I'm pretty sure there are only like five "desirable" guys where I live...

[johan]

Yes you did. And frankly, some of you people are ruining my mood for date night.

 

Oh, no. Maybe it won't go well. Better cancel.

[CLC2008]

Oh, no. Maybe it won't go well. Better cancel.

 

I no. I am def not canceling, I might even get a little freaky after today's sh*t show.

[shadowplay]

Statistically speaking, you're making it awfully hard on yourself. Let's do the math.

 

Top 5% intelligence

good-looking-- we'll call this upper 50%

fit-- again we'll call this 50%

above average height-- same thing 50%

ambitious—50%

common interests-- let's call this 10% of men for the sake of argument

artistic taste—20%

confident—50%

not weird—60%

 

These things may not all be statistically independent but let’s say they are. You are looking at:

 

.05*.5*.5*.5*.5*.1*.2*.5*.6==0.000019, or 0.0019% of men. Otherwise known as roughly 1 in 60,000 men.

 

 

Actually the odds are somewhat better. You forgot the self selection factor. My city draws in substantially more artistic and intelligent people than in an average sample because it's a major university town that also has a thriving artistic scene.

 

Also, you have to consider that intelligence and common interests will probably be somewhat correlated.

[Citizen Erased]

My advice to you shadow:

 

Don't start handing out IQ tests before dates. It may turn some people off. I kid, I kid.

 

My last relationship he was all practical intelligence and no intellectual. I'm sure he will be a great husband for someone that doesn't require more. I can see where you're coming from shadow.

 

But please do not attack Star and Hokie's relationship, it's unnecessary. I had the same thing done to me and Pyro when we first started and it actually hurt me. You and SAC are better than that.

[eerie_reverie]

I don't get it.

 

Star and USMC:

 

Are you guys DATING????

 

-spooks in disguise

[shadowplay]

I don't get it.

 

Star and USMC:

 

Are you guys DATING????

 

-spooks in disguise

 

Yeah, I'm confused too. I thought they were just flirting on LS.

[CLC2008]

Yes, we need pictures, like CE & Pyro.

 

Real pictures.

[shadowplay]

 

But please do not attack Star and Hokie's relationship, it's unnecessary. I had the same thing done to me and Pyro when we first started and it actually hurt me. You and SAC are better than that.

 

I didn't realize they were actually dating (!)

[Citizen Erased]

I didn't realize they were actually dating (!)

Whatever they're are really isn't any of our business. I don't understand why it's even up for discussion really.

[eerie_reverie]

Whatever they're are really isn't any of our business. I don't understand why it's even up for discussion really.

 

Seeing as how it's a relationship forum and we've followed Star's love life for years... I understand why it's up for discussion.

[shadowplay]

Whatever they're are really isn't any of our business. I don't understand why it's even up for discussion really.

 

See the thing is... I didn't think there was anything up for discussion. I just thought they had some flirty banter. If I knew they were actually an item, I wouldn't have gone there.

[Star Gazer]

See the thing is... I didn't think there was anything up for discussion. I just thought they had some flirty banter. If I knew they were actually an item, I wouldn't have gone there.

 

You didn't? Because SAC certainly knew, as we've discussed it privately. I have a hard time believing she doesn't share everything I say with you.

[anne1707]

Seeing as how it's a relationship forum and we've followed Star's love life for years... I understand why it's up for discussion.

 

Two things

 

- it is off topic as this is SP's thread

 

- how could YOU have followed Star's love life for years when you only joined LS this month.....

[eerie_reverie]

Statistically speaking, you're making it awfully hard on yourself. Let's do the math.

 

Top 5% intelligence

good-looking-- we'll call this upper 50%

fit-- again we'll call this 50%

above average height-- same thing 50%

ambitious—50%

common interests-- let's call this 10% of men for the sake of argument

artistic taste—20%

confident—50%

not weird—60%

 

These things may not all be statistically independent but let’s say they are. You are looking at:

 

.05*.5*.5*.5*.5*.1*.2*.5*.6==0.000019, or 0.0019% of men. Otherwise known as roughly 1 in 60,000 men. No wonder you can't find a match in a small city, there is really only one, not even five.

 

Actually, your math is all wrong.

 

Those characteristics are not independent.

[shadowplay]

You didn't? Because SAC certainly knew, as we've discussed it privately. I have a hard time believing she doesn't share everything I say with you.

 

No, I honestly didn't. She'll verify this. I"m always out of the loop when it comes to LS gossip. I think I was the last person to know about Pyro and CE.

[eerie_reverie]

Two things

 

- it is off topic as this is SP's thread

 

- how could YOU have followed Star's love life for years when you only joined LS this month.....

 

Because I used to be someone else. And before that, someone else.

[Citizen Erased]

Seeing as how it's a relationship forum and we've followed Star's love life for years... I understand why it's up for discussion.

I meant in this thread.

 

Now why are you in disguise?

 

See the thing is... I didn't think there was anything up for discussion. I just thought they had some flirty banter. If I knew they were actually an item, I wouldn't have gone there.

I don't think they're an item. But it is more than flirting. Now forget I said anything.

[eerie_reverie]

Congrats Star and Hokie......

[Star Gazer]

I don't think they're an item. But it is more than flirting. Now forget I said anything.

 

You're right, but yeah, no labels, no labels!! Let us do that first!

[TheBigQuestion]

This thread can be summed up in list form.

 

1. OP is being hypersensitive and thinks that everyone is insulting her. In particular, she thinks people insult her when all they really asked was what kind of intelligence she values. She internalizes this question as an attack on her own intelligence. This reeks of insecurity.

 

2. OP insults other posters for their relationship, a relationship with which she has no familiarity. These posters have no ax to grind with her at all. Ironic because these posters are happy people and OP is, at least by the themes in most of her posts, miserable.

 

3. OP is completely incapable of taking any sort of constructive criticism (true in all her other threads as well), unless it's the constructive criticism that she believes she can handle.

 

4. OP makes a long list of qualities she desires in a man, all of which make the chances of her meeting an acceptable mate rather infinitesimal. This is interesting in light of the fact that every thread she makes just cries out in desperation for a relationship.

 

5. OP makes the assumption that being intelligent is a necessary condition for being a good conversationalist. Being a good conversationalist has far more to do with one's comfort level in social situations, emotional maturity, emotional security, knowledge about certain topics (which does not equate to intelligence),than it does with an IQ score. For someone as intelligent as her, it's amazing she's conflated these qualities.

 

6. OP tries to lord her intelligence over both people in this thread and all her potential suitors, despite the fact that there's a good chance all of these people function at least marginally more effectively in happily in society than she does.

 

In other words: train wreck.

[eerie_reverie]

 

Now why are you in disguise?

 

 

I was vulgar.

[shadowplay]

This thread can be summed up in list form.

 

1. OP is being hypersensitive and thinks that everyone is insulting her. In particular, she thinks people insult her when all they really asked was what kind of intelligence she values. She internalizes this question as an attack on her own intelligence. This reeks of insecurity.

 

2. OP insults other posters for their relationship, a relationship with which she has no familiarity. These posters have no ax to grind with her at all. Ironic because these posters are happy people and OP is, at least by the themes in most of her posts, miserable.

 

3. OP is completely incapable of taking any sort of constructive criticism (true in all her other threads as well), unless it's the constructive criticism that she believes she can handle.

 

4. OP makes a long list of qualities she desires in a man, all of which make the chances of her meeting an acceptable mate rather infinitesimal. This is interesting in light of the fact that every thread she makes just cries out in desperation for a relationship.

 

5. OP makes the assumption that being intelligent is a necessary condition for being a good conversationalist. Being a good conversationalist has far more to do with one's comfort level in social situations, emotional maturity, emotional security, knowledge about certain topics (which does not equate to intelligence),than it does with an IQ score. For someone as intelligent as her, it's amazing she's conflated these qualities.

 

6. OP tries to lord her intelligence over both people in this thread and all her potential suitors, despite the fact that there's a good chance all of these people function at least marginally more effectively in happily in society than she does.

 

In other words: train wreck.

 

I'm surprised you don't see the irony in your post...

[shadowplay]

Actually, your math is all wrong.

 

Those characteristics are not independent.

 

True: confidence is correlated with most of those variables. So is ambition, to a lesser extent.

 

And fit is probably correlated with good looking and tall. (Attractive people are more motivated to stay in shape.)

[TheBigQuestion]

I'm surprised you don't see the irony in your post...

 

Someone of your intellectual caliber ought to be able to make my feeble brain see the light. So please, go ahead.

[Citizen Erased]

I was vulgar.

 

I've been put in the naughty corner for that too.