physical ideal in every way is unreasonable. Learn the difference between fantasy and reality.

 

This is especially bad coming from a guy who can't even get a girl to go out with him. You really expect to get your dream girl? Sounds pretty unreasonable to me.

 

Look, maybe you should just date a lump of clay. Then you can mold her however you want, and you won't have to take her feelings into consideration.

[somedude81]

Your expectation that a woman should change her body for you is unreasonable. You have no right to expect that from anyone.

 

Your expectation that you should be able to date a woman who matches your physical ideal in every way is unreasonable. Learn the difference between fantasy and reality.

 

This is especially bad coming from a guy who can't even get a girl to go out with him. You really expect to get your dream girl? Sounds pretty unreasonable to me.

 

Look, maybe you should just date a lump of clay. Then you can mold her however you want, and you won't have to take her feelings into consideration.

Wow, why do you have your panties in such a twist over this? Did I somehow personally offend you?

 

I don't remember having any confrontation with you in the past, so what's up?

[123321]

Thin women with large (natural) breasts are rare.

 

Hmmm, not really. Uncommon or something but not really rare, what is vanishingly rare is a thin woman with big boobs who isn't already seeing a high tier male.

[Els]

So then what should I do?

 

Turn down a perfectly good woman because she has smaller breasts? And possibly being alone forever?

 

Somehow change my desires?

 

I'm not sure what you should do, but IMO you're going to crash and burn your very first relationship when you keep trying to convince her to get breast implants. I'm not sure how common a C cup breast on a non-overweight woman is there, but it's not very common where I come from.

 

SD, you have the rights to want what you want. I just have this feeling that if you see nothing wrong with your plans, the next succession of threads you start will be this:

 

"A girl agreed to go out with me! Finally!"

"I am going to ask my gf tomorrow to get breast implants"

"Dumped by my gf. Why is life so unfair to me???"

 

[somedude81]

I'm not sure what you should do, but IMO you're going to crash and burn your very first relationship when you keep trying to convince her to get breast implants. I'm not sure how common a C cup breast on a non-overweight woman is there, but it's not very common where I come from.

 

SD, you have the rights to want what you want. I just have this feeling that if you see nothing wrong with your plans, the next succession of threads you start will be this:

 

"A girl agreed to go out with me! Finally!"

"I am going to ask my gf tomorrow to get breast implants"

"Dumped by my gf. Why is life so unfair to me???"

 

You're Asian right Elswyth?

 

Where I live the vast majority of women are white which is also my race and preference. Many many of those girls are at least a C. It's not like what I'm after is 1 out of 100.

 

Odds are I just wouldn't end up dating a woman who was so small that I think she needed implants.

 

And no, it's not like I'm turning down women either.

[Els]

It's good that you would just not date those girls instead. That was really all I meant. Pointless to go out with them and then tear down their self esteem and inevitably end up breaking up with the implants convincing.

[notsoleet]

Your expectation that a woman should change her body for you is unreasonable. You have no right to expect that from anyone.

 

Your expectation that you should be able to date a woman who matches your physical ideal in every way is unreasonable. Learn the difference between fantasy and reality.

 

This is especially bad coming from a guy who can't even get a girl to go out with him. You really expect to get your dream girl? Sounds pretty unreasonable to me.

 

Look, maybe you should just date a lump of clay. Then you can mold her however you want, and you won't have to take her feelings into consideration.

 

hahaha. Seriously, best post in the thread so far.

[notsoleet]

You're Asian right Elswyth?

 

Where I live the vast majority of women are white which is also my race and preference. Many many of those girls are at least a C. It's not like what I'm after is 1 out of 100.

 

Are you from So Cal? Not to generalize but perhaps many of those thin girls with big breasts probably have had implants. Or maybe your definition of thin is my definition of fat.

 

Also, my question was to see if there are ways to naturally enhance my breast size. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but last I checked, silicone implants aren't natural. And as tempting as it is to attract guys like you who are obsessed with breast size and willing to be a demeaning douche to a (hypothetical) girlfriend, I think I'll pass on implants. Thanks for the suggestion though -- I'll keep it in mind if my self-esteem hits a new low.

Edited November 1, 2011 by notsoleet