Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 You are going off topic guys. Not cool. I want the attention back on me
Kamille Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Don't make me turn this car around! Did I type that out loud? I've been enjoying this thread and don't want it to get derailed. So please, don't make bobdole turn the car around!
xpaperxcutx Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Chill, M_M and SG, you guys are going to get this thread locked and it wouldn't have benefited SadConfused anything at all. SadC, I think you should do what you feel most comfortable doing. Going on dates does not mean you cater to someone's needs, be yourself first and foremost. Personally, I think starting a thread like this was unnecessary since it's normal to have first- second day jitters. After all, there's plenty of time to start a thread when he starts " disappearing". I'm not foreshadowing anything, but worrying about who initiates first hardly makes the world go round.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Not to mention, why make a decision about hand holding when you don't even know if you want your contact with this guy to go any further? Is the hand holding meant to make sure he is very very into you?
shadowplay Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Not to mention, why make a decision about hand holding when you don't even know if you want your contact with this guy to go any further? Is the hand holding meant to make sure he is very very into you? good point, this is the way you should be thinking, SAC. I need to learn it too.
atlnay Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Exactly. Women are so concerned about who does what and initiates what... It really doesn't matter, most men like it when women initiates stuff especcially considering you so rarely do it.[/QUote] This made me think of something a dude told me once about whether or not he'd pursue an attractive younger chick. He was in his early 30s & said while he found our younger coworkers attractive, he wanted a grown @ss woman. It made me realize the coquetish games I was playing was just that, games. Since then if I date a guy I am attracted to (and I ONLY date men I want to rip there clothes off) not only do I make the first move if I am in the mood, I don't care to keep score of what base we are on by what date. I decided to be not just an adult by age, but to be grown in how I handle all my relationships. This thread, as others in similiar themes, are QUITE, enlightening.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 I am meeting him in a few hours....
Star Gazer Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I am meeting him in a few hours.... This time difference is killing me. It was like 12 hours ago that you said "tonight," and now it's "tonight" for me. Hmm.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 I was up since 5am this morning P.S. he just called to confirm
USMCHokie Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 P.S. he just called to confirm He is already a winner so far in my book...
Star Gazer Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 P.S. he just called to confirm LOVE this! GREAT start! Yeehaw!
jamesum Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Women always ask for detailed advices but in the end they usually just do their own thing during the date.
atlnay Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Lol jamesum, not all women The only advice I ask pre-date is either outfit or location based. I haven't asked for pre-date physical advice since I was in jr high.
waynebrady Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Women always ask for detailed advices but in the end they usually just do their own thing during the date. Or as in most times they go with the advice they get from other women who suggest to them to never initiate anything or put in any effort and let him "chase" you and all that, which is all completley useless advice since most men do NOT enjoy when women play those games. I mean ok if some women like the man to make all the moves, that's fine by me we all have preferences but it isn't really any good advice to give to other women.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 More minute details: I forgot to ask him about venue change when he called. So I decided to call him back now. He picked up the phone right away (even though he was at work) and I suggested the other restaurant. He seemed enthusiastic and said that sounds great! Venue change = success 30 minutes to go. I am wearing above the knee pencil dress and a cardigan. I hope I get the kiss damn it
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 (edited) Ahhh back already. I don't know. Date was OK but nothing to write home about. He is still so shy. I have to direct the conversation all the time. I have to direct getting another round of drinks, leaving the restaurant etc. He is just passive and a bit boring... He is really cute though. He really dressed up for tonight and looked hot lol. He did walk me home after dinner and kind of hinted to be invited in. I wasn't ready for that so I didn't. But I wish he had some suggestions like let's go to the bar X or something. He did compliment me extensively on how good I looked and on great choice of the restaurant. Weirdly enough, OKC guy #2 took me to that place so that's how I knew about it. I also remembered what guy # 2 ordered when we were out and it looked good at the time so I ordered the same thing tonight lol He kissed me briefly. BUT I just wanted him to grab me with passion or something. I am worried that he is not that into me but not worried TOO much as I have my own doubts. He also asked for another date and wants to go to the movies this weekend. I said yes and he said he will call later in the week. That's about it. I can see myself having sex with him and spending more time with him but I am not "blown away". I wouldn't be devastated if he doesn't call. I feel really emotionally balanced with this guy. Edited September 14, 2010 by SadandConfusedWA
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 I misunderstood him about the texting thing and he DOES have it enabled but he is on a plan that's 20c per text so he doesn't text often. Anyhow, I just texted him now: What is your e-mail address? and he responded immediately. Meh.
Ariadne Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 That's about it. I can see myself having sex with him and spending more time with him but I am not "blown away". I wouldn't be devastated if he doesn't call. I feel really emotionally balanced with this guy. Sigh.......
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Nah I DO kind of like him. I like him the most out of all the other guys I met online (except for the politician). I think there is some potential here.... I just friended him on FB (he accepted). There are some shirtless pics and he has a 6 pack There also seem to be no suspect girls around. He seems to have lots of family pics. Awwww. His status says "single".
shadowplay Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Nah I DO kind of like him. I like him the most out of all the other guys I met online (except for the politician). I think there is some potential here.... I just friended him on FB (he accepted). There are some shirtless pics and he has a 6 pack There also seem to be no suspect girls around. He seems to have lots of family pics. Awwww. His status says "single". :love:...... Glad things went well! And I'm impressed by how relaxed you are post date.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 :love:...... Glad things went well! And I'm impressed by how relaxed you are post date. Well, it helps that he responded to both, my text and FB friend request right away lol I may start *slightly* freaking out if he doesn't call by Friday.
Ariadne Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Nah I DO kind of like him. I like him the most out of all the other guys I met online (except for the politician). I think there is some potential here.... I just friended him on FB (he accepted). There are some shirtless pics and he has a 6 pack There also seem to be no suspect girls around. He seems to have lots of family pics. Awwww. His status says "single". Well, you tend to like physical attraction a lot. Your old ex looked like some model and that lasted for a long while. So hopefully as you get to know this guy you get to like him even more (he is caring, etc).
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 My ex looked better than any of these guys. I have learned to lower my standards a bit. OK, something weird happened tonight that kind of bugs me. I was 10 minutes late to dinner and he called me to see where I am. When he called from his mobile, his name didn't come up and it said "private" instead. Before when he called, his name was always displayed. This means that he deliberately blocked his number. Obviously, he has no reason to do it for me so he must be hang up on some girl that he is semi-stalking. That's the only reason I occasionally block my number. I really can't see any other explanation
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