Author SadandConfusedWA Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Warning: obsessing again. So it's Tuesday morning here and date is tonight. I kind of want to change the venue for the date as the restaurant that we agreed on is not that great. I know of a better one in close proximity. I want to send him a message to suggest to just meet at the new location. Now for the problem: if I do this and get no response, I won't know what to do. Do I go to the old location, the new one, or is the date off? I just don't want to open that can of worms. I don't want to look at the phone and feel anxious all day.
Kamille Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 yes! the guy i've seen did this, touching the small of my back at a few points during the night when he wanted to get my attention, but it was obvious he was mostly doing it to just touch me. I thought it was cute, and I'd encourage SAC to steal it and use it on her date. Ha ha! So he was showing signs of interest! The way you reported your date, I got the impression he wasn't showing any signs of interest.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I think it's cute that we think the same. Yikes. Really??
shadowplay Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Ha ha! So he was showing signs of interest! The way you reported your date, I got the impression he wasn't showing any signs of interest. well, it was only twice, but whatevs :laugh:
Kamille Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Warning: obsessing again. So it's Tuesday morning here and date is tonight. I kind of want to change the venue for the date as the restaurant that we agreed on is not that great. I know of a better one in close proximity. I want to send him a message to suggest to just meet at the new location. Now for the problem: if I do this and get no response, I won't know what to do. Do I go to the old location, the new one, or is the date off? I just don't want to open that can of worms. I don't want to look at the phone and feel anxious all day. Then keep the date in the not so great restaurant. You both already agreed to it, so it can't be that bad. Besides, in my experience, the quality of the food rarely impacts the quality of the date.
shadowplay Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I like these in real time threads when someone posts right before doing something. Ha, so do I. It's like reality dating, except not contrived/semi-scripted like on some show. THe only thing that'd make it better was being able to see pictures/profiles of the different suitors, so we could debate their merits/flaws. But of course that's not going to happen.
shadowplay Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Warning: obsessing again. So it's Tuesday morning here and date is tonight. I kind of want to change the venue for the date as the restaurant that we agreed on is not that great. I know of a better one in close proximity. I want to send him a message to suggest to just meet at the new location. Now for the problem: if I do this and get no response, I won't know what to do. Do I go to the old location, the new one, or is the date off? I just don't want to open that can of worms. I don't want to look at the phone and feel anxious all day. Why wouldn't he check his phone? Also, why are you concerned about it not being the best restaurant. When I'm on date I barely notice the food. Honestly what I look for instead: 1) good lighting so I look my best (sort of calms my fears), 2) not too quiet or noisy, so we can hear each other but it's not uncomfortably silent.
Kamille Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 well, it was only twice, but whatevs :laugh: TWICE??? And still you ended the date feeling like he wasn't attracted to you? Girl, we need to break it down. Most men give subtle hints. Subtle. Like: Let me gently touch your lower back. Twice.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I have to agree that initiating and chasing are not the same. And to refuse to do something because of your gender is sexist in itself. To me, they are one and the same. I'm not going to have this argument with you for the millionth time, Mr. I Don't Call/Ask For The Second Date. And who said ANYTHING about gender rules? I'm saying what I would do/not do. Just me. No one else. I don't care to date men who are too shy to make the first move, OR men who would wait so long to even make a move that I'd think that I'd have to do it myself, OR men who think it's stupid that I feel that way.
shadowplay Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 TWICE??? And still you ended the date feeling like he wasn't attracted to you? Girl, we need to break it down. Most men give subtle hints. Subtle. Like: Let me gently touch your lower back. Twice. It was more like my mid, upper back. OK, I need to stop.
CLC2008 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Is there any way we can merge Shadow and SACWA's thread into one?
jamesum Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Stay tuned......"Guy breaks up with girl because she initiated hand holding" news at 11pm. Im betting its gonna be on Fox News.
Mad Max Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 To me, they are one and the same. I'm not going to have this argument with you for the millionth time, Mr. I Don't Call/Ask For The Second Date. And who said ANYTHING about gender rules? I'm saying what I would do/not do. Just me. No one else. I don't care to date men who are too shy to make the first move, OR men who would wait so long to even make a move that I'd think that I'd have to do it myself, OR men who think it's stupid that I feel that way. And it's already been proven they're not the same, so your opinion is simply that, an opinion. You don't care to date men that are shy? Well, I don't care to date someone that feels entitled to being approached and courted simply because of their gender. I can play that game too.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I like these in real time threads when someone posts right before doing something. While entertaining, they're also quite disturbing... That every little nuance and action has to be analyzed like this. I think it's a forgone conclusion that there will be making out and cuddling tonight. And if not, I expect a new thread, "What the eff is wrong with this guy?" See!!! The onus is on the GUY. You don't hear, "Why hasn't SHE made a move yet?!"
Mad Max Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 SG, Your mindset is the minority with the girls I meet. From my perspective, I'm not going to waste my time on someone with your mindset when there will be girls that won't hesitate to ask me out, initiate the first date, kiss, etc.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 And it's already been proven they're not the same, so your opinion is simply that, an opinion. You don't care to date men that are shy? Well, I don't care to date someone that feels entitled to being approached and courted simply because of their gender. I can play that game too. How has my opinion been proven wrong versus your opinion proven right? It hasn't. It's an opinion for a reason. Yours is no better than mine, and vice versa. So get off your high horse. I do what works for me. I have no trouble dating, Max. I quite enjoy it, actually. From your tone in every single dating thread I've read, it's obvious you don't. Might want to check that attitude at the door, along with your entitlement accusations.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 SG, Your mindset is the minority with the girls I meet. From my perspective, I'm not going to waste my time on someone with your mindset when there will be girls that won't hesitate to ask me out, initiate the first date, kiss, etc. Good for you, Max. I'd never ask you out, even if I was the type that would. Take care.
CLC2008 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Im betting its gonna be on Fox News. I hope so too, that's my preferred news source.
Mad Max Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 How has my opinion been proven wrong versus your opinion proven right? It hasn't. It's an opinion for a reason. Yours is no better than mine, and vice versa. So get off your high horse. Show me where I said that. I suggested you read my posts a bit more carefully. I said it's been proven that initiating and chasing aren't the same and that's the truth. They're not the same same and their definitions in the dictionary differ. I do what works for me. I have no trouble dating, Max. I quite enjoy it, actually. From your tone in every single dating thread I've read, it's obvious you don't. Might want to check that attitude at the door, along with your entitlement accusations. I have no trouble dating either. My attitude is fine and I'm not the only poster to accuse you of having entitlement issues, so you might want to look into that before you get all defensive.
Mad Max Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Good for you, Max. I'd never ask you out, even if I was the type that would. Take care. That's your loss hun, not mine. Blessings.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Show me where I said that. I suggested you read my posts a bit more carefully. I said it's been proven that initiating and chasing aren't the same and that's the truth. They're not the same same and their definitions in the dictionary differ. Right, because Merriam Webster has the monopoly on defining interpersonal concepts involved in something as complicated as dating. Stop arguing with me, Max. I have my opinion, you have yours. They differ. The end.
Star Gazer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 That's your loss hun, not mine. Blessings. HARDLY, but you keep on living in your little fantasy world.
Mad Max Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 HARDLY, but you keep on living in your little fantasy world. Your fantasy is my reality. It's a shame you're not more open-minded like the women where I live.
bobdole Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Enough! Don't make me turn this car around!
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