I'm pretty sure there are only like five "desirable" guys where I live...

[shadowplay]

Someone of your intellectual caliber ought to be able to make my feeble brain see the light. So please, go ahead.

 

If you haven't gotten it by now, I don't think you will...

[shadowplay]

I'm going to apologize to Hokie and Star. Insulting somebody's *whatever they are* is something I don't consider cool.

 

That said, any individual (not relationship) is fair game if they act like an arse.

[Star Gazer]

I'm going to apologize to Hokie and Star. Insulting somebody's *whatever they are* is something I don't consider cool.

 

Apology accepted, at least on my end. I'm sure Hokie will say the same when he gets home.

 

That said, any individual (not relationship) is fair game if they act like an arse.

 

Oh, the irony! Agreed.

[Alma Mobley]

 

Of course desirable is highly subjective, but for me it's:

 

-extremely smart and fairly well-read

-good looking, fit and above average height

-ambitious and resourceful

-common interests

-good taste in artistic things

-24-years-old+ and mature

-confident and not a weirdo

 

I'm not sure why you are being attacked, Shadow. This is close to what my list was. But yeah, finding all these traits in one package is pretty hard to find (as is the female equivalent). I am smart and tend towards the intellectual myself, and the guys I usually dated were more practical smart. I moved to a large, densely populated city and found lots of artistic types, intellectual types, etc, but ran into the problem of there being so many options, people weren't always looking for relationships. I got VERY lucky and found someone artistic, intelligent, common interests, handsome (and tall, lol -- I know how that goes over on LS), not a weirdo, etc. I held onto him! He felt the same way about me. It does really happen. It took awhile and I had to move but I found him. I'm sure in time you will find the right guy for you!

[TheBigQuestion]

I'm not sure why you are being attacked, Shadow.

 

She was being "attacked" because she assumed that posters who had criticized her in her previous threads were attempting to insult her intelligence, and then in the process insulted a pair of posters' relationship/whatever it is. That had nothing to do with her list. But she apologized, so be it. I apologize on my part for coming across as insulting, but it really does get tiring to see people try to help one poster repeatedly only to be crapped on.

[eerie_reverie]

I am picky too... but I tend to subdivide people differently than you do.

 

My "requirements" are:

 

1. Do I genuinely enjoy spending 1:1 time with him?

 

2. Do I see this changing because of characteristics like clinginess?

 

3. Am I attracted to him? I have noticed is that my "requirements" for attraction are limited to ambition and muscularity.

 

4. Are there any major incompatibilities?

 

5. Is he a good emotional investment???

 

Everything else... height, good-looking-ness, even "intelligence" in my book are moot points. What I consider desirable has changed as I have met the men who satisfy my 1-5. ( I never thought I'd be so crazy about a short bald Greek guy.)

 

 

Sadly, many guys fail at #1. Most of the ones that don't fail at #5. At this point in my life, all of the above need to be satisfied... I am not going to spend any more time with someone I don't trust.

[Scottdmw]

Actually, your math is all wrong.

 

Those characteristics are not independent.

 

 

It's possible traits are correlated, but we have to start somewhere. If you'd like to offer an alternate calculation that accounts for it that would be interesting. The odds are still going to come out quite low which is the main point, and the reason being so picky is a problem. Also, I didn't even limit for her age range--that adds another factor of .15 or so.

 

Do you really think there is a correlation between a man being above average height and intelligent, for example?

 

Scott

[Westy]

this thread has taken an ugly turn.

 

 

Quiet you, this is the most entertaining thread I've read in my short time on this website.

 

 

Let me say this about standardized testing, especially when you are kids.

 

Who is the brighter child?

 

Child A tries very hard on his meaningless standardized test and is first in his class and among the top students statewide.

 

Child B realizes that this test will have no impact on his life, no impact on his grades, therefore he says, "I'm not wasting my time like these other chumps I am going to fill the circles in as fast as I can, and take a well deserved nap!"

 

I tend to side with Child B being the smarter of the 2.

[Citizen Erased]

Quiet you, this is the most entertaining thread I've read in my short time on this website.

 

 

Let me say this about standardized testing, especially when you are kids.

 

Who is the brighter child?

 

Child A tries very hard on his meaningless standardized test and is first in his class and among the top students statewide.

 

Child B realizes that this test will have no impact on his life, no impact on his grades, therefore he says, "I'm not wasting my time like these other chumps I am going to fill the circles in as fast as I can, and take a well deserved nap!"

 

I tend to side with Child B being the smarter of the 2.

I like you already.

[Tony]

This thread has so many off topic, mean spirited, insulting, inappropriate posts I'm not going to take the time to delete them. Just going to shut down this entire thread because it took a serious turn for worse some number of posts ago. Thank you for participating.